You know what grinds my gears.....

jmp463

Yes - I stole that line from Family guy. Not afraid to admit that I am not original.

However there is something that grinds my gears about MFP. Actually its something that makes me laugh and shake my head.

Its people who in the first 3 lines of their profile tell you all the reasons that they will not accept you as a friend or delete you as a friend.

I mean what the hell is that all about???

What ever happened to "hello my name is...."

Instead its:

"....please do not send me FR if you are living in North America. If you eat sugar. If you are not Gluten Free. If you are Gluten Free. If you are in starvation mode. If you believe in starvation mode. If you dont lift more than you weigh. If you dont eat 2500 calories a day....blah blah blah blah...."

If you are that insane about adding a random person on social website how the hell do you make in through life????

It just seems like some of the people on this site take themselves a bit too serious. As though the world will end if Fitmamma2014 wont let me add her because I do not have the same philosophy about hammer curls vs dumbbell curls or that I eat white bread.

Its a nice site and if you really are honest with yourself and your logging and you try hard you really can use it to lose weight. I have learned so much from some of the posts I have read and so many people have the best of intentions. However some of the others I swear are tools. And not the good kind.

And that is what grinds my gears.

prime853

I agree, all I expect is a simple message, even then I still except all people, its just courteous I think but no biggie

haven't come across anyone that has said they'd deny people

Except for one who said she would if she got no message in the request lololololol

bearkisses

it's like a velvet rope....i concur!

Cait_Sidhe

I dunno, I don't really find it that ridiculous to want people on your friendslist thatyou have something in common with. But I'm probably one of those people you're complaining about because unless under very special circumstances, I don't accept friend requests at all.

Jersey_Devil

you read that stuff?

prime853

you read that stuff?

I do, gives me an idea wether to suspect a troll account

_John_

...when you drop a reel on its handle and the pinion gets micro wear causing vibration on the retrieve?

Because in the past, that's what caused most of my reels' gear wear.

jmp463

Trust me I dont take it that serious. I just find it amusing more than anything else. Everyone is free to do as they please. But to me it does say something about the person.

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cmcollins001

Trust me I dont take it that serious. I just find it amusing more than anything else. Everyone is free to do as they please. But to me it does say something about the person.

So, what exactly does a few lines in an online profile created by a person making life changing decisions say about a person?

Lovely_77

well the fact that they take the time to write all of that, rather than just make their profile private and decline those they do not want seeing their profile, means they want people to know they only accept a certain kind and is still fine with their profile being looked at almost as freely as if they were to accept the requests. Tells me they just want to be noticed and/or feel as if MFP is their VIP section.

cmcollins001

well the fact that they take the time to write all of that, rather than just make their profile private and decline those they do not want seeing their profile, means they want people to know they only accept a certain kind and is still fine with their profile being looked at almost as freely as if they were to accept the requests. Tells me they just want to be noticed and/or feel as if MFP is their VIP section.

You're right, it probably has nothing to with them thinking it might actually help to connect with people who they would be able to relate and understand them better.

djxil

Amen brotha. That said, managing 60+ friends is hard, I really want to pay attn to each one. Now, I know a guy on here, who in 30 days, has over 300 friends and he is equally dedicated to each one, it's amazing.

I believe that I am one hell of a friend to many people, all kinds, young and old, race matters not, women, men, fit or overweight, gay, straight, married or single, diversity is the key for me.

Will I delete a friend who is no longer active, yeah, after a quick email to make sure things are ok, if I get no response, I move on.

Thanks for posting the topic and love the homage to FG!

MysteriousMerlin

Yeah, gotta say I don't really care for it, and I probably don't send friend requests to those that have it. I understand the reasoning, but still, I personally don't like it.

I take all friend requests. I post often, and I respond more to those who post a lot in my feed. If you don't post, I likely don't have much to do with you, but I don't reject anyone. If I'm unfriended, oh well. I'm pretty open and am always willing to offer support or encouragement, but typically only when asked. I find it hard to encourage or try to motivate those I don't know or talk to regularly. I don't put down generic "WTG" or "good job", I post what I really feel. And I'm not shy about letting my friends know what I think, especially if the food diary macros are too low/too high. I'm never mean, but I will express my concerns.

TheRealParisLove

I regularly get blank friend requests from people whose profile says they do not accept blank friend requests. I guess they don't see the irony.

olivia_june

It amuses me. But I assume they've had creepers add/message them, so I understand.

I'll add anyone, there's no velvet rope here! :P

michellemybelll

i keep my list very small, and don't add to it often. my profile is not set to private, and i do have the disclaimer about a message along with a friend request. it's all personal preference. i'm very discretionary about who i add. i'm not a big fan of large numbers of people, whether real or virtual. i'm comfortable with my friend's list, which is most important. and it's mine, so why do you care anyway?

lynheff

LOL!! to Michellemybelle

SunofaBeach14

meh

HawkeyeTy

LishieFruit89

Get over it.

bperkins88

Ophidion

rml_16

The only reason this should bother you is that you want to be friends with these people. I'm perfectly happy that they tell me off the bat that they have no sense of humor. Saves time and trouble.

dietonthego

I really don't care if someone is so particular with who they want to become friends with. I definitely know up front they are not the person for me. My question is " Do they conduct themselves in their everyday life like that?" For me the ability to get along and have a conversation with anyone even if they are not my interest, is a gift.

willrun4bagels

Can't stop watching!

neandermagnon

what grinds my gears is when the clutch pedal isn't working right... that really grinds my gears, that does

Fit2Strip

Let me just go ahead and create a topic where I complain about the people I don't like because strangers on the internet are selective when choosing who they associate with and that is unacceptable. How dare they choose who to associate with? How dare they only be friends with people they like? I mean, in person, everyone is friends with whomever says hi regardless of whether they like each other or not. This must be a case of social networks ruining civilization by letting people think they have the right to choose their friends. It also leads me to wonder how many women you have locked in your basement because it's only logical to assume that you feel people shouldn't be allowed to pick their lovers based on who they like... "You will love me whether you like it or not!"
You are crazy.

jmp463

Let me just go ahead and create a topic where I complain about the people I don't like because strangers on the internet are selective when choosing who they associate with and that is unacceptable. How dare they choose who to associate with? How dare they only be friends with people they like? I mean, in person, everyone is friends with whomever says hi regardless of whether they like each other or not. This must be a case of social networks ruining civilization by letting people think they have the right to choose their friends. It also leads me to wonder how many women you have locked in your basement because it's only logical to assume that you feel people shouldn't be allowed to pick their lovers based on who they like... "You will love me whether you like it or not!"
You are crazy.

How did you know about the basement???

Please lighten up a bit. Did not catch the FG reference or the fact I said I find it amusing???? People can encrypt their profiles in binary language for all I care. Trust me I do not walk around spending my days thinking about this. That was my point the people who spend that much time thinking about the people they don't want to add to list. It takes a lot of negative thought to do that. Just making a spur of the moment comment. Not really looking to tie people up so that they will love me.

likitisplit

Really? It would be better to just not accept a request and have the person wonder why? There are a bunch of people on here recovering from ED and VLCD can be a trigger for them.

randomtai