My husband hates healthy food...help?!?
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My BF is italian and the big struggle has been the pasta and the bread. We have compromised on spelt pasta. He REALLY likes it and didn't even notice that it wasn't the "normal" pasta. As for bread, I stopped obsessing over it and just tried to get him to eat one piece rather than 3. I also started baking my own bread. I figured that so long as I knew what was in it then it was healthier than what I bought at the store.
We also eat a lot of wild game and quite frankly it's got way less fat than farmed meat. I make meat loafs, hamburgers and bbq all the time. I've perfected the art of bbq'ing wild game so that it's medium rare, really flavourful and extremely tender. Spices and marinades can be your friend. You can eat that too and not worry about the fat content.
Maybe make a bean salad to go with a meal and you can have it with some added bits to make it your full meal if you're intent on having some vegetarian meals. Not everyone likes beans....
As for the fried stuff....that may be a battle you don't win. If he's thin and doesn't need to lose weight then he can eat what he likes.
The best quote I ever heard was "I can't change anyone and I can't fix everything".
Go with the flow...he's not going to change. You can't make him. LOL Good Luck.0 -
He works six, sometimes 7 days a week on a cattle ranch & he works HARD.
That's why he can get away with eating whatever he wants and not gain. What's your exercise routine like? Since I started resistance training, I've been able to keep my weight off and maintain at 2600 calories a day. Because I like my green beans sautéed with bacon, too. Just a random thought for you...0 -
What I do, OP, is to make the main part of the meal something we'll both eat. My husband won't eat veggies and I don't always want to use my calories on rice or cheese so I generally make a couple of sides.
Like tonight I made shrimp skewers, black beans/rice, and peas. He had all three. I just had skewers and peas. Tomorrow night I'm making a rosemary chicken thigh skillet with carrots and potatoes. Then he'll also have bread. Things like tacos are great because they're easily customized and the portions are so simple to adjust. Homemade pizza is simple because I can make half with lots of meat/cheese and half with less cheese and more veggies. It just takes a problem solving.
One thing I've almost completely given up is frying things. Mostly because I've never figured out how to log it. So if he wants fried we go to a restaurant.0 -
okkkkk then.
So he's wonderful, but you're ok with helping him develop illness and die sooner because of unhealthy eating? Ok, that was an extreme statement, but you started this thread with a rather extreme statement too. :-)I don't want him to have to sacrifice anything for me if I can help it.
Since he does hard physical labor, he can use the calories, but he still needs the nutrition. As long as he's getting the nutrients, he can add extra butter, but if he's not eating "healthy" food -- especially vegetables, he's probably not meeting his nutritional needs. In other words, he is potentially sacrificing something -- his health.0 -
Yes. Leave him alone. Why is it always the overweight spouse complaining about the "skinny" spouse's love of "unhealthy" food? Does no one figure out that perhaps, just maybe, they're wrong?0
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So he's wonderful, but you're ok with helping him develop illness and die sooner because of unhealthy eating? Ok, that was an extreme statement, but you started this thread with a rather extreme statement too. :-)I don't want him to have to sacrifice anything for me if I can help it.
Since he does hard physical labor, he can use the calories, but he still needs the nutrition. As long as he's getting the nutrients, he can add extra butter, but if he's not eating "healthy" food -- especially vegetables, he's probably not meeting his nutritional needs. In other words, he is potentially sacrificing something -- his health.
You're right. That is an extreme statement.0 -
My husband's a lot like yours (minus the grinding his meat and hunting) - doesn't eat veggies. He's very picky and prefers bland, flavorless, fried foods. I cook what I want to eat and if he doesn't like, tough toasties. He can eat cereal, or starve on his usual cigarettes and diet coke plan. He's more than welcome to cook for himself but he never does. We've been together for 11 years and I learned many years ago not to let it bother me anymore.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight. He's very southern & literally claims i'm trying to poison him every time I try to cook a healthy dinner. He thinks everything should have fat & grease & the more fried food the better. He also has to have bread with every mean & absolutely refuses to eat whole grains. He also refuses to have any vegetarian meals, he's a hunter & grinds most of our meat himself so it's very lean at least. We both love pasta & I got him to compromise on the noodles so now we only eat veggie noodles. Does anyone have any ideas for any other swaps I can make while still keeping him satisfied? Or any great recipes or sites with recipes that he'll eat without complaint?0 -
I agree with others who advise you to cook for yourself, because not everyone has snooper high metabolism.
I want to share some new to me information, more like shocking news to my family.
My mother in her mid 60th now, she always had high metabolism, loved her yammy fat food, and she is a smallest person in our family. We went to a Doctor for general check up and her cholesterol and blood sugar is very high, needs medication. It was big surprise for all of us. The Doctor said that its very common for people with high metabolism, they can eat unhealthy and they think that they are safe. Unfortunately despite good weight control unhealthy food still do damage to your inside.
Being sick, had a diabetes, or heard disease is very unpleasant and very expensive as well.
I understand that your husband quite young, but its going to be too late to do something when sick condition is already there.
Try to give him this info, if he wants to live long and happy he might rethink his approach.0 -
Oh, in addition, people who are " hunters" and eat a lot of meat not balanced with vegetables often develop condition called "Gaut" .
It's very painfull condition with no treatment, just a pain relief and some unti inflammatory med, which is hard for the stomach.
Ppl struggle to walk, it can be developed as soon as 35-40 years old, and its not old age.
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Get a different husband.0
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I agree with others who advise you to cook for yourself, because not everyone has snooper high metabolism.
I want to share some new to me information, more like shocking news to my family.
My mother in her mid 60th now, she always had high metabolism, loved her yammy fat food, and she is a smallest person in our family. We went to a Doctor for general check up and her cholesterol and blood sugar is very high, needs medication. It was big surprise for all of us. The Doctor said that its very common for people with high metabolism, they can eat unhealthy and they think that they are safe. Unfortunately despite good weight control unhealthy food still do damage to your inside.
Being sick, had a diabetes, or heard disease is very unpleasant and very expensive as well.
I understand that your husband quite young, but its going to be too late to do something when sick condition is already there.
Try to give him this info, if he wants to live long and happy he might rethink his approach.
I'm snooper happy to read this. Is that you John Gaut?0 -
As a friend of mine told his spouse… I'll love you when we're old together, and I'll take care of your if you have lifestyle based illnesses, but I'll resent the good times we'll not be able to have together.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gout0 -
You did get a few genuine responses here OP, take them and leave the rest.
IMO - Make similar meals as suggested by an earlier poster.... If you are having chicken, cook his the way he likes it and yours how you like it. Have a couple side dishes maybe so you can have a choice and he can have both.
Another response I liked was make him up what he likes, enough for a few days and heat it up for him, and do the same for yourself.
You aren't going to get him to change how he eats until and if he sees it as an issue.
Good luck on your journey
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Try fruit. Even the most avid meat eater doesn't mind a little watermelon in their diet.0
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My husband hates fruits and vegetables. Know what I do? Nothing. I married him. We're happy. I'm not going to try to change him or the way he eats.
If I want veggies, I make a single portion.0 -
Maybe steam some brocolli and pour velveeta cheese on it.
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I can't eat gluten without my small intestine imploding and I still have 30 pounds to lose. My husband has hyperthyroidism, tends to fast throughout the day due to his crazy work schedule, loves gluten and all the delicious foods that come with it, and needs to eat a ton of food when dinnertime comes around. I can't cook his breaded meals in the some containers as mine due to cross-contamination. We manage with no problems. Can it be a pain sometimes? Well, yeah. But it's really not that hard. Here's a rough example of a meal we might have:
Him: Enormous serving of homemade mashed potatoes with large amount of butter and cheese, zucchini grilled in olive oil, 10 oz of chicken breast breaded and fried, and a roll or two. Probably will follow with a snack of Pop-Tarts or ice cream or three Greek yogurts, or all at once.
Me: Smaller serving of mashed potatoes (weighed out) with small amount of butter, decent amount of grilled zucchini, 4 oz of grilled chicken.
One pot for the potatoes (mix the butter/herbs in separate bowls to control portions). One half of the stove-top grill for the zucchini, the other half for my chicken. One pan for his chicken. Clean as you go.
If this is still too much, then just ask him to help you cook. I cook most of the time, but my husband will still help with some things, like stirring, timing, seasoning, mashing, etc., and it really makes a difference.0 -
Cook your own food, let him cook his.0
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Then he can cook his own damn food?
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I too am blessed with an active husband who could happily eat a quarter-cow and a loaf of bread smothered in butter at a sitting. We've had good luck finding Cooking Light (CookingLight.com) versions of comfort foods we both love without all the fat and calories but with most of the yum factor. He gets bigger portions and more bread. I get salads the size of mixing bowls and the lion's share of the veggies. Lots of dishes to wash, but we're both content. And sshhh... but he's actually losing some weight himself.0
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Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.0 -
I sort of have the same problem - it's not that my husband won't eat it - it's that the rest of the family actually needs to GAIN weight -while I need to lose it.
I make veggies and salads - I use light dressing and steam the veggies - I take mine out and then add butter/bacon/whatever.
Instead of frying things - we bread and bake them - still not the best - but I have a small portion and they have what they want.
Gravey/sauces - fortunately my husband is a chef - (however he isn't fond of cooking at home since that is work) Anyway - he will adapt things by subbing ingredients - milk instead of cream, healthy oils (olive instead of butter) etc. to help me out - I just use small portions for flavor rather than drown my food - the rest do tho.
I also have bread at a lot of meals - I just eat one small slice - they devour the loaf. I also have my own 'fake butter' as the kids call it - I take a stick of butter - soften it and mix with olive oil (about 1/2 and 1/2, but however you like it) that is what I use for butter. I get the creamy flavor, but have the healthy fat - and it spreads easily from the fridge!
I also eat very carefully at lunch since no on is around (I pack) - that allows me more calories for dinner time.
So far it's working0 -
Oh bullspit. We all have a friend that can pound the crappiest food and their waistline don't show it. I have a skinny friend that can eat my under the table. We used to go to Mcdo when we were younger, and this guy would get 2 large fries, dessert and 2 sandwiches. He still eats this way well into his 30's, still skinny as a rail. His brother is more like me, eat a little bit and blimp up.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Personally, I feel lucky that i have a body that gains easily. That has forced me to learn about health, and correct my poor eating habits.0 -
Oh bullspit. We all have a friend that can pound the crappiest food and their waistline don't show it. I have a skinny friend that can eat my under the table. We used to go to Mcdo when we were younger, and this guy would get 2 large fries, dessert and 2 sandwiches. He still eats this way well into his 30's, still skinny as a rail. His brother is more like me, eat a little bit and blimp up.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Personally, I feel lucky that i have a body that gains easily. That has forced me to learn about health, and correct my poor eating habits.
Bullspit? You need to look closer to home. I dont have any friends who could eat piles of junk without adding weight, and if I asked my mates the same question, they would stay the same. I was doing it for a while, and I only went one way.
Metabolism varies to relatively minor detail and never to the extent that one person becomes overweight from eating salads where as his mate gorges on burgers and ice cream and stays thin. This is just sour grapes and frustration from people who cant lose weight so blame metabolism rather than themselves for lack of weight loss.0 -
Oh bullspit. We all have a friend that can pound the crappiest food and their waistline don't show it. I have a skinny friend that can eat my under the table. We used to go to Mcdo when we were younger, and this guy would get 2 large fries, dessert and 2 sandwiches. He still eats this way well into his 30's, still skinny as a rail. His brother is more like me, eat a little bit and blimp up.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Personally, I feel lucky that i have a body that gains easily. That has forced me to learn about health, and correct my poor eating habits.
Cold showers work for me sometimes, but I generally prefer a more "battery-centric" method of relief. IYKWIM.
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Oh bullspit. We all have a friend that can pound the crappiest food and their waistline don't show it. I have a skinny friend that can eat my under the table. We used to go to Mcdo when we were younger, and this guy would get 2 large fries, dessert and 2 sandwiches. He still eats this way well into his 30's, still skinny as a rail. His brother is more like me, eat a little bit and blimp up.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Personally, I feel lucky that i have a body that gains easily. That has forced me to learn about health, and correct my poor eating habits.
Cold showers work for me sometimes, but I generally prefer a more "battery-centric" method of relief. IYKWIM.
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Oh bullspit. We all have a friend that can pound the crappiest food and their waistline don't show it. I have a skinny friend that can eat my under the table. We used to go to Mcdo when we were younger, and this guy would get 2 large fries, dessert and 2 sandwiches. He still eats this way well into his 30's, still skinny as a rail. His brother is more like me, eat a little bit and blimp up.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Personally, I feel lucky that i have a body that gains easily. That has forced me to learn about health, and correct my poor eating habits.
Cold showers work for me sometimes, but I generally prefer a more "battery-centric" method of relief. IYKWIM.
Not sure what that is, but I think I want one!! Is there a version that runs on diesel??
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An Actifryer will be your friend ... its a way to get a deep fried feel without all of the deep fried badness!
Also, look up recipes for things like nut bread - way better for you, but still the 'bread' part of it for your husband.0 -
Oh bullspit. We all have a friend that can pound the crappiest food and their waistline don't show it. I have a skinny friend that can eat my under the table. We used to go to Mcdo when we were younger, and this guy would get 2 large fries, dessert and 2 sandwiches. He still eats this way well into his 30's, still skinny as a rail. His brother is more like me, eat a little bit and blimp up.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Personally, I feel lucky that i have a body that gains easily. That has forced me to learn about health, and correct my poor eating habits.
Cold showers work for me sometimes, but I generally prefer a more "battery-centric" method of relief. IYKWIM.
Not sure what that is, but I think I want one!! Is there a version that runs on diesel??
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Oh bullspit. We all have a friend that can pound the crappiest food and their waistline don't show it. I have a skinny friend that can eat my under the table. We used to go to Mcdo when we were younger, and this guy would get 2 large fries, dessert and 2 sandwiches. He still eats this way well into his 30's, still skinny as a rail. His brother is more like me, eat a little bit and blimp up.Ok so my wonderful husband has a super high metabolism & can eat anything without gaining weight.
This is nonsense. It is what overweight people say when they look at someone of a healthy weight munching on a burger.
People who can eat anything without gaining weight - these people dont exist.
Personally, I feel lucky that i have a body that gains easily. That has forced me to learn about health, and correct my poor eating habits.
Bullspit? You need to look closer to home. I dont have any friends who could eat piles of junk without adding weight, and if I asked my mates the same question, they would stay the same. I was doing it for a while, and I only went one way.
Metabolism varies to relatively minor detail and never to the extent that one person becomes overweight from eating salads where as his mate gorges on burgers and ice cream and stays thin. This is just sour grapes and frustration from people who cant lose weight so blame metabolism rather than themselves for lack of weight loss.
Growing up my brother and sister ate whatever they wanted and never gained any weight. Instead I gained all their weight and my weight... My nephew is 16 and hasn't gained an ounce, he's skin and bones.
My brother continued eating what he wanted and not gaining weight until he was about 25-30 years old. My sister is still as rail thin as ever, though I know she has to work at it.
I do have a couple adult friends in their 30s and 40s and they eat what they want and I have never seen them getting bigger. So it can happen. It's rare, and few and far between, but it can happen. Just because you don't know anyone doesn't mean it's not true.0
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