Stupid Gym
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Make your own motivation board?
I have a page in my workout diary full of mini goals, and when I hit each goal I buy myself a little present (like when I hit the 20lb mark I'm going to buy a "suns out Guns out" shirt)!
You dont need a princess board at an all womens gym to be your motivation!0 -
I never would have guessed that all-women's gyms would be so full of drama
Your gym isn't?
It has me, doesn't it?
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I would classify that board in the category "too stupid to care about". I am sorry, but if I want motivation I take off my clothes, look in the mirror (I mean really look) and give myself the credit I deserve for my progress. Learn to pat yourself on the back, you won't always have others around to do it for you. Look in the mirror and say, good job!0
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Valuable lesson here: set up your own motivational reward. Never let anyone or anything else be an excuse not to do what is best for you.
I understand your reaction because this process lays bare so much emotion we've covered up and buried over months, years....maybe even a lifetime. This is the time to work through those emotions so you can land in a better, more honest place with yourself. Forgive (yourself and the gym), learn, and move ahead.
It may be good to calmly explain the impact the board had for you and that you were upset when it was changed early so the gym staff can avoid this emotional land mine in the future, but yelling and screaming and berating gym staff is only going to make you look out of control.0 -
I never would have guessed that all-women's gyms would be so full of drama
Your gym isn't?
It has me, doesn't it?
You win the princess hat for my FL!
Here ya' go:
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Wait, imagine if you had gotten on the board. And then the next month you got knocked off the board. You would have been truly crushed. Because the board doesn't defines you. You are not the colored pen scratches on that white plastic. You are not defined by being the queen. Or not.
Find your hero point. If you quit the gym over this, you are just one back into the masses of those owned by the perception of others.
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I never would have guessed that all-women's gyms would be so full of drama
Your gym isn't?
It has me, doesn't it?
You win the princess hat for my FL!
Here ya' go:
Fresh out if fedoras, huh? :sad:0 -
LOL I love how the male responses are already WAY different than the female ones. I'm with the other guys. Get over it. Move on. Your own progress is your motivation. Not other women's affirmation. This is the problem with most women in general. You're all so concerned with one upping each other that when you fall short for some reason it emotionally cripples you and you turn catty.0
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You get off yer *kitten* and stop being such a baby! Who cares what everyone else is doing. do it for you!0
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Ugh, that reminds me of prom court in high school!! I simply wouldn't want to participate in it at all. If someone is loosing inches they're loosing inches and it shouldn't matter if it's 1 or 2 or 3... Everyone making progress should feel like a winner. I would feel better if someone I hadn't seen in awhile complimented the progress I've made rather than seeing my name on some board anyway. But really, even if no one noticed I'm doing this for me and you should be doing it for you.0
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Don't give up, you'll make it. And eating comfort food every now and then isn't going to kill you either. Just remember your motivation and go from there.0
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I don't get it. You joined a gym so you could have someone tell you that you were a princess?At my gym (women's only) they have a board that I assume is supposed to be there to motivate you as it has a "welcome to the club", "Queen of the Court (who has lost the most lbs and inches)" and "Princesses(runners up in the weight/inch loss) and "celebrating members that have been more than 12x each month".
I have been working my butt off this month trying to get healthier and in shape and secretly I wanted to finally see my name on the board.
On Friday, they decided to update the board...
March 28th!!! There were 3 more days in the month and I overheard the girl say she was doing it because she was bored!!
I was so upset, I had to leave before I blew up at someone and cried all the way home.
Today is my 13th day this month, I get to weigh in and get measured today and before this weekend I may have had a chance of being Queen. But I kinda gave up. I ate crap and didn't exercise and gained about 2lbs in what I'm guessing is water weight from all the sodium I ate plus some.
Today I am due back in the gym and I don't want to go! I have lost all oomph and am feeling really resentful that a place like that with a motivation board like that could be so clueless of peoples feelings.
How do I get over this? Do I say something? Do I make a scene? Do I demand my money back and go somewhere else??
UGGGGGH!0 -
There's always next month right?0
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I think you need to re-evaluate your goals and put them in perspective of why you want to lose weight and what you're doing it for. If a goal is for a name on a board or recognition, you'll gain the weight back just as fast as you lost it.0
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I go to a gym all the time. I wouldn't even know if they have a board like this or not. Its not on my radar, I go there to work out and to try to get in better shape.0
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Please don't do any of those things you just said.
The girl was doing something called "trash talking" as it's called to demotivate her opponent whomever she perceives her to be, might not even be you.
EVERY reaction you suggested seems way overboard to me and will make you come off as hysterical and will make her laugh at you if you are even on her radar.
Just change gyms at the earliest opportunity as clearly this competitive style motivation is not working for you. Go to a gym where you can just do you and where your competition will only be with yourself.0 -
Time to move on .. and just find something that is real to motivate you. Like make a body fat % goal or something and just do it. Way better than being on some board.0
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I agree with this.....you aren't getting healthier for your name on some board, and.it would be a very 'stupid' reason to eat badly and stop going to the gym. Take a deep breath, let it go, and kick some *kitten* in April!While I feel for you, I think you need to focus on what really matters. Your motivation should come from within - you exercise because you want to lose weight, feel healthy, look better...whatever it is. It's not about some stupid board. It's about making your life better and feeling accomplished when you know you are doing good things.
edited to add...if you weigh in today and your stats are better than the people on the board, can't you just ask them to add you on there?0 -
People actually care about this?
I always thought those cutesy reward boards were the fault of unimaginative management.
Oh wait... that's what management thinks too.0 -
well if you're going to participate in the Game of Thrones version of fitness, be prepared for the war, not just the battle
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Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to get healthy? If you're working hard to get your name on some board - go for it. If you really are trying to get healthy - why on earth (as an adult) do you care?0
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And what would have happened if they had waited until the 31st - and you still didn't make it on the board?
I suspect same style thread with a slightly different take on how it's not fair. :noway:0 -
well if you're going to participate in the Game of Thrones version of fitness, be prepared for the war, not just the battle \m/
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so, let me get this straight.... you're upset, because someone got healthy, because she was bored? Seriously?!? Who cares WHY people do it, so long as they are doing it. Focus on YOU and don't worry about anyone else.0
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get in there andwell if you're going to participate in the Game of Thrones version of fitness, be prepared for the war, not just the battle \m/
your competition \m/0 -
so, let me get this straight.... you're upset, because someone got healthy, because she was bored? Seriously?!? Who cares WHY people do it, so long as they are doing it. Focus on YOU and don't worry about anyone else.
This...exactly this...well and the Game of Thrones reference too...
but why does someone else doing it because they are bored in ANY way affect you...
seriously?!!?
So for example...
John is a bowler because John wants to compete professionally at bowling and someday win a title...
he overhears Fred talking about how he took up bowling because he's bored.
john THEN runs home, cries all night and eats ALL the food in the house because he's SO UPSET that fred doesn't have his level of dedication...
what would you tell John? that he's right to be offended? That he's in his right mind to be upset?
HELL NO...you'd tell him that not everyone is there for the same reasons he is...and not everyone has the same motivators he does, but that it DOESN'T matter what their motivations are...
he still does his best because his goals are lofty and he needs to work at them...
Jeebus...get back in there...and start working hard....I can't even believe you let another person affect your goals because you eavesdropped on her conversation...
that's seriously silly.0 -
so, let me get this straight.... you're upset, because someone got healthy, because she was bored? Seriously?!? Who cares WHY people do it, so long as they are doing it. Focus on YOU and don't worry about anyone else.
This...exactly this...well and the Game of Thrones reference too...
but why does someone else doing it because they are bored in ANY way affect you...
seriously?!!?
So for example...
John is a bowler because John wants to compete professionally at bowling and someday win a title...
he overhears Fred talking about how he took up bowling because he's bored.
john THEN runs home, cries all night and eats ALL the food in the house because he's SO UPSET that fred doesn't have his level of dedication...
what would you tell John? that he's right to be offended? That he's in his right mind to be upset?
HELL NO...you'd tell him that not everyone is there for the same reasons he is...and not everyone has the same motivators he does, but that it DOESN'T matter what their motivations are...
he still does his best because his goals are lofty and he needs to work at them...
Jeebus...get back in there...and start working hard....I can't even believe you let another person affect your goals because you eavesdropped on her conversation...
that's seriously silly.
I think you may have misread the OP. The gym employee updated the board early because she was bored. This woman is getting upset because someone showed some initiative in their job. Just as bad.0 -
so, let me get this straight.... you're upset, because someone got healthy, because she was bored? Seriously?!? Who cares WHY people do it, so long as they are doing it. Focus on YOU and don't worry about anyone else.
No, I think she's saying that the woman updated the board early because she was bored. And she's upset that by updating the board early, the woman broke the rules of engagement about the board.
But, I do agree with you.
OP - there will be many moments in your journey when you feel discouraged or unmotivated. You simply can't blame those moments on others. You have to be responsible for yourself. What if you hadn't won that month, anyway? Would all your work have been for nothing?0 -
I don't understand what the problem is. I don't understand how her feeling got hurt or how they were insensitive to her feelings in particular. I read the post twice. Someone please take me to a corner and explain this to me as if I was 5....I want to understand...and I'm not attacking....I'm for real.
I'm seeeeerious!0
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