What Are These 'so called' Parents Doing!!

Iron_Lotus

Well aren't you special :noway:

TooMuchOatmeal

It is called moderation. These really aren't that bad depending on the context. If the kids have good nutrition at home on a regular basis and can have cookies for snack, is that bad? Even if the kids eat Lucky Charms for breakfast , have these snacks (many of which aren't that bad, sorry), and then have a pre-prepaired meal at home, you are in no place to judge. There is nothing wrong with Goldfish or cookies from time to time, especially not for snack. Now if these were their LUNCHES, I may be a bit concerned.

Honestly, I was expected a horror story-- not high-horse judgement. I'm a pre-service teacher and I have seen some upsetting nutritional standards from children's parents. Once I had 9-year-old twins at a summer daycare camp who always brought a Slim Jim, a bag of Dorito chips, one Go-gurt, eight Oreos, a bag of M&Ms/candy, and a Capree Sun for lunch every single day. They would often bring their own breakfast, consisting of one or two Dunkin' Donuts doughnuts, at 8am too because they did not like our healthy selection of cereals and/or yohgurt. THEIR nutrition I was concerned about, especially since they thought that a Slim Jim counted as a healthy source of protein when we did a nutrition unit with them. The kids were thin and played sports, so their parents weren't worried about their health. They would often go out for pizza or Burger King for dinner too.

As much as this concerned me, however, I would NEVER whip out my Instagram phone, take pictures, then post them on the internet to mock them and their parents. That is bullying. A teacher should never bully.

hookilau

Immature moment here but am I the only person to notice op name is shart....snorts

nope. I saw that too and thought it unfortunate...now I'm starting to think 'under a bridge'....

Nope. Not 'under a bridge', yes unfortunate & after reading OP's previous posts, some serious food related issues.

VBnotbitter

You are going to get ripped to shreds for this piece of judgemental rubbish. I have no sympathy.

annmartinasara

Your judgmental attitude is awful.
My son is a finniky eater, I will send in sandwiches and sometimes these will come home in the lunchbox uneaten. So I supplement his lunch with rich tea biscuits or custard cream biscuits - two biscuits and two sandwiches. I alternate his drinks between water, juice or a little bottle of lemonade, because if he gets the same drink day after day, he gets bored too.
If his teacher took a picture of his lunch and posted it online with a tag line 'so called parents' I would be very upset.
It is unhelpful, judgmental and inappropriate.

Hestion

Looking through the OP's previous posts, as far as I can tell she is ' recovering ' from an ED, therefore I feel really she has no place in judging what our children eat even more than I did before.

I know we all have our own journeys for different things/reasons, but if you want to encourage our children of today to be healthy then really you need to start with yourself!

Hestion

Just curious OP, what does the '15 weeks after treatment' mean?

Obviously something to do with ED Treatment, looking through her posts and profile, those who judge shall be judged themselves!

beachlover317

Just wanted to add: The parents you speak of are not "so called" parents. They ARE parents. As a retired educator, it was very rare for me to meet a parent that did not truly love their child. Do we make mistakes as parents? Certainly. Shaming parents to change their behavior never works.

MinMin97

PASS A TEST???

dawnsjourney

I'm guessing you're not a parent. It's always the non-parents that seem to know how to do it all right and feel quite free letting the world know exactly which way that is.

I don't see candy. I see cookies, crackers and fruit. It's a snack, not a nutrition exam.

I was thinking the same thing. In small doses we can eat whatever we want. It's when it gets out of control that it becomes an issue. Let the kids have a freakin' cookie without guilt!

randomtai

I truly feel sorry for all the kids this person is teaching... Who knows what other kind of shaming goes on in the classroom. I really need to look into homeschooling.

zyxst

Ok I'm a bad grandma... my grandson (3) his parents, their friends and their two kids 4 & 2 are coming today to overnight at our cabin. My shopping list: soy milk boxes, juice boxes, fruit, the dreaded FUDGE goldfish IF Walmart is not SOLD OUT of them, and terrible grandpa is going to make WAFFLES for Sunday breakfast..... please do not report us to child services.... it is just one weekend.

Adopt me, please?

wilsoje74

I sure hope none of the parents see this post, how unprofessional to secretly take pics to post on the internet. I think those snacks are fine in moderation.

PhearlessPhreaks

Do your grade one students know the difference between 'their', 'there' and 'they're'? Maybe they can help you out. Sorry, couldn't resist. :blushing:

Well don't I feel stupid...I was SO 'into' posting these pics that I didn't edit this at all...I also left out the word 'day' too!
What can you do???LOL

Well, you can be less judgemental and refrain from posting such things; you can take a hot minute and reread your post, not only for spelling and grammatical errors, but as a self-check as to the appropriateness of the post... You can mind your own business.

Might I add, you only posted a few things- I would be concerned if that were a child's entire lunch; however, I'm more inclined to believe there are healthier things included in those lunches than just what you've posted.

randomtai

Do your grade one students know the difference between 'their', 'there' and 'they're'? Maybe they can help you out. Sorry, couldn't resist. :blushing:

Well don't I feel stupid...I was SO 'into' posting these pics that I didn't edit this at all...I also left out the word 'day' too!
What can you do???LOL

jbonow1231

I love how people on this thread talk about "shaming" in regards to food choices. When did we get to the point where any time someone points out that something is likely a bad choice (random sex, morbid obesity, unhealthy food) its "shaming."

Also this quote is crap:

The simple fact is that if children ate nothing but healthy foods all day then they wouldn't bring in enough calories to maximize their growth.

My son eats organic, gluten-free and no "junk food" and he's off the chart for his age. Sorry, yes you can eat healthy and grow to the appropriate size. That's the biggest crock for eating crap I've ever heard.

devil_in_a_blue_dress

Is this real? OP, if you are actually a teacher (which I highly doubt) you need a course in remedial grammar. Immediately. At least 5 errors in your topic sentence alone.

If, somehow, you slipped through the cracks and are an educator... I send my daughter to school with food I know she will readily eat. Sometimes that means junk, other times it means a banana or grapes -- it depends on her mood. If she has a junk snack at school, she has healthier snacks at home. Why? Because I don't feel like it is a teacher's job to get my kid to eat her fruits and veggies. It is my gift to you -- I am acknowledging that sometimes my daughter is a pain about food, I would rather deal with AT HOME, so you don't have deal with it IN CLASS.

dga226

my sons snack is a juice box adam and eve ones and a applesauce that is waht he requested

emirror

This is exceedingly unprofessional.

VBnotbitter

I love how people on this thread talk about "shaming" in regards to food choices. When did we get to the point where any time someone points out that something is likely a bad choice (random sex, morbid obesity, unhealthy food) its "shaming."

Also this quote is crap:

The simple fact is that if children ate nothing but healthy foods all day then they wouldn't bring in enough calories to maximize their growth.

My son eats organic, gluten-free and no "junk food" and he's off the chart for his age. Sorry, yes you can eat healthy and grow to the appropriate size. That's the biggest crock for eating crap I've ever heard.

When a TEACHER takes pictures of her charges food so she can post them on an Internet forum and refer to "so called parents" that is shaming, whatever the type of food it was.

randomtai

I love how people on this thread talk about "shaming" in regards to food choices. When did we get to the point where any time someone points out that something is likely a bad choice (random sex, morbid obesity, unhealthy food) its "shaming."

Also this quote is crap:

The simple fact is that if children ate nothing but healthy foods all day then they wouldn't bring in enough calories to maximize their growth.

My son eats organic, gluten-free and no "junk food" and he's off the chart for his age. Sorry, yes you can eat healthy and grow to the appropriate size. That's the biggest crock for eating crap I've ever heard.

Is it cold up there on that high horse?

paperpudding

I love how people on this thread talk about "shaming" in regards to food choices. When did we get to the point where any time someone points out that something is likely a bad choice (random sex, morbid obesity, unhealthy food) its "shaming."

But OP is not pointing out to the children ( in a positive encouraging way) which foods are healthy snacks- she has taken photos of their food and mocked them and their parents without their knowledge.

Very unprofessional behaviour OP .

Btw,am struggling to see what on earth is unhealthy about 2 fresh oranges????

Hestion

I love how people on this thread talk about "shaming" in regards to food choices. When did we get to the point where any time someone points out that something is likely a bad choice (random sex, morbid obesity, unhealthy food) its "shaming."

Also this quote is crap:

The simple fact is that if children ate nothing but healthy foods all day then they wouldn't bring in enough calories to maximize their growth.

My son eats organic, gluten-free and no "junk food" and he's off the chart for his age. Sorry, yes you can eat healthy and grow to the appropriate size. That's the biggest crock for eating crap I've ever heard.

Is it cold up there on that high horse?

Hot air rises doesn't it? Pretty sure air thins out higher to causing lack of oxygen! But what would i know? I'm just a 'so called' parent!!!!

KnM0107

I love how people on this thread talk about "shaming" in regards to food choices. When did we get to the point where any time someone points out that something is likely a bad choice (random sex, morbid obesity, unhealthy food) its "shaming."

But OP is not pointing out to the children ( in a positive encouraging way) which foods are healthy snacks- she has taken photos of their food and mocked them and their parents without their knowledge.

Very unprofessional behaviour OP .

Btw,am struggling to see what on earth is unhealthy about 2 fresh oranges????

In a previous thread op mentions cutting out ALL sugar... apparently bananas are sweet like candy too.

tm82001

I am a high school teacher and I see what students eat every day. I stay in my room for lunch and at least 10 to 15 kids come and hang out with me daily. They come for many reasons…some for math help, others for emotional support, but the majority of my kiddos come to have a safe, nonjudgmental place to sit and eat.

My 16 year old son has always been a picky eater. He is tall (5'10") and very athletic (currently weighs 135lbs). He has eaten approximately 5 sandwiches in his entire life and didn't have a hamburger until he was 10. He still doesn't like any condiments, sauces, or gravies. In middle school, he only wanted a few items in his lunch...a water bottle, two packages of turkey jerky, an apple, and two whole large red bell peppers (not cut up). I have no doubt that his lunch looked odd to everyone around. Thankfully, there wasn't a teacher nearby to take a picture of his lunch and judge me on the internet.

Personally, I grew up extremely poor. My mother and I would work at a food bank once a month, so that we could “earn” a big box of food. That box was filled with some healthy foods (veggies and fruit) and lots of unhealthy food items (cookies, crackers, chips, etc). My lunch was created from the food bank items, so I couldn't complain and didn’t have choices. My mom made the best decisions she could as a single parent, but at times the food in my lunch was not the healthiest.

OP you have no right to judge the kids under your tutelage. Maybe instead of taking pictures of their food, you might sit with them at lunch and talk with them. You are not making a difference in the lives of the kids around you if you are too busy judging them. You are an educated professional, please start acting like it.

beachlover317

For a little perspective on the family life of some children:

I had the privilege of teaching 5 year olds for about 8 years. We had one small young man who hoarded all the napkins he could get while eating lunch. He stuffed his pockets full and would carefully place them in his cubby until time to go home. We watched him do this every day for a week. I asked him one day what he did with all the napkins. He looked up at me and said, "We don't have this kind of thing at home."

I learned a lot of life lessons teaching those children. Open your eyes and learn about the children in your classroom. Sometimes the students are the teachers.

randomtai

Now THIS is one of those "mean threads" that everyone is always talking about.

delicious_cocktail

HELLO! I AGREE WITH YOU ABOUT PARENTS THESE DAYS. I'M FROM THE READING WRITING AND ARITHMETIC TAUGHT TO THE TUNE OF A HICKORY STICK ERA MYSELF.

AS A SUGGESTION I WOULD RECOMMEND YOU CHANGE THE WAY YOU EMPLOY SNEER QUOTES HOWEVER. YOU PROBABLY MEANT TO TITLE THIS POST "WHAT ARE THESE SO-CALLED 'PARENTS' DOING?" BUT INSTEAD YOU WROTE "WHAT ARE THESE 'SO CALLED' PARENTS DOING!!" THE USE OF PUNCTUATION THROUGHOUT THE TITLE IS CONFUSING TO ME.

ILoveTheBrowns

did i see dunkaroos in there!!!!!!!!......those were soooooo good

anro86

My second grader is very small/underweight for her age, since she really loves healthy low-cal food most of the time and is really not into the calorie dense things that are on her plate. Snack time is usually a time I can sneak in a few extra calories, peanut butter and jelly crackers, slices of pepperoni, a blueberry muffin, a cheese stick, a banana... these are all things I routinely send with her for snack. I don't send candy or chocolate, not because I think its bad, but because I don't want her bouncing of the walls at school. I also send a similar second snack for evenings when she has dance class.

If I were you I would worry more about if the children are coming to school clean, well rested, have had breakfast in the morning, happy, ready to learn... you know generally well cared for kids, and if their parents are helping with homework and projects each night and the child is turning these things in on time.

Its a snack.... not a parent competency test... there is so much more to parenting than a 2 o'clock snack.