rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

AnnBassham

My ex-mother-in-law said I needed a sign that said "Wide Load" on my butt!

demonsheep

A "friend" told me once that if I was taller, I'd be pretty because then everything would "stretch out"

Rogue_Girl

Back when I initially lost 85lbs, my neighbor invited me over to "fix her computer." She locked me in the house and insisted on telling me how unhealthy I was, how I was likely abusing drugs to get to thin, how clearly I had something "dark in my soul" and how I needed God to help me, and how she wouldn't let me leave until I ate a piece of cake. And then I'm pretty sure she tried to get me to have sex with her.

WTF? I mean what the actual *kitten*?

Why in the world are there so many wackadoodle people!?

Wackadoodle is my very favourite word ever :happy:

That woman does indeed sound like a fruitcake. How did you manage to get free?

I convinced her that she'd see me next Sunday at church, accepted the religious-publisher book on anorexia she gave me, and walked out the front door. The book went right into her flower garden.

Ha! Love it. Although pig that I am, I would have been like "GET AWAY FROM ME, YOU CRAZY OLD WIT- Ooooh, cake! Go on then, one quick slice" Lol.

Before I even looked at your profile Bex, I knew you had to be English (I married a Brit so I've been "exposed" lol)

Haha! Am I that obviously British? I guess so, what what! I would also probably risk roofies for a nice bit of cake.

Lol, you know what was the give-away? "Go on then..." Funny, huh? :-D

Rogue_Girl

Rudest comment was actually when I was at my skinniest. Only in the last four years have I gained weight and it wasn't even bad (but it was bad for me) but 15 years ago I was actually desperate to gain weight. At 5'6" I was 100 lbs and no matter what I ate I could not gain. I looked like crap.

I was at the supermarket, l had a container of ice cream in my hand and was looking at the flavors, trying to chose a second one and a lady came up to me and said "Why even bother when you are going to force yourself to throw up anyway?"

Wow. Just. Wow.

I think, for me anyway, I forget that there are really slender people who have their own issues that they are dealing with. Thank you, in that painful way, for reminding me that the grass isn't always greener.

ValGogo

Well, my problem was not being fat but I was called ugly a lot. However, my stupid ex-roommate would say "goooorda" (translated from Spanish "faaaaatty") like if it was funny; this was like two years ago. She is thin and flabby with a huge middle.

Nuff said. South American chicks think because their arm and legs are thin, that they don't have a problem. It's all in their middles.

suprangela79

I was at Panera Bread eating a sandwich (as a treat to myself since I had a terrible day at work) and two women were sitting across from me. The place was mostly packed and they came up and snickered and pointed at me and made crude "fatty" gestures (putting their hands apart, keeping air in their cheeks for a "bloated" look) and I heard one of them say "ew, I don't wanna sit next to her, I'll get fat and ugly too". At first I didn't pay attention to them but they just kept poking "fun" and saying things to each other like I wasn't there. They made me feel like a monster. They were saying things like "ew it looked at me!" "oh my god I ordered the same thing she did, does that mean I'm a fat cow too?" "wow, I'm surprised she doesn't need two of those chairs!" "or four!" inbetween fits of laughing and staring at me like I wasn't human. I left in tears.

I would have been banned for life from Panera because I probably would have went over and dumped my drink on them and blasted them for all to hear. Why do people feel it is necessary to be jerks?!

endermako

My now ex husband told me he was no longer attracted to me because I was too big for him.

gabiinacio

I was walking into a clothing store with my BBF and a random women and her friend come up to me and say "Are you pregnant?" I said "no, my daughter is 4 weeks old now" the women then said "You need to be wearing a girdle"

Most humiliating moment of my life.

alyssamaryw

Wow. I never cease to be amazed by the cruelty some folks seem so delighted to dole out to others. I'm really sorry that you all have been through such things. And idiots out there still think shame is an effective weight loss motivation tool. Smh. I was pretty fat as a kid and I remember very distinctively my dad telling me that no would love me unless I stopped eating like a pig and lost weight. I think I would have been around 11 or 12. He saw no problem with saying I shouldn't eat this or that in front of friends and family who were enjoying the same foods. All the while modeling an inactive lifestyle and bringing home unhealthy foods. In hindsight he just didn't know how to deal with his concern over my weight and was the kind of man for whom a woman's worth was primarily her appearance. He is very different now, never comments on my weight except to say I am doing a good job losing it. I am glad for that. I wonder if he knows how much his words held me back from losing for so long. PS, he was wrong, I met honestly the sweetest, most romantic man ever, he loved me at over 300 lbs, tells me I'm beautiful, and with his unconditional love and gentle support I started to see my own value as more than just a shell, I care about myself now...and folks, that's the best weight loss motivation there is.

You just made me tear up at work! :sad:

Bexchubb

I think most of the rude comments I've gotten about my weight have come from overweight people.

This weekend, I went to brunch with some friends, and someone said "Oh, I've been working so hard to lose weight, I've cut out soda/sweets/junk food, and I've only lost 5lbs. You didn't change anything and the weight has just come off! You're so lucky!"

I guess that's not really rude about my weight, but I still think it's pretty damn rude to assume someone is having an easy time losing weight, just because they don't go all super restrictive.

Oh yea, Ive had this loads since I started. "So what are you doing to lose weight?" I tell them, and theyre like "Well that doesnt sound that hard. Cmon, tell me the truth- you're not really just cutting calories!" Like they really cant believe that I could be doing it properly, I MUST be cheating somehow and living on milkshakes or starving myself. For gods sake, I started at almost 20st! Of course it came off quicker at first, my poor body was crying out for me to eat properly!

euronorris

This thread is so sad. I just want to hug you all. And weep for humanity that there are so many cruel people in the world.

I've never had many negative comments about being overweight, even though I am definitely in that category now. The majority of nasty/negative comments I've had have been when I've been slimmer (but firmly in the 'healthy' weight category) - 'oh you look awfully gaunt, are you SURE you're eating enough?' 'You are going to stop now aren't you? You're already too skinny!'

Bizarre. As I say, I was firmly in the healthy weight category.

But I've gotta say, I've always been, and continue to be my own worst criticizer!

alyssamaryw

The worst instance for me was when my step-grandmother (mother of my stepmother) stopped my 16th birthday party saying "Can I just say something?" and everyone turned and looked at her. I think we all expected that she would say something like a toast to my birthday or something similar. Instead she started a rant about how teenagers should not be fat, that she would give me pointers on how to lose weight, etc. A family friend actually forced her out of the room before she stopped talking. Now she wonders why I never visit her. (The best part was, she was overweight at the time, and was seriously calling attention to that fact without realizing it.)

mizzzc

I was 6 months pregnant and my stepmother said "You really shouldn't use being pregnant as an excuse to gain all that weight"

another one she said was " you are getting way to big, look at your feet! You need to cut back your eating habits"

"Soon you are going to be just like your aunty (fill in blank)!! "
My aunty is a 400 pound woman.

These were all said while I was pregnant by my stepmother..

Yep..

tyrannosarausREX

"God's cruel joke. A fat girl with a small chest"

yep. now I'm a fit girl with a small chest. I couldn't care less about my bra size.

Jennkies

I was a fatty through most of elementary school. I remember after school one time during a scholastic bowl tournament, my team and I were messing around playing hide and seek in the court yard. One of the guys came out while I was still hiding and said "where's the fat one?" Very humiliating. I've had several others, but don't really care to remember them all right now thanks

Go_Mizzou99

Not too long after I lost all of my weight and made it to maintenance...
Working out heavily at the gym all the while during and after the weight loss...
and was in the best shape of my adult life...
my mother, who lives 600 miles away and we only saw each other on the big holidays, asked me if I was anorexic.

Carross1018

I haven't had too many people say anything to me about my weight to my face.
The only ones that really bother me is when people yell things out of cars, especially with other people around.
It's really embarrassing plus I can't stand up for myself.

The only time I can really remember is this guy I was on a second date with asked me "How could you do this to yourself, you're gorgeous but you could be so much prettier if you lost weight"

... He didn't understand why I didn't want to see him ever again. LOL.

DAM5412

Oh my....I am so sorry for all the pain that has been inflected on so many people here. There are just too many people who only feel good when they are making someone else feel bad. I am sad that so many people are attacked due to their weight, and some really did have no control over it...especially those of us who were chubby kids.

But on the other hand, I am so motivated by your stories of overcoming these attacks and being better for it. We all have our battles, and this happens to be one that most of us can conquer.

Kakibot

I remember back in school a classmate of mine told me she thinks I only wear baggy clothes to hide all that fat. Looking back (pretty sure you know this feeling) it feels totally ridiculous because at that point I was nowhere near being fat.
Later on in university a coursemate who was working for a women's magazine kept asking me at parties, in front of my friends, if I want to take part in their weight loss project. Clearly not the thing you wanna hear when you go out for a party and you spent time on making yourself look pretty.
My stepdad frequently asked about my weight just to go WHOA THAT'S A LOT! (well at least he is the one person who now always tells me I look like I lost weight.)

(But thankfully I can also sit here and think of lot of NICE comments. Phew)

smantha32

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orlandogirl97

It's amazing that most of the above comments have come from friends and family!

teenaterror

When I was 26 my new Grandmother-in-law gave me a scale for Christmas and said it was obvious I didn't already have one.

Lalasharni

When I asked for a diet cola in a bar once, the bartender said "it;s not working"
He then wore it. All of it.

lessthan364

"Moo" as I walked by.

swertyqwerty

Nobody ever said anything mean to me, which made things hurt even more. Somebody gave up a seat to me because they thought I was pregnant, and much worse things happened as well. I think I would have to have plastic surgery to feel happy and normal because this stuff has damaged me psychologically.

animejennie

Ah....I think it was when my husband and I were planning our wedding and he was like "Sooooo....do you plan on going on a diet before the wedding?" And when I asked him why he said something about how he was worried I wouldn't be able to play with our future children. What? I am 5'8" and at the time weighed 165. Not thin, but not too far outside of my weight range for my height. . .

jad5405

"My you a are just a little butterball aren't you" I was in my early twenty's, 4"11, and weighed 130 pounds.

lolersk8r

First off too everyone, the people who say this kind of thing are toxic. Most of them hate themselves and want to take it out on people, or they feel entitled to make you miserable for entertainment. Either way if these people are you friends, family, husbands, wives etc. you should take a long hard think about cutting them out. DO NOT let people treat you this way. EVER! Toxic people should get no time, no attention, no love from you. Your time, affection , love is precious, don't waste it on people who make you feel less than you really are and don't wait for them to change. They're not, unfortunately. If they want to be in your life make them prove it.

I'll share a couple of my humiliating experiences

1. a kid said i looked pregnant in 5th grade. I felt so ashamed.
2. I got called Big Mac and my friend was called little mac.
3. When i was in 9th grade i became a vegetarian and told the class when we had to tell something unique about ourselves. Some boy made a crack about looking like i still ate meat because i was chubby.
4. Some kid on the short bus would yell at me calling me a pig while i was walking home
5. As a teen i was walking and some boys drove by and said " Strut your fat stuff"
6. I was playing in my backyard and my great grandma said to my mother " maybe that'll get some weight of her"
7. A woman was watching me eat at a restaurant with some friends so i stared at her back until she looked away and I said loud enough for her to hear " I'm I going to have to smack a b**** with a rib!?"

There are more but those stick out the most. I don't take any s*** from anyone anymore. If someone wants to have a go at me because of my weight it will be on and cracking. I'm sick of internalizing others negative opinions. They get it right back 10X as hard.

Louttie

Someone said i was oddly shaped. Got to me real bad.

On the bright side ever since he said it i have lost half a stone. So i guess a sort of thanks is in order... not that i would actually thank him!!

lolersk8r

As a woman who, for years, struggled with undiagnosed PCOS and severe adenomyosis (which caused an enlarged uterus), I have certainly heard my share of rude comments over the years -- even when my actual weight was normal. I got the "pretty face" comments, the "pregnant" comments (those are tough to absorb when they start when you're 12 years old, 5'0", and 108lbs), and the "you carry it well...unless you turn to the side, it's hard to tell how fat you are." Plus, my mother -- always obsessed with her weight and sure she was fat at a size 5 -- had me on pretty restrictive diets from the time that I was seven (I got a bit chunky before a growth spurt), and her enforced exercise felt like my punishment for being "overweight." Over the years, I started to struggle in earnest with my weight and my health, never knowing why.

Still, the comments that hurt me the most came from my now-estranged husband. Before we met, I had discovered a new love of fitness and had dropped 60 lbs from my top weight. I was happy, had mostly gotten over the old wounds, and while my health was still a challenge to manage (and I still didn't know why), I was working out for the right reasons and was proud of all I'd accomplished. After we got together, though, he kept making comments about how he couldn't believe he was with a chubby girl, and he was embarrassed because he didn't know what his friends would think of my weight. I told him it hurt me, but I tried to excuse it because he was not exactly experienced with women...and wasn't great with people in general. But I'd also just moved across the country and just lost a loved one, so I was emotionally vulnerable, anyway -- I don't know that I would have stayed with him had I still been back home with my old friends.

His constant criticisms wore me down over time, and I gave up for a while. Even when he didn't speak the words aloud, he'd make faces at my outfits, at what I was eating, and a myriad of other things. I was having terrible allergy issues in the area I had moved to, and a recurrence of the worst symptoms of the condition, so exercise was very difficult, anyway. But when we moved back to my home state, I started working out again -- all the while fighting the health issues. I started dropping weight again, but my self-image was so confused that I had taken to taking photos to try to get an idea of what I looked like.

I made the mistake of mentioning to him in a moment of vulnerability that it felt weird to me that I didn't really KNOW what I looked like any more...and mentioned that some of the pictures I'd taken in a mirror surprised me because I looked a little smaller than I'd expected.

And his response: "Well, maybe we just have skinny mirrors."

I'm not sure why that comment is the one that still pricks at me most.

This guy is toxic. RUN! FAR AWAY.