When a Woman is Mad at You

Cali_Chica

When upset, many women often use the "Delayed Reaction Maneuver"

How effective is this technique when communicating?

Men: Can you tell when it is being used on you?

Women: Why do we use this communication strategy rather than just being upfront?

Cali_Chica

I am just so sick of dealing with it.
Last night she had a fit over me taking a bite out of her sweet potatoe.
Ridiculous.

Well that was rather rude of you :laugh:

eaglefish

I used the "Go Ahead" once & bought the motorcycle..

Good times followed

April_KT

I think we use that because we tend to build up of feelings until they do that one thing that sets us off so we flood everything that they did to piss us off in the past couple of months lmao. Wish it wasn't how we tend to deal with things.. but what can ya do?

Buddhasmiracle

In Maine (haven't seen it anywhere else -- yet) the female only "frying pan toss" are one of the most popular events at local fairs. "Toss" doesn't capture the essence of a black skillet flying through the air. Actions speak louder than words.

Cali_Chica

I used the "Go Ahead" once & bought the motorcycle..

Good times followed

Haha I can only imagine how many nights on the couch that motorcycle cost you

coretemp

QUOTE:

I used the "Go Ahead" once & bought the motorcycle..

Good times followed

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That's awesome, LOL

Great toy when used responsibly in my books!

Ailbe1

It's really simple...if you guys don't say or do anything stupid, this won't be a problem in the future!

doug_pierce

Krazy Glue.... It's like regular glue but with a vagina.

coretemp

It's really simple...if you guys don't say or do anything stupid, this won't be a problem in the future!

We try our best! Well, some of us! : )

Sinisterly

Hehehehe I laughed.

Anyway, I just get quiet until I get over it then talk about it rationally

A_nonymous2

I dunno. I'm pretty direct and the outcome doesn't seem to be much better.

Sinisterly

Females = Rational = Fantasy

Not all. Majority, same for my mother and everyone I know, but the drama is too much. No.

MinnieInMaine

Ugh, I hate crap like this. Women don't use these techniques, girls do.

Cali_Chica

Ugh, I hate crap like this. Women don't use these techniques, girls do.

I disagree. I feel like you're implying its a lack of maturity using these techniques. To me, it is my way of conveying I'm upset without getting confrontational. I hope he picks up on my displeasure so that I don't need to have it out about everything.

miss_jessiejane

I don't use them. Why should I? If I say fine, I mean it 's fine. If I say nothing, I mean nothing. If I'm pissed or hurt, I'm just gonna say it. I don't understand women.

Sinisterly

I don't use them. Why should I? If I say fine, I mean it 's fine. If I say nothing, I mean nothing. If I'm pissed or hurt, I'm just gonna say it. I don't understand women.

Very off topic, sorry @ OP.

I love your top, where did you get it? lol. I want one haha.

TheBackStory

I'm brutally honest. It works best for me. If I don't say what I'm feeling I turn into a lunatic.

_chiaroscuro

I keep running into these threads lately. I haven't checked my calendar, is it Don Draper week?

OP lots of people, men and women, handle conflict poorly in lots of different ways. Putting some ineffective habits in the woman box and some in the man box just leads to stupid crap like what tannedtiger and doug_pierce said.

Everyone should just do their best to keep calm and honest during disagreements. Because people.

Edit to add another person saying something stupid.

linzchapates

I'm awkward and emotionally stunted... I don't get overly emotional and avoid heart to heart conversations that make me all ooey gooey like the plague.... This often makes me seem cold hearted or B*tchy.
When I'm mad I definitely internalize and walk away, then deal with it as frankly and non drawn out as possible once I've processed everything.

miss_jessiejane

I don't use them. Why should I? If I say fine, I mean it 's fine. If I say nothing, I mean nothing. If I'm pissed or hurt, I'm just gonna say it. I don't understand women.

Very off topic, sorry @ OP.

I love your top, where did you get it? lol. I want one haha.

Oh thank you! I think I got it at superherostuff.com? I have so many, I forget where they come from!

drop_it_like_a_squat

Ugh, I hate crap like this. Women don't use these techniques, girls do.

This.

sheenarama

I'm sure it confuses men when you actually mean what you say!

MagicalLeopleurodon

Oh no. I flip $#!+ that moment. I dont use "go ahead" passive aggressive tactics. I tell my hubs, "i f****** dare you. See if i dont change the locks."

ItsMeGee3

I don't use most of these but, I am Guilty of the "Whatever!" At least he understands that, knows I'm upset, and probably should be thankful that I'm not speaking my mind. It's much better than "You're a ^@#%^(&% IDIOT."

charliex2202

lol, well i'm single so I have no need to use any of those terms but tbh i'm pretty sure at one point or another they are accurate for most women....but not always... as a bit of fun its funny to look at..and not offensive in anyway..

drop_it_like_a_squat

Ugh, I hate crap like this. Women don't use these techniques, girls do.

I disagree. I feel like you're implying its a lack of maturity using these techniques. To me, it is my way of conveying I'm upset without getting confrontational. I hope he picks up on my displeasure so that I don't need to have it out about everything.

So you hope for him to recognize something's wrong by acting as if everything's fine instead of just telling him? And what if he doesn't get it? How is telling someone how you feel "confrontational"?

caramelgyrlk

Ugh, I hate crap like this. Women don't use these techniques, girls do.

This

Cali_Chica

Ugh, I hate crap like this. Women don't use these techniques, girls do.

I disagree. I feel like you're implying its a lack of maturity using these techniques. To me, it is my way of conveying I'm upset without getting confrontational. I hope he picks up on my displeasure so that I don't need to have it out about everything.

So you hope for him to recognize something's wrong by acting as if everything's fine instead of just telling him? And what if he doesn't get it? How is telling someone how you feel "confrontational"?

What if you've already told him in so many ways a dozen times?? But he just doesn't get it? And you're sick of fighting? So you resort to "fine" or "whatever" to spare another confrontation?

miss_jessiejane

What if you've already told him in so many ways a dozen times?? But he just doesn't get it? And you're sick of fighting? So you resort to "fine" or "whatever" to spare another confrontation?

That's not healthy. If after all that, you're still angry/sad/upset and you want to stop talking about it, how about you just say "Hey, I'm tired of talking about this, so let's stop." It'd be better than letting him think everything's ok or that you're done fighting about it.

fannyfrost

Women are trained to avoid confrontation. If you think about it, its true. I remember my dad would tell me all the time, don't be so loud women should speak softly. It is starting to change, but strong women were not seen as a good thing. So if you argued with anyone or confronted someone, well your a ***** and that is all there is to it. Therefore women are trained not to argue, they are told outright or subtly to obey (remember the wedding vows), obey is not said by the man. It has gradually changed and the society is allowing women to be confrontational and outspoken, but it still is underlying implication. Men don't like it when you argue with them, men want to be in charge, manipulate him into doing what you want, give hints. This may not have been said, but women saw their mother's doing it, we see it on TV, etc.