Do you "check" your spouse?
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I recently read an article that says that women should check women and men should check men. The wife needs to focus on being a great wife and not say anything to the husband about how he should act and the husband should do the same for his wife. How do you feel about that? Do you check your spouse?
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I recently read an article that says that women should check women and men should check men. The wife needs to focus on being a great wife and not say anything to the husband about how he should act and the husband should do the same for his wife. How do you feel about that? Do you check your spouse?
What? :huh:0 -
Um... yeah. Was this an article from the 50's?
Why not just be a decent human being and not worry about fitting yourself into some sort of label?0 -
It is better to say what you feel.
No need to say it in a manner that would hurt the feelings of the other party.0 -
yes when he is being an a-hole i call him out on it.... sombody has to for crying out loud:flowerforyou:0
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What the hell? I don't even understand the freaking question!0
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Check for what? Contraband?I recently read an article that says that women should check women and men should check men. The wife needs to focus on being a great wife and not say anything to the husband about how he should act and the husband should do the same for his wife. How do you feel about that? Do you check your spouse?0 -
I remind my man of what I expect of him. He does the same. Sometimes we fight. Sometimes we're civil and act nicely about it. I'm not a doormat and will bite his head off, chew it, and spit it out if necessary.
Eta: she means "putting someone on 'check' for actin' da fool!!!!! Lmao!!!!0 -
Um... yeah. Was this an article from the 50's?
Why not just be a decent human being and not worry about fitting yourself into some sort of label?
No, this was said from a woman that truly believes that a wife has no right to tell her husband how he should be acting. That if she acts right then he will to.
As a woman that is recently separated from my husband, that ideaology DOES NOT work. I spent many years having my husbands back, supporting his decisions (good AND bad), saving him from his bad decisions and trying to remain calm and be a great wife in hopes that he would change. Yeah, that doesn't work, especially in my house. The article also said that women have their roles and men have their roles. Those roles don't need to be crossed, exchanged or anything. I was forced to carry both roles in my marriage because my husband wouldn't step into his.0 -
poorly worded OP. but, i think honesty is always best. just deliver it with a little sugar.0
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Check for what? Contraband?I recently read an article that says that women should check women and men should check men. The wife needs to focus on being a great wife and not say anything to the husband about how he should act and the husband should do the same for his wife. How do you feel about that? Do you check your spouse?
Tell him what he's doing wrong. Do you let your spouse know what they should be doing? The article stated that a woman should not tell a man what he should be doing and a man shouldn't tell a wife what she should be doing. Each needs to focus on themselves to be a better person.0 -
Uh... She's nuts. That woman that feels like that.Um... yeah. Was this an article from the 50's?
Why not just be a decent human being and not worry about fitting yourself into some sort of label?
No, this was said from a woman that truly believes that a wife has no right to tell her husband how he should be acting. That if she acts right then he will to.
As a woman that is recently separated from my husband, that ideaology DOES NOT work. I spent many years having my husbands back, supporting his decisions (good AND bad), saving him from his bad decisions and trying to remain calm and be a great wife in hopes that he would change. Yeah, that doesn't work, especially in my house. The article also said that women have their roles and men have their roles. Those roles don't need to be crossed, exchanged or anything. I was forced to carry both roles in my marriage because my husband wouldn't step into his.0 -
if you cant say anything nice don't say anything at all?0
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Um... yeah. Was this an article from the 50's?
Why not just be a decent human being and not worry about fitting yourself into some sort of label?
No, this was said from a woman that truly believes that a wife has no right to tell her husband how he should be acting. That if she acts right then he will to.
As a woman that is recently separated from my husband, that ideaology DOES NOT work. I spent many years having my husbands back, supporting his decisions (good AND bad), saving him from his bad decisions and trying to remain calm and be a great wife in hopes that he would change. Yeah, that doesn't work, especially in my house. The article also said that women have their roles and men have their roles. Those roles don't need to be crossed, exchanged or anything. I was forced to carry both roles in my marriage because my husband wouldn't step into his.
i see two glaring mistakes you made with regard to the above. you supported your ex-husbands BAD decisions (wtf would you do that?), and you wanted him to change. if you continue with those sorts of actions, i'm afraid you're doomed to be disappointed with most people in your life.
ETA: read the last part of that a little more closely and it made me LOL and nearly spit out my coffee. men and women having roles that dare not cross? yep. someone's been sifting through articles from the '40s and '50s. Ever heard of the Women's Liberation Movement? Sexual Revolution? These all occurred some 50 years ago. Welcome to the 21st century dear.0 -
I "check" anyone who is being an ahole or disrespectful, etc.
And we check each other daily. Accountability of actions is important.0 -
Check for what? Contraband?I recently read an article that says that women should check women and men should check men. The wife needs to focus on being a great wife and not say anything to the husband about how he should act and the husband should do the same for his wife. How do you feel about that? Do you check your spouse?
I was thinking for what? Lice?0 -
Or just phrase it in a manner that it won't hurt the other person, perhaps.if you cant say anything nice don't say anything at all?
Good to get the feelings out, be they nice or not. Not everything will be sunshine, sadly.0 -
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Check for what? Contraband?
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We always check each other for ticks after a hike. Does that count?0 -
Check out his glutes?
Check for what? Contraband?I recently read an article that says that women should check women and men should check men. The wife needs to focus on being a great wife and not say anything to the husband about how he should act and the husband should do the same for his wife. How do you feel about that? Do you check your spouse?0 -
Um... yeah. Was this an article from the 50's?
Why not just be a decent human being and not worry about fitting yourself into some sort of label?
No, this was said from a woman that truly believes that a wife has no right to tell her husband how he should be acting. That if she acts right then he will to.
:laugh: Oh Gawd! Some men want to come home to a clean house and dinner and have the hot side action I suppose :drinker:
Eta:snip. OP, not laughing at you. I'm sorry you went through that. But was laughing at the suggestion that women should be doormats.0 -
Dafuq? :huh:0
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Um... yeah. Was this an article from the 50's?
Why not just be a decent human being and not worry about fitting yourself into some sort of label?
No, this was said from a woman that truly believes that a wife has no right to tell her husband how he should be acting. That if she acts right then he will to.
As a woman that is recently separated from my husband, that ideaology DOES NOT work. I spent many years having my husbands back, supporting his decisions (good AND bad), saving him from his bad decisions and trying to remain calm and be a great wife in hopes that he would change. Yeah, that doesn't work, especially in my house. The article also said that women have their roles and men have their roles. Those roles don't need to be crossed, exchanged or anything. I was forced to carry both roles in my marriage because my husband wouldn't step into his.
i see two glaring mistakes you made with regard to the above. you supported your ex-husbands BAD decisions (wtf would you do that?), and you wanted him to change. if you continue with those sorts of actions, i'm afraid you're doomed to be disappointed with most people in your life.
I also feel the style of OP's communication may be revealed in this thread with a less informative OP that waits for replies and then responds with a much more informative and solid stance. This could be making any issues brought up in real life weakened by seeming to be retaliations rather than valid concerns on their own merit if brought up before a convo starts.0 -
Check out his glutes?
Check for what? Contraband?I recently read an article that says that women should check women and men should check men. The wife needs to focus on being a great wife and not say anything to the husband about how he should act and the husband should do the same for his wife. How do you feel about that? Do you check your spouse?
i like checking my partner's glutes whenever possible :blushing:
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tricksy hobbit.Um... yeah. Was this an article from the 50's?
Why not just be a decent human being and not worry about fitting yourself into some sort of label?
No, this was said from a woman that truly believes that a wife has no right to tell her husband how he should be acting. That if she acts right then he will to.
As a woman that is recently separated from my husband, that ideaology DOES NOT work. I spent many years having my husbands back, supporting his decisions (good AND bad), saving him from his bad decisions and trying to remain calm and be a great wife in hopes that he would change. Yeah, that doesn't work, especially in my house. The article also said that women have their roles and men have their roles. Those roles don't need to be crossed, exchanged or anything. I was forced to carry both roles in my marriage because my husband wouldn't step into his.
i see two glaring mistakes you made with regard to the above. you supported your ex-husbands BAD decisions (wtf would you do that?), and you wanted him to change. if you continue with those sorts of actions, i'm afraid you're doomed to be disappointed with most people in your life.
I also feel the style of OP's communication may be revealed in this thread with a less informative OP that waits for replies and then responds with a much more informative and solid stance. This could be making any issues brought up in real life weakened by seeming to be retaliations rather than valid concerns on their own merit if brought up before a convo starts.0 -
Um... yeah. Was this an article from the 50's?
Why not just be a decent human being and not worry about fitting yourself into some sort of label?
No, this was said from a woman that truly believes that a wife has no right to tell her husband how he should be acting. That if she acts right then he will to.
As a woman that is recently separated from my husband, that ideaology DOES NOT work. I spent many years having my husbands back, supporting his decisions (good AND bad), saving him from his bad decisions and trying to remain calm and be a great wife in hopes that he would change. Yeah, that doesn't work, especially in my house. The article also said that women have their roles and men have their roles. Those roles don't need to be crossed, exchanged or anything. I was forced to carry both roles in my marriage because my husband wouldn't step into his.
i see two glaring mistakes you made with regard to the above. you supported your ex-husbands BAD decisions (wtf would you do that?), and you wanted him to change. if you continue with those sorts of actions, i'm afraid you're doomed to be disappointed with most people in your life.
My husband knew what he should be doing. My issue was that he would be great for a period of time and then revert back to being a dumass.
Bad decisions were along the lines of staying with a job that he hated. That caused problems at home and unnecessary stress. The change was him staying focused on what he should be doing instead of running and leaving me to handle life when it got too hard for him.
Please also note I said that we are now separated. And I don't have many people in my life. My dad is really the only one I put any type of confidence in. The rest I don't expect too much from.0 -
Here is all the "check" ing I do regarding my spouse:
Check
Check 1!
No checkbook.
I check myself habitually.
We check in together at hotels.
I check out his junk in his new jeans.
I let him check out my *kitten* in my old jeans.
I check up on him when he is sick and trying to handle it alone.
I check out of conversations when I can see he has clearly had too much caffeine or work drama.
I discreetly check to see if other women are checking his junk in those jeans and then put THEM on check.0 -
I don't even know what you mean.0
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I don't even know what you mean.
Me neither so I tried to cover all of them. I think she means nag.0 -
I'm checked out of this thread.0
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I'm checked out of this thread.
Check it out!0 -
Why would women check other women? And men other men? What would you be checking?0
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