Guys, do you like it when the woman makes the first move?
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I hate to use insane pick-up lines too on gentlemen,makes me feel yucky.. I use staring game to the one I like to see, if I am interested on you,I will stare and approach for small talk..thats how I do.
Uh ok.
Just goofing off when I went out. Never took any of them home. Never asked for their numbers. Half the time they didn't even know my real name. But my friends and I did have a fun night.
Hahaha..Poor guy, you will have your chances.Just wait
Nah.. I'm married now. That's why it's all behind me.0 -
Good for you 0
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Yes0
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Do women not make the first move because 1) They are scared or 2) They believe (or custom) to feel its the guys job?
I remember when I was a kid that if I wanted a date to the school dance it was me to go ask a girl and it seemed to be that way up my whole life
both. and also insecurity, but i think that ties in with 2 because we think you're supposed to. unless the gal straight up knows the guy is shy AF. also girls who approach guys have often been labelled as psycho stalker types.
books like 'he's just not that into you' that tell women to never ever make the first move are pretty detrimental to the cause lol.
**** the 'rules' honestly. theres no winning.0 -
Yes I do. I'm shy and clueless when it comes to the signals women put out. I miss them or assume she is just being friendly and not interested in that way.
O_o I see we got a lot of shy guys here..
Well this IS an internet forum....internet forums tend to be good places to find introverted and/or shy people.0 -
I make moves I just need a bit of my friend vodka first to get me started. Then I am very direct.0
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Yes I do. I'm shy and clueless when it comes to the signals women put out. I miss them or assume she is just being friendly and not interested in that way.
O_o I see we got a lot of shy guys here..
Well this IS an internet forum....internet forums tend to be good places to find introverted and/or shy people.
I wont deny I'm introvert,my mind speaks loud than my actions. I like shy guys..They are honest gentlemen, as long as they dont fake their personalities0 -
I find it so hard to make the first move. Even if I'm 90% sure a guy is checking me out or interested I just can't to it. I'm worried that maybe I'm wrong and he'll just look at me like I'm nuts, or worse disgusted. I always have this inner voice inside me telling me that I'm still the same disproportionate, flat chested, acne ridden dork that I was in high school. I'm hoping that once I'm down to my goal weight I'll feel confident enough to be able to kick that voice to the curb0
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It has never worked for me but my MO is usually accidently ending up in relationships. They just sort of happen.
But the times I make the first move don't work out ever!!!0 -
I am a pretty shy person, and terrible around women.....
I have gotten better, but in my younger days....oh it sucked so bad.
So the woman making the first move or at least making it easier to talk with, is always nice.0 -
Ill make the first move ...once I had my fireball shot. Then its on!0
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I agree ^^^^^@MityMax96
And with the amount of times a woman has to reject advances by lets say rude individuals, it's understandable that they would be quick to shrug off any moves made by strangers, so at least some hints are apreciated when their is some interest.0 -
Yes because I'm so shy and unconfident if she doesn't it aint going to happen, sad but true.0
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In theory, I like it.
In practice, I've had women pursue me and it never worked out. I felt flattered, but not particularly interested (and a few were pretty hot). Go figure.0 -
i fancied the local barman and i had a feeling he liked me too. He gave me anf my roomate a lift home one night and she stole a soft toy from his car cause she thought it was funny. I took a picture of it and printed it out with a ransom note. Either £1000 or a date. I got a date and we are now married0
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It seems so different nowadays! Men are a lot more shy and wanting the women to approach, eh??0
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i pretty much always make the first move. it goes well 90% of the time. but unfortunately, it's starting to make me think no men are interested in me and they just say yes because they have nothing better to do because i'm always the one that has to approach, so that blows.0
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Absolutely! This saves me having to try and guess what you are thinking!0
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In theory, I like it.
In practice, I've had women pursue me and it never worked out. I felt flattered, but not particularly interested (and a few were pretty hot). Go figure.
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Wish I had that problem.0 -
i pretty much always make the first move. it goes well 90% of the time. but unfortunately, it's starting to make me think no men are interested in me and they just say yes because they have nothing better to do because i'm always the one that has to approach, so that blows.
But wouldn't that be the same thing for the guy then???
If he makes the first move, and then you say yes......because you have nothing better to do?0 -
It seems so different nowadays! Men are a lot more shy and wanting the women to approach, eh??
Well let's face it....
Why wouldn't they??
Men in the media/hollywood are depicted as dumb idiots.....0 -
i pretty much always make the first move. it goes well 90% of the time. but unfortunately, it's starting to make me think no men are interested in me and they just say yes because they have nothing better to do because i'm always the one that has to approach, so that blows.
But wouldn't that be the same thing for the guy then???
If he makes the first move, and then you say yes......because you have nothing better to do?
no. it's "normal" for a guy to make the first move. he's doing it because he's interested and she's saying yes because she's interested. that's the way it works. men have "learned" to approach women they are interested in. so if you are a girl and you've NEVER been approached, there is something wrong with you, because it's what men are "supposed" to do. if you're a guy who has never been approached, that's normal because women were taught not to approach.
(i used all the "" because that's in a stereotypical world where men approach and women do not)0 -
Ideal situation is when the girl drops hints that she's interested and then waits for the guy to actually try and set up the first date. Now in the day of internet dating though, I think it's safe to say anything goes.
Drops hints sounds like playing games. Can't we just be honest and direct?0 -
I have no shame... If I want something, you're going to know about it. I think that waiting around for someone to notice you is a good way to go unnoticed. It's nice when a man makes the first move but it's not necessary. One of my lady friends has been single for a while and is online dating. She feels the need to sit back and wait for men to come to her, when really, if you like someone (or their profile/photos in her case), do something about it! Why wait around? If they don't like you for it, oh well. There will be plenty of men who find that display of confidence attractive and will appreciate it.0
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i pretty much always make the first move. it goes well 90% of the time. but unfortunately, it's starting to make me think no men are interested in me and they just say yes because they have nothing better to do because i'm always the one that has to approach, so that blows.
But wouldn't that be the same thing for the guy then???
If he makes the first move, and then you say yes......because you have nothing better to do?
no. it's "normal" for a guy to make the first move. he's doing it because he's interested and she's saying yes because she's interested. that's the way it works. men have "learned" to approach women they are interested in. so if you are a girl and you've NEVER been approached, there is something wrong with you, because it's what men are "supposed" to do. if you're a guy who has never been approached, that's normal because women were taught not to approach.
(i used all the "" because that's in a stereotypical world where men approach and women do not)
And thus stereo types are the problem....
Cause for me, I fail to see the difference between the two scenarios0 -
i pretty much always make the first move. it goes well 90% of the time. but unfortunately, it's starting to make me think no men are interested in me and they just say yes because they have nothing better to do because i'm always the one that has to approach, so that blows.
But wouldn't that be the same thing for the guy then???
If he makes the first move, and then you say yes......because you have nothing better to do?
no. it's "normal" for a guy to make the first move. he's doing it because he's interested and she's saying yes because she's interested. that's the way it works. men have "learned" to approach women they are interested in. so if you are a girl and you've NEVER been approached, there is something wrong with you, because it's what men are "supposed" to do. if you're a guy who has never been approached, that's normal because women were taught not to approach.
(i used all the "" because that's in a stereotypical world where men approach and women do not)
And thus stereo types are the problem....
Cause for me, I fail to see the difference between the two scenarios
so what you are telling me you isn't an emotional, hormonal 21 year old that feels ugly when her friends all get hit on in public and she's the fat one. awesome info. :laugh:
hey wanna get a beer sometime? :drinker:0 -
I usually make the first move. I hate anticipation. Either the guy says yes and we go out, or he says no and I can stop thinking about it.0
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Ideal situation is when the girl drops hints that she's interested and then waits for the guy to actually try and set up the first date. Now in the day of internet dating though, I think it's safe to say anything goes.
Drops hints sounds like playing games. Can't we just be honest and direct?
LOL
In my case.....dropping hints don't work.
I have never been able to pick those up......
They go right by me, cause I always make the assumption she isn't interested in me......
My wife would always say something like "she was hitting on you"......if some woman was "dropping a hint".......
I never knew it.0 -
just recently I went out with someone.. bit shy ,, he started touching my hand.. I thought he wanted to start the 'touching'.. so i kissed him straight and he kissed me back.. and then he asked me other things... then chatting on the fb he was telling me i jumped on him??? ehhhhh?? WTF!! i was the icebreaker if i had to seat down we would have get to the kiss thing after hours.. stupid idiot!!0
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Absolutely! I think a strong, confident woman is the sexiest thing there is.
Aaaaand I never had any confidence with women, so I might still be alone if my wife hadn't made the first move. (Still basically had to shout it in my face)0
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