My husband hates healthy food...help?!?
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When I cook for myself and boyfriend I make mine a healthier version of whatever the food is. Like if it's chicken parm I bread & I fry his and just sautée mine with Pam and put less cheese on my piece. You don't have to make two completely different meals but yeah you might have to spend a little more time on it if you are serious about eating healthier.
I think this is the most sensible idea. You should be able to cook one meal, and set aside your veggies or meat, then put cheese or butter or sauce on his and less or none on yours.0 -
What's wrong with fat and pasta? Also, the difference between "whole grain" bread and "non-whole grain" bread is mostly marketing.0
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Oh bullspit. We all have a friend that can pound the crappiest food and their waistline don't show it. I have a skinny friend that can eat my under the table. We used to go to Mcdo when we were younger, and this guy would get 2 large fries, dessert and 2 sandwiches. He still eats this way well into his 30's, still skinny as a rail. His brother is more like me, eat a little bit and blimp up.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Personally, I feel lucky that i have a body that gains easily. That has forced me to learn about health, and correct my poor eating habits.
Bullspit? You need to look closer to home. I dont have any friends who could eat piles of junk without adding weight, and if I asked my mates the same question, they would stay the same. I was doing it for a while, and I only went one way.
Metabolism varies to relatively minor detail and never to the extent that one person becomes overweight from eating salads where as his mate gorges on burgers and ice cream and stays thin. This is just sour grapes and frustration from people who cant lose weight so blame metabolism rather than themselves for lack of weight loss.
Growing up my brother and sister ate whatever they wanted and never gained any weight. Instead I gained all their weight and my weight... My nephew is 16 and hasn't gained an ounce, he's skin and bones.
My brother continued eating what he wanted and not gaining weight until he was about 25-30 years old. My sister is still as rail thin as ever, though I know she has to work at it.
I do have a couple adult friends in their 30s and 40s and they eat what they want and I have never seen them getting bigger. So it can happen. It's rare, and few and far between, but it can happen. Just because you don't know anyone doesn't mean it's not true.
They all have to work at it. Metabolism differences are based on activity levels. People that "can eat whatever and not gain" do one of two things. They eat huge meals at once, and then nothing or very little the rest of the day, or they are very active in general.
There are no magic people that can sit on the couch all day stuffing themselves with a conveyor belt of food.0 -
I've been away from this site for a while.... when did everyone get so Mean???? The OP is looking for solutions and support here isn't that what we are supposed to be about???? Her husband works hard and she does the cooking, she's looking for a solution that is workable long term. Ya'll quit smarting off and help!0
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Make him go have his mommy cook for him and you can continue to eat healthy without the added challenge of a picky manchild not wanting to eat his veggies.
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Does it have an electric starter or do you have to kickstart it?
Oh bullspit. We all have a friend that can pound the crappiest food and their waistline don't show it. I have a skinny friend that can eat my under the table. We used to go to Mcdo when we were younger, and this guy would get 2 large fries, dessert and 2 sandwiches. He still eats this way well into his 30's, still skinny as a rail. His brother is more like me, eat a little bit and blimp up.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Personally, I feel lucky that i have a body that gains easily. That has forced me to learn about health, and correct my poor eating habits.
Cold showers work for me sometimes, but I generally prefer a more "battery-centric" method of relief. IYKWIM.
Not sure what that is, but I think I want one!! Is there a version that runs on diesel??
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Oh bullspit. We all have a friend that can pound the crappiest food and their waistline don't show it. I have a skinny friend that can eat my under the table. We used to go to Mcdo when we were younger, and this guy would get 2 large fries, dessert and 2 sandwiches. He still eats this way well into his 30's, still skinny as a rail. His brother is more like me, eat a little bit and blimp up.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Personally, I feel lucky that i have a body that gains easily. That has forced me to learn about health, and correct my poor eating habits.
Bullspit? You need to look closer to home. I dont have any friends who could eat piles of junk without adding weight, and if I asked my mates the same question, they would stay the same. I was doing it for a while, and I only went one way.
Metabolism varies to relatively minor detail and never to the extent that one person becomes overweight from eating salads where as his mate gorges on burgers and ice cream and stays thin. This is just sour grapes and frustration from people who cant lose weight so blame metabolism rather than themselves for lack of weight loss.
Growing up my brother and sister ate whatever they wanted and never gained any weight. Instead I gained all their weight and my weight... My nephew is 16 and hasn't gained an ounce, he's skin and bones.
My brother continued eating what he wanted and not gaining weight until he was about 25-30 years old. My sister is still as rail thin as ever, though I know she has to work at it.
I do have a couple adult friends in their 30s and 40s and they eat what they want and I have never seen them getting bigger. So it can happen. It's rare, and few and far between, but it can happen. Just because you don't know anyone doesn't mean it's not true.
It isnt true, and that isnt just because I dont know anybody. What we are suggesting here is that these people require an abnormal amount of calories to maintain weight... or.. by eating somewhere between 2,000-3,000 per day, they would become dangerously underweight or anorexic. I have never heard of such a case. These people do not exist without signicant exercise countering their calorie intake.
Generally, people who carry more weight have a higher metabolism anyway.0 -
Does it have an electric starter or do you have to kickstart it?
Oh bullspit. We all have a friend that can pound the crappiest food and their waistline don't show it. I have a skinny friend that can eat my under the table. We used to go to Mcdo when we were younger, and this guy would get 2 large fries, dessert and 2 sandwiches. He still eats this way well into his 30's, still skinny as a rail. His brother is more like me, eat a little bit and blimp up.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Personally, I feel lucky that i have a body that gains easily. That has forced me to learn about health, and correct my poor eating habits.
Cold showers work for me sometimes, but I generally prefer a more "battery-centric" method of relief. IYKWIM.
Not sure what that is, but I think I want one!! Is there a version that runs on diesel??
:laugh:
I dunno, but my birthday is in July... js...
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Always wear a helmt when you ride!
Does it have an electric starter or do you have to kickstart it?
Oh bullspit. We all have a friend that can pound the crappiest food and their waistline don't show it. I have a skinny friend that can eat my under the table. We used to go to Mcdo when we were younger, and this guy would get 2 large fries, dessert and 2 sandwiches. He still eats this way well into his 30's, still skinny as a rail. His brother is more like me, eat a little bit and blimp up.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Personally, I feel lucky that i have a body that gains easily. That has forced me to learn about health, and correct my poor eating habits.
Cold showers work for me sometimes, but I generally prefer a more "battery-centric" method of relief. IYKWIM.
Not sure what that is, but I think I want one!! Is there a version that runs on diesel??
:laugh:
I dunno, but my birthday is in July... js...0 -
It is just my hubby and I also. I cook what I am going to cook. He either eats it, or he forages for his own. I always ask him what he wants when I go to the store and I buy him what he asks for. I tell him "this is what I am cooking for dinner...do you want any of that or are you going to do your own thing" and he will decide. Sometimes he will eat part of what I cooked and just have a side of rice with it. I buy single serve rice portions for him to use. Sometimes he decided to forage for his own. He is addicted to Lunchables (eww) and will eat them when he doesnt want what I fixed. I want him to be healthy and make good choices, but I figure I am not his mother and he is a big boy. He can feed himself if he needs to. Sometimes he actually even has what I make Last night he ate the salmon and fresh green beans I made! *win* 0
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Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Not true. I have a husband is the same way..0 -
Some of you had wonderful suggestions but "some" of you are just freaking jerks. Seriously!!!!0
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Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Not true. I have a husband is the same way..
I bet he moves more than you0 -
Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Not true. I have a husband is the same way..
False.
Your husband probably has a more active job. It's not his magic metabolism.0 -
I too am blessed with an active husband who could happily eat a quarter-cow and a loaf of bread smothered in butter at a sitting. We've had good luck finding Cooking Light (CookingLight.com) versions of comfort foods we both love without all the fat and calories but with most of the yum factor. He gets bigger portions and more bread. I get salads the size of mixing bowls and the lion's share of the veggies. Lots of dishes to wash, but we're both content. And sshhh... but he's actually losing some weight himself.
Thank you for recognizing why your husband can eat more food and not gain weight instead of claiming he just has a better/faster metabolism. And great ideas for a good compromise too.0 -
I agree with the Cauliflower and spinach lasagna!!! Great ways to "hide" really healthy foods. My family didn't even know that they were not eating potatoes!! Roasted veggies are good too. Stuff chicken breasts with healthy foods too. ex: spinach and cheese0
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I'd cook the same things but just separate stuff when it comes to the addition of butter on his veg etc. Could try baking stuff instead of frying - worked for my hubby. He hasn't really noticed dry roast potatoes or parsnips - just as long as he has something that looks like traditional roast spuds and are crispy he's happy. You can oven bake crispy chicken -leaving the coating off your if you prefer to save calories. Get that imagination working!
I have to add, if I told my hubby to cook his own meals - he's tell me to fix my own car/roof/plumbing etc. Division of labour is how a lot of marriages work - as long as it's an equal share.
If he was on board with your weight loss he would want to support you as far as possible - just make sure you give him something he likes most of the time.0 -
Just because you want to change the way you eat, doesn't mean he has too.
I'm not trying to change the way he eats, I just don't want to have to cook two separate meals every night. If we had kids I wouldn't mind cooking one meal for them & something small for me but it's just the two of us & that seems a little ridiculous. I'm just trying to find a way to compromise that will still keep him happy & satisfied without making me continue to gain weight.
Who pays the bills?
Is dinner your job?
If it's your job to cook a good dinner, then cook for him like you always have, and make separate stuff (or alter what of the dinner you eat to fit your macros).
If you're both working then eat separate.
I feel sorry for couples who fight over dinner, that's supposed to be a really enjoyable time, and you're the one making changes and upsetting him.0 -
Oh jeesh guys. In the 4 years hubs and I have been together, he can eat whatever the hell he pleases and the scale fluctuates from 180 to 190. He doesn't work out and has a computer job. He was a Marine and played football in high school, and he still eats like he's 17. THE SCALE DOESN'T MOVE!!!! I, however, look at cake and my *kitten* grows. It's true, but I'm sure when we're 40 he'll balloon up, however right now at his ripe old age of 27, he looks BOMB and puts no effort into it. And seriously, when he decides to work out, he'll do like 20 push ups and a few pull ups and BAM his arm definition is amazing. The man is blessed with the most responsive body ever.
He also has a southern up bringing believing that dinner needs to be meat, potato, a small serving of (canned) green beans, and a loaf of bread. However I broke him of that one really quickly, and he eats anything now. Seriously, from what hubs has told me, he didn't have most fresh fruits/vegetables until I introduced him to them, and now he LOVES most of them (except asparagus). So, I don't know if that's common in the south, or just in his family, but try coaxing him to at least try some of them. He might like them and not know it cuz he's never had it.
To help OP: Try "whole grain whites". Trader joes has one, I think Aunt Millie's Healthy goodness that my mom buys for my little sister. It has the taste and feel of white bread but its made with whole grains. It's 50 calories a slices, so it's actually lower cal than most whole grain breads. And it's really yummy. I tried some this weekend and it was delicious. 0 -
Maybe I'm a b*tch, but my rule is, if you don't like what I cook, you can cook your own shi t.
I salute you! Hahaha :drinker:
Here's my two cents: My husband, when I first met him, was pretty much a bacon cheeseburger, french fry, pizza and soda guy.
I think the reason he ate like this was the way vegetables were presented to him by his mother.
You have to make these "healthy" things appetizing.
Like a whole plain sweet potato may not go over well but spicy oven sweet potato fries might.
Or raw baby spinach instead of cooked. Or vice versa. Like I started shredding raw carrot alongside the cheese I would put in my hubs spinach salads and he actually enjoys it. If carrots are by themselves he won't eat them, but with something accompanying it he eats it no problem.
Also It could be a texture issue over a health/non healthy issue.
So now that I've been the main chef for 10+ years, he'll eat just about anything I put in front of him....haha.
Good luck to you! :happy:0 -
Just because you want to change the way you eat, doesn't mean he has too.
I'm not trying to change the way he eats, I just don't want to have to cook two separate meals every night. If we had kids I wouldn't mind cooking one meal for them & something small for me but it's just the two of us & that seems a little ridiculous. I'm just trying to find a way to compromise that will still keep him happy & satisfied without making me continue to gain weight.
Who pays the bills?
Is dinner your job?
If it's your job to cook a good dinner, then cook for him like you always have, and make separate stuff (or alter what of the dinner you eat to fit your macros).
If you're both working then eat separate.
I feel sorry for couples who fight over dinner, that's supposed to be a really enjoyable time, and you're the one making changes and upsetting him.
I just.. can't even wrap my head around this post. Who pays the bill being the first thing to jump to your head? You're the one making changes and upsetting him? Jesus lady, get back in the kitchen.
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It typically easier for me to cook for him and alter for me. He loves tacos, so I make tacos with lean meat or chicken and he can have his 6 or whatever he wants and I will have mine portioned and lower calorie tortillas and extra veggies on the side. He loves steak and potatoes which is fine too but I always have my weighted portion and veggies in the microwave. He wants to eat healthier and is pretty picky but he works outside all day every day and he's 23, 6'3, 230lbs so he NEEDS to eat.
I also bake or grill a lot of extra chicken when I make it and shred and freeze or refrigerate it and use that for his lunch or a quicker dinner for myself when the agreement just isn't there but I have noticed he hasn't missed his fried food very much and he only reaches for fast food and greasy food once a week now. I think for him its about quick big portions with flavor so I find my own way to make it work for both of us.0 -
You married a hunter. He loves meat. He even hunts it himself.
That's a wonderful thing.
He doesn't want vegetarian meals.
My boyfriend and I have the same diet. If he one day decided to drastically alter it, and feed me food (we both cook for each other 2-3 times a week) outside the diet we've shared together for a very long time, it would be upsetting and create unnecessary conflicts at dinner time.
You can cook meat, fry him some veggies then steam the same ones for yourself.
You could actually eat the same things and still lose weight by using portion control and weighing the food. You can eat a salad with your dinner, that doesn't mean he needs to eat one.0 -
It typically easier for me to cook for him and alter for me.
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Just because you want to change the way you eat, doesn't mean he has too.
I'm not trying to change the way he eats, I just don't want to have to cook two separate meals every night. If we had kids I wouldn't mind cooking one meal for them & something small for me but it's just the two of us & that seems a little ridiculous. I'm just trying to find a way to compromise that will still keep him happy & satisfied without making me continue to gain weight.
Who pays the bills?
Is dinner your job?
If it's your job to cook a good dinner, then cook for him like you always have, and make separate stuff (or alter what of the dinner you eat to fit your macros).
If you're both working then eat separate.
I feel sorry for couples who fight over dinner, that's supposed to be a really enjoyable time, and you're the one making changes and upsetting him.
I don't think this is that off base. If you're home all day with no kids and he works a hard physical job he really shouldn't have to come home and cook his own dinner because you won't make food he likes because you're trying to lose weight. Not trying to be all 1950's - but it just doesn't seem fair.
Days I'm home & he works I cook for him. If we both work that day it's every man for himself!0 -
Homemade pot pie without the crust or maybe half the crust.
Beef stew0 -
Oh bullspit. We all have a friend that can pound the crappiest food and their waistline don't show it. I have a skinny friend that can eat my under the table. We used to go to Mcdo when we were younger, and this guy would get 2 large fries, dessert and 2 sandwiches. He still eats this way well into his 30's, still skinny as a rail. His brother is more like me, eat a little bit and blimp up.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Personally, I feel lucky that i have a body that gains easily. That has forced me to learn about health, and correct my poor eating habits.
Bullspit? You need to look closer to home. I dont have any friends who could eat piles of junk without adding weight, and if I asked my mates the same question, they would stay the same. I was doing it for a while, and I only went one way.
Metabolism varies to relatively minor detail and never to the extent that one person becomes overweight from eating salads where as his mate gorges on burgers and ice cream and stays thin. This is just sour grapes and frustration from people who cant lose weight so blame metabolism rather than themselves for lack of weight loss.
Growing up my brother and sister ate whatever they wanted and never gained any weight. Instead I gained all their weight and my weight... My nephew is 16 and hasn't gained an ounce, he's skin and bones.
My brother continued eating what he wanted and not gaining weight until he was about 25-30 years old. My sister is still as rail thin as ever, though I know she has to work at it.
I do have a couple adult friends in their 30s and 40s and they eat what they want and I have never seen them getting bigger. So it can happen. It's rare, and few and far between, but it can happen. Just because you don't know anyone doesn't mean it's not true.
They all have to work at it. Metabolism differences are based on activity levels. People that "can eat whatever and not gain" do one of two things. They eat huge meals at once, and then nothing or very little the rest of the day, or they are very active in general.
There are no magic people that can sit on the couch all day stuffing themselves with a conveyor belt of food.
You didn't say that people only had to sit on the couch stuffing themselves.
As I said above, but I'll explain a little further...I do have a couple friends in their 30's and 40's and they eat/drink WHATEVER they want. They are not gaining. It can happen. They go to work, they eat at home or with friends out. They drink beer, a couple of them lots of it. They don't do any intended exercise. They don't go to gyms, they don't workout in their homes, they just live.0 -
When I was younger the rule in our house was "If you don't eat what's for dinner, you don't eat at all". It worked on me as a kid, not so sure how it would work on a grown man though! lol0
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lol, I'm sorry, that is just a funny mental picture to me.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight. He's very southern & literally claims i'm trying to poison him every time I try to cook a healthy dinner.
Oven fried is a good idea, and you could always leave your piece unbreaded.He thinks everything should have fat & grease & the more fried food the better.
My mom gets the "take-n-bake" rolls from Giant and asks my step dad each night if he wants bread. She then makes 1 or 2 rolls just for him and doesn't eat any herself.He also has to have bread with every mean & absolutely refuses to eat whole grains.
Yay? I like venison but I don't like to think about it in animal form. Make yourself a vegetarian meal and then make a steak on the side. It takes like 5 mins to do a steak right? I don't know because I don't make steak. Whenever I try it is an inedible hockey puck.He also refuses to have any vegetarian meals, he's a hunter & grinds most of our meat himself so it's very lean at least.
Barilla pasta with fiber!We both love pasta & I got him to compromise on the noodles so now we only eat veggie noodles.Does anyone have any ideas for any other swaps I can make while still keeping him satisfied? Or any great recipes or sites with recipes that he'll eat without complaint?
check skinnytaste.com awesome site with TONS of ideas.0 -
Just because you want to change the way you eat, doesn't mean he has too.
I'm not trying to change the way he eats, I just don't want to have to cook two separate meals every night. If we had kids I wouldn't mind cooking one meal for them & something small for me but it's just the two of us & that seems a little ridiculous. I'm just trying to find a way to compromise that will still keep him happy & satisfied without making me continue to gain weight.
Who pays the bills?
Is dinner your job?
If it's your job to cook a good dinner, then cook for him like you always have, and make separate stuff (or alter what of the dinner you eat to fit your macros).
If you're both working then eat separate.
I feel sorry for couples who fight over dinner, that's supposed to be a really enjoyable time, and you're the one making changes and upsetting him.
Wife =/= servant.
In our house, I cook and clean. If he doesn't like what I cook, he can make something for himself. I am not a maid, or a servant. I cook and clean because I want to, not because I'm obligated or "owe" him anything.0
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