Angry with Husband
Achrya
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You see my husband is trying to gain weight and it's not going well. He's currently averaging 3000 cals or so a day (compared to my 1800 a day to lose weight), but he actually lost weight (He's back to 160 pounds at just shy of 5'11). It's becoming an issue, because he's getting to be rather surly and pouty about it. Still being the kind and supportive wife I am I do my best to help and make sure we have full fat versions of everything and that we're stocked with ice creams and peanut butter and that I have a constant supply of his favorite chocolate chip muffins on hand.
But in spite of this he's always eating my damn food! First I made myself some chocolate chip muffins of my own, using Greek yogurt instead of oil and egg whites to lighten them up. And I wake up the next morning, intending to enjoy a muffin with my coffee, and he'd eaten SIX of them between the time he'd woken up and the time I'd woken up (About 30 minutes) That was along with his usual bacon, sausage, eggs, home fries, and toast. I mean, those were my muffins. He has his own muffins (Though he'd eaten the last of his the night before, but come on? He couldn't skip it that morning?! And six?! SIX!)
Then the other night I get home from work, intending to heat up some left over pizza (I make my own pizza, from scratch) and once again my husband has struck! He ate the entire pizza I'd made earlier that day, along with 4 chicken legs, mashed potatoes, and two ears of corn! :grumble: :explode: I ended up having a baked chicken breast and broccoli with rice, which is not the same as pizza!
Today however he took it too far! I made two grilled cheese sandwiches. Provolone cheese with crispy bacon on sourdough bread, with a glass of milk on the side. Husband comes home to bring me some coffee. I take the coffee, we talk for a minute, I go to the bathroom and what do I find when I come back? My milk: consumed! My plate with my grilled cheese? GONE! He took the whole damn plate!!
This has got to stop. Is it not enough that he has my love and support and that I make sure he's got his 3 cups of rice at dinner? He's got to eat my food as well?
What should I do? How do I stop this thievery?
But in spite of this he's always eating my damn food! First I made myself some chocolate chip muffins of my own, using Greek yogurt instead of oil and egg whites to lighten them up. And I wake up the next morning, intending to enjoy a muffin with my coffee, and he'd eaten SIX of them between the time he'd woken up and the time I'd woken up (About 30 minutes) That was along with his usual bacon, sausage, eggs, home fries, and toast. I mean, those were my muffins. He has his own muffins (Though he'd eaten the last of his the night before, but come on? He couldn't skip it that morning?! And six?! SIX!)
Then the other night I get home from work, intending to heat up some left over pizza (I make my own pizza, from scratch) and once again my husband has struck! He ate the entire pizza I'd made earlier that day, along with 4 chicken legs, mashed potatoes, and two ears of corn! :grumble: :explode: I ended up having a baked chicken breast and broccoli with rice, which is not the same as pizza!
Today however he took it too far! I made two grilled cheese sandwiches. Provolone cheese with crispy bacon on sourdough bread, with a glass of milk on the side. Husband comes home to bring me some coffee. I take the coffee, we talk for a minute, I go to the bathroom and what do I find when I come back? My milk: consumed! My plate with my grilled cheese? GONE! He took the whole damn plate!!
This has got to stop. Is it not enough that he has my love and support and that I make sure he's got his 3 cups of rice at dinner? He's got to eat my food as well?
What should I do? How do I stop this thievery?
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There is nothing worse than people who eat your food. All these people on MFP complain about people bringing them food.
No. True anger can be felt when someone EATS ALL YOUR FOOD.
I think you should eat him.0 -
Eating my bacon would be grounds for divorce....
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There is nothing worse than people who eat your food. All these people on MFP complain about people bringing them food.
No. True anger can be felt when someone EATS ALL YOUR FOOD.
I think you should eat him.
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Oh my! That would P me off so much! I agree he needs to stop. I guess the only thing that I can think of is to guard you food. What does he say when you ask him to stop? My husband will eat anything and everything without even thinking, but he does it without even thinking. So he had to really try harder when he decided to start bullking to make sure he was getting all his macros and stuff.0
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I would be sooooo pissed and slammed the plate across his head!!! LOL!!!
Do you ever tell him to STOP IT!!!!!0 -
There is nothing worse than people who eat your food. All these people on MFP complain about people bringing them food.
No. True anger can be felt when someone EATS ALL YOUR FOOD.
I think you should eat him.
I agree. I love when people bring me good, less work for me! But eating my good?! That's just rude and inconsiderate.0 -
There is nothing worse than people who eat your food. All these people on MFP complain about people bringing them food.
No. True anger can be felt when someone EATS ALL YOUR FOOD.
I think you should eat him.
Giggity.0 -
I'd put a laxative in the food and let him eat it. :flowerforyou:0
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Have you actually talked to him about it? Make it clear that this is a big deal to you and not something that he should just brush off.0
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Oh my! That would P me off so much! I agree he needs to stop. I guess the only thing that I can think of is to guard you food. What does he say when you ask him to stop? My husband will eat anything and everything without even thinking, but he does it without even thinking. So he had to really try harder when he decided to start bullking to make sure he was getting all his macros and stuff.
I told him to back off of my food after the muffin debacle (SIX!!) and he said he needed the muffins more than me, and that'd he'd left me 2. Totally unapologetic.
I'm gonna start taking my plates to the bathroom with me I think. it's the only way.0 -
Sometimes I come home to find that my husband had, for example, polished off the last of a snack intended for the whole house or intending to eat leftovers (from a meal the whole family had eaten) to find he had unexpectedly taken them to work for lunch. And, while disappointing, that's ok. It happens.
The muffins or the pizza...those seem a little like the first example (less so with the muffins since you had specifically designed the nutrition for yourself, but still). Maybe he didn't realize. A little inconsiderate, but not SO terrible. **EDIT - I didn't see your comment where he said he "needed them more than you." Seriously? Seriously. Tell him to make his own damn muffins if he needs them so badly.
The grilled cheese, though? Eating a full meal that you had already prepared for yourself behind your back? That is a WHOLE new level. I don't have any *good* advice, because I can tell you that I'd have flipped so hard right then and there that they would have been recruiting my 32-year old overweight behind for the Olympics. Seriously, give that boy a smack. Is he totally oblivious? Is he this rude other times?0 -
Seriously though, I'd be mad too. Food is sacred. Do not touch my food unless I have given you permission.
Knowing you, you wouldn't have married a *totally* unreasonable guy. I vote you simply tell him to stop touching your food, or you will delete his most prized WoW character.0 -
Ok, the standard "Just break up" advice is always up for grabs
If you are not ok with it, make yucky healthy foods for a few days..eventually he will totally stop touching your food..then you can start cooking well again and he will never know. Live happily ever after :drinker:0 -
<waits for the inevitable "just break up" replies>
Does swelling count as 'bulking'? If so, beat'm down with a frozen jug of milk! j/k
Oh, how about some Wil E. Coyote trickery? Remember the one where he put buckshot in the pile of bird seed?
Step 1: Make a bunch of "allegedly" healthy muffins, but secretly make'm "Paula Deen" style (lard, whole milk, etc.)
Step 2: Leave'm on the table next to a glass of <air quotes> "skim milk"
Step 3: Leave room.
Step 4: Return to the room just in time for him to say "Meep Meep" and zip out the door.
Step 5: Commence evil laughter with opportunely-timed thunder/lightning in the background
Step 6: Repeat steps 1-5 as necessary.
Alternatively, you can tweak step #1 with Ex-Lax, Metamucil, etc.
You're welcome.0 -
I can totally relate! My food thief is my son. He is a runner and rail skinny. He can eat whatever he wants whenever he wants! Yet he sometimes grabs my low cal snacks before grabbing the good ice cream in the freezer. I made a rule - no skinny people are allowed to touch my food. I make it clear what is mine! Put a sign on what is yours. It's bad enough they're naturally skinny in the first place!0
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Is he aware of how you feel about this? Seems like a problem that could be easily solved by just saying "I'm putting a green sticker on the food that is mine. Please don't eat the food that has a green sticker."0
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Can you demand that he replace your food then & there? For example, if you make a pizza from scratch and he eats it all, he has to make YOU a pizza. (Maybe he's a lousy cook and the pizza would be gross, but maybe after a few times of him having to replace your food, he'd stop stealing it!)0
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I completely understand my husband does the same thing!0
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I would be super cranky too! Not only is he skinny and eats lots he also eats your specially made food!
Have you TOLD him this?
Or else just make what you like for you, make lots more the same for him. Then he can eat what you eat, and if he is wanting to gain weight, let him deal with getting himself more food.
Teach him to cook for himself?
Also with things like muffins, wrap them up and hide them in the freezer - effort to defrost them will slow him down LOL
By the way, you are looking good in your photos - well done :flowerforyou:0 -
Stop giving him the opperunty to take your food..
Either stop making it.
Make it when you are ready to eat.0 -
is really cracked me up, I am really sorry for your aggravation, but, it is humorous to read this. My hubby is like yours and couldn't gain if his life depended on it. He's been 180 for the 5 1/2 years we've been married and eats like a hog. It's a huge joke at our church when there's an eating thing. Fortunately he doesn't eat my special healthy food. He eats the meals I make but if I get something specifically for me he doesn't take unless he's given it. Thank goodness!0
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* This<waits for the inevitable "just break up" replies>
Does swelling count as 'bulking'? If so, beat'm down with a frozen jug of milk! j/k
Oh, how about some Wil E. Coyote trickery? Remember the one where he put buckshot in the pile of bird seed?
Step 1: Make a bunch of "allegedly" healthy muffins, but secretly make'm "Paula Deen" style (lard, whole milk, etc.)
Step 2: Leave'm on the table next to a glass of <air quotes> "skim milk"
Step 3: Leave room.
Step 4: Return to the room just in time for him to say "Meep Meep" and zip out the door.
Step 5: Commence evil laughter with opportunely-timed thunder/lightning in the background
Step 6: Repeat steps 1-5 as necessary.
Alternatively, you can tweak step #1 with Ex-Lax, Metamucil, etc.
You're welcome.0 -
Oh my! That would P me off so much! I agree he needs to stop. I guess the only thing that I can think of is to guard you food. What does he say when you ask him to stop? My husband will eat anything and everything without even thinking, but he does it without even thinking. So he had to really try harder when he decided to start bullking to make sure he was getting all his macros and stuff.
I told him to back off of my food after the muffin debacle (SIX!!) and he said he needed the muffins more than me, and that'd he'd left me 2. Totally unapologetic.
I'm gonna start taking my plates to the bathroom with me I think. it's the only way.
WHAT? That's is so annoying and rude! I probably would have gone the childish route and scoffed a bit and said "if you say so" while looking him up and down. In all seriousness, that's a bad attitude for him to have. I'd just start making only what you need. Even with the muffins, if you get those silicone muffin cups you can cook one at a time and just leave the batter in the fridge. I used to do that when the stove wasn't working and we only had a microwave. And yeah, carry your food around with you. Watch it like a guard dog, and attack like one if he makes a grab for it! 0 -
He sounds like hell to live with. I think you should stop shopping for him, hide your foods somewhere, and leave him to fend for himself. Also think the laxative idea mentioned above is fantastic.0
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Sometimes I come home to find that my husband had, for example, polished off the last of a snack intended for the whole house or intending to eat leftovers (from a meal the whole family had eaten) to find he had unexpectedly taken them to work for lunch. And, while disappointing, that's ok. It happens.
The muffins or the pizza...those seem a little like the first example (less so with the muffins since you had specifically designed the nutrition for yourself, but still). Maybe he didn't realize. A little inconsiderate, but not SO terrible. **EDIT - I didn't see your comment where he said he "needed them more than you." Seriously? Seriously. Tell him to make his own damn muffins if he needs them so badly.
The grilled cheese, though? Eating a full meal that you had already prepared for yourself behind your back? That is a WHOLE new level. I don't have any *good* advice, because I can tell you that I'd have flipped so hard right then and there that they would have been recruiting my 32-year old overweight behind for the Olympics. Seriously, give that boy a smack. Is he totally oblivious? Is he this rude other times?
He is kind of oblivious, as a rule of life. I might need to be a bit more 'forceful' with the 'Stop eating my food' thing. It's possible my annoyance over the muffins didn't sink in enough or something.0 -
But eating my good?! That's just rude and inconsiderate.
I personally like when my good is eaten. :smokin: :drinker:0 -
<waits for the inevitable "just break up" replies>
Does swelling count as 'bulking'? If so, beat'm down with a frozen jug of milk! j/k
Oh, how about some Wil E. Coyote trickery? Remember the one where he put buckshot in the pile of bird seed?
Step 1: Make a bunch of "allegedly" healthy muffins, but secretly make'm "Paula Deen" style (lard, whole milk, etc.)
Step 2: Leave'm on the table next to a glass of <air quotes> "skim milk"
Step 3: Leave room.
Step 4: Return to the room just in time for him to say "Meep Meep" and zip out the door.
Step 5: Commence evil laughter with opportunely-timed thunder/lightning in the background
Step 6: Repeat steps 1-5 as necessary.
Alternatively, you can tweak step #1 with Ex-Lax, Metamucil, etc.
You're welcome.
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Is he aware of how you feel about this? Seems like a problem that could be easily solved by just saying "I'm putting a green sticker on the food that is mine. Please don't eat the food that has a green sticker."
He would probably just eat the green sticker. Men.0 -
Is he aware of how you feel about this? Seems like a problem that could be easily solved by just saying "I'm putting a green sticker on the food that is mine. Please don't eat the food that has a green sticker."
He would probably just eat the green sticker. Men.
I am appalled at your overgeneralization of Men. You think you're too cool for school. But I've got a newsflash for you Mr. Walter Kronkite....you aren't0
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