Dating advice needed....please

QuietBloom · January 2014

He may think hes' doing the right thing

Isn't it sort of common knowledge not to over text and over call?

^THIS. Either he doesn't know how not cool that is, or he knows it but can't help himself. Either way, it's not very encouraging.

Your options:

1. Do him a favor: don't say anything about it, and go out with him--and hope that you can hear eachother over the sound of that huge red flag flapflapflapping away between you.

2. Do him a mixed favor: educate him, tell him that what's he's doing is not cool and setting off alarms, and go out with him anyway--if he still wants to after you (maybe) bruise his ego a little.

3. Do both him and yourself a favor: educate him and cancel the date.

4. Do yourself a favor: cancel the date.

I'm voting for #3 or #4.

The typical 6.5 and above women in the 21-28 age range will cancel with no explanation (option 4). From 5-6.5 in that age cohort, the majority (my guess 85-90%) will cancel with no explanation (option 4), while the rest will choose option 3.

You are predicting women's behavior based on your rating scale of their looks?

MM_1982 · January 2014

He may think hes' doing the right thing

Isn't it sort of common knowledge not to over text and over call?

^THIS. Either he doesn't know how not cool that is, or he knows it but can't help himself. Either way, it's not very encouraging.

Your options:

1. Do him a favor: don't say anything about it, and go out with him--and hope that you can hear eachother over the sound of that huge red flag flapflapflapping away between you.

2. Do him a mixed favor: educate him, tell him that what's he's doing is not cool and setting off alarms, and go out with him anyway--if he still wants to after you (maybe) bruise his ego a little.

3. Do both him and yourself a favor: educate him and cancel the date.

4. Do yourself a favor: cancel the date.

I'm voting for #3 or #4.

The typical 6.5 and above women in the 21-28 age range will cancel with no explanation (option 4). From 5-6.5 in that age cohort, the majority (my guess 85-90%) will cancel with no explanation (option 4), while the rest will choose option 3.

You are predicting women's behavior based on your rating scale of their looks?

There are always exceptions, but there's definitely some truth in what he said. Good looking women won't put up with half the crap that less attractive women put up with. It's all about options.

charliex2202 · January 2014

Wow so many people seeing the red flags thank you again for all your advice...

QuietBloom · January 2014

He may think hes' doing the right thing

Isn't it sort of common knowledge not to over text and over call?

^THIS. Either he doesn't know how not cool that is, or he knows it but can't help himself. Either way, it's not very encouraging.

Your options:

1. Do him a favor: don't say anything about it, and go out with him--and hope that you can hear eachother over the sound of that huge red flag flapflapflapping away between you.

2. Do him a mixed favor: educate him, tell him that what's he's doing is not cool and setting off alarms, and go out with him anyway--if he still wants to after you (maybe) bruise his ego a little.

3. Do both him and yourself a favor: educate him and cancel the date.

4. Do yourself a favor: cancel the date.

I'm voting for #3 or #4.

The typical 6.5 and above women in the 21-28 age range will cancel with no explanation (option 4). From 5-6.5 in that age cohort, the majority (my guess 85-90%) will cancel with no explanation (option 4), while the rest will choose option 3.

You are predicting women's behavior based on your rating scale of their looks?

There are always exceptions, but there's definitely some truth in what he said. Good looking women won't put up with half the crap that less attractive women put up with. It's all about options.

I would say it has more to do with self worth than looks. As usual, you and your misogynist buddy like to reduce women down to mathematical formulas to make yourselves feel better. And men too!

mank32 · January 2014

if it were me, i would either be completely honest with him and still go out with him anyway, or be completely honest and not go out with him, depending upon how he reacts to: "Wow, i appreciate that you're so focused on our date; i need to be honest with you and let you know, though, that your messaging is pushing my boundaries. i'm not used to that much texting over a first date, and it's a little uncomfortable for me."

..but then again i am just a 4, and therefore necessarily considerate of the feelings of others. (i'm sure if i were hotter i'd just ignore the guy. if i were superhot i'd make fun of him too.)

odusgolp · January 2014

I wonder if DMZ & Mikey text each other and plan which threads to post their crazy to... Or call each other in the morning and see what to wear.

Escloflowne · January 2014

BrainyBurro · January 2014

I wonder if DMZ & Mikey text each other and plan which threads to post their crazy to... Or call each other in the morning and see what to wear.

they probably KIK each other.

Mia_RagazzaTosta · January 2014

Oh, I see our resident twits have arrived.

salembambi · January 2014

I wonder if DMZ & Mikey text each other and plan which threads to post their crazy to... Or call each other in the morning and see what to wear.

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

jonnythan · January 2014

I see good looking women consistently putting up with all kinds of insane stuff, such as domestic abuse, clinginess, and everything else. Predicting women's behavior based on how hot you think they are is either galactically stupid or a self fulfilling prophecy.

judyde · January 2014

You could always go for the straight forward approach. Let him know that the constant communication is making you feel uncomfortable and see what happens.

I've always been one to give people the benefit of the doubt. He may just be excited, nervous, socially awkward, etc.

I vote for this. Maybe he is just overly excited at the thought of a date with you. Isn't that a complement? Is he quite a bit older than you? Maybe he thinks this is what younger people do these days.