rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

zezelryck

When I had lost 140lb, I displayed my latest photograph on a facebook slimming group page and got hundreds of nice comments. 1 comment ruined it all for me by a troll who said "oh my god 10 stone, how did you get so fat in the first place"

Thatslimgal84

come to India folks.. u are sure gonna hear comments ruder than all this!!

Thatslimgal84

today at work a guy just commented on my weight gain. i told him how i had lost almost 40 kg last time and he just laughed out loud!! like how I ever got so fat in the first place!

thebigcb

That is extremely rude, do you have HR in your office /

lissdawn

Where to begin. I had met a guy online through a friend on FB. He saw some of my posts on her wall and thought I was funny and started messaging me. We were both single and interested and started making plans to go for a date. I told my friend about it and that I was interested etc, she went on and on about how he's a great guy, so fun, we'd make a great pair etc. A few days later, I found a note in my inbox from her, going on and on about how I am such a great girl, that I'm hilarious and amazing etc, but that I should know that I am really obese. How I'm super pretty but need to lose a lot of weight, and that she'd hate to see me waste my time with someone I couldn't possibly be attracted to. It was meant for him, she sent it to me by mistake. To this day, I don't know what hurts more, the actual comments or the sabotage by a supposed friend. I haven't spoken to her since.

Back in high school was dating this guy, we'll call "x". I went outside to catch the bus after school and one of his friends was there waiting too, along with another guy I'd had a crush on the year before (and he knew it). X's "friend" started going on about how he can't understand why X was with me, then got very graphic, how having sex with me must be like riding waves, all my blubber must move like a tidal wave etc. I literally broke out in tears sobbing and he just laughed even harder. The other guy that was there just goes 'come one man, that's rude'. To this day just thinking about this brings back the pain of the humiliation.

In general it's the comments/assumptions from people that don't know what they are talking about that blow me away. Coworkers who look shocked when I mention hiking on the weekend, they get a look like I've got to be lying. I've lost 35 lbs but it's not all that noticeable yet to others, but a good friend at work made a comment the other day about how my face looks thinner, and I said thanks, I've lost a bit of weight, and another colleague within earshot goes 'REALLLLY'???????....SMH.

Thatslimgal84

That is extremely rude, do you have HR in your office /

Hes the HEAD of HR!

Kath1391

"Your thighs are like tree trunks"..The most painful thing was it was true

CMarieVirginia

"OMG, I didn't know you were pregnant!"

I was not.

Thatslimgal84

dont know why people just assume its ok to poke a rude joke on overweight people like its absolutely alright!!

fairygirlpie9

I haven't had as many as most - the majority or rude jabs came from my mother.
But there was one guy I went to uni with who said to me 'Now that we've moved to the fourth floor - you might finally lose some weight walking up all those stairs.' - I can laugh about it now.

Oxxygi

"No one ever will love you"....

fairygirlpie9

My brother, when I was in primary school, told me "you have more rolls than a bakery." Knowing him he probably heard it and thought it was funny and said it without really thinking of the consequences but for a kid always teased about her weight, it's always stuck with me since he was someone I admired more than anyone.

Unfortunate but thats actually from Little Britain.

wizzybeth

My father used to call me Porky or Pork, all the time. I never was fat or pudgy or the least bit overweight - but he would tell me I was getting fat. I had that "tweenager stomach" that came a bit before puberty and didn't leave until I was done growing. But at one point, when I was about 11, I was convinced I was pregnant, thanks to his remarks about my fat belly. (I didn't even know HOW anyone got pregnant, I just figured I caught it somehow. My parents never talked to me about sex, LOL...so I didn't know anything about it or your period until I had it in health class at age 12. Now I know why my daughter's school does that class with kids in 4th grade...)

He never stopped calling me Pork, even when I was 5'6" and weighed 127 lbs.

Then after I got pregnant (for reals, with my hubby, and I knew how to do it, LOL) he made remarks about it being like watching Elephant Walk when I went by.

He always assumed he was funny. He wasn't. When I got really fat following my pregnancies, he kind of stopped the remarks.

The only other person to make a rude comment about my weight was my former boss - I saw him post-partum in a store after having my 3rd child. He slapped my arm and said "Packing on the pounds, aren't you?" And I said "Well let's see how you look if you have 3 children and 4 pregnancies in a 5 year span." He said "Oh! Congratulations." And left.

And since I'd figured out how to get pregnant so well, I needed to figure out how NOT to get pregnant, lol.

Deps

Unfortunate but thats actually from Little Britain.

This was years and years back. I think it's actually just a rude saying which has been going around for ages (though I don't know how old Little Britain is?)

The worst thing is, when someone you admire says that to you, it just never goes away and I know for a fact he has no memory of it.

travlinjess

This has probably come up before, but I've had strangers pat my belly and ask when I was due…on 3 separate occasions.

I've never been pregnant. : /

april_recharged

There are some mean people in this world... I've received my share of rude comments but some of these I've read this morning make my heart ache. Especially the ones coming from parents... gee whiz. :frown:

Gawanne

My heart breaks for all of you, I just can't believe people can be so rude and insensitive. Makes one realize why there is so much cruelty in the world at large. No empathy at all for the attacked person. My worst attack came because it was from a friend of 40 years and it wasn't so much what she said, it was the tone she said it in, she really snarled at me. I said I could never be as slim as she - 124 lbs at 5ft 5in. Me same height but 140 lbs. She said in the most nasty way, "you are FAT, we used to LAUGH at your big fat bum AND you've got jowls. (News to me, the jowls bit). The tone was awful, and I was pretty stunned. We got over it but it's stuck with me and I will never feel the same about her again.

pickleRH83

"I always said I'd never date a girl with fat arms" when I was 19...needless to say I'm rather glad I'm no longer with this one, and I was only a size 10-12 at the time but my lack of self confidence at this point in my life unknowingly sent me on the path to weight gain through emotional eating throughout my adult life...

Lalasharni

Just remembered another.
I was at a club dancing with my g/f when a guy I'd never met put his arm around my shoulder and said "I LOVE fat bottomed girls".
I said Yep - I like all of the Queen songs"
Exit deflated *kitten*.

blairwithredhair

My dad, 6 months before my wedding last year: "You need to work harder, you don't want to look like a stuffed canoli walking down the aisle."

My mom, last week: "You could be so pretty. My heart just breaks for you, it is so upsetting to see you this way. You look like a stuffed sausage is wearing your skin!"

Oh, within 3 months of getting married, 4 different people (two clients, two strangers) asked me when I was due. As in pregnant. I wasn't (and am not) pregnant.

pipertargaryen

The only one I can remember is when I was doing a really ****ty job washing up, there was this really bitter old woman that had been doing this ****ty job for like 20 years or something. Anyway she was telling a story and said something along the lines of " my sons girlfriend who is really fat" - looks at me and says "no offence". Well I wasn't offended but I sure as hell am now...

This was farther back in the thread, but that reminded me.
Last year, I was stuck listening to this customer, an older man who I can NOT stand (not because he's an old man, I have grand old chats with a lot of older people at work. Just this guy is awful). I kept trying to look busy so he'd leave. I don't know what led to it, but he was saying something and said, "... Bigger woman... *looks me up and down*.. No offence." Seriously bro?

cookiekrunch

You would be so much PRETTIER if you lost weight!!

caracrawford1

I was wearing a bikini top and shorts when I went to visit family and my mom asked me "Are you really going to walk around with your belly hanging out?"

Um. My body fat is 20%. I'm a runner. There is nothing "hanging" anywhere. I don't have rock hard abs, but I definitely don't have "hanging" anything and I think I have every right to wear whatever I want out in 90 degree whether as long as my reproductive bits are covered up.

I'm not sure if it was jealousy or what, but I never forgot just rolling my eyes and walking away.

I hear you. I run marathons, but even at my very lightest--even if I weighed 105 pounds my family would say that--and not out of jealousy, but because its considered inappropriate to wear to a family gathering. I wouldn't dare dress like that with my grandma and older family members around--i know better than that. They would tell me to dress like a lady or that "a woman is more desirable with something left to the imagination." I don't think it's an insult, just a more conservative way of thinking, esp. If you're around family and older folks. There's a time and a place for everything and appropriate dress for every occasion (now I sound like my mother) :-)

laurenisfitforlife

A friend told me I was tons of fun to be around - another "friend" chimed in, " Yeah, she's tons of fun, like Shamu the Giant Whale." Needless to say, I was not impressed, since this "friend" was also over weight. :mad:

laynerich15

When I started this I said to my boss" I need to loose 15lbs" (was 183lbs height 5'8") his response was "more like double that"

kahulalui

Been happening to me since I was a child. Even though I wasn't even fat as a child. People are just sad beings.

My take is they are not happy with themselves so they take it out on you.

pds06

Congratulations ( thought I was pregnant)

kimothy38

My heart breaks for all of you, I just can't believe people can be so rude and insensitive. Makes one realize why there is so much cruelty in the world at large. No empathy at all for the attacked person. My worst attack came because it was from a friend of 40 years and it wasn't so much what she said, it was the tone she said it in, she really snarled at me. I said I could never be as slim as she - 124 lbs at 5ft 5in. Me same height but 140 lbs. She said in the most nasty way, "you are FAT, we used to LAUGH at your big fat bum AND you've got jowls. (News to me, the jowls bit). The tone was awful, and I was pretty stunned. We got over it but it's stuck with me and I will never feel the same about her again.

This reminds me of a story my mother in law told me. She bumped into a school friend she hadn't seen for many years and said to her 'Oh I didn't recognise you because you used to be so fat'. I pointed out how rude and considerate the comment was but she didn't care at all because 'it was the truth'. Truth or not, that's fecking rude.

jennz81

The rudest thing anything had ever said to me was, "you have the personality, but the wrong body." This is a former male friend of mine who I don't associate with anymore.

canadjineh

Lady in line...yes at Mc Donalds...asked if I knew what I was having. I said um...I'm not pregnant. I'm just fat. She said oh...people thing my daughter is too. I said oh that is nice.

You should have said "yes, I'm having fries and a burger, thanks for taking my order."