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Sexting

HarleyFatboyFan
HarleyFatboyFan Posts: 344 Member
edited February 8 in Chit-Chat
Your thoughts on sexting and people who are in a relationship that sext someone besides the person they are in a relationship with.
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  • rdpapag
    rdpapag Posts: 17
    It's quite simple, if you are doing an act that you wouldn't want your significant other engaging in with someone else, it's probably wrong...and it's cheating.
  • mattf485
    mattf485 Posts: 129
    It's quite simple, if you are doing an act that you wouldn't want your significant other engaging in with someone else, it's probably wrong...and it's cheating.
    This.

    Sexting should only be done with your partner.
  • trudijoy
    trudijoy Posts: 1,685 Member
    It's quite simple, if you are doing an act that you wouldn't want your significant other engaging in with someone else, it's probably wrong...and it's cheating.
    This.

    Sexting should only be done with your partner.

    agreed. no sexting until you're already sexing..... and if that's someone you shouldn't be doing either with, then..... very wrong.
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    Not. Ok. Would def spell the end of any dating relationship I was in.
  • hstoblish
    hstoblish Posts: 234 Member
    I would consider it cheating if my husband did it and my husband would flip the eff out at everyone involved if I were to "sext" someone else. We're also one of those couples that have pretty firm boundaries with members of the opposite sex and that's the way we like it.

    But if you and your partner have discussed it and it's within your boundaries, by all means, fly at 'er.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    Well if he's gonna sext I hope he'd at least include me especially if what he is writing is juicy...inducing. However, if you aren't being honest and hiding it from your partner then sexting is wrong in a committed relationship

    I'm pretty sext deprived though and always pass out when every blue moon I get something good.
  • linsey0689
    linsey0689 Posts: 753 Member
    I think it's wrong. Agree with what everyone else has said
  • Ainar
    Ainar Posts: 858 Member
    If she/he is ok with you doing that and/or you are ok with him/her doing that then it's ok. Personally, for me it is equal to cheating, no exaggeration.
  • Madame_Goldbricker
    Madame_Goldbricker Posts: 1,625 Member
    Agree with the overall consensus. If you are taken not cool. If you are single whatever floats the boat. :tongue:
  • AcidWords21
    AcidWords21 Posts: 139 Member
    Very wrong to do if you're already in a committed relationship. Doing so & hiding it from the person you're dating proves you're unfaithful.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Never sexted. But, I'm willing to learn. Do they have a class for that?
  • KendleX
    KendleX Posts: 275 Member
    It's quite simple, if you are doing an act that you wouldn't want your significant other engaging in with someone else, it's probably wrong...and it's cheating.
    This.

    Sexting should only be done with your partner.

    +1
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    Anything you have to hide is cheating. From an email to a phone call, to meeting in a hotel room. Out of a relationship, or within agreed bounds of a relationship, carry on.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    It's quite simple, if you are doing an act that you wouldn't want your significant other engaging in with someone else, it's probably wrong...and it's cheating.
    ^^^^
  • KeViN_v2pt0
    KeViN_v2pt0 Posts: 375 Member
    It's quite simple, if you are doing an act that you wouldn't want your significant other engaging in with someone else, it's probably wrong...and it's cheating.

    So what your saying is if you dont care your significant other does it, its not wrong? Sweet!

    So basically. Just dont give a fk and its all good. Yayyy!
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    so, if you are thinking about sending a text to someone that you don't want you significant other to find out about, don't. Just go ahead and have sex with her instead because if it is all going to equal cheating, you might as well go full tilt.

    in for a penny, in for a pound....


    no pun intended.


    ok, maybe it was intended.
  • Beastmaster50
    Beastmaster50 Posts: 505 Member
    I put sexting in the same category as watching or reading porn. Its not real. You can't get knocked up or catch anything. 50 shades of gray would be considered cheating based off some of the posts here. Its just fantasizing, not acting on those fantasies.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    for me, that would be considered cheating, but some people are cool with that sort of thing. I wouldn't do it to my significant other.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    I put sexting in the same category as watching or reading porn. Its not real. You can't get knocked up or catch anything. 50 shades of gray would be considered cheating based off some of the posts here. Its just fantasizing, not acting on those fantasies.

    I would agree to disagree. If you are intimately getting to know someone and are hiding it from your significant other, you are obviously aware there is a reason to be hiding it and therefore know its wrong and that significant other would not be happy if they found out.
  • harvo
    harvo Posts: 4,676 Member
    Never sexted. But, I'm willing to learn. Do they have a class for that?

    Yes...it is called "KIK for beginners"
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    I put sexting in the same category as watching or reading porn. Its not real. You can't get knocked up or catch anything. 50 shades of gray would be considered cheating based off some of the posts here. Its just fantasizing, not acting on those fantasies.


    It's not about catching anything or getting pregnant. It's the interaction. There is no interaction with another person with porn or reading.

    If your wife/girlfriend/significant other is ok with it, cool. If not, and you need to hide it, it's cheating. As soon as you have to hide, something is wrong.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    I put sexting in the same category as watching or reading porn. Its not real. You can't get knocked up or catch anything. 50 shades of gray would be considered cheating based off some of the posts here. Its just fantasizing, not acting on those fantasies.


    It's not about catching anything or getting pregnant. It's the interaction. There is no interaction with another person with porn or reading.

    If your wife/girlfriend/significant other is ok with it, cool. If not, and you need to hide it, it's cheating. As soon as you have to hide, something is wrong.


    Ding ding ding! Exactly.
  • sullus
    sullus Posts: 2,839 Member
    Don't hide it? Ask your SO for tips .. "Hey hun, would this work??" .. "**** yeah!!" ... BOOM. Sent.
  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
    Would you be ok if your partner found out? Would they be ok that you're doing that? Would you be ok with it if they did it? This is what people have to think about. If both of you are open and relaxed about sexting, then go ahead. Some people don't see it as an issue, most people do.

    For me, I don't think I'd see it as a deal breaker as would physically being with someone else, but I do think it's very disrespectful. I wouldn't be happy at all. It would depend on the type of relationship we have, how serious we are and how much trust I have in them as to whether I'd continue the relationship.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Anything you have to hide is cheating.

    *Pushes Kit Kat wrappers under couch*

    I have no idea what you are talking about honey.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I put sexting in the same category as watching or reading porn. Its not real. You can't get knocked up or catch anything. 50 shades of gray would be considered cheating based off some of the posts here. Its just fantasizing, not acting on those fantasies.
    50 Shades of Grey is a (terrible, lousy, horrible) novel about imaginary people. If you're sending sexual texts to a real, live person, you are doing something wrong.

    Are you telling me you wouldn't be hurt if you found out your SO was doing that?

    I would not be hurt by my SO reading smut or watching porn. I would be hurt by him sending sexual text mssages, e-mails, private messages, whatever, to another woman.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    Anything you have to hide is cheating.

    *Pushes Kit Kat wrappers under couch*

    I have no idea what you are talking about honey.


    *snort* :laugh:
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    just be safe folks

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  • Bennysammysofie2
    Bennysammysofie2 Posts: 137
    It's only wrong if your SO finds out.
  • golfmanwl
    golfmanwl Posts: 69
    Anything you have to hide is cheating. From an email to a phone call, to meeting in a hotel room. Out of a relationship, or within agreed bounds of a relationship, carry on.

    THIS! THIS! And THIS!

    If you are hiding something, then there is a reason you are hiding it, and that reason is because you know it's not right. There should be no secrets between partners in life....should be fully open and honest with each other.
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