Needing a man's perspective...
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I totally get where you're both coming from, but I also get IPAkiller's point(s).
I only work part time, but it's 2nd shift as a nurse.
Some nights I really bust my butt and by the time I get home, I'm dead tired and I don't want to have to worry about school lunches, home work etc. for the next day.
It's not so easy to see him sitting there with his feet propped up in the recliner, watching a movie with a beer in his hand.
But I take a swig of his beer and remember what he DOES do.
(He's cared for our daughter and already put her to bed before I get home.)
As a paramedic in a violent urban setting, his job is a lot more stressful than mine and he may not sleep at all on his 24 hour shift which just adds to the stress.
He needs to be able to come home, decompress and get some rest.
However, he doesn't do any of that until he makes sure he takes cares of all his responsibilities at home.
He does ALL the "outside" type work at home. I never have shovel, snowblow, cut the grass or do any type of home repair.
He also does all the maintenance and repair on all our vehicles, appliances etc. Very rarely do we pay someone to do repair work on anything.
And while we agreed that I would be the primary caregiver to our daughter, he values the relationship he has with her and will offer to drive her to school so I can sleep in after a rough night or make a lunch or help with a book report.
He just wants me to respect his role as breadwinner and not pressure him with extra expectations when he's already carrying a lot on his shoulders.
It's the way we do our marriage and it works for us.
For others, a different agreement works better.
Just my two cents.
More like a couple bucks, and well worth it. Nice post.0 -
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As long as i keep given her that sweet, sweet loving, she is way more then happy. ...and the dishes also.0
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