rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

torichantel2005

No one ever really said anything when I was at my highest (which, let's be honest, wasn't THAT high, at 150). But now that I've lost weight (somewhere in the neighborhood of 25-30 pounds), multiple people have told me that I should stop now, that I don't need to lose anymore, that I'm too skinny. I find THAT to be as rude as anything. I have put in a lot of hard work, dedication, tears, stress, time, etc. to lose all that weight, and it would be nice if someone commended me for it rather than saying they didn't understand why I was losing weight to begin with. Uh, perhaps because by my BMI I was "overweight?" Perhaps because I couldn't run then and I can now? Perhaps because I can school my coworkers in Kenpo now? Perhaps because my heart rate is lower? Perhaps because I can buy clothes now and most of them actually fit and look decent on me, instead of being stretched to the max in my thighs, or that I can't find any in my size to begin with? Maybe because I actually feel somewhat comfortable in a bathing suit (something I have never felt before). I mean, none of those reasons matter, though.

(I would like to point out that my Husband is my biggest supporter and has cheered me on and rooted for me the entire way. He even came over to me the other day, with a 20 pound dumbbell in his hand, handed it to me, and said, "Is that heavy?" And I said, "Uh, yeah." He says, "You have lost MORE weight than that." Score 100 points for Hubby for pointing out something so obvious, but that I hadn't even thought of. What a perfect way to make me really see all that I have accomplished!)

akoorn1982

Had one recently...I am sort off sure it was meant as a compliment but still..
I was at the end of school party from the school I work, all teachers no students. It was at the beach with various activities and it was hot. So I changed into bikini top and capri. One of my coworkers told me 'I was so brave wearing that, well you know, you being a big girl'
My response: well yes, I can't wear burka right. If anyone doesn't like it: feel free to look the other way....

magic8ballkr

I was seeing a guy a few weeks ago and we had gone to the beach. I fell asleep and woke up to find he had left, whilst leaving a note written on sandwich paper, on my stomach which said "Not a Whale - Do Not Harpoon" ...

Needless to say, we aren't seeing each other anymore.

cincysweetheart

My friend (or I thought he was) once accidentally sent a text to me that was meant for someone else where he was talking about me. He referred to me as "Tubby." I was devastated. I think I cried for 2 days. We also worked together, but he had just gotten another job and his last day was coming up quickly. I was so glad he was leaving and I would have to deal with his 2-faced crap. He had no idea that he had sent the text to the wrong person and was completely confused when I barely said a word to him the next time we worked together (his last day). He asked me if I was mad at him. I said yes. He asked why. I told him exactly why. He squirmed like I've never seen before.

brismum10

you know if I really liked you I would have helped you lose weight said the guy who had just found out I was having his baby then he left and had nothing to do with his daughter

and your pretty but if you were skinny youd be hot ouch

jiagetsfit

I totally stand to lose around 40lbs, but i was always a very active person. I like going for monsoon treks. My workplace organizes treks during monsoon and i try to attend most of the treks.

Last year i asked a colleague if she would like to join me on one. I waxed eloquent on all the locations i have trekked to, the waterfalls and forts i saw, the fun i had, the tumbles i took trekking down and so on.

The next question she asked was how are you fat if you are so active? I might be fat, i am a lot more stronger than her. Being skinny does not equals strong. And that was pretty much evident when she came with me. I practically dragged her to the top.

People usually have a misconception that when someone is stick thin, it is because they are active. I run faster than my friends wearing heels to catch a bus or train. But now when someone comments on me being fat, i look at them and smile with pity and then resume whatever i was doing. I learned the hard way that people are only as strong as you give them power and ignoring them gives me the power.

poetgirl115

When I was about 13, this boy at my church (whom I had liked a few years before, but his tendency to split lizards in half had happily ended that little moment of insanity) told me that I was too ugly and fat to ever be loved. He said I'd probably die alone and get eaten by my cats.:noway:

B***h please. I'm a dog person... :laugh:

Seriously though, that comment stuck with me every time I looked in the mirror for years.

PrissyPisces

When I was about 13, this boy at my church (whom I had liked a few years before, but his tendency to split lizards in half had happily ended that little moment of insanity) told me that I was too ugly and fat to ever be loved. He said I'd probably die alone and get eaten by my cats.:noway:

B***h please. I'm a dog person... :laugh:

Seriously though, that comment stuck with me every time I looked in the mirror for years.

:laugh: :sad: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :sad: :laugh: "B**ch please. I'm a dog person..." Woooooo! That was a goooood one. I love it.

JamieD328

An old family friend told me I'd been so beautiful, and that I'd ruined myself by having children.

jiagetsfit

An old family friend told me I'd been so beautiful, and that I'd ruined myself by having children.

IMHO, rude is an understatement. That's downright inhuman thing to say.

Does that 'family friend' have any kids?

Desifreckle

I'm highschool this boy told me I would never have a boyfriend. Jokes on him now.

ebailey710

Random lady in the checkout line at the grocery store "when is the baby due?"

Mom when I was 12 "You don't have the figure for that top." All I said was that it was cute.

Dad when I was about 13 "if you don't go on a diet, I will make you go on one."

Teacher of a diabetes class "that's probably why you're so unhealthy." I never mentioned anything about my health. Which is perfect, by the way.

just4nessa

I work from home mostly so when I'm in the office I take any available desk but there are no extra phones. When I joked to my boss about spending most of the day walking to and from her office every time I had a question, she replied, "That's ok, you could use the exercise." I thought that was somewhat inappropriate, plus I had already lost some weight so it pissed me off. I did take great satisfaction in seeing her jaw drop on my next visit, having lost another 40 lbs.

boobeey

I personally hate to hear someone say "oh she has a pretty face" or yeah she a big girl but she dresses nice.

Fat_Chancer

Lady in line...yes at Mc Donalds...asked if I knew what I was having. I said um...I'm not pregnant. I'm just fat. She said oh...people thing my daughter is too. I said oh that is nice.

Maybe she was asking what you were having to eat eg a Big Mac or a Quarter Pounder.

dedflwrs

Rudest comment was actually when I was at my skinniest. Only in the last four years have I gained weight and it wasn't even bad (but it was bad for me) but 15 years ago I was actually desperate to gain weight. At 5'6" I was 100 lbs and no matter what I ate I could not gain. I looked like crap.

I was at the supermarket, l had a container of ice cream in my hand and was looking at the flavors, trying to chose a second one and a lady came up to me and said "Why even bother when you are going to force yourself to throw up anyway?"

dedflwrs

My son has lost about 120 lbs but before that, every time he would go on a diet my advice to him was not to tell anyone because I noticed that when he did people who on the one hand tell him he needed to lose weight would on the other try to sabotage him. While it was "you don't need another serving" when he was not dieting, as soon as he was it would change to "oh, you need to have some more fried chicken".

pzacher68

I went from 330 to 250. I am 6-4 and have an athletic/muscular build from my time in the Army. I thought I was in a reasonable shape considering the progress I've made, but "How much more do you have to lose?" was not very welcomed.

allant535

At a recent job interview with a well known Scottish owned London bus company, I was told Sorry for any upset but we never employ anyone as fat as you as you break our drivers seats come back when you are lighter. This despite only being 4 kg over their cut off point. Needless to say I told them where to poke the job.

phil4v7

There are plenty from growing up, including several from family, but the most recent was from a coworker without saying a single word. I lost 75 lbs back in 2012 and last ran into her when I was near my lowest weight. After regaining all of the weight since then, I ran into her again earlier this year at a work function and she did a whiplash double take. Her eyes went wide and she looked me up and down, with the expression of "I can't believe you put all that weight back on" and then she blushed and moved off. She never actually said a word, which I'm thankful for, but I could tell she realized what she'd done and avoided me for the rest of the function.

xxxpeacekeepxxx

So for Easter we had my sister's roommate staying over. She lived far away and couldn't make it home for the small break and we offered to let her stay. So she is a small skinny girl, and my family...well we aren't. So my grandmother was over and the kids were going to take the dog to the playground, so everyone left but me. I was sitting with my grandmother and my mom when she said "You can definitely tell that she doesn't belong in this family." :sad:

Now then my sister isn't as big as me, and I am definitely not as big as my mom or grandmother. But that comment really hurt. I have been trying to lose weight, but I haven't told anyone. All I could think was, you both used to be so small! I see pictures of them and I can't believe it's the same people. My mom was in the military and she was so healthy, but then she had kids and she let her health go....I want to prove to them that we can look healthy if they just try!

That comment has always stuck with me...along with a few others that people have told me (the usual "you have a pretty face").

lokepa

During the safety speech just before taking a helicopter ride to a glacier in Alaska, I was made to stand on what I can only describe as a cattle scale to determine if I was over their weight limit. I came in 5lbs under their limit... the lady gave me a crooked look and made me stand on the scale again.

riirii93_

These are so sad

My dad and bf have both used the word 'big' to describe my mother and I. I think it's a lack of tact with vocabulary but my dad meant that my mom is tall (they're kind of a funny pair, he's 5'6 and she's 5'9) but no woman wants to be called big!!!! My bf has called my calves big and he just meant the muscles are defined. Lol so awkward. *rolls eyes* I'm now self conscious about my calves.

in a darker light though, these are the worst memories i have.
1. my best friends when we were around 11 years old “you would be so beautiful if you lost weight”
2. i was at summer camp and at lunch some girl looked at my plate and asked me “why so much?” i wanted to throw it at her. and then later we were all walking in a group to do some activity and this random guy just walks up behind me and says Rita’s so fat. like out of NOWHERE. a sweetheart older guy said in response when i had nothing to say because i was so shocked, “i like rita, she’s real” or something. in reference to my personality. it made me feel a lot better and stopped the tears from wanting to come out.

3. my middle school principal’s 5 year old daughter when i was 13 “you’re fat” i wanted to deck the little *****.

4. after being bullied throughout the entirety of middle school by the other 9 girls in my all girls’ class (oh that was a great idea) as the fat girl, can’t even go into detail about that cause there are too many details… this one girl actually sent me an email after we graduated telling me how much she hated me and that i wasn’t worth anything and that i was ugly and no guy will ever love me. I don’t know why she felt the need to do that even, seemed kind of bizarre at the time. well she ended up overdosing on ecstasy her first year of college and dropped out. now she hates her life. i think she was just unhappy her whole life and had to take it out on people she saw as targets.

is it any wonder that at this age ,13, I lost 50 lbs and got down to a BMI of 18.5 and developed an eating disorder for years? I’m in so much better of a place today but jesus christ I don’t know how I survived ages 11-14 sometimes. for some reason it felt good to get all of this out. ****, people are so gross sometimes! i'm so grateful to my family and boyfriend who have never been anything but loving and supporting and never been cruel to me.

riirii93_

Back when I initially lost 85lbs, my neighbor invited me over to "fix her computer." She locked me in the house and insisted on telling me how unhealthy I was, how I was likely abusing drugs to get to thin, how clearly I had something "dark in my soul" and how I needed God to help me, and how she wouldn't let me leave until I ate a piece of cake. And then I'm pretty sure she tried to get me to have sex with her.

w...t...f..

Mykaelous

Back when I initially lost 85lbs, my neighbor invited me over to "fix her computer." She locked me in the house and insisted on telling me how unhealthy I was, how I was likely abusing drugs to get to thin, how clearly I had something "dark in my soul" and how I needed God to help me, and how she wouldn't let me leave until I ate a piece of cake. And then I'm pretty sure she tried to get me to have sex with her.

w...t...f..

I always find it funny when people come out of the woodwork once you loose weight, and start trying to tell you how it's unhealthy to loose so fast, how taking fat burners or supplements are unhealthy, or to eat so little is going to stop my metabolism. I just think " I lost 60 lb's and my doctor says that my vitals are the best they have ever been, what do you know." I just X those people out of my social network nowadays instead of arguing with them.

laurenz2501

Last week I told my mom I need to lose about 40lbs. She said "That's going to be hard isn't it..."

At about 10 years old, riding in the car with my dad: "You're getting a belly!" (Said in a joking manner as he was smiling, like it was cute...)

About 12 years old. Middle school. "Best friend" called me Thunder Thighs at the local swim club as she was cracking up laughing.

catb58

As I walked across the living room one time at 17, my dad was on the couch with a bowl of ice cream sitting on his stomach, He looked at me and said "You're getting a little broad across the beam, aren't you?"

grantairesbottle

Well, it has happened recently. My mother who is always pestering me about how "nobody would want me because I look like I swallowed a whale"(mind you, I broke a leg and a couple of ribs so I was in bed for a better part of 2013) but now that I've lost most of that excess weight she says "Guess you are a damn rexy now.".

PennyVonDread

I was wearing a bikini top and shorts when I went to visit family and my mom asked me "Are you really going to walk around with your belly hanging out?"

Um. My body fat is 20%. I'm a runner. There is nothing "hanging" anywhere. I don't have rock hard abs, but I definitely don't have "hanging" anything and I think I have every right to wear whatever I want out in 90 degree whether as long as my reproductive bits are covered up.

I'm not sure if it was jealousy or what, but I never forgot just rolling my eyes and walking away.

maryanne2000

No one has said anything about me to my face, but the other day my boss said the our new employee is " huge...will have trouble walking from one end of the building to the other." The woman in question is considerably smaller than I am. It makes me wonder what she says about me behind my back. Also, an average weight colleague expressed disgust when she saw a woman that her ex had dated. "I can't believe he was with her. She must be 200 pounds! " Which is a little less than I weigh.