rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

summer144012

My dad told me after I had my son that I was getting fat like him! Now mind you, he wasn't fat and I had been working out like crazy and watching my calories to get back to pre-baby weight. I thought this was the rudest comment ever. I will never forget he said that to me. My mom always sizes me up too every time she sees me. Other than times of pregnancy, I have always been just a bit over my weight limit but they both make me feel like I need to lose a ton of weight. I am not comfortable eating around them. Now that's really sad.

0Amra

"You're so pretty for a big girl" - hate that one.

Maqneta

a complete stranger called me fat at the park two days ago.

Runningmischka

Few yers ago I lost about 40 pounds, went from size 10 to size 2. All the girls I worked with were extremely supportive and so happy for me, except one. This lady looked at my before and after pictures and said in front of everyone "Awww... even when you were fat, you still didn't have big boobs" Fortunately, I don't easily get upset about harsh words and have a smart mouth :bigsmile:
I just replied that my B-cup was very helpful when I finished my first marathon with Boston qualifying time. She didn't dare bringing up my looks ever again.

bahls24

How about don't lose anymore weight and i weigh175 5ft 7in tall............:frown: :huh:

torichantel2005

Rudest comment was actually when I was at my skinniest. Only in the last four years have I gained weight and it wasn't even bad (but it was bad for me) but 15 years ago I was actually desperate to gain weight. At 5'6" I was 100 lbs and no matter what I ate I could not gain. I looked like crap.

I was at the supermarket, l had a container of ice cream in my hand and was looking at the flavors, trying to chose a second one and a lady came up to me and said "Why even bother when you are going to force yourself to throw up anyway?"

WHAT!!! People are horrendous.

transientcanuck

Girl in high school told me that my face resembled that of a hippo (with the fact that my face is very round and my ears stick out apparently).

Another idiot in high school observed me eating fries and commented "Should you be eating that?". I was 5'3" and 130 lbs at the time; he was well over 200 lbs.

I was visiting my friend at the hospital once when her newly-made hospital friend pointed to my gut and asked when I was due.

Ex-boyfriend told me that I would be "prettier" if I lost 30 lbs

Randalene88

"You're so pretty for a big girl" - hate that one.

Same here. I have heard that so many times. When I was probably 15 a lady in a store said to me "Aww, you have such a pretty face. What a shame." After that years of disordered eating followed.

I have a friend who always says to me "You're not fat, you're just big boned and have hips and a butt." ...Yes because clearly that makes me feel better.

Luckily, I can take most things with a grain of salt lately, I have grown a lot mentally and I'm a work in progress.

ribqah

As a woman who, for years, struggled with undiagnosed PCOS and severe adenomyosis (which caused an enlarged uterus), I have certainly heard my share of rude comments over the years -- even when my actual weight was normal. I got the "pretty face" comments, the "pregnant" comments (those are tough to absorb when they start when you're 12 years old, 5'0", and 108lbs), and the "you carry it well...unless you turn to the side, it's hard to tell how fat you are." Plus, my mother -- always obsessed with her weight and sure she was fat at a size 5 -- had me on pretty restrictive diets from the time that I was seven (I got a bit chunky before a growth spurt), and her enforced exercise felt like my punishment for being "overweight." Over the years, I started to struggle in earnest with my weight and my health, never knowing why.

Still, the comments that hurt me the most came from my now-estranged husband. Before we met, I had discovered a new love of fitness and had dropped 60 lbs from my top weight. I was happy, had mostly gotten over the old wounds, and while my health was still a challenge to manage (and I still didn't know why), I was working out for the right reasons and was proud of all I'd accomplished. After we got together, though, he kept making comments about how he couldn't believe he was with a chubby girl, and he was embarrassed because he didn't know what his friends would think of my weight. I told him it hurt me, but I tried to excuse it because he was not exactly experienced with women...and wasn't great with people in general. But I'd also just moved across the country and just lost a loved one, so I was emotionally vulnerable, anyway -- I don't know that I would have stayed with him had I still been back home with my old friends.

His constant criticisms wore me down over time, and I gave up for a while. Even when he didn't speak the words aloud, he'd make faces at my outfits, at what I was eating, and a myriad of other things. I was having terrible allergy issues in the area I had moved to, and a recurrence of the worst symptoms of the condition, so exercise was very difficult, anyway. But when we moved back to my home state, I started working out again -- all the while fighting the health issues. I started dropping weight again, but my self-image was so confused that I had taken to taking photos to try to get an idea of what I looked like.

I made the mistake of mentioning to him in a moment of vulnerability that it felt weird to me that I didn't really KNOW what I looked like any more...and mentioned that some of the pictures I'd taken in a mirror surprised me because I looked a little smaller than I'd expected.

And his response: "Well, maybe we just have skinny mirrors."

I'm not sure why that comment is the one that still pricks at me most.

dsoucy31

Oh man there have been many... but the one that sticks in my mind the most was when a random customer at the restaurant I worked at asked me to put my hand on my hip and stated that I looked like a gallon of milk..... still really bothers me to think about it

dsoucy31

:frown:

christhenix

Colleagues seem to think it is funny to refer to me as Homer, or Pete Griffin (Family Guy). But the most hurtful was a boss who said to our group that it is a shame when people let themselves go, whilst nodding towards me! I don't think it was malicious, but it cut deep.

Susanlove316

Mine made me eat until I threw up because he didn't want food wasted! I was 8 or 9. No wonder we have weight/food issues!

saveferris2014

Good for you! Mean people...

whitneysin

So many things, and I have never had a BMI that was considered overweight.

"What kind of sport do you play? You look like you have the body of a rugby or a football player" - Said in public at a work dinner by one of our vendors

"No, it's just a couple of fat girls" Referring to a friend and I, when we were hiking at Red Rocks, CO

"You're kind of a big girl, you're like bigger than me" Said by a new male acquaintance

"You have gotten fat in these areas" *proceeds to point out areas* - Said by a now ex-boyfriend

"Wheatney, what has happened? You have gotten fat!" -Said by my friends Russian ex-boyfriend.

"You look quite hippy" - My friends grandma referring to me while I was in a bikini

When I was 16 and was working at a grocery store, a very elderly man said, "hurry up, fattie!" when I was bagging his groceries.

I remember every single one of these remarks quite vividly. I wonder if that old man would have ever imagined that I would carry his dismissive, offhand comment with me 12 years later.

Feeling fat casts a huge dark cloud over my entire day.

whitneysin

Girl in high school told me that my face resembled that of a hippo (with the fact that my face is very round and my ears stick out apparently).

Another idiot in high school observed me eating fries and commented "Should you be eating that?". I was 5'3" and 130 lbs at the time; he was well over 200 lbs.

I was visiting my friend at the hospital once when her newly-made hospital friend pointed to my gut and asked when I was due.

Ex-boyfriend told me that I would be "prettier" if I lost 30 lbs

Your face is beautiful, and looks nothing like a hippo. That girl can take a flying leap, she's insane. I've gotten the pressure from boyfriends, too. Comments like, "You're like an 8 but would be a 10 if you were skinnier. You know I can't date a girl over 150 pounds and you're getting there (I was 154 at the time but he didn't know).

whitneysin

Random lady in the checkout line at the grocery store "when is the baby due?"

Mom when I was 12 "You don't have the figure for that top." All I said was that it was cute.

Dad when I was about 13 "if you don't go on a diet, I will make you go on one."

Teacher of a diabetes class "that's probably why you're so unhealthy." I never mentioned anything about my health. Which is perfect, by the way.

Unless I physically see a baby crowning first-hand, I will never ask if somebody is pregnant. I'm so sorry about the comments your parents made, it hits very close to home for me. "Do you really need that?" (regarding food) Being a big one.

sassymc86

Father at my nursery where I work is brutally honest 'Sara your still beautiful but you got so fat!' Cheers Mohammed, made my day..... A mum also asked if I was expecting.

elbandito

Not the rudest, but the most recent and funny;

I went on a trip to Vietnam a month ago, and went north to Da Nang and Hoi An. Near there is a place called the Marble Mountains; one of which has stairs carved into it to climb (it's a bit touristy and crowded, but hey! I was a tourist!).

So I climbed the stairs, explored some of the grottoes, took pictures of the buddhas about 1/3 to 1/2 way up. Before long I was sweating up a storm (it was a 42 deg C day (107 f) and my shirt was sticking to me. However, I was determined to reach the top so I kept going and eventually made it. Took some pictures, slipped on some of the worn smooth-as marble, drunk some of the water I had taken with me.

Then, on the way down I passed this Malaysian gent and his daughter (who was all of nine years old). The father nodded and said, "It is good exercise!"
I said "yes, really good for cutting down," patting my belly.

And without missing a beat the little girl said, "yeah you need it!"

Ansie13

Not so much what they said ..
But a group of guys I went to school with chewed up food and threw it at me and told everyone I was gross enough that I would probably eat it. When I got up and left they all pointed and laughed while calling me cow, pig, ect.

sassymc86

Not so much what they said ..
But a group of guys I went to school with chewed up food and threw it at me and told everyone I was gross enough that I would probably eat it. When I got up and left they all pointed and laughed while calling me cow, pig, ect.

That's actually quite heartbreaking!

kaseyr1505

I think most of the rude comments I've gotten about my weight have come from overweight people.

This weekend, I went to brunch with some friends, and someone said "Oh, I've been working so hard to lose weight, I've cut out soda/sweets/junk food, and I've only lost 5lbs. You didn't change anything and the weight has just come off! You're so lucky!"

I guess that's not really rude about my weight, but I still think it's pretty damn rude to assume someone is having an easy time losing weight, just because they don't go all super restrictive.

smashley_mashley

I was in ON for my cousin's wedding and my mom, grandmother and I were staying in a hotel w/ a pool. As we were going to the pool my grandmother grabbed my side and said, "you've sure put on some weight"... Thanks grandma. The worst was, that was my skinny time about 10 years ago; I've since put on 40 lbs since then

whitneysin

I was in ON for my cousin's wedding and my mom, grandmother and I were staying in a hotel w/ a pool. As we were going to the pool my grandmother grabbed my side and said, "you've sure put on some weight"... Thanks grandma. The worst was, that was my skinny time about 10 years ago; I've since put on 40 lbs since then

It seems we have a theme here with grandmother/grandfathers hating on weight. My step grandmother disapproved of my acne when I was a teen. She honestly never liked me until recent years, when I got "prettier".

NicoleLFifield

When someone I knew but hadn't seen for awhile asked me when I was due.....that hurt cause I was not pregnant.

Gamerchick00

I was walking along a public street and a car full of guys went by. One of them shouted, "Harpoon that whale!"

CindyMarcuzAdams

This thread has been both heart breaking and cathartic at the same time.
I have so many stories I dont know what one...ones to tell but here goes.

My grandparents and cousins lived 150 miles away from us and we didnt get to go very often. So when we did go I was so excited to be seeing my cousins. We all were outside playing and my cousins started singing to me...

Fatty fatty two by four
Couldnt get thru the batnroom door
So she did it on the floor
Licked it up and did some more

Oh how that destroyed my 9 year old self.

Jump ahead to 10th grade...now I had been teased and bullied all thru school but it came to a head one day in the middle of english class. One boy in particular would torment and tease me every chance he got. One day I finally had enough and exploded...I PUNCHED HIM SQUARE IN THE FACE...I got sent to the office for the official reprimand and unofficial pat on the back...

I could easily write a few more stories but I dont want to go to the dark places any more. Mfp is my light and my life now.

alicia0412

Oh man there have been many... but the one that sticks in my mind the most was when a random customer at the restaurant I worked at asked me to put my hand on my hip and stated that I looked like a gallon of milk..... still really bothers me to think about it

Wow. That's really awful. I wish people would THINK before they said stuff like that. Those are the kind of things you can just never forget, unfortunately.

gary241069

Can I steal some of your fat, so I can fry my sausages? You have plenty to spare!

whitneysin

Can I steal some of your fat, so I can fry my sausages? You have plenty to spare!

I don't understand how people don't have enough empathy to realize that these comments are damaging. Some of us are carrying this comments with us 10, 20, or more years later.