When a Woman is Mad at You
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Ugh, I hate crap like this. Women don't use these techniques, girls do.
I disagree. I feel like you're implying its a lack of maturity using these techniques. To me, it is my way of conveying I'm upset without getting confrontational. I hope he picks up on my displeasure so that I don't need to have it out about everything.
So you hope for him to recognize something's wrong by acting as if everything's fine instead of just telling him? And what if he doesn't get it? How is telling someone how you feel "confrontational"?
What if you've already told him in so many ways a dozen times?? But he just doesn't get it? And you're sick of fighting? So you resort to "fine" or "whatever" to spare another confrontation?
So you're referring to your very personal circumstances.
IMHO, in a relationship between two mature people, talking about problems and how to solve them should be a totally natural thing. That's how relationships (should) work.0 -
Ugh, I hate crap like this. Women don't use these techniques, girls do.
I disagree. I feel like you're implying its a lack of maturity using these techniques. To me, it is my way of conveying I'm upset without getting confrontational. I hope he picks up on my displeasure so that I don't need to have it out about everything.
So you hope for him to recognize something's wrong by acting as if everything's fine instead of just telling him? And what if he doesn't get it? How is telling someone how you feel "confrontational"?
What if you've already told him in so many ways a dozen times?? But he just doesn't get it? And you're sick of fighting? So you resort to "fine" or "whatever" to spare another confrontation?
So you're referring to your very personal circumstances.
IMHO, in a relationship between two mature people, talking about problems and how to solve them should be a totally natural thing. That's how relationships (should) work.
My personality just isn't cantankerous. I can't stand arguing. So yeah there are things he just isn't picking up when I put down. So instead of being a quarrelsome aggressive partner who nags incessantly, I go passive aggressive route. Not saying it is healthy, but not sure arguing about same thing is healthy either.0 -
When upset, many women often use the "Delayed Reaction Maneuver"
How effective is this technique when communicating?
Men: Can you tell when it is being used on you?
1. It is effective on ending a relationship. I'm a grown man, I don't play games or want drama in my life. If something bothers you on what I said, reacted, or did. Tell me.
2. Yes I can tell. I've said this before. Men are simple creatures. We do stupid stuff at times, and we try to one up each other by comparing our size of our penls'. It doesn't mean we don't know when something is bothering you, it just might mean we don't care to play that game of guess why I am mad.0 -
Ugh, I hate crap like this. Women don't use these techniques, girls do.
I disagree. I feel like you're implying its a lack of maturity using these techniques. To me, it is my way of conveying I'm upset without getting confrontational. I hope he picks up on my displeasure so that I don't need to have it out about everything.
So you hope for him to recognize something's wrong by acting as if everything's fine instead of just telling him? And what if he doesn't get it? How is telling someone how you feel "confrontational"?
What if you've already told him in so many ways a dozen times?? But he just doesn't get it? And you're sick of fighting? So you resort to "fine" or "whatever" to spare another confrontation?
Just break up.0 -
What if you've already told him in so many ways a dozen times?? But he just doesn't get it? And you're sick of fighting? So you resort to "fine" or "whatever" to spare another confrontation?
That's not healthy. If after all that, you're still angry/sad/upset and you want to stop talking about it, how about you just say "Hey, I'm tired of talking about this, so let's stop." It'd be better than letting him think everything's ok or that you're done fighting about it.
You must be single, once you have a bf or a husband, your opinions would change very quickly.
Just because you landed a problem relationship doesn't mean all women in relationships mishandle conflict. That's...irrational.0 -
I just don't see the point in any of that. If we're talking about a man who actually loves you, then whatever he did or said was probably not done with the intention of hurting you or pissing you off. So talk to him about it, and then move on. If, as a result of calm, rational evaluation, you're pretty sure he meant to hurt you or piss you off, then your man-picker needs work.0
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I am just so sick of dealing with it.
Last night she had a fit over me taking a bite out of her sweet potatoe.
Ridiculous.
Sweet potatoes in my opinion are not worth fighting over. Blech. She be crazy :laugh:0 -
+1.Ugh, I hate crap like this. Women don't use these techniques, girls do.
I disagree. I feel like you're implying its a lack of maturity using these techniques. To me, it is my way of conveying I'm upset without getting confrontational. I hope he picks up on my displeasure so that I don't need to have it out about everything.
So you hope for him to recognize something's wrong by acting as if everything's fine instead of just telling him? And what if he doesn't get it? How is telling someone how you feel "confrontational"?
What if you've already told him in so many ways a dozen times?? But he just doesn't get it? And you're sick of fighting? So you resort to "fine" or "whatever" to spare another confrontation?
Just break up.0 -
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What if you've already told him in so many ways a dozen times?? But he just doesn't get it? And you're sick of fighting? So you resort to "fine" or "whatever" to spare another confrontation?
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Just break up.
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+1.
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And let some new woman reap the benefits of my years of hard work? Hell no!:laugh:0 -
I used to do all the passive aggressive nonsense because I didn't like confrontation, and I probably felt like I wasn't worth being treated right.
Now, I'm completely open and honest with everything. BF tells me yesterday that he wants to do something that I am not OK with, I tell him that if he does this, it will really hurt me. Period. He goes on and on about how I'm misguided and I just say, "I've been upfront about my feelings, misguided or not. Now, it's up to you to decide what you're going to do. Right now, I'm dropping this conversation since we aren't getting anywhere with it." Light bulb for him. I still have no clue what he's going to do, or how I'll react when/if he does it, but there is no question at all about what I think about this and my feelings.
Meh, I guess we'll see...0 -
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When upset, many women often use the "Delayed Reaction Maneuver"
How effective is this technique when communicating?
Men: Can you tell when it is being used on you?
1. It is effective on ending a relationship. I'm a grown man, I don't play games or want drama in my life. If something bothers you on what I said, reacted, or did. Tell me.
2. Yes I can tell. I've said this before. Men are simple creatures. We do stupid stuff at times, and we try to one up each other by comparing our size of our penls'. It doesn't mean we don't know when something is bothering you, it just might mean we don't care to play that game of guess why I am mad.
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What if you've already told him in so many ways a dozen times?? But he just doesn't get it? And you're sick of fighting? So you resort to "fine" or "whatever" to spare another confrontation?
Just break up.
+1.
And let some new woman reap the benefits of my years of hard work? Hell no!:laugh:
Clearly, that hard work hasn't paid off .....0 -
I have seen many people use this communication style. (and they were not women)0
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If you can't be honest with the person you're with, the relationship is a lie.0
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When upset, many women often use the "Delayed Reaction Maneuver"
How effective is this technique when communicating?
Men: Can you tell when it is being used on you?
1. It is effective on ending a relationship. I'm a grown man, I don't play games or want drama in my life. If something bothers you on what I said, reacted, or did. Tell me.
I hate those GUESSing games.
2. Yes I can tell. I've said this before. Men are simple creatures. We do stupid stuff at times, and we try to one up each other by comparing our size of our penls'. It doesn't mean we don't know when something is bothering you, it just might mean we don't care to play that game of guess why I am mad.
My wife understands .. if she tells me she's/it's "FINE" .. I will act as if things are *gasp* ... fine.0 -
My husband often does the "delayed reaction" stuff. We've talked about it and he feels like it's a good thing. Often he'll get upset over something, but then if he waits, when he calms down, he realizes that whatever he was upset about was stupid and lets it okay. If he can't let it go, then we talk about it. If he actually voiced all his "annoyances" we'd fight a lot more because I'm sure I'd take issue at getting *****ed at over stupid things.
But no one should ever say there is nothing wrong when there is. Just say "I don't want to talk about it right now, until I've had time to think".0 -
Relationship. You're doing it right.My husband often does the "delayed reaction" stuff. We've talked about it and he feels like it's a good thing. Often he'll get upset over something, but then if he waits, when he calms down, he realizes that whatever he was upset about was stupid and lets it okay. If he can't let it go, then we talk about it. If he actually voiced all his "annoyances" we'd fight a lot more because I'm sure I'd take issue at getting *****ed at over stupid things.
But no one should ever say there is nothing wrong when there is. Just say "I don't want to talk about it right now, until I've had time to think".
Edit: bolded the bits :P0 -
I used the "Go Ahead" once & bought the motorcycle..
Good times followed
I used the "Say nothing" strategy to his constant nagging for me to learn to ride. That earned me my own motorcycle and yup, good times did follow. Sometimes passive-aggressive works for me.0 -
When upset, many women often use the "Delayed Reaction Maneuver"
They do?How effective is this technique when communicating?
I can't imagine it would be that effective. It sound more passive aggressive than anything else.Men: Can you tell when it is being used on you?
No. I tend to take women at face value rather than trying to second guess what they mean. If they don't have the courtesy to be honest with me I don't see why I should have the courtesy to care.Women: Why do we use this communication strategy rather than just being upfront?
Yeah women, why? It must be very frustrating for the recipient.0 -
Usually, when either of us has done something to make the other angry it can go a variety of ways. Sometimes I used the delayed reaction because I am trying to figure out in my head was it worth getting angry over in the first place. Just because my initial reaction was to be upset, doesn't mean that logically I should be upset. I will tell her "x thing" made me angry, but I need to think about things first. She does the same. That and I don't like discussing topics when I am angry. It isn't productive.0
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*Applause*Usually, when either of us has done something to make the other angry it can go a variety of ways. Sometimes I used the delayed reaction because I am trying to figure out in my head was it worth getting angry over in the first place. Just because my initial reaction was to be upset, doesn't mean that logically I should be upset. I will tell her "x thing" made me angry, but I need to think about things first. She does the same. That and I don't like discussing topics when I am angry. It isn't productive.0 -
Cause B*tches be crazy0
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Cause B*tches be crazy
^^^nuff said
Goes like this
him -"Hey you want any ice cream?" her - "Nope" him- proceeds to eat the rest of ice cream her - "I wanted some of that" him - "***** off"0 -
Okay, that'll about do it for me. Come on vagina! let's go where the mean boys won't point out our innate womanly flaws!
*stomps off to Pinterest*0 -
Assertive, articulate, and well reasoned in person communication is best.0
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I'm too old for this!!!0
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LMBO - I did!0
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I admit that I will occasionally use on e of these. Later when reflecting on the choice, I realize honesty would be better and that I can,'t really get too upset at my husband if he took what I said literally.0
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Ugh, I hate crap like this. Women don't use these techniques, girls do.
I disagree. I feel like you're implying its a lack of maturity using these techniques. To me, it is my way of conveying I'm upset without getting confrontational. I hope he picks up on my displeasure so that I don't need to have it out about everything.
Mind == blown. Being passive aggressive and dishonest versus being confrontational. Yikes.0
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