"You're still fat"

linda0372

first, congratulations on your 4 mile mark.

2nd, don't let a bunch of immature skinny tricks get to you. people like them are no better. you continue doing what you are doing to make yourself a better you.

19TaraLynn84

Karma has a funny way of working these things out. All the pretty, skinny girls that used to taunt me in junior high are now fat women with fat little kids. I wouldn't wish weight issues on anyone, especially a child, but when I see those mean girls schlepping around with their obese children, I have to wonder if they remember how terribly they treated girls that look just like their own kids, and can only hope they've learned how to be nice to someone regardless of their weight.

I'm proud of you for working through the shame those strangers hurled at you. Keep up the good work!

I was thinking this exact same thing as I read the OP. It WILL come back to bite them one day. I'd rather be fat than make someone else feel like crap for the way they look.

BL_Coleman

You can fix fat...but you can NEVER fix stupid or mean......

Congrats on your goal! Next month 5?

MrsJS5

I am so sorry that this happened to you. I work with teenage girls in an affluent area and they are under so much pressure to look right and have a certain body. Think of the horrible place they must be in to feel the need to do that. What must their lives be like if they do that to a complete stranger? Find a positive affirmation (a goal, a great trait you have, a nice thing you did for someone) and every time what those girls said pops into your head, repeat the positive affirmation instead - scream it in your head if you have to! Replacing a bad thought is like replacing a bad habit, you have to put a good one in it's place.

It's impossible to be perfect for everyone and you are doing an amazing job doing something positive for you and your future!

This is one of my favorite quotes that I always think of when I start to compare myself to others:

"You can be the sweetest, juiciest peach in the world but there will still be people who don't like peaches."
- Dita Von Teese

thatgorsuchkid

This absolutely broke my heart!

How dare people think they are so much better than any ONE person, just for some idea of physical "beauty".

The last time I seen anything like that happen, I walked up to the guys (was making fun of a larger man in a wheelchair), and I gave them every piece of my mind that I could think of.

One guy went back and apologized to the man.

I am so sorry that people are so spoiled and disgusting that they can't even see their own filthy selves in the mirror....

2boysmamma

You are right, words do hurt. I have had my share of people to say comments about me over the years. The important thing is to keep your head up and don't let it stop you. Congratulations on your accomplishment!! 4 miles is awesome!!

Twinmamamarion

Oh, punkin. This makes my heart hurt.

Something similar happened to me when I was like 12 and delivering papers on my paper route...a truck full of older boys (high school, I assume?) rolled up next to me and said "walk faster, fatty."

I think I've dealt with the emotional ramifications of that since then, and I'm 36.

And I know that on a logical level, you know that these girls are crappy people. I also know, that on an emotional level, that doesn't matter.

Much love. Keep it up.

april1445

Mean people suck. Funny people rule! (I read your blog, remember?)

knitapeace

Them: "You're still fat!"
Me: "Not for long!"

They can suck it. You are AWESOME.

Aly51313

Ditto the other posters! You are doing really well! I see this is an old post, but I hope you see this!

Five years ago, a car full of young guys/girls stopped their car to yell at me, "Your legs are still fat!" --while I was in the middle of a 15 mile run, training for a marathon. I would spend the next 3 months of runs thinking of retorts that I should have said (complete waste of time!! ha). Unfortunately, I was rendered speechless at the time it happened, but fortunately, never had the opportunity to yell one of those retorts at someone else. I was ready though!!

I still think about it sometimes. However, what always gets me is the joy I feel walking/running and feeling thankful that my body can actually accomplish what it does. Tell those kids in the car to come out and go half the distance you're doing and then see if they'd still like to yell stupid comments from their car. Obviously, they were trying to appear "cool" in front of each other, and it really had nothing to do with you.

allen_ac

Not gonna lie, too many pages to read other peoples thoughts lol so I'm sorry if i repeat something others say

People who hate on you, make fun of you, outcast you and put you down are just people who don't understand anything about you. You get support in the MFP community because people share something with you, they share hard work, discipline and success stories as yourself. Many users here know what it takes, the guts and determination to start your journey into health and fitness, then more so they know how hard it is to continue with it and really go out to achieve your goals.

Those who like to diss you are doing so because they have no clue in what it takes to apply themselves to anything, they don't grasp the concept of how hard you work. Much like your friends and family who might laugh at you for trying to eat healthy while on Christmas break or something like that, they don't understand where you're coming from, the discipline you have implemented in your life to achieve an accomplishment that you are continually testing your limits every single day.

Whilst you continue to believe in yourself and your efforts to living a greater life, when the time comes and you have achieved your most difficult goals, you won't need to look back and laugh at these dopes who try to mess with your head. You will have achieved something far greater for yourself, you would have become a stronger version of yourself, confidence will be through the roof and your support will be sky high. These same people who laugh at you now are the same ones who will be coming to ask you for help once you get to where you want to be.

In short, keep up the good work and don't fuss too much about insignificant people, use them as a source of extra motivation. There are plenty of people like you, behind you, supporting you, keep your head up.

SlimJanette

Don't worry about what others say. Most are insecure and they do it to make themselves feel better.

mhasita

Kevyn Aucoin (a make up artist) used to say:
"no amount of make-up can mask an ugly heart"

You are already beautiful, someday you will be slim too. Those girls, they might be skinny and pretty now, but the ugly on the inside always creeps out. Don't let their nastyness get to you :flowerforyou:

LoosingMyLast15

1) you are doing so well congratulations on your goal! 4 miles is something to be proud of!
2) they do not sound cute to me they sound ugly with a big ole capital U! and skinny i think not! maybe skinny body but they certainly have fat heads!
3) just remember you are out there DOING something you're out there working your butt off getting yourself healthy
4) who cares what they think of you - it's what you think of you that matters most!

LoosingMyLast15

Kevyn Aucoin (a make up artist) used to say:
"no amount of make-up can mask an ugly heart"

i used to love reading his tips in allure mag!

LizzyOnADowner

Hi, its so cruel what strangers can do to your mind. Don't let them deter you they have small minds obviously! And your better than that you had the courage (that they obviously don't) to do whats right for you. I only joined yesterday but it looks as though your doing really well, keep up the good work and feel GREAT ABOUT YOURSELF. You know! if you were to do the jog again you'll probably never come across such ignorant people again. It was cruel what they did but don't let them ruin your life........
Love the quote'

Liz

icimani

How could people that I don’t even know steal my joy? How could people that I don’t even know be so cruel? Why did they even care? Why make the effort to go out of their way to be hurtful?

Because people, especially teenage skinny girls, can be jerks.

I've lost almost 100 pounds but I still have 70 to go and I've had some really rude comments thrown my way as well. It always hurts, and it's not easy to "just don't dwell on it." I try to adopt the attitude of: "I may be fat, but I'm losing weight. YOU will always be ugly on the inside."

You're doing great! Congrats on reaching the 4-mile mark!

stormbornkraken

Breaks my heart to hear you had to be exposed to this however I am so proud of you. It is okay to feel the sadness, to vent and to keep moving. Thank you for sharing your painful experience and allowing us to appreciate the tenacity of inner drive.

Seriously, You rock!

:flowerforyou:

Cheers!

kerrieanneh

Why have you allowed them to get to you? You don't have any control over what other people say to you BUT you do have control over how you react to it. You are a beautiful lady, who wants to lose weight to make herself feel better, your not doing it for them. Ignore them Hun xxx

mjharman

Oh sweetie - don't let those girls get in your way!

I remember trying to lose weight years ago, and I was doing pretty good, moving right along. My boys were small, and one day one of them was riding on a Big Wheels and we started up a hill, so I started pushing him, and running, to get him to the top. I was laughing...it was fun...until some guys in a car drove by and one of them yelled, "Lose some weight!"

My joy was gone. Unfortunately, my motivation was, too.

Don't give those girls any power over you. I mean, let's face it, there are hateful people in this world. I don't have time for them.
So don't give them any more of your time, either.

Just do what you need to do. For YOU.
And remember this, you are much more beautiful then they are because of the person you are inside, and that is the beauty that counts the most.
:flowerforyou:

JG762

The key is to not give any, and I mean ANY negative person any power over you.
Anyone can say anything at any time but it can only hurt you if you let it, you control what hurts and what helps, it's not easy but it's your choice, not an easy choice but a choice non-the-less.
I refuse to give any negative person or comment any control over my happiness, that is my choice.

SkyMaiden007

Wowe- to try and deliberately hurt you like that

Anyway, I have a bit of a mobility disorder, so I walk funny.

When people say nasty things (which is not often, thankfully) I put on the BIGGEST grin I can, and yell "THANK YOU!! LOVE YOU TOO!!! YOURE BEAUTIFUL!!"

Seriously, for some reason this response affects them far more than any other.

MelissaCalkins83

Way to go! 15 lbs is huge!! Who cares what those girls say - you are beautiful!! Weight change - an ugly heart can't... so their loss. Get it girl!

EplusThree

Ugly people are cruel. As Phil Robertson says "makeup can hide a lot of evil".
That's so sad you were a victim of such hurt.
I LOVE seeing people running/walking/jogging!! I ALWAYS stick out my hand for a high five when I'm passing and say something nice, because, no matter who you are, you're out there, doing something good for youself.

Here's a passing high five for you next time you're out there, gettin your sweat on

danarandallreed

Just keep walking. People like that will keep being stupid. They sure didn't get out and say it to your face because they know you are kicking *kitten* if you are working out. Four miles? You are a champ.

tabbydog

I am average sized. I get heckled when I run on occasion. It does not matter what you look like. The miserable people in the world will always have something to say. It is a reflection on them, not you. Keep up the good work!

morethanthis0

You are doing a great job! You losing 15 lbs is an inspiration to me!
I had a similar incident with a car full of young boys, I was just walking accross the street and they yelled "move fat *kitten*". It's crazy how hurtful people can be but...they are the sucky ones...not us! Keep going! You got this!

nitau

wow. but it is true, perfect strangers can ruin your whole day. words hurt. you can only chalk it up to stupid people saying stupid things. they have no life experience. Keep up the great work, what a wonderful thing to be able to do 4 miles, wish I could!

action_figure

While you may "still be fat", they're still *kitten*. I know which one I'd rather be, and I suspect you'll finish your transformation before they even start theirs.

sunshinealways

There are always going to be hurdles in our way. That is what they were a hurdle, to test your will and determination. They are insignificant and will suffer their own issues at some point. You are doing this for you. You are on the right track, don't let someone, anyone deter you from the person you want to be. No one, no one can steal your happiness. You can give it away, but no one can take it. Let it go or use it for fuel to push you to the next level, whichever works for you. You are amazing and beautiful, continue on girl. Just look at all the support on this blog. We are ALL your cheerleaders, all shapes, sizes.... You've got this!!!!