Why do we have to suffer? :'(
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very good advice:drinker:0
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My boys have lived it we did diet work shop weight watchers swimming karate Its very hard. My boys were always a foot taller than everyone else too. My son can't go to place like baseball games because he doesn't fit his legs are too long he is too tall for some cars his head hits the roof.he wrist is huge he need special hats and sunglasses ties. Maybe start a you tube channel of your journey have you seen this?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qX9FSZJu448 never give up!!! 0 -
you can change this, log on MFP everyday and enter all what you eat and drink, get some supportive friend son here and go for it, you will be amazed at hew good you can feel with supprt0
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:flowerforyou: very good advice Mom's can make people insane:sad: LOL!! we are all only human hopefully doing the best we can0
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Some people can't do all kinds of things through disability or injury, and that really isn't FAIR.
But you have a chance to change this, to do something about it. It isn't always easy, but it certainly isn't impossible. lose the "it's not fair" attitude and adopt the "I'm not doing this any longer, I am going to kick butt and lose weight" attitude.
With willpower and determination you can get to a healthy weight and enjoy all those things. You can do it.
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Positive change happens when you love yourself. Believe you deserve those things and live your life in a way that honors your worth as a person.0
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If you have never experienced even a little bit of the feelings he is describing then you are just lying to yourselves. I'm not disagreeing with people who are telling him to get passed those feelings, but show some compassion. And before you tell him his feelings are not valid because of your one leg/dead parent/empty bank account or whatever, just stop. Your suffering does not invalidate another's - if you live in a developed country, you already have it better than 50% of the world - which means whatever you have to complain about is insignificant compared to their issues.
To the OP - each day, hour and minute gives you an opportunity to make positive change in your life. Go slowly - don't try and rush the process. Start with following the advice of some of the posters here:
1. Find a form of exercise that you enjoy and do it on a regular basis. It could be exercise videos, swimming, walking to the mailbox and back - whatever it is, consistency is key.
2. Track your calories - try to make good decisions with your food but don't deprive yourself of things that you enjoy to eat.
3. Think about working with a therapist, or look into something called minfulness to help you deal with some of your feelings.
Losing even 5-10% will help you feel physically better - which in turn may help you attack some of the other issues.0 -
Until you fall in love with you it will be very hard for you to get past the grip of your addiction and see that you are Wonderfully and fearfully made. You are beloved and deserving of all of what is good in life. Why do we have to suffer? Suffering refines us. It strips away the surface, and reveals what is most important in life. My besetting sin is pride. Thank God he saw fit to grace me with years of morbid obesity to humble me and create more empathy in me for my fellow man. To remind me that I control my choices but I have no control over life-that's His venue. Knowing what I know now- I would never choose to have had a different life. Look back at your childhood. Try not to see it as horrible. Strip away the emotions and try to see the lessons that were being taught. Being the butt of a joke as a child or the object of teasing has made me very attentive to how my kid treats other kids. My own addiction helps me treat addicts of all kinds in my work. You already know your problem. Food isn't your problem, it is what you are medicating your problem with. People shy away from people who have poor self esteem no matter their weight. The constant anxiety of their body language makes them uncomfortable. Until you love you, fat and all, it will be tough to get anywhere good. Much love and God bless.0
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As somebody who has felt that way before:
1. Stop thinking of yourself as some kind of victim. No one has forced you to be who you are or to feel the way you feel. If there is something about your life that you don't like. Change it.
2. Learn how to build a better self image. http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2013/12/10/how-to-build-a-perfect-body-a-discussion-on-body-image/
3. Regardless of your size now, you can do things to change that, primarily by losing weight and learning about body recomposition. Until you get there, learn how to dress in ways that can help you feel more confident, and make a better impression on others. http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2013/12/16/how-to-level-up-your-wardrobe-a-primer-on-first-impressions/
4. You're 19. Be patient.0 -
I'm 395.6 lbs, down from 415 (WOO WOO), and I gotta say I don't suffer AT ALL!
I'm happy. I love life. I love my daughter. I love my girlfriend. I love woodworking. I love photography. I love nature. I just LOVE everything about living, thus why I have started a weight loss journey so I can continue living.
You need to find happiness within yourself now as an obese person, before you can find happiness as a leaner person.
Rob0 -
I just wanted to say that I wish you some happiness and joy in your life because you sound so unhappy and I know life isn't easy but we can do things to at least help make it better a bit. What are some things you enjoy? Start doing them more, providing they're healthy and positive things!
I understand depression and thyroid issues (i have both, along with a ton of other medical conditions) but you know what? I'm not going to let it stop me. We have to live life...and not waste a moment of it. It's too precious, you know?
Hang in there. Make some positive changes in your life. Start walking, eat some healthy foods instead of bad ones, make small steps at first and it'll get better. Also, if you have depression, maybe you could try to see a doctor or therapist for some help? I've been there...it's tough but there's no shame in asking for help.0 -
As somebody who has felt that way before:
1. Stop thinking of yourself as some kind of victim. No one has forced you to be who you are or to feel the way you feel. If there is something about your life that you don't like. Change it.
2. Learn how to build a better self image. http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2013/12/10/how-to-build-a-perfect-body-a-discussion-on-body-image/
3. Regardless of your size now, you can do things to change that, primarily by losing weight and learning about body recomposition. Until you get there, learn how to dress in ways that can help you feel more confident, and make a better impression on others. http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2013/12/16/how-to-level-up-your-wardrobe-a-primer-on-first-impressions/
4. You're 19. Be patient.
This is really good advice.0 -
life is no fair period…does not matter if you are obese, skinny, fit, etc…
Just because someone is fit does not mean that there life is all rainbows and unicorns. THey still have bills to pay, work to deal with, crazy friends and/or family members..
You are still young - 19 - so you think that life owes you something, but it does not; everything you gain in life your ill have to fight for and want for yourself, and sometimes that will not work out.
I got cancer when I was 25, what that fair? Hell no. But I dealt with it and fought my way through it. Four years ago my business almost went out of business and this was wen all the banks were getting bailed out, did we et a bail out? Hell no. We had to fight, kick, claw our way out of it…
Just a little life lesson for you ….
If you do not want to be obese anymore, then make the necessary changes and stop being obese…you can control that..there are a lot of things that you cannot control…
good luck to you ….0 -
newsflash If someone told you life was fair or easy, they lied to you.
maybe it was obama? bahahahahahaha0 -
Honestly, I really think you just are having one of those horrible days.
I can't share in your greef of being obese but I can tell you that I have met obese people and honestly they were the most cheerful and happy people in the hostel!!!! And you know what else!!!! Everybody loved them!! And honestly, It's not because people aren't jealous of them (djeezus christ I was, wish I could be happy all the time, and so confident :-D) but I honestly think it's because they don't judge other people, open minded, happy!
And it's really like how you look at life!!! I've had my own problems, and ever since I've been feeling I have been lucky! After my little accident I decided to drop my studies and go travel, because that's all I ever wanted to do! And despite the fact that it was hard there on my own, and I struggled to find work there. I saw the postive things, like honestly there were a lot of people in worse circumstances and they could still laugh.... I remember losing my entire backpack and well be angry and stressed out for a day and then think.... puh sad, now I have to buy everything all over again, wel at least I will finally have photo's in different clothes then 2 years ago :-D (Backpackers don't shop very often)
I honestly think that if you can't change your mentality whether you will or not drop kilos you will still be that scared little girl that's not going to dare and talk to people are go to the movie alone..... It won't make you that much happier!
Be proud of the person you are! and you might actually be able to lose wheight a lot easier!!!
Good luck!0 -
newsflash If someone told you life was fair or easy, they lied to you.
maybe it was obama? bahahahahahaha
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You people are all being so mean for offering thoughtful, knowledgeable, and truthful advice. Someone should start a thread.0
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Please don't tell anyone I was being empathetic and compassionate. It'll ruin my street cred.You people are all being so mean for offering thoughtful, knowledgeable, and truthful advice. Someone should start a thread.
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Lets be clear and simple. I will lose weight in the following fashion. IF I Fail under any circumstances, I will have a surgery.
Current weight - 133.5 Kgs.
Target weight - 100 Kgs
Target time 11 months. i.e. Before november 2014.
Breakdown.
1 Kg a week.
Jan 31 - 130
Feb 28 - 126
Mar 31 - 122
Apr 30 - 118
May 31 - 114
June 30 - 110
July 31 - 106
Aug 31 - 102
Sep 30 - 98
Oct 31 - 94
Nov 30 - 92
Dec 31 - 88.
Best of luck. Will keep updated.0 -
What is your plan to accomplish that? And if you have any problems along the way, you're going to subject yourself to elective surgery? Have you considered the risks inherent?
That sounds pretty rigid.Lets be clear and simple. I will lose weight in the following fashion. IF I Fail under any circumstances, I will have a surgery.
Current weight - 133.5 Kgs.
Target weight - 100 Kgs
Target time 11 months. i.e. Before november 2014.
Breakdown.
1 Kg a week.
Jan 31 - 130
Feb 28 - 126
Mar 31 - 122
Apr 30 - 118
May 31 - 114
June 30 - 110
July 31 - 106
Aug 31 - 102
Sep 30 - 98
Oct 31 - 94
Nov 30 - 92
Dec 31 - 88.
Best of luck. Will keep updated.0
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