Ladies: What makes the perfect boyfriend?
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Well he'd have to be good at keeping secrets as my fiance surely would not approve
I'm not the jealous type.0 -
A penis.
A job.
Social skills.
Confidence.
A sense of humor.
+sammich making.
No, let me make one for you first...
How 'bout we share?
But I don't WANNA share you!!!!! :sad:0 -
:flowerforyou:
Know that she will have a choke collar and handcuffs on also.
mmmmmmmm0 -
A penis.
A job.
Social skills.
Confidence.
A sense of humor.
+sammich making.
No, let me make one for you first...
How 'bout we share?
But I don't WANNA share you!!!!! :sad:
Let's make it a party!0 -
Good looking, tall, attentive, kind, funny and discreet enough not to let my husband find out! :laugh:0
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Gonna go with AZ_Gato on this one. :laugh: :laugh:0
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I have only had one good relationship. I now live with the man of my dreams, and he's my best friend. All the other people I dated were lousy, but it was my own fault for dating them. They were just being themselves, and I thought I deserved to be treated poorly. I think the key to a good relationship is to know yourself and know how you wish to be treated, and then stick to that. My boyfriend sees me. He knows me, and he can handle my imperfections and love me anyway. He's ok with the woman I am right now, and isn't trying to change things about me. Other boyfriends would bail on me if I wasn't constantly in a great mood and keeping all my problems to myself. They would suddenly decide I should drastically change inherent things about my personality (such as my love of whistling, the outdoors, and card playing). Those guys liked an idea in their heads about what a girlfriend should be and wanted me to mold myself to that illusion accordingly. They were attracted to my looks, my awesome cooking, and my relaxed personality, but wouldn't support me when things were hard or became difficult. They wanted the cute, cheerful nympho, but I had to take care of pretty much all of my needs without any support emotionally from them. Bah! If a person can't handle me at my worst they sure as *kitten* don't deserve me at my best.
My boyfriend and I are planning a life together (we've lived together for two years now) because we click. We laugh at the same dumb stuff, he likes my cooking, and I am madly in love with his lasagna. Win! He supports me and I support him. (It also helps that I think he is the best smelling person in the world, and we have great sex)0 -
All kidding aside.....
The most important quality is the second syllable of the term...he needs to be a *friend* first!
Think of your real friends. The ones you can discuss anything with...anytime.
Who are comfortable discussing their problems, too.
Celebrating the victories...large and small.
Commisserating on the bad stuff without trying to "fix" everything (hard for most guys, so if he can learn this, KEEP HIM!)
Stands with you through hard times and you feel the same for them.
DON'T expect 50/50 all the time-- sometimes it's 70/30 or 10/90 or even 35/45 because you are both distracted by other things to a certain degree...and that's ok because you come back to the relationship a bit renewed and ready to discover even more about each other through your seperate experiences.
You can probably tell that I've got mine...we've been married for almost 22 years now. Life has thrown some really crappy stuff at us over the years -- things that most relationships don't survive -- and we love each other all the more for having weathered them together. Life is NEVER perfect, there's only better and worse...hmmmm, d'ya think that's why those words are part of the vows??
Added: @ DeonnPaul -- sounds like you found "The One" for you!
@ OP -- Not every gal wants the same things (thank God...we'd all be after the same man) so before asking others what makes a "perfect" boyfriend/life partner, ask yourself what YOU want. Do you need emotional support? Physical strength? A co-party-er? Someone to gritch at that won't take it personally? We all want things that aren't totally PC, but be honest with yourself and look for your counterpart from there.0 -
My perfect man would be fun, uplifting, treat me like a queen, be family oriented, faithful, strong
y'all know..all that junk!
Wrong!... that guy will make it to your friend zone ...
Nope! I actually just described my husband!!
7 years married! 0 -
Able to put up with me. Enough of a sense of humor that I won't make him cry.0
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Moustache and a 1986 IROC Z..... what?0
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My perfect man would be fun, uplifting, treat me like a queen, be family oriented, faithful, strong
y'all know..all that junk!
Wrong!... that guy will make it to your friend zone ...
^^^^TRUTH^^^^ LOL
My husband is funny (not because I laugh with him, but at him...seriously he's ridiculous), is the world's biggest hypocrite, likes to talk ****, plays poker almost every night, and I could probably kick his *kitten*...but that's why he's my husband and not my male bestie...every day is new adventure involving him saying something ignorant, me throwing something at his head, him dodging said object and laughing at me...and then we do the naughty...0 -
Good gawd I feel old.0
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My perfect man would be fun, uplifting, treat me like a queen, be family oriented, faithful, strong
y'all know..all that junk!
Wrong!... that guy will make it to your friend zone ...
Nope! I actually just described my husband!! 7 years married!
Good Luck.
Here's to many more. :drinker:0 -
Nice
Helps out
Enjoys family time
Who is active
Mature
Funny
Independent
Respectful
And loves himself for who he is.0 -
I would not expect anything more than what I can give....and in no order:
Has a life of his own
Does not obsess about his past -baggage, girls ect
Me-time don't bother him
Someone who is touchy feely
Not insecure
Adventurous
Loves attitude and humor
Cares about his health
Not jealous
Can admit when he's wrong
Able to read my body language when I'm in the mood
Employed
Does not take crap from me, or anyone
Catches me off-guard with attentiveness
Accepts my flaws, or not waste my time
One who is glass half full
A man's man, but one who has that surprising soft side
A team player
Someone who knows when to shut the hell up lol0 -
Edited my post above with this, but realize most may not go back and see it....Added: @ DeonnPaul -- sounds like you found "The One" for you!
@ OP -- Not every gal wants the same things (thank God...we'd all be after the same man) so before asking others what makes a "perfect" boyfriend/life partner, ask yourself what YOU want. Do you need emotional support? Physical strength? A co-party-er? Someone to gritch at that won't take it personally? We all want things that aren't totally PC, but be honest with yourself and look for your counterpart from there.
That "friends first" thing keeps popping up...maybe us old marrieds know something? It's perfectly ok to just be friends with lots of guys without needing each one to become a serious and monogomous relationship. If you start out as buddies, it means you must have some things in common. If the connection just gets deeper and deeper (even after you see each other at your worst and without trying to be sexy) you've got something from which to build a life together.
When you start a potential relationship by dating, there tends to be a lot of pretense going on from both sides. If you move straight from dating to relationship without really becoming friends, the shock of reality is what splits most couples up. By being friends and engaging in some non-date, casual group or public activities first without romantic expectations, there's a better chance of knowing the real person much earlier.
I know I sound odd -- how to meet without dating? Try your workplace (but not too close), join a church, volunteer at a food bank or humane society, do a fun run, strike up a conversation in the grocery store. Group flirt in a bar (keep your pants on) and arrange for all you gals and guys to meet in the park for a picnic the next day. Join a club or society that does public events (met my hubby at a Society for Creative Anachronism demo). Don't fall for Mr. Right Now just because you HAVE to constantly have a BF. Being single and free to eventualoy choose from your gathered pool of "talent" is great.
Internet dating and set ups through friends seldom really work despite the commercials...you may actually need to indulge your real interests and possibly kiss a few toads (not literally!) before you find your prince.0 -
Edited my post above with this, but realize most may not go back and see it....Added: @ DeonnPaul -- sounds like you found "The One" for you!
@ OP -- Not every gal wants the same things (thank God...we'd all be after the same man) so before asking others what makes a "perfect" boyfriend/life partner, ask yourself what YOU want. Do you need emotional support? Physical strength? A co-party-er? Someone to gritch at that won't take it personally? We all want things that aren't totally PC, but be honest with yourself and look for your counterpart from there.
That "friends first" thing keeps popping up...maybe us old marrieds know something? It's perfectly ok to just be friends with lots of guys without needing each one to become a serious and monogomous relationship. If you start out as buddies, it means you must have some things in common. If the connection just gets deeper and deeper (even after you see each other at your worst and without trying to be sexy) you've got something from which to build a life together.
When you start a potential relationship by dating, there tends to be a lot of pretense going on from both sides. If you move straight from dating to relationship without really becoming friends, the shock of reality is what splits most couples up. By being friends and engaging in some non-date, casual group or public activities first without romantic expectations, there's a better chance of knowing the real person much earlier.
I know I sound odd -- how to meet without dating? Try your workplace (but not too close), join a church, volunteer at a food bank or humane society, do a fun run, strike up a conversation in the grocery store. Group flirt in a bar (keep your pants on) and arrange for all you gals and guys to meet in the park for a picnic the next day. Join a club or society that does public events (met my hubby at a Society for Creative Anachronism demo). Don't fall for Mr. Right Now just because you HAVE to constantly have a BF. Being single and free to eventualoy choose from your gathered pool of "talent" is great.
Internet dating and set ups through friends seldom really work despite the commercials...you may actually need to indulge your real interests and possibly kiss a few toads (not literally!) before you find your prince.
You are incredibly wise and just helped me make sense of a few things I have been struggling with. Cheers.0 -
My husband.
And, I dont say that only because he is my husband or because he will read this - cause I can guarantee he never will. But, because it took me years of relationship failures and even one divorce to really know what I wanted in a man. When I was a teenager, I thought I knew but I didnt have a clue. I sought a man who would stand by my side, support me in my decisions, be a upstanding parent, tell me when I am wrong and admit it when he is wrong. A man with a big heart, understanding nature, high standards/morals, a sense of true responsibility and a sense of fun. Most of all, a man who will talk to me, share his feelings and truly treat me as if he and I are one the same page at all times.
My husband is all of that and more.
eta: As much as I love to tell him I found him, he and I both know I am wrong. He found me and I have been blessed every day since.0 -
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Nerdy
Good looking
Some muscles
Has a job
Has a car
Finished High School
Graduated college
No drugs
Doesn't smoke
Conservative
Saves money
Knows how to do car maintenance
Doesn't have kids0 -
Perfect boyfriend?
Stop chasing unicorns ladies..0 -
dont go chasin waterfalls...Perfect boyfriend?
Stop chasing unicorns ladies..0 -
dont go chasin waterfalls...Perfect boyfriend?
Stop chasing unicorns ladies..
Cuz y'all don't want no scrub?0 -
dont go chasin waterfalls...Perfect boyfriend?
Stop chasing unicorns ladies..
Cuz y'all don't want no scrub?
as long as they aint too proud to beg0 -
Fergie- "If you ain't got no money take your broke *kitten* home."0
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Fergie- "If you ain't got no money take your broke *kitten* home."
Are you one of those gold digger women?0 -
dont go chasin waterfalls...Perfect boyfriend?
Stop chasing unicorns ladies..
Cuz y'all don't want no scrub?
I feel like the whole MFP thinks I'm a gold digger.
It's really depressing, tbh.
But it's okay. I still have my ex's credit card. I am going on a little shopping trip to make myself feel better tomorrow.0 -
Who? Fergie?0
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