How to Tell if Your Date Is Married?

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PlanetoftheAtheists
PlanetoftheAtheists Posts: 112
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I think the person I am dating is married. What are the signs to look for?
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  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
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    Try Googling and Facebook stalking. Does he only see you on weeknights? Unable to call or return texts at certain time of the day? Indentation on finger where wedding band should be?

    Ask him too, be up front with your suspicions.
  • Greenrun99
    Greenrun99 Posts: 2,065 Member
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    A wedding ring????
  • ZombieGeezUs
    ZombieGeezUs Posts: 476
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    If he never invites you to his house. Or if you suggest it, he tries to come up with an alternative every time
  • Iceberg_Simpson
    Iceberg_Simpson Posts: 737 Member
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    It's never a good sign if her husband drops her off to your date.
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
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    If he never invites you to his house. Or if you suggest it, he tries to come up with an alternative every time

    That isn't necessarily a red flag. I won't have anyone at my house because I have kids, not because I'm married. I just refuse to have guys I'm not serious about meeting my children.
  • ZombieGeezUs
    ZombieGeezUs Posts: 476
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    If he never invites you to his house. Or if you suggest it, he tries to come up with an alternative every time

    That isn't necessarily a red flag. I won't have anyone at my house because I have kids, not because I'm married. I just refuse to have guys I'm not serious about meeting my children.

    True. But what if he doesn't use that excuse?
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
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    OP-Are you male or female?

    How many dates have you been on?

    Why do you suspect this person is married?

    I think more information would be helpful in figuring out what's going on.
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,065 Member
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    Ask them straight out....are you married?
  • PlanetoftheAtheists
    PlanetoftheAtheists Posts: 112
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    this is a serious post and any help would be appreciated. She hasn't invited me to her house and we've been dating for close to 3 months. also, she hasn't introduced me to anyone. i find this very strange
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,065 Member
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    this is a serious post and any help would be appreciated. She hasn't invited me to her house and we've been dating for close to 3 months. also, she hasn't introduced me to anyone. i find this very strange

    Like I said....ask her straight out...confront her about it.
  • mister_universe
    mister_universe Posts: 6,664 Member
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    this is a serious post and any help would be appreciated. She hasn't invited me to her house and we've been dating for close to 3 months. also, she hasn't introduced me to anyone. i find this very strange

    Check for an intact hymen. :wink:
  • SonicDeathMonkey80
    SonicDeathMonkey80 Posts: 4,489 Member
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    Maybe she's a complete pig at home and has no friends?
  • digitalbill
    digitalbill Posts: 1,410 Member
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    this is a serious post and any help would be appreciated. She hasn't invited me to her house and we've been dating for close to 3 months. also, she hasn't introduced me to anyone. i find this very strange
    There does appear to be some red flags for sure.
    Ask her if she has ever been married or has any kids.
    What does she drive? (Hint:, an SUV or a Minivan could = married)
    Call at strange hours to judge her reaction.
    Others have asked you about if she meets ONLY on weekends.
    We need more information in order to give accurate advise.
  • DrMAvDPhD
    DrMAvDPhD Posts: 2,097 Member
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    Dating for three months and you still don't trust her? Time to move on, buddy.
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
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    How serious is the dating?
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,709 Member
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    It's a set up. She's looking to marry you, get a life insurance policy and off you. If you're never known about by her friends or family, you won't be missed. Or maybe she's just a horder. Good luck with it though.

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  • ansonrinesmith
    ansonrinesmith Posts: 755 Member
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    Won't give you a home phone number?
  • julie3227
    julie3227 Posts: 162
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    If the person is getting many phone calls that they forward while you're together.
  • BerryH
    BerryH Posts: 4,698 Member
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    Easy way: ask

    Slightly less easy way: check the electoral register
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
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    this is a serious post and any help would be appreciated. She hasn't invited me to her house and we've been dating for close to 3 months. also, she hasn't introduced me to anyone. i find this very strange

    Like I said....ask her straight out...confront her about it.

    This. Put on your big boy pants and ask her.

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