How to Tell if Your Date Is Married?

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  • kittenful
    kittenful Posts: 318 Member
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    Dating for three months and you still don't trust her? Time to move on, buddy.

    ^This.
    You're suspicious that she may be married. Ask her. If you do and still don't know what to think, then it's time to leave. Trust builds a relationship. Suspicion breaks it down.
  • eric_sg61
    eric_sg61 Posts: 2,925 Member
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    If he never invites you to his house.
    This
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,676 Member
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    Easy way: ask

    Slightly less easy way: check the electoral register
    Ha! My answer exactly lol
  • tworthen79
    tworthen79 Posts: 1,173 Member
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    Maybe she's embarrassed to have her friends/family know she's dating you. Not that you're unattractive, but maybe you're not the type of person she wants others to know she's attracted to. Or it isn't as serious as you think it is. Maybe she dates others. Maybe shes a serial killer and hides bodies in her freezer.

    Ask her?
  • LuLuChick78
    LuLuChick78 Posts: 439 Member
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    Bump to keep reading as this unfolds.
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
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    A wedding ring????

    A wedding band tan line.
  • QuincyChick
    QuincyChick Posts: 269 Member
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    I think just straight up asking her is the only way to settle this. If she becomes upset, cite the reasons you've noted here (not meeting any of her friends, never going to her place, etc.)
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
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    Won't give you a home phone number?

    Meaningful 10-15 years ago, mostly irrelevant today. Home phones are becoming more scarce.
  • in_the_stars
    in_the_stars Posts: 1,395 Member
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    Ask???
    Hire a private detective?


    "Just like watching the detectives
    Don't get cute
    It's just like watching the detectives
    I get so angry when the teardrops start
    But he can't be wounded 'cause he's got no heart"
  • tworthen79
    tworthen79 Posts: 1,173 Member
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    1. a ring/tan line
    2. takes calls privately
    3. doesn't sleep over (if you're intimately involved)
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,291 Member
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    A wedding ring????

    A wedding band tan line.
    and if it's winter, you'll also notice where the prints have smoothed out at the base of the finger
    images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRzm402rzIL0ET9LXx4j1SvvmdfX_jYylnqjXhr3ZJ1NxSTjPRWfQ \m/
  • kellenas
    kellenas Posts: 154
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    A wedding ring????

    This...look for signs that he wears one...ie, pale ring around the finger where a ring would be.
  • TX_Rhon
    TX_Rhon Posts: 1,549 Member
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    I do not have guys over because of my kids - end of story. If you feel something is not right, it's probably true. Trust your gut. My big red flag is if a guy always calls during the day and never can or has excuses as to why he cannot talk at night.

    Just ask. If she gets defensive and storms out, you were right!! Good luck.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
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    this is a serious post and any help would be appreciated. She hasn't invited me to her house and we've been dating for close to 3 months. also, she hasn't introduced me to anyone. i find this very strange

    Do you know where she lives? Drop round to see her unannounced. Does she stay over at yours?
  • elyelyse
    elyelyse Posts: 1,454 Member
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    sorry but...those of you saying to "just ask"...are you really that naive? you think someone who is cheating is going to admit to it just because you outright ask? Let me tell you from personal experience, they're not gonna tell you just because you asked politely. If they are cheating on their spouse, what makes you think they will be honest with you?

    Having said that, I don't know how to tell. I've been fooled (at least) twice.
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
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    Is she employed? When does she see you for dates?

    Do you know her address? The address of her employer?

    Is she fussy about where you go? i.e. wants to avoid certain places or neighborhoods where she might run into people she knows?
  • PlanetoftheAtheists
    PlanetoftheAtheists Posts: 112
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    she said she was divorced. she also has 3 kids.
  • servilia
    servilia Posts: 3,452 Member
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    Does she ever stay over at your place? Is she unavailable on the phone in the evenings and weekends?
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
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    does she often give you sandwiches?
    if not, then she is likely married and all the sandwiches she is making are going to her HUSBAND.
  • tworthen79
    tworthen79 Posts: 1,173 Member
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    she said she was divorced. she also has 3 kids.

    Well, see maybe she doesn't bring men around her kids. Which is understandable.
    Does she stay over? When the kids are at their father's (if they do go).

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