rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?
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Lately I have to say being called "skinny" dammit I am not skinny and don't want to be called it because its toatly against what I am aiming for. I am sure they mean it as a compliment but ... that means bones showing to me and that is gross. I am going for healthy and fit with some muscles.
***Its rude to blurt out anything related to physical attributes in my opinion. ****
I don't go calling people sickly or fat or comment on their outfit choice for the day, etc. But hey people need mouth filters a lot.
And yet you don't have a problem calling someone who's bones may protrude out more than others as gross.
Yeah, the irony in this post made me laugh.
I was out for a walk one day and had a water bottle in the pocket of my hoodie. Some woman in a car at the lights yelled out "you're too f**king young to be knocked up!" I stopped dead, looked at her and said "I'm 33, married, and not pregnant you ignorant d!ck". She rolled up her window and started straight ahead until the light turned.1 -
I have gotten the "Are you due?" question and had people touch my stomach. Complete strangers touching me! I told them to shut up and back off. I also can't have kids so insult to injury. People can be complete and total MORONS.0
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I had a few comments here and there when I was bigger, but it's worse now that I'm healthy. I have been asked, "Wow. So did you do crack or was it meth?" I've been told, "Well, you've got to start eating again at some point." Um, I eat 5-6 times a day..it's just healthy most of the time. "You exercise too much; you're obsessed." "You have no boobs." <-- This one bothered me a lot because the girl who said it KNEW this is something I'm insecure about. I coulg go on and on about the snarky things people have had to say since I decided to get in shape.
Lucky for me I am very sarcastic and have the tendency to fire something completely over-the-top back at an insulting person. The girl who commented on my boobs says to me last week, "I would offer you a piece of toast, but you can't eat bread." Me: "I can eat bread; I just don't want to be fat." All the while she was sitting there, all fat. It was glorious.0 -
My mom, herself being morbidly obese as well, told me when I was about 7 and didn't even have a weight issue that I had three fat rolls when I slouched once in the tub. One thing that irks me is the polite way of saying you put on weight: 'you look great! How much weight have you lost?' Knowing full well they know and recognize you've put on a good 40 pounds since you saw them last.0
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At my current weight, 130 ish, an ex was talking about how attracted he was to me and then said "It surprises me because I'm normally not attracted to plus sized girls." I was just like.... I'm 132 and a size 6.... I mean....0
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Its interesting/ how cruel people can be. With weight its like acceptable to be rotten according to our society... apparantly0
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"for a fat person you sure don't sweat very much."0
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In June, my ribs popped out of place to the point where I couldn't breathe. I thought I was having a heart attack, so I called 911 and they sent an ambulance to my house. Everything was fine until I was laying in the hospital bed, and the doctor told me I should really consider trying to get rid of some of my extra weight. Which wasn't rude at all, but it was definitely hard to hear. It was my wake up call, though!0
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Yeah, I was in a hospital for mental health failure...reasons and the nurses were having a bit of a laugh at the sight of me shirtless on the table. I'm sure I was a sight, but that kinda stuck with me.0
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My sister (who isnt particularly a nice person but is wealthy and super skinny)... told me when I was around 24.. that she read a great article that made her think about me. It was about EMOTIONAL OVER EATING..... Yeah, I hung up and called my other sister bawling my eyes out and called her a few choice names. 10 years later... we still aren't close. Shocker! The other sister and I are best friends!0
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From age five my dad called me "bertha belly".
Girls in high school called me "mushroom".
I could go on for days.0 -
About 6 yrs ago after my 2 kid.
I quit junk food and sodas and walked a lot.
lost the weight pretty quickly.
I had someone insinuate I was on drugs.
Which I was not.
Life in a small town0 -
Guess I live in a nice neigbourhood. Rarely ever get called things even at 350. I am also 6' maybe helps.
Meanest thing I can think of was in school, someone put a paper on my back saying "Caution Wide Load". I just rarely let stuff like that bother me though.0 -
I've posted this on here before when the thread was older. Figured I'd repost.
A group of my coworkers did this at one of my old restaurant jobs. They tore out a piece of a kids menu and colored it in with my name and everything, posted it in the kitchen =/ I laughed it off, but it was very hurtful, especially since it was a group effort. I started out at over 400 lbs and have been obese my entire life so I've had my fair share of mean comments and actions thrown my way. Don't ever think that what you say or do to a person won't stick with them after you're gone, that's not always necessarily true. I've had this picture for 8 years. It used to depress the crap out of me when I was younger, now I look back on it and I'm just glad I moved past that part of my life and don't allow poisonous people around me anymore.
*BIG HUGS*
My highest weight was 400lbs as well, and I'm SO proud of you, for how far you've come! Way to go! Shame on them, for being pieces of ****! People never cease to amaze me. It took me years to realize that people who make fun of others for their weight, looks, or anything else, judging a person before they're getting to know them as a person, whether they have a good heart, their intentions towards others are good, likes/dislikes, ect, these people are insecure, and have issues with themselves. It has nothing to do with me, and everything to do with them. As much as the ****ty things they've said to me in the past might've hurt and pissed me off, I just feel sorry for them, now. I realize what a hollow existence they must live to care so much about such trivial things, instead of the things that really matter in life.
As for what's been said to me, I've had the classic: "You have such a pretty face", and "You'd be so beautiful if you lost weight", I had one doctor look at me and say, "Wow! What a body mass!", I think I weighed maybe 250lbs at the time, and the saddest part of all, I was going to him for Phentermine. Needless to say, I didn't go back.
I agree with some others who were talking about that they'd had even more problems since they'd lost weight. I realize this is a contradiction of sorts to what I said, but I genuinely can't help but feeling honked hearing this constantly. Either when seeing people out, or with a photo posted on Facebook, I'll often get messages from people (majority men), about how I "grew up to be so beautiful", and that I'm "simply stunning", and all this other bull****- which is code for- "you're not fat anymore, it's a shame your married, I'd go out with you now." Yes, of course, I realize it is their problem, their loss, and I'm a hell of a lot better off without ANY of them, but it's just insulting. So, yes, I know that's a walking contradiction there, but I did allow that to get under my skin a little.0 -
I have had some exhausting conversations since I hit my goal weight. Now let me preface this by saying I have been 150-170 for a long time. People are used to me like that. Before gaining weight I was 100-110 until I was 35ish. I am petite by nature, and am only 5'2" tall.
So over the past few weeks or so I have gotten a lot of strong reactions from people seeing me for the first time in years, some in just 6 months or so.
I am 118 lbs. Most of the men I ran into said "WoW you look awesome!" and hung around to discuss diet and exercise.
EVERY woman has said something derogative except the one healthy weight friend I have since childhood.
"Oh wow, you are so skinny, do you have.........(whispers) cancer?"
"You have lost a LOT of weight!! (no compliment) You know at our age we need some fat to make us look younger"
"OMG did you stop eating??? You are so scrawny!"
OH and the one who said "Oh you are so thin, shame you have no boobs now!"
I finally asked a guy I know that is a straight shooter if I looked 'sickly'. He looked surprised and told me NO I look healthier than I did in my 20's or 30's. Keep doing what you are doing honey!
I wonder if it is a feeling of lack of self confidence on the females side? Jealousy? Envy? Or are they just not HEARING how hurtful their comments are?0 -
The worst I would say is the fat word scattered thru out my life maybe 5 memorable times.
At age 13 my dad, "Be the fattest girl in your class!"
Age 16 a classmate, "is your boyfriend fat?" ( I was a size 14)
Maybe my 30's an Older relative, "I didn't recognize you,you got so FAT!
Maybe age 40, my son's classmate, "Where's fat a**!
Maybe age 58, my mom, "I was crying cause you're so FAT!"
My heaviest I was 220. Could be worse right?
Anyway somebody should write a book about the right way to encourage others to loose instead of rude comments.0 -
Wow, there's some really awful stuff in here. OP, I really hope you're not with the guy who told you that he didn't find you attractive anymore.
For me, the worst is something my dad says like a broken record: "When I was your age, I had a 28-inch waist, and your mother had a 23-inch waist, so clearly *this* (gestures at my stomach and hips) isn't genetic..."
Well, dad, now you're twice my weight and diabetic, so how's that for karma?0 -
Not the "rudest thing" but prit f=%!@!% rude, don't you girls just hate when people say "big girl"? It makes me want to commit an act of violence.0
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The rudest thing I've had done to me was from someone who claimed I was their best friend for years. When I was around 14 I weighed 125 which is the perfect weight for my height and she weighted about 10-20 pounds lighter than me but is taller. Even as I've gained weight I've always worn the same sizes for certain articles of clothing and she in fact wears the same size. In the middle of mall when I was showing what I bought she yelled "How the hell are you the same size as me!" Most embarassing moment ever.
She constantly made small remarks on how I looked and things I did, how I ate. Any way to pick on me, she would. I had no other friends at the time so I took it all with a tub (yes a tub) of salt. After a few years of gaining mass amounts of weight,complacency and health issues getting the best of me, I decided to kick myself into gear and start my weight loss journey. She was and is still the same size she's always been but she decided that she all of the sudden needs to lose 30 pounds. I bought a stationary bike and she had to buy one. I stopped talking to her about things that I wanted to do for myself because she would continue to 1 up me.
She to this day, about a year later now, posts about how she's 105 pounds and she's lost so much weight and how she didn't even do anything to lose weight and how its so offensive that people think she is bulemic. I've thought she's bulemic as well for the pure fact that she is never active, eats more than most men, and some how has lost that 30 pounds.. Although I had the courtesy to not annouce this to the entire mall....
Needless to say I don't talk to her anymore, I just don't feel like I need someone in my life that makes me feel like less of a person and I just don't need someone who (unsucessfully) tries to flirt with my boyfriend,but thats a story for another day.0 -
soinfinite wrote: »In June, my ribs popped out of place to the point where I couldn't breathe. I thought I was having a heart attack, so I called 911 and they sent an ambulance to my house. Everything was fine until I was laying in the hospital bed, and the doctor told me I should really consider trying to get rid of some of my extra weight. Which wasn't rude at all, but it was definitely hard to hear. It was my wake up call, though!
Like you said, it probably wasn't said with malintent but I HATE going to the doctors when they start to mention my weight. I never eat fast food or drink soda but they always insist anyways that I need to stop doing those things -.-0 -
softblondechick wrote: »One time I went into a store, shopping for some things for my daughter. I was looking at jeans, and the sales person came over to me and told me they did not carry any clothing in the store in my size. It was basically an invitation to leave. "We don't want anyone your size in our store.". It was pretty clear.
I had this problem once. My mom had recently moved to another city and when I was visiting her wanted to buy me some new clothes like she used to before she moved, so we went to their mall. I was overweight at about 180 but I was and am a size 13 pant, not considered plus sized yet, and the lady at the store came up to us and asked what we were shopping for and made a point to show us that the plus sized section was across the store.
Humoring the lady we walked over there and looked at some of the clothes. I held up the pants to myself and even tried some on, the size she suggested all fell right off of me....0 -
I like to just come back over the top with the rudest stuff I can think of when people do that.
Once a total stranger looked at me at a store and said something about me being fat.
I replied "hey, I can lose weight. But you will always be a vapid tvvat."
That sort of thing.0 -
I've been called a lot of things in my life one time I was walking minding my own business and a group of people called me a manatee (I only weighed like 150-160 at the time. I've also been told I have a fat a s s while walking past someone's house in the summer haha people are so rude!0
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When I was skinny, people told me to eat. Now that I'm chubby, friends and family do the sly insults but most strangers are silent in the sizing up. I also live in Australia where most people are less likely to say rude things to strangers. Once working in a pub I got "Are you pregnant?" and I smiled and said, "No, just fat!" and we had a laugh. In Cambodia, my friend's landlord brought me fruit, pointed to my tummy and said 'cholesterol'. Too funny! But he also said it to my super hot friend. Everyone has their opinion! All we can do is shrug it off and do our own thing. Don't let it get you down.
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A lot people have commented on negative comments after or as your losing weight. I have one that stands out.
When I had gotten down to just about my goal weight I went to a party and saw a few random folks that I hadn't seen since before I started getting healthy. One guy came up to me and said "WOW you've lost sooooo much weight!!!" which was great until he followed it up with "I mean you were pretty before, and I would have totally banged you, but now I would call you the next day and not just sneak out in the morning."
Needless to say everyone was shocked. Some guys....
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About ten years ago, I failed my height and weight test for my semi-annual physical training test. One of my leaders said I have a belly made for a 40 year old. It hurt, but that motivated me to get my buttucks back in shape0
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When I was doing nursing and one of the patients said to me when I was helping her in the shower "How could you let yourself go that much? Why would you waste your youth on having a big fat disgusting body? Girl, get it together!"
Why can't people just mind their own damn business?!0 -
I have experienced it from the other side of the scale too "you're getting too skinny, do you throw up your food" "oh my god look at the little bones sticking out in your hands- you look anorexic! Are you anorexic?! You are withering away!!! " that was when I went to 56 kg from 116. And it hurt just as much as being called out for being obese. It made me realise that no matter what size you are, people will be mean.0
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I recently had an incident in a busy supermarket the other day.
There was 3 young girls (about 16/17) behind me following me around the shop repeating over and over "oi fatty fatty fatty fatty fatty and ohhhh should you really be putting that in your basket?"
The looks of disgust they were getting as I walked through the store was phenominal because they would turn and say it to other people too.
I ignored them until I got to the most crowed part of the shop and then I let rip.
I wont tell you what I said because it was horrible and I felt a little ashamed, until shoppers starting applauding.
The girls look horrified and ran off.
Good for you! Applause!!!
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