Am I just to Sensitive?

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jbella99
jbella99 Posts: 596 Member
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So this past Saturday I went to a social with my boyfriend and a friend of his. I spent most of the night listening to my bf and his friend make comments about they way the girls were dressed. Am I the only women who feels like a piece of crap when their significant other points out skinnier, younger, pretty women? I realize we are all human and we all look. It's not the looking that bothers me.
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  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
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    Just break up.
  • bperkins88
    bperkins88 Posts: 357 Member
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    yeah sounds like you should just break up
  • JamesRustler
    JamesRustler Posts: 45 Member
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    You're way over sensitive.

    There will always be younger, thinner women than you. It's a natural reaction for a man to take a quick look. Doesn't mean he's going to cheat or anything. It just one of those things you need to deal with.
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
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    Put up a big ol' Ian Somerhalder poster in your bedroom.
  • jbella99
    jbella99 Posts: 596 Member
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    I didn't say the looking bothered me. It's the comments that bother me.
  • badgerdh
    badgerdh Posts: 179 Member
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    'What the hell is a social???
  • jbella99
    jbella99 Posts: 596 Member
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    'What the hell is a social???

    oh sorry.. I am Canadian. Before a wedding the couple has a social.. they charge 10 dollars to get in you buy booze and they have prizes. It's to raise money for their wedding. Ukrainian tradition I think. But everyone here in Manitoba has them.
  • lkeverett1
    lkeverett1 Posts: 34 Member
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    It seems a little disrespectful to me. I'm with you, I don't mind my husband looking (he's married, not dead). But if he is going to comment it doesn't need to be in my presence. To me that would be something he would do with his buddies.
  • Whyareyoumad
    Whyareyoumad Posts: 268 Member
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    Maybe its my age, but I think it is rude for a man to make comments to anyone about another woman in the presence of their spouse/gf. If you think you can sneak a peek, go for it, but ladies know when their man checks out another woman anyway. Just dont say anything.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
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    You're way over sensitive.

    There will always be younger, thinner women than you. It's a natural reaction for a man to take a quick look. Doesn't mean he's going to cheat or anything. It just one of those things you need to deal with.

    Looking is natural. Kind of weird that he's pointing them all out in front of her, though.
  • badgerdh
    badgerdh Posts: 179 Member
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    'What the hell is a social???

    oh sorry.. I am Canadian. Before a wedding the couple has a social.. they charge 10 dollars to get in you buy booze and they have prizes. It's to raise money for their wedding. Ukrainian tradition I think. But everyone here in Manitoba has them.

    Sounds kinda fun...considering drinking is involved I wonder why this hasn't caught on in Wisconsin...
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
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    Maybe its my age, but I think it is rude for a man to make comments to anyone about another woman in the presence of their spouse/gf. If you think you can sneak a peek, go for it, but ladies know when their man checks out another woman anyway. Just dont say anything.
    UNLESS... The woman they're with is bi and they can appreciate eyecandy together.
  • Fujinda
    Fujinda Posts: 2
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    Depending on your approach to him, will he listen to you? if not i suggest you give him a taste of his own medicine. Phone a friend when he there and have a girly chat about the hot guy at work/school/ pool..well you get the idea
  • jbella99
    jbella99 Posts: 596 Member
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    Maybe its my age, but I think it is rude for a man to make comments to anyone about another woman in the presence of their spouse/gf. If you think you can sneak a peek, go for it, but ladies know when their man checks out another woman anyway. Just dont say anything.

    these were the comments I was most pissed off at.

    very very petit girl maybe 22 years old. "hey you should get a dress like that" yep that made me feel like a huge whale.

    two girls kissing on the dance floor. " hey honey, maybe they need a ride home."

    "girls never dressed like this when I was young if they did I'd be on the floor doing the worm all night."

    I am sure they're were other ones. His friend is single so I kinda expected it from him.
  • donnat238
    donnat238 Posts: 309 Member
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    I think it's rude and insensitive! I would never do that my boyfriend or a date.
  • lavaughan69
    lavaughan69 Posts: 459 Member
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    My husband never ever talks about other women in front of me. And in turn, I don't comment on other men. I've never even caught him looking at another woman, he's incredibly subtle. And don't get me wrong, it's only human nature to look...but you can do it without being obvious or insulting to the woman you are with.
  • jbella99
    jbella99 Posts: 596 Member
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    Depending on your approach to him, will he listen to you? if not i suggest you give him a taste of his own medicine. Phone a friend when he there and have a girly chat about the hot guy at work/school/ pool..well you get the idea

    No he doesn't listen. I said if he wanted to take the lesbians home I am sure his friend would give me a ride and he could pick up his **** in the morning. He has been ignoring me ever since. BTW we live together so it's been an awkward silence for a few days.
  • sullus
    sullus Posts: 2,839 Member
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    ...
    very very petit girl maybe 22 years old. "hey you should get a dress like that" yep that made me feel like a huge whale.
    ...

    I would have thought "hey, you SHOULDN'T get a dress like that" would have been the insult ..
  • jbella99
    jbella99 Posts: 596 Member
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    My husband never ever talks about other women in front of me. And in turn, I don't comment on other men. I've never even caught him looking at another woman, he's incredibly subtle. And don't get me wrong, it's only human nature to look...but you can do it without being obvious or insulting to the woman you are with.

    hang on tight to that man.
  • mikeykhan2003
    mikeykhan2003 Posts: 177
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    Just break up.

    Boom. Mikey's internet rule in 1.

    Also, holy hell OP you meant TOO sensitive, not to. Learn to spell.

    1. If that hurt your feelings, yes.
    2. If that didn't hurt your feelings, need more information.

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