rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

Yurippe

From my grandpa, "You and your mother are big and strong. Like oxen." I was 12.

blazingsun14

I've never really been overweight/fat but when I was chubby in grade 5 I think... not sure... it's been 13 years or so...
Some girl called me melon head. Just some shallow nasty girl I didn't get along with. Also, she was a little pudgy herself. (Pot calling the kettle black??)

But now years later by dropping over 13 pounds, lifting weights, running and biking 4 times a week and finally eating right,
I get lots of compliments on how great and slim I look And I saw Facebook pictures of the girl and she's put on a lot of weight. (We are not friends, just saw it through a mutual one). I guess karma's a *****, huh?

AnnLo88

(First post here, hi)

At the time I was around 160 lb (how I would love to see that # on my scale today) but this guy I met here in a bar and I had really hit it off - he was from out of town and when he went back home we started calling and texting and emailing and sharing pictures. I went to go visit him (looking exactly as I had when I met him) and he turned in to a total jerk. Wouldn't take me out anywhere, just acting really weird (but he was perfectly content to have sex - constantly I might add...)

Anyway, when I came back home from this miserable trip he called me and said that he couldn't stand to be seen with me and was repulsed by being intimate with me. He compared his being with me to my phobia of birds. "I'm scared to be around fat people, you're too fat for me. How would you feel if someone forced you to sit in a cage with birds all day long?"

Clearly he's got big problems. CLEARLY. But I can't possibly explain how mortified I was. I never spoke to him again, he had never apologized for being so cruel and years later he had the gall to request my friendship on Facebook. *BLOCKED* Here I had genuinely hoped the earth had swallowed him whole...

Phatgirl420

About 15 years ago I received an anonymus (sp) letter in the mail with info on losing weight...someone actually took the time to cut out an article and mail it to me, and another time that sticks out in my head is at my family's house for Christmas one year about 8 years ago, my aunt came over to me and whispered that my tag was sticking out, tucked it in, than proceeded to tell me that "I really don't want to advertise that" :grumble:

AnnLo88

I cringe because my brother says some mean things to my 10 year old who is over 5'3" and 120ish lbs. Yes she is carrying a bit of weight in her mid section but this is what happens with some girls in puberty. I just want to tell him to go f himself and like it helped me to hear things like this when I was her age. I just hope I can instill some sense of self in her that shows it doesn't matter but worse thing is some other kids have noticed. JERKS!!

I would support your daughter in front of your brother and let her know that what he is doing is inappropriate and unkind. I wish someone would have done that for me growing up. Stand up for her whenever you can and teach her to do the same for herself.

sarahsmiles2013

When I was 12, I went in for my annual physical exam and the nurse practitioner had me remove my top and bend over to check my spine. While in this position, she told my mom "Look at her, she's chunky. She needs to lose weight fast or she'll be ugly the rest of her life." My self-esteem has been non-existent since then.......... My mom did file a complaint with the medical board on her, but of course her peers are going to side with her.

When I was a freshman in high school, the popular boys liked to sit in the back row and push all of the desks in front of them forward. They told this one to push the row that I was sitting in. His reply was, "I can't. Look who's sitting in front of me."

A popular boy kept asking this popular girl out. She told him she wasn't interested and then asked him, "Why not ask Sarah out?" His reply was, "Ewww, that's gross! She's a study study girl and too fat and ugly."

I've had other remarks made over the years, but those are the main ones that stick out at this time.

brookielaw

I feel like I've responded to this in other places, but the worst ever was my ex, the firefighter/paramedic. I always loved that he could throw me over his shoulder. It seemed so manly and tough! One day he and his buddies were talking about a call they had just answered that day and how difficult it was to lift the person to get them out of the house. The ex said that he would have thrown his back out had he not had practice lifting heavy weights and trying to lift me. They went on and on about the poor huge guy. I was humiliated for the both of us. When he heard I was doing my first triathlon said how great it was but if I had said I was going to do one last year he'd be there at the finish line with all of his gear.

The joke is on him though. When I ran into him last August his co-workers went on and on about how great I looked. Last month he didn't recognize me. The doubletake with his jaw dropped was pretty awesome.

retropactum

Just remembered another.
I was at a club dancing with my g/f when a guy I'd never met put his arm around my shoulder and said "I LOVE fat bottomed girls".
I said Yep - I like all of the Queen songs"
Exit deflated *kitten*.

A similar thing happened to an old friend and myself. We were going up an escalator exiting the metro in LA and this crazy man with a Ziplock bag of prescription pills standing behind us started to sing that song. Everyone is the station could hear and were staring. We laughed it off, but I was silently mortified and there went my day-trip in LA.

gfit123

Exact same thing happened to me!

mizzzc

also, when I was a kid in grade 6 elementary school - I was chubby but athletic (as any child could be)

All my class mates picked on me. They would pretend every step I took caused an earthquake and all wobble and fall down, then when iget angry they would laugh and throw pine cones at me.... yep

MikeSloaninLDubya

"Well, you don't look like you missed any meals!"

salvationsdying

My mother telling me when her and my dad would fight "your just like your f****** father, fat and lazy" now I do look just like him (5ft 4, both over 200 pounds our whole lives, same eyes and hair, everything....) but he's far from lazy, has had the same job landscaping for 25+ years (he's currently second in command....pretty much first since the company owner calls once a week to check in) and my mom has been a stay at home mom half my life (I'm 24, my older sister would have been 27 and I got 3 younger still living at home). So how she figured that I'm not sure. But it hurt everytime.

My dad often telling me to be "fat and happy" that hurt simply because he called me fat....

Kids in school made some kind of comment daily, penguin(I messed up my ankle as a kid so I kinda walk funny, guessing they thought penguin was funny for that reason as well), cow, fatty. Lard/fat *kitten* once I hit middle school.fat ***** a few times as well

Then my fiancess ex (who is close to 300pounds) used meetme one time for her and her friend to "ask me a question" saying I looked like miss piggy but fatter. Then continued to call me names and such on the post. I think that ticked me off more then hurt me.

I had a lady at work (I worked retail, now a stay at home mom) tell me fat people shouldn't work in public, as no one wants to see us. That was just one of tons of comments I got at work. Like when I was pregnant with my daughter a customer over heard a coworker and I talking about my up coming baby shower. To which the customer replied "just admit you gained weight so no one has to waste money on baby stuff"

And lastly the ever popular "you have a pretty face, if you lost weight you'd be pretty!"



(Edited because apparently I can't spell today)


People make me sick....

Iwishyouwell

Sitting at the table eating during the repass following my FATHER'S FUNERAL, my brother's brother (not related to me), who is sitting next to me, thinks that's the perfect moment to lean over to me and say something along the lines of 'Hey, you got big again? What happened to all that weight you lost?'. Normally I'd have sliced into someone like that with my words but I was so shocked, and in the throes of GRIEF, that I just let it go.

But I am grateful that despite being overweight to obese the majority of my life, I really only have a handful of rude comments said directly to me about my weight.

ejohnson_ar

My mother takes the cake on all fronts.
She's been overweight my entire life but that certainly didn't stop her from having a lot to say about my weight. Here's some of the ones that used to make me go home and cry:

"Wow, you're really letting yourself go."
"This is the fattest I've ever seen you. It's gross."
"When are you going to stop gaining weight?"
"You were really pretty before you put all that on"

My oldest brother, who had heard it from my mom and assumed it was just fine to join in came up with a new one.
He has put "Jabba The Liz" on all my Christmas presents for years... Huh. Now that I'm smaller than his wife I wonder what he's going to come up with for this year. Eat it you guys! You can't pick on me any more.

fhttrs

Classmate in 4th Grade: "Ew, get out of the way fatty I cant get through" That is the first time someone ever called me fat and to this day (I'm now 28) I still remember exactly where I was, exactly who said it and exactly how it made me feel.

My mother (referencing my ex boyfriend): "If you don't start losing weight and impressing him then someone else will." Cue me blaming all three times that he cheated on me on myself...

Random First Date from a dating site: "You'd be the perfect girl if only you were thin,"

Ldbg289

Years ago a teacher of mine asked me when the baby was due.................I was not preggo by the way(I was like 10)

Saucy_lil_Minx

Sister-in-laws dad: Are you pregnant?

Me: NO

Sister-in-laws dad: Are you sure?

Me: Yeah I'm absolutely EFFING positive

Sister-in-laws dad: well I would go get a pregnancy test.

Me: Well too bad that don't have a stick you can pee on for STUPID!

SrMaggalicious

ex-boyfriend grabbed my belly and wouldn't let go and said "What's this??!!!" in the most intimidating tone...thus, the ex boyfriend.

catb58

I cringe because my brother says some mean things to my 10 year old who is over 5'3" and 120ish lbs. Yes she is carrying a bit of weight in her mid section but this is what happens with some girls in puberty. I just want to tell him to go f himself and like it helped me to hear things like this when I was her age. I just hope I can instill some sense of self in her that shows it doesn't matter but worse thing is some other kids have noticed. JERKS!!

I would support your daughter in front of your brother and let her know that what he is doing is inappropriate and unkind. I wish someone would have done that for me growing up. Stand up for her whenever you can and teach her to do the same for herself.

^^^ This....absolutely ^^^ He has no business saying mean things to your 10 year old. It's unfair and nasty for an adult to take on a child who can't defend herself. I'm sure she feels that as a (supposedly trusted) family member, that it's ok for him to say these things. He needs to be stopped in his tracks immediately when he starts.

EclecticSongbird

One of my elderly customers at the bank told me that I COULD be pretty if I lost 50 pounds. I had to smile and be pleasant to her for the rest of her transaction. As soon as she left, I cried. It was horrible. I hide everytime she walks in the door ad refuse to wait on her.

smmiranda

My 20 year old son pointing at my rolls saying while you said for me to say something about your weight. NO NOT MY OWN FLaSSION BLOOD>

SrMaggalicious

I cringe because my brother says some mean things to my 10 year old who is over 5'3" and 120ish lbs. Yes she is carrying a bit of weight in her mid section but this is what happens with some girls in puberty. I just want to tell him to go f himself and like it helped me to hear things like this when I was her age. I just hope I can instill some sense of self in her that shows it doesn't matter but worse thing is some other kids have noticed. JERKS!!

I would support your daughter in front of your brother and let her know that what he is doing is inappropriate and unkind. I wish someone would have done that for me growing up. Stand up for her whenever you can and teach her to do the same for herself.

^^^ This....absolutely ^^^ He has no business saying mean things to your 10 year old. It's unfair and nasty for an adult to take on a child who can't defend herself. I'm sure she feels that as a (supposedly trusted) family member, that it's ok for him to say these things. He needs to be stopped in his tracks immediately when he starts.

If any of my brothers ever said anything to my daughter like that, there would be blood, and lots of it. Sorry, but i'm primal when it comes to protecting my child.

reedusf

An old man walked past me and said "Every time you see a n*gger, they are big and fat". Racism and fat shaming all in one sentence!

WildcatDeLalune

I've already contributed to this thread once with the picture of the whale my coworkers drew depicting me =/ But I've had a bad day, and I feel better when I vent on these forums. So I'll throw in some more crap that's happened to me over the years just to get it off my chest.

1) Age 9, homeschooled, overweight with short hair and meeting public schooled friends after school at the bus stop. A girl leans out the bus window and goes "Hey are you a boy or a girl?" and I go "Uhh a girl" , only 9 and thinking it should be obvious. Her response? "Did you say a hippopotamus???" Bus drives away with all the kids laughing at me

2) Never picked for anything (dodgeball, three legged race etc) during youth group at church. The church youth leader usually ended up pairing me with one of the kids with disabilities. They were always very nice.

3) Always cornered in the back hall of my old karate school by classmates who were all male and older than me. Poking my fat and saying things like "At least she has boobs" to which one of their friends would laugh and go "Boobs don't count if you're a fat***"... I was only 11 and only girl in the class

4) Being an overweight pre-teen then an obese teen, hiding my rolls under guys clothing and usually had a short haircut. Only people (even at church) wouldn't just call me fat now, they started saying things like I was going to hell because I was "obviously a *kitten*"

5) Having some random stranger sitting at the bar where I used to work say very loudly when I walked by "D***! Look at that huge b**** !!!"

6) Having all my younger sisters tell me that they just prayed they "wouldn't end up like me when they were older"

7) Having friends and coworkers I thought I was close to, tell me things like "I really really like you. I just can't do the whole fat girl thing though."

8) Having my brother, who I've always considered my closest friend, pull a chair out for me "like a gentleman" at a birthday party with a bunch of mutual friends around... only to yell "TIMBER!!" as I sat down. None of our friends laughed or even smiled and I think he knew right away when he saw my face what he did was wrong. I got up right away, ran home crying.

9) When the girl my ex cheated on me with sent me a text saying "I would've told you to your face what was going on but I was afraid you were going to eat me". Well I got that b**** back by facebooking her husband who was currently deployed, telling him the situation. Days later I got another text from her cursing me out and just saying psycho things because he was threatening to divorce her, she said she was going to kidnap me and throw me into a woodchipper!! All I said was "karma is a b**** , lumberjack" and that was that.

There have been LOTS of these situations but those stick out the most. Nowadays I just remind myself that if someone is treating me sh**** that there is something wrong with THEM, not me. Normal people don't go around treating people that way.

I personally want to slap every one of these people for you.

dmlove128

"ARE YOU PREGNANT" ? Ugh coming from my mother in law. seriousy.....dont you think i would tell you?!?!?!

silentKayak

The part that's blowing me away about all these comments is that most people who have had cruel things said about their weight are actually well within the "normal" range! People are just jerks.

Worst thing ever said to me was my freshman year college boyfriend. I was head-over-heels in love ... him, not so much. I had a funny body composition with big muscular legs and thighs and a very slender (flat!) upper body. He kept trying to put me on a diet, assign me exercise, and one time he said, "You look like they cut a fat person and a skinny person each in half and stuck them together." When he (inevitably) cheated on me and dumped me, his only excuse was "Well, I like PRETTY girls".

Fortunately, my taste in men has improved (now 15 yrs married to a wonderful guy who loves me unconditionally, faults and all!), but my self-esteem is still in the toilet.

MWojdak

You go girl! You are a lot nicer then I am.

WildcatDeLalune

It really isn't fair for parents to comment on the kid's weight when they supply the crap and don't monitor where and how much each kid eats!

I don't bring crap into the house now and it's so much easier to resist. My "first line of defense" is to keep it out of the house.

I completely agree. Through all my phases of growing up, my mother would constantly pick on my size--even though I had no control over what was for dinner or what was in the fridge. That, along with other teasing from family, "friends", and schoolmates, led me down a path of self-hate. In middle school, I would do 300 crunches a day hoping that would rid me of my stomach fat and the shame associated with it. Around this same time, I decided to forego Thanksgiving with my family. While they were eating all the typical deliciousness, I only allowed myself one sandwich. That was an awful time in my life and I still haven't fully recovered, especially since my mom teases me to this day. But after she had her fifth child, she never shrunk back to the slim size she was before. And even though she talks about wanting to lose weight, she doesn't take any of the necessary actions and continues to judge me.

On top of this, my family, "friends", and schoolmates would always pick on me because my hair wasn't being long enough, and that it was "nappy", and because I used to bite my nails, and I was always called ugly. I don;t know how I survived the teasing and bullying I went through all those years. Just bringing it up makes me want to cry all over again.

tmbg1

I used to hear, "sister sue, short and stout, didn't grow up, she grew out."
nice....

Imadorkable

This happened when I was in the process of loosing weight the first time around. My husband and I were leaving the movie theater from a date night and there were some teenage boys standing around talking. As we walked by one of the boys went, "Moooo." Needless to say it was hurtful and I just kept walking. My husband didn't hear them or else he would have confronted them.

The other thing happend at my great grandmother's funeral. My grandma was talking about how she was a big women and how much weight she had lost within the last year or so to a church member. Then she pointed at me and said, "She was about that big." There were more fat remarks in that same trip to from her. I love her dearly and I know she has my best interests at heart but those comments hurt. Even when I had lost 70+lbs all she said was "You look great BUT you still need to work on those hips. They are still too wide." Venting done!