Husband not supportive

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  • MomTo3Lovez
    MomTo3Lovez Posts: 800 Member
    old thread never mind
  • MomTo3Lovez
    MomTo3Lovez Posts: 800 Member
    ETA oh good grief didn't know how old this thread is.
  • Kate7294
    Kate7294 Posts: 783 Member
    You need to stand up for yourself!
    Let your husband know that you refuse to be yelled at. It is also not acceptable for him to yell or make rude comments in front of your children. Whether he is under stress or not...it is un-acceptable. As for your meals you fix yourself healthy meals. He can continue to eat whatever it is he fixes. You put your child in a stroller and go for a walk. If he joins you that's great if not it's his loss..


    Just so you know...my husband has been like that. He finally ended up having T.I.A.'s ( mini-strokes) in 2012 when our 2nd child was not yet 2 yrs. old. Now he is on blood pressure meds, anti-anxiety meds, and nerve pills. He still lapses occasionally. About once or twice a month. I refuse to be a party to his behavior. I suggest you have a talk with him now. Before you end up being a Doormat for 18 + years.
  • stgcs_eardley
    stgcs_eardley Posts: 5
    My wife started losing weight and motivated me. Now I do most of the cooking and it is all healthy choices. I am also in the military and have been for the past 22 years. I know first hand how stubborn we are and the effect that work stress has on us. With that being said, I also know an abusive relationship when I see it. I have had Sailors is similar issues that I have had to take care of because their spouse was exactly like this. Quit making excuses. You need to get your *kitten* out of this situation immediately not only for your physical health but for your mental health as well. You are not the only one with something at stake here. You have a small child that you need to be concerned about. Get off your *kitten* and make the change now before he starts getting physical and hurts you or your kid. Take care of this situation before you worry about the weight loss portion because the stresses of dealing with this emotional issue will not help the physical issue. Today is a new day. Make it count and make a change!!
  • sabrinahursman
    sabrinahursman Posts: 6
    This is GREAT advice!
    I agree with other posters, however, getting rid of a husband is great when typed on a computer keyboard...

    I had this before, someone who was so unhappy with themselves that in order for you to be happy it somehow causes that other person a great deal of guilt within themselves...

    Bottom line... no matter if you are married/single/engaged/living in a box with 40 cats & 3 dogs... this is YOUR life!! You are an individual...

    If YOU want to eat better...........eat better

    If YOU want to work out.........work out
    If YOU want to go to the park with your son ..........go to the park with your son.

    You do not need his permission to live your life the way you wish to live it............. now if you were talking about bar hopping I would not be saying GO BAR HOPPING.. but you get my point?

    You have to stand up for yourself, find your voice, and tell him to shut up or join you.... this is your journey he can either Join you or watch you as you go for your walks/work outs/etc...

    You do not have to sucumb to his yelling /berating/bull crap...........When he yells.. put your sneakers on, get your ear buds in, put the baby in a stroller and go Power Walking... block him out completely........ Just Go do your thing... He will get the point eventually...or he wont...whichever... Right now, You need to work on YOU!

    He has problems within himself as his own individual that he needs to figure out, which is his problem.......not yours.

    Much love and understanding from me!

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