Relationships v weightloss / health

bridgew24

it seems to get mentioned within other threads quite a lot!
Did your relationship effect your lifestyle change? Or did a relationship encourage you to change?
I'm just curious to know..
Personally I'm finding my relationship feeling different (not so much in a good way) since I've changed my lifestyle and become more active and health oriented.. And it would be nice to know it's not just me!

Myhaloslipped

bridgew24

I seriously love her haha
Mmmm I'm the opposite... I'm so much MORE self conscious in a relationship and tend to drop a stack of weight, then when I'm single again BAM feel comfortable and put on 10 kilos. haha

Buckeyegirlbritt

You are not the only one. My husband and I went around and around, time and time again a year ago, as I was losing the weight. Most of it was because I was obsessed with myself making me someone I was not.

Since then, things are much better. I've learned to mellow out and not to be so strict and he's teaching me that you don't have to devote yourself 100% to working out if you just get up and move.

Panda_Rolls

I think I'm pretty lucky in that my fiance has been super supportive, he even started running with me. Just about the only time he whines is when I don't want to spend a bunch of calories drinking with him or eating a cheeseburger, but for the most part he's happy I'm becoming a healthier me.

bridgew24

I think I'm pretty lucky in that my fiance has been super supportive, he even started running with me. Just about the only time he whines is when I don't want to spend a bunch of calories drinking with him or eating a cheeseburger, but for the most part he's happy I'm becoming a healthier me.

See my boyfriend is supportive... He comments on the changes I've made and my body. But he still always wants to eat out and he does no exercise. And I'm kind of finding him less appealing in not sharing my new found love of life? Eg: I'd like to go for a picnic or a walk, he'd like to watch a movie or go to dinner like we've done a million times before
I feel horrible saying it because he's beautiful in general

Miss_Meliss86

I met my awesome boyfriend on MFP, so right from the start we had similar goals/values when it comes to fitness/health. We motivate and push each other and have just as much fun stuffing our faces with sushi as we do going for a bike ride (okay, sushi may be slightly higher on the fun list than biking, but it's close enough )

cyoung0317

In high school I started to lose weight and when I was near my goal weight I actually started dating my now fiance. I noticed that during the first 4-5 months of our relationship I was eating like a bird and I didn't want to stuff my face in front of him. You know, keep up the appearance of being a lady But after 6-7 months of dating, I was so comfortable around him that I didn't mind eating that second taco or another handful of chips. It didn't help that he wasn't the healthiest eater, so a lot of times when we went out there weren't many options for me to choose from. Anyway, I gained most (if not more) of the weight back and have been working on it since.

bridgew24

I met my awesome boyfriend on MFP, so right from the start we had similar goals/values when it comes to fitness/health. We motivate and push each other and have just as much fun stuffing our faces with sushi as we do going for a bike ride (okay, sushi may be slightly higher on the fun list than biking, but it's close enough )

Oh wow that's the first I've heard of people meeting through MFP! That's amazing.

GingerLolita

My boyfriend is very supportive and has started to eat healthier too! He's very skinny and should actually be trying to gain weight, but together we focus on eating clean. He sometimes thinks that I spend too much time on planning my meals, cooking/preparing food, and logging my calories. He is especially understanding since I gave up dairy for health reasons and he's always willing to make the extra effort so that I don't feel left out. I also have some body image issues that he's been helpful in working through, but those issues are hurting our relationship more than my weight loss, so I just need to stay positive!

Snow3y

I was always told to stop and to stop being 'obsessed' but it's very well known now to just let me be

escloflowneCHANGED

I met my awesome boyfriend on MFP, so right from the start we had similar goals/values when it comes to fitness/health. We motivate and push each other and have just as much fun stuffing our faces with sushi as we do going for a bike ride (okay, sushi may be slightly higher on the fun list than biking, but it's close enough )

Oh wow that's the first I've heard of people meeting through MFP! That's amazing.

She beats me....

bridgew24

^ hahahaha what!!

JcMey3r

I got comfy and fat...Then I decided I needed to be healthy for myself so now im in the best shape of my life at the moment and still working towards my goal of the illusive 6 pack.

paulygi

Mine has gotten pretty rough. I'm working with her and hopefully we make it out. Atleast for the moment I can say the weight loss has felt efortless for the last week. Going to talk to my doctor about it tomorrow.

Oh and I decided for myself that surgery wasn't the answer. That if I was willing to go through all the pre and post op junk, I could lose the weight on my own.

Taterpoof

Worked out great for me. My boyfriend is as much of a gym rat as I am so we go to the gym together for a few hours 5-6 times a week.

tlou5

When I was younger my weight loss efforts tended to center around relationships...gaining when they were bad then losing when single...now that I am married I am losing weight for me and my husband is very supportive of me and the weight loss is actually improving our relationship I think. He has joined MFP recently too so it is something we are doing together and also developing new hobbies together (biking, etc)

sklarbodds

It's not just you at all. A very significant number on here have stated that their significant other is either not supportive or downright against it.

My ex was downright against it for the longest time and I used that as my excuse. Then I just decided one day that I'm no longer allowing that and eventually she got on board.

I do wonder if women partners are more accepting in general though

kathim429

I was doing great when I was single, in the past year, I have gotten married and now there are 4 kids between us and trying to make the time again for working out has been difficult. I am finding myself trying to snack and drink like he can, and it has shown on the scale. Time to reevaluate things. Funny how when I was a single mom I had it all worked out and now that I am in a happy relationship it has all started slipping away. UGH

mzenzer

I think my fitness inspires my wife, she does a lot of the same stuff as me. But, I'm 44 and have an 11 month old son. I have always tried to be healthy for myself, but now I have a new purpose so nothing and no one will get in the way of me doing everything I can do to be around as long as possible for my son, even my spouse (not that she would, just saying). A good partner will allow you to be who you want to be.

quellybelly

Hasn't been a problem for my boyfriend and I. He is so supportive and loves that I'm getting fit. He goes to the gym as well and when our schedules match up we go together

I'm doing much bettter at the eating healthy part though lol he doesn't like staying over at my place cuz I don't have any junk food for him to snack on!

lindsaymouse

Before I met my boyfriend, I had basically given up caring about how I looked, because I felt like no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't compare to other women in any way. When we met, he made me feel so beautiful as the wreck that I was that I felt like I DESERVED to look good, and so I ended up losing 35 lbs, starting wearing a little bit of make up, eating healthier, just generally caring about myself more. It's amazing what a little bit of confidence and positive reinforcement can do for you. I definitely did it for myself AND him, and that was a good feeling. He still motivates me to this day just by little things, like telling me I look beautiful straight out of the shower as much as after I've spent an hour frou frou-ing myself up .

rml_16

Thankfully, no. What I eat and that I exercise has never really made a difference in my relationship.

We have different interests and some of the same interests and we interact accordingly.

I think when this kind of lifestyle change affects a relationship there's something deeper going on, good or bad.

sevsmom

I pursue running & fitness and my husband perfects his home brewing of craft beer. We are 2 different people with 2 different sets of interests. But, we are undeniably 100% comitted to each other and we cheer each other on. I do things that are in line with his hobby (ie beer paring dinners, craft beer themed events...and there are TONS of them!!) and he supports my racing and training schedule. We are going to DC in just over 2 weeks so I can run my first full marathon. We support each other, we don't have to be exactly alike.

fitfreakymom

I have lost the weight since being married but it was my own choice to be healthy on the other hand my husband eats unhealthy, smokes and only works out when he has to so yes it has at times caused a strain on us. It makes him feel not so good when people say things like man how did someone like you land someone like her but we all make our choices some choose to be healthy and some don't.

Miss_Meliss86

I met my awesome boyfriend on MFP, so right from the start we had similar goals/values when it comes to fitness/health. We motivate and push each other and have just as much fun stuffing our faces with sushi as we do going for a bike ride (okay, sushi may be slightly higher on the fun list than biking, but it's close enough )

Oh wow that's the first I've heard of people meeting through MFP! That's amazing.

She beats me....

Don't listen to him...he's just being silly

Now who let you out of the basement!?

wendyg311

I have a pattern of being in awesome shape while NOT in a serious relationship, but then when I am in one, I blow up like a balloon. ?? I feel like a fraud now because when I met my husband I was 135. Almost immediately I started to pack on the weight.
Now I am 200 in only 2 years. He is the greatest man in the world to me and encourages me. I am so self conscious in front of my own husband, but he reassures me and supports me all the time.

PRMinx

This is a tough one. When I'm in a bad relationship, I gain weight. My last one before my now current one was terrible, and the breakup was terrible. When I got out of it, I joined MFP and started working out. Now I'm so into it, I can't imagine what I was thinking before - my workout time is so precious to me now. Fortunately, I met my now boyfriend on here and he is extremely supportive of my fitness.

escloflowneCHANGED

I met my awesome boyfriend on MFP, so right from the start we had similar goals/values when it comes to fitness/health. We motivate and push each other and have just as much fun stuffing our faces with sushi as we do going for a bike ride (okay, sushi may be slightly higher on the fun list than biking, but it's close enough )

Oh wow that's the first I've heard of people meeting through MFP! That's amazing.

She beats me....

Don't listen to him...he's just being silly

Now who let you out of the basement!?

rml_16

I have a pattern of being in awesome shape while NOT in a serious relationship, but then when I am in one, I blow up like a balloon. ?? I feel like a fraud now because when I met my husband I was 135. Almost immediately I started to pack on the weight.
Now I am 200 in only 2 years. He is the greatest man in the world to me and encourages me. I am so self conscious in front of my own husband, but he reassures me and supports me all the time.

Pretty common. They've actually done studies on it.

Women will tend to try to match the men in their lives in how much they eat, but it's more than we need (less muscle mass, smaller). You also tend, especially in the honeymoon stages, to eat out a lot and choose cuddling time over exercise.

it's one of those things when you get ni to a new relationhsip yo uhave to be aware of and NOT do, but until you are aware it's even a thing, you don't think about it. I gained when I moved in with my SO. If we ever split up and I start another new relationship, thankfully I'm now aware of that happening and will do my best to keep it in check! Though at this point, I probably won't ever be in that situation again.

BrunetteRunner87

Nope I got worse. I come home and I have the choice between spending time with him or exercising, so I spend the time with him. And he like to eat bad things, and sleep schedule is way off Wish I could come up with a way to make both aspects of my life work in harmony.