Needing a man's perspective...

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  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    my husband pretends he doesnt mind but he does... he rarely accepts me paying for anything.. but i just figure its his problem not mine!

    this is about where I am.

    Technically I make more. But I have more bills- more obligations- more hobbies and generally higher spending habits.

    He almost exclusively refuses to allow me to pay for food when we go out. And he often pays for stuff just because. Shrug- that's really his issue. I cover myself- and do my best to treat him well- but its' not a competition.

    That being said- we don't live together- and I suspect we won't do shared accounts- we may have A joint account- but we will maintain separate ones I think as well.
  • IPAkiller
    IPAkiller Posts: 711 Member
    my husband pretends he doesnt mind but he does... he rarely accepts me paying for anything.. but i just figure its his problem not mine!

    this is about where I am.

    Technically I make more. But I have more bills- more obligations- more hobbies and generally higher spending habits.

    He almost exclusively refuses to allow me to pay for food when we go out. And he often pays for stuff just because. Shrug- that's really his issue. I cover myself- and do my best to treat him well- but its' not a competition.

    That being said- we don't live together- and I suspect we won't do shared accounts- we may have A joint account- but we will maintain separate ones I think as well.
    Ladies... you have good men. Go home and tell them you love and appreciate them.
  • tlcarolinagirl
    tlcarolinagirl Posts: 1,700 Member
    I have no issues with it what so ever and actually welcome it. My past partner choice did not reflect this in it gets quite tiring busting my *kitten* everyday only to have someone demand half of what I make, insist we go on vacations because "WE" can afford it, while "I" pay all the bills and also insist "WE" buy new things to impress "HER" friends.

    On top of it, If my mate made a considerable amount more, I'd be more than happy to cook, clean and have a bottle of wine with "lip service" at the end of a work day. All that on top of doing all the typical manstuffs that so many of today’s “male” society has forgotten how to do.

    So very, very interesting.
  • Dan_Druff
    Dan_Druff Posts: 104
    Do you have a problem with your woman making more money than you? Yes, this is a serious question.I know men who have major "power" issues with their woman making more money than they do. They don't mind spending it, but it's clear they feel threatened by it when they bring it up often.What do you think?

    It's not sexy when women make more than men.

    Are you being serious?

    Yes I'm being serious. You said this was a serious question.
  • IPAkiller
    IPAkiller Posts: 711 Member
    Do you have a problem with your woman making more money than you? Yes, this is a serious question.I know men who have major "power" issues with their woman making more money than they do. They don't mind spending it, but it's clear they feel threatened by it when they bring it up often.What do you think?

    It's not sexy when women make more than men.

    Are you being serious?

    Yes I'm being serious. You said this was a serious question.
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  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    Do you have a problem with your woman making more money than you? Yes, this is a serious question.I know men who have major "power" issues with their woman making more money than they do. They don't mind spending it, but it's clear they feel threatened by it when they bring it up often.What do you think?

    It's not sexy when women make more than men.

    Are you being serious?

    Yes I'm being serious. You said this was a serious question.

    how does a woman who can take care of her self and provide for herself become unsexy??

    to me that's even MORE sexy- intelligent- resourceful- and moving forward financially- how is that a turn off?

    nothing like a power suit- heels and garters under that power suit with some money to play with- sounds like a big fat winnnnning!!!!!!!
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    my husband pretends he doesnt mind but he does... he rarely accepts me paying for anything.. but i just figure its his problem not mine!

    this is about where I am.

    Technically I make more. But I have more bills- more obligations- more hobbies and generally higher spending habits.

    He almost exclusively refuses to allow me to pay for food when we go out. And he often pays for stuff just because. Shrug- that's really his issue. I cover myself- and do my best to treat him well- but its' not a competition.

    That being said- we don't live together- and I suspect we won't do shared accounts- we may have A joint account- but we will maintain separate ones I think as well.
    Ladies... you have good men. Go home and tell them you love and appreciate them.

    aw thanks!!!

    I know I have an awesome man- i just wish he would stop being so damn squishy!!! LOL

    but yeah- he's good to me- I only see him twice a week- so I try to tell him every chance I get!!!
  • stylin
    stylin Posts: 54 Member
    I could care less. She knows her place. She knows I'm the trophy boyfriend/better looking one in the relationship and should treat me as such.
  • Hornsby
    Hornsby Posts: 10,322 Member
    I guess it would all depend in my opinion. I wouldn't necessarily care cause I make a good living, but if I made 35K working at a convenient store a year or something, and the gal made 100K as a lawyer, that might be weird. Now if I made 35K as a teacher or something stereotypically "professional", would I still feel awkward about it? I don't know.
  • FitWarrior7
    FitWarrior7 Posts: 332 Member
    My wife makes slightly more than I do from a salaried position....and she gets guaranteed annual raises because she is a teacher in a union and they are negotiated yearly into her contract. However, with my sales incentive bonus I clear slightly more than she does as well as a company bonus every year. As long as she does not try and make a point of it, we have no issues. Generally speaking though, we live comfortably, and buy things as we want/see fit. It's only big ticket "splurge" items that this discussion comes into place.
  • Docmahi
    Docmahi Posts: 1,603 Member
    *shrug* I dont think it would bother me, but I dunno never been in the situation

    probably not though - that being said i love my career so I wouldn't want to give mine up
  • Dan_Druff
    Dan_Druff Posts: 104
    Do you have a problem with your woman making more money than you? Yes, this is a serious question.I know men who have major "power" issues with their woman making more money than they do. They don't mind spending it, but it's clear they feel threatened by it when they bring it up often.What do you think?

    It's not sexy when women make more than men.

    Are you being serious?

    Yes I'm being serious. You said this was a serious question.

    how does a woman who can take care of her self and provide for herself become unsexy??

    to me that's even MORE sexy- intelligent- resourceful- and moving forward financially- how is that a turn off?

    nothing like a power suit- heels and garters under that power suit with some money to play with- sounds like a big fat winnnnning!!!!!!!

    I find it unladylike.
  • lauren3101
    lauren3101 Posts: 1,853 Member
    Do you have a problem with your woman making more money than you? Yes, this is a serious question.I know men who have major "power" issues with their woman making more money than they do. They don't mind spending it, but it's clear they feel threatened by it when they bring it up often.What do you think?

    It's not sexy when women make more than men.

    Are you being serious?

    Yes I'm being serious. You said this was a serious question.

    how does a woman who can take care of her self and provide for herself become unsexy??

    to me that's even MORE sexy- intelligent- resourceful- and moving forward financially- how is that a turn off?

    nothing like a power suit- heels and garters under that power suit with some money to play with- sounds like a big fat winnnnning!!!!!!!

    I find it unladylike.

    Ah yes, real women should actually be at home wearing dresses and making babies and pies. Didn't you know, ladies?
  • Dan_Druff
    Dan_Druff Posts: 104
    Do you have a problem with your woman making more money than you? Yes, this is a serious question.I know men who have major "power" issues with their woman making more money than they do. They don't mind spending it, but it's clear they feel threatened by it when they bring it up often.What do you think?

    It's not sexy when women make more than men.

    Are you being serious?

    Yes I'm being serious. You said this was a serious question.

    how does a woman who can take care of her self and provide for herself become unsexy??

    to me that's even MORE sexy- intelligent- resourceful- and moving forward financially- how is that a turn off?

    nothing like a power suit- heels and garters under that power suit with some money to play with- sounds like a big fat winnnnning!!!!!!!

    I find it unladylike.

    Ah yes, real women should actually be at home wearing dresses and making babies and pies. Didn't you know, ladies?

    I just my opinion, which was requested by the OP. I realize not every one shares this opinion.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    Do you have a problem with your woman making more money than you? Yes, this is a serious question.I know men who have major "power" issues with their woman making more money than they do. They don't mind spending it, but it's clear they feel threatened by it when they bring it up often.What do you think?

    It's not sexy when women make more than men.

    Are you being serious?

    Yes I'm being serious. You said this was a serious question.

    how does a woman who can take care of her self and provide for herself become unsexy??

    to me that's even MORE sexy- intelligent- resourceful- and moving forward financially- how is that a turn off?

    nothing like a power suit- heels and garters under that power suit with some money to play with- sounds like a big fat winnnnning!!!!!!!

    I find it unladylike.

    the two are completely not related at all.

    making money has nothing to do with being lady like.

    money doesn't mean you are lady like or unlady like.

    Because ghetto- lower class white trash people are so much more lady like? please. there are stereotypes for EVERY demographic- rich poor- tall skinny- black white- white class blue collar no class...

    Being lady like is how you conduct yourself- not with how much money you make where you work or what you do or anything else about you.

    wow you have some seriously missplaced idea's of what being a lady means.
  • BokBagok
    BokBagok Posts: 345
    My wife makes more than I do and it doesn't bother me at all. Or her.
  • Dan_Druff
    Dan_Druff Posts: 104
    Do you have a problem with your woman making more money than you? Yes, this is a serious question.I know men who have major "power" issues with their woman making more money than they do. They don't mind spending it, but it's clear they feel threatened by it when they bring it up often.What do you think?

    It's not sexy when women make more than men.

    Are you being serious?

    Yes I'm being serious. You said this was a serious question.

    how does a woman who can take care of her self and provide for herself become unsexy??

    to me that's even MORE sexy- intelligent- resourceful- and moving forward financially- how is that a turn off?

    nothing like a power suit- heels and garters under that power suit with some money to play with- sounds like a big fat winnnnning!!!!!!!

    I find it unladylike.

    the two are completely not related at all.

    making money has nothing to do with being lady like.

    money doesn't mean you are lady like or unlady like.

    Because ghetto- lower class white trash people are so much more lady like? please. there are stereotypes for EVERY demographic- rich poor- tall skinny- black white- white class blue collar no class...

    Being lady like is how you conduct yourself- not with how much money you make where you work or what you do or anything else about you.

    wow you have some seriously missplaced idea's of what being a lady means.

    I respect your opinion, thanks for sharing it.
  • tlcarolinagirl
    tlcarolinagirl Posts: 1,700 Member
    Do you have a problem with your woman making more money than you? Yes, this is a serious question.I know men who have major "power" issues with their woman making more money than they do. They don't mind spending it, but it's clear they feel threatened by it when they bring it up often.What do you think?

    It's not sexy when women make more than men.

    Are you being serious?

    Yes I'm being serious. You said this was a serious question.

    how does a woman who can take care of her self and provide for herself become unsexy??

    to me that's even MORE sexy- intelligent- resourceful- and moving forward financially- how is that a turn off?

    nothing like a power suit- heels and garters under that power suit with some money to play with- sounds like a big fat winnnnning!!!!!!!

    I find it unladylike.

    Ah yes, real women should actually be at home wearing dresses and making babies and pies. Didn't you know, ladies?

    Ahh, man. I'm screwed already. My baby maker is broken and I don't like dresses.
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    Not a man, but...

    When my husband and I first married, I made more money than he did. Now that he has a Master's degree, he certainly makes more than me now. It was never an issue with him. He's VERY good at handling money, so we've been able to live comfortably our entire marriage, no matter how much we brought home.
  • lauren3101
    lauren3101 Posts: 1,853 Member
    Do you have a problem with your woman making more money than you? Yes, this is a serious question.I know men who have major "power" issues with their woman making more money than they do. They don't mind spending it, but it's clear they feel threatened by it when they bring it up often.What do you think?

    It's not sexy when women make more than men.

    Are you being serious?

    Yes I'm being serious. You said this was a serious question.

    how does a woman who can take care of her self and provide for herself become unsexy??

    to me that's even MORE sexy- intelligent- resourceful- and moving forward financially- how is that a turn off?

    nothing like a power suit- heels and garters under that power suit with some money to play with- sounds like a big fat winnnnning!!!!!!!

    I find it unladylike.

    Ah yes, real women should actually be at home wearing dresses and making babies and pies. Didn't you know, ladies?

    I just my opinion, which was requested by the OP. I realize not every one shares this opinion.

    Hey, I completely agree. I personally think that any guy that earns under £70k a year and cannot support his dress wearing, baby and pie-making wife is quite frankly not manly, and should be ashamed to have a penis. Of course, I realise that not everyone shares this opinion, which should in turn make it completely unoffensive.
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  • Marcia315
    Marcia315 Posts: 460 Member
    Don't have a problem with it at all. I just show my dominance in the bedroom instead.

    Best. Answer. Yet.
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    I've always made more money than my husband and he didn't have an issue with it. The only time he was bothered by it was when he was first put on disability because he wasn't working anymore. He adjusted to that and now he's fine with the fact that I earn a pretty decent living. It affords us our house and our cars and our dogs. So we're good.
  • tlcarolinagirl
    tlcarolinagirl Posts: 1,700 Member
    Don't have a problem with it at all. I just show my dominance in the bedroom instead.

    Best. Answer. Yet.

    Yup!
  • Dan_Druff
    Dan_Druff Posts: 104
    Do you have a problem with your woman making more money than you? Yes, this is a serious question.I know men who have major "power" issues with their woman making more money than they do. They don't mind spending it, but it's clear they feel threatened by it when they bring it up often.What do you think?

    It's not sexy when women make more than men.

    Are you being serious?

    Yes I'm being serious. You said this was a serious question.

    how does a woman who can take care of her self and provide for herself become unsexy??

    to me that's even MORE sexy- intelligent- resourceful- and moving forward financially- how is that a turn off?

    nothing like a power suit- heels and garters under that power suit with some money to play with- sounds like a big fat winnnnning!!!!!!!

    I find it unladylike.

    Ah yes, real women should actually be at home wearing dresses and making babies and pies. Didn't you know, ladies?

    I just my opinion, which was requested by the OP. I realize not every one shares this opinion.

    Hey, I completely agree. I personally think that any guy that earns under £70k a year and cannot support his dress wearing, baby and pie-making wife is quite frankly not manly, and should be ashamed to have a penis. Of course, I realise that not everyone shares this opinion, which should in turn make it completely unoffensive.

    Thanks for understanding. I feel like you should be able to share your opinion, even if it's unpopular.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    If/when it happens, I won't have a problem with it. I would probably see it as a relief (unless it was a result of me becoming unemployed).
  • Alehmer
    Alehmer Posts: 433 Member
    My wife has made more than me for years, and we work in the same department at the same company.

    Don't think twice about it. It's all our money anyway, high five to her for bringing home that bacon.
  • 1996gtstang
    1996gtstang Posts: 279 Member
    I'm perfectly fine with it. I wouldn't mind being a house husband either
  • Deipneus
    Deipneus Posts: 1,862 Member
    Do you have a problem with your woman making more money than you?
    I keep asking her to do just that but so far... nothing.
  • morehealthymatt
    morehealthymatt Posts: 208 Member
    I chuckled at that. Obviously a joke.