rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

A part of me is spiteful and I want to lose weight because of a rude women who makes snide comments at my weight.

This women is European and she thinks all Americans are fat lazy and uneducated. She married my boyfriend's brother and she would constantly talk about my weight.

One of the craziest things shes ever said to me was when I told her I got a second job. I was so excited to have another source of income because I was really struggling for some time.

instead of congratulating me she said " that's good..gives you less time to eat"

She said this in front of my boyfriend and her husband and they didn't think anything of it. I felt like i had gone insane.

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Jaywalker_7

A group of friends that were all guys were whispering as I walked up to them and I asked what they were being so secretive about. They tried to brush it off as nothing but I insisted they let me in on the secret. I thought maybe it was a dirty joke or some piece of gossip. The one finally says "Fine. We were talking about how insanely HOT you would be if you were smaller"... I was crushed. I suppose it was nice to hear that they saw my "potential", but it was still mortifying to know they were all sitting around talking about my being fat :-/

kait_marie24

Back when I was big, I had a lot of people put their hands on my belly and ask if I was pregnant. Also I had a coworker point out my "rolls".

SpikeTailTurtle

The one that sticks with me the most is when I was in high school arguing with my gym teacher about running the mile and I couldn't because my asthma had been acting up because of a Chemistry accident the period before and I could barely breathe then he was like "whatever." threw his hands up and as he was walking away he says to the other gym teacher, "I hate fat girls. They always have an excuse not to even try."

SomeNights246

I got more crap after losing the weight than when I was heavier.

Honestly... me, too these days. From people I know, anyway. From strangers I get the same amount of crap.

But from people I know.. it seems as though they feel safer insulting skinny/thin people. I guess because they feel like we should have confidence. But that isn't always the case.

Fat shaming is an issue. I won't say that what I have gotten now is worse than what people who are overweight go through. It isn't. Not necessarily. But it still can be hurtful when people who 'care' about you fling insults because you're thin.

Though, I've grown to believe it's rude to comment on someone's body at all. Positive comments can be nice, but even those can be.. backhanded at times.

xMermaidx

This is still kinda unbelievable when I remember it. I was at the grocery store with my husband and our only son at the time, he wasnt a year old yet, and I put some of those pudding snack packs in our cart, as I walked away from my husband this old man, in a scooter-type thing, went over to him and said "you shouldn't let her get those, that is what keeps her chunky". My husband tells me what happened and the way he said just what his response was to the old creep I almost felt bad for him. Disgustingly enough, this same man had been checking me out from when we first crossed paths earlier in our shopping trip.

N0VV

I am a healthy BMI, always have been.

although, my mom loves to make comments like,

"your stomach is getting bigger than your boobs"
"When i was your age i was half your weight!"

ALL throughout my childhood

Now that i am trying to eat healthy and exercise she says things like,

"Ya how long is that going to last?"

I'm shocked i never developed more of an eating disorder.

CharleePear

Oh I forgot the story of the time I was spat on for wearing a bikini at the beach when I was fat...so what, sorry I offended you with my existence.
Then there was the many times walking down the street when men would tell me how disgusting I was, I was grabbed at and prodded like an object or monster. That was when I was at my highest weight of 100kg or so. Though I got fat comments and still get fat comments well below that. I am now 76.9kg. I have one of those weird turkey necks, you know those chins that don't really look great side on or without a good angle, so I get mistaken for being bigger than I am a lot.

obladioblada2

This is so sad... People are mean.:brokenheart:

Albert Einstein
Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the
the universe.

sweetbamaTLC

"Are you sure you're not losing too much? You look sick."

sweetsarah819

I always 'LOVE' microagressions toward overweight people. My personal favorite, "you have such a pretty face." What does that even mean? If only I had a pretty body? Once a doctor that I met, not while being a patient but just in public, said to me "If you just had a body to match your face you'd be perfect." Um..."thanks?"
I also go crazy when people tell you, "You look comfortable".Particularly when I tried to look nice. Grrr...

WildcatDeLalune

When I first started trying online dating I had a date with this really attractive guy. Things were going well, and then at the end of the date he looked at me and said, "We're going back to my place right? I only wanted to go on this date because you were fat and probably desperate to get laid. I just need to get laid, so after tonight I won't be contracting you." So when I asked him why he thought I was desperate for attention he said, "Fat girls never get any attention from attractive guys like me. So when a guy like me pays attention to them, they'll do anything. Fatties are the best because you can string them along just by giving them a little bit of attention." I promptly asked for the check, paid for my dinner and said, "I'm taking myself home because I know how to treat myself right, unlike you. And I'll probably do a better job at it." That was the night I started my weight loss program, I saw him after I dropped fifty pounds and he said he'd love to date me now I was skinnier. I told him no way.

Haha! Serves him right.

xenu01

I went to denny's with my family and ordered the fit breakfast. Egg whites, turkey bacon, some toast and some oatmeal. He went through my plate. First told me I shouldn't eat the bacon, I was going to die from pork. I had to tell him it was turkey. Then he told me I shouldn't have the eggs, I was going to die from cholesterol and diabetes. I had to explain egg whites to him. Then he told me I should just have eggs and not anything else because I'm too big of a girl. I started eating alone in the dark then.

I want to go back in time and crack an egg on his head!

ShortMrsN

I was 11 and at my friends and her brother (who i'd never even talked to before) said "if you keep eating so much you'll get fat."... I was just a small amount off being underweight. I'm now 35 and that comment has stuck with me.

My Grandmother said something similar to me....from the age of 8 until we moved out of her house when I was 11. She constantly told me I would get fat thighs if I eat this or that. Thing is I was tiny, had the "thigh gap" (due to bowed legs!!) you could stick a fist through and not an ounce of spare fat on me!! No one in my immediate paternal family had a weight issue so I don't know what her problem was!!
I had food and body issues for years after......my new-at-the-time step mother couldn't believe how little food I ate

I hid my body under baggy clothes constantly.

noobinboston

I've been asked if I was pregnant many, many times, people are very rude!

icello

I was at a water park with my "friend." We were getting ready to go down a slide with a two person tube, and the life guard asked who was sitting in front. My "friend said "usually fat people go in back and skinny in front" and got in the front!

cookieinbk82

When I weighed 238 pounds I was told that I look like a baby cow by my manager at work.

Prisme

My daughter was graduating and I wanted a nice dress to wear to the ceremony. I went into a ritzy upscale shop and started browsing when a nicely dressed gentleman came up to me and asked if he could help me. I explained it was my daughters graduation and what kind of a dress I was looking for. He then looked me up and down, from my toes to head, and said "I don't believe we carry your size". I was speechless. He just stood there staring at me till I left the store.

kentwhale

I was in a pub & drunken old bloke (well probably middle aged but I was in my twenties so he looked pretty old to me) came up & asked me why I was wearing a silver brooch in shape of a ballerina, I replied because it was a present & he said well it's not as though you look like a ballerina is it - looking me up & down while he said it, the inference being I was far too fat to be a ballerina (which I was). Yeah, thanks for pointing that cos I though I was going to be dancing the lead in Swan Lake. Another time a complete stranger - another bloke - came up to me at a club & said, I can't believe how fat you are, I mean you are really fat. I was 5ft 7" & about 156 lbs & it was about 35 years ago when there were not so many overweight people about, but still. Thing is these oafs think they are telling you something you don't already know - like you haven't noticed yourself that you are fat. I mean, I would never go up to some bloke & tell him he was pug ugly, had terrible dandruff, halitosis or needed a personality transplant, but these *kitten* think it's perfectly acceptable to make really personal statements to a complete stranger. In those days I was so ashamed of being fat/ugly/not intelligent enough I just agreed with them but now I'd tell them to shove their opinions where the sun don't shine or give them a slap. Grrrrrrrrrrr

rachaelkberry

Ater my divorce, I got on Match.com and one of the first dates I went on made the comment under his breath, I normally don't date fat girls. I acted like I didn't hear it, but it gave me the motivation to lose a lot of weight and date a lot cuter guys than him.

Very similar experience. Some dating site, met at a bar for a drink. He went to the "toilet" and didnt come back. Sent a message to my mobile phone saying "you said you were 'athletic' build... your fat". At the time i was 172cm, 70kgs flat and playing sport 4 times a week ... i WAS athletically built but I had curves and i wasn't a twig. SO rude and it put me off online dating completely.. Im going to meet my fellas the regular way.

Maqneta

was called a beached whale when I weighed my highest (240+)

SheGlows

My grandma told me I looked pregnant in my prom dress and proceeded to ask me if I was a whale.

I asked how her diabetes medication was treating her.

JBcat123

Good thing ur on a diet I won't b squished in the future.

skittle316

I got called a fat *insert racial slur*, by my crush. I deluded myself into not giving him any blame, in reality he was nothing but an *kitten*. Other than that I don't remember, i've gotten the "fatass/fatty" every now and then,since it was something i didn't deny myself it didn't offend me. I get more offended when people comment on what I eat.
*I remember my friends saying "you'd be so pretty if you weren't fat", that stung a bit but i agreed so i got over it pretty quickly.

Chrysalisobel

"Are you sure your weight is THAT low?"

A question that's been asked as if I haven't looked like I've lost any weight. A question that should be asked with my height (I'm 5'2") taken into account.

Ump78

My soon to be ex wife said, and I quote, "Why would I want to have sex with you. I don't even want to look at you. You're a big fat pig." I played it off at the time, but I was devastated.

KameHameHaaaa

I've posted this on here before when the thread was older. Figured I'd repost.

A group of my coworkers did this at one of my old restaurant jobs. They tore out a piece of a kids menu and colored it in with my name and everything, posted it in the kitchen =/ I laughed it off, but it was very hurtful, especially since it was a group effort. I started out at over 400 lbs and have been obese my entire life so I've had my fair share of mean comments and actions thrown my way. Don't ever think that what you say or do to a person won't stick with them after you're gone, that's not always necessarily true. I've had this picture for 8 years. It used to depress the crap out of me when I was younger, now I look back on it and I'm just glad I moved past that part of my life and don't allow poisonous people around me anymore.

Gidzmo

when are you due? I've gotten this a few times in the past. I can't have kids at all either. So thanks for making it that much better.

I've gotten that a couple of times. The really annoying ones come from the family: either comments about my weight in the department store (when school-clothes shopping) or from someone who has no room to be yapping (a diabetic relative who's very overweight telling me I need "to wear a girdle").

Fitdoge

I sat in a Panera Bread having a rare treat (bread bowl) and some younger teens were across from me. They talked like I wasn't there, saying things like "Wow, I can't believe she can fit in ONE chair" and "ew, I ordered the same thing she did. I don't wanna be a fat cow!"
I had to listen to them continue to mock and belittle me for the better part of my hour long lunch break. I could barely finish my food and left in tears. I wish I could say "I don't listen to people like that anymore", but I still feel like a cow. I've never had someone sit across from me and actively mock my weight before like that. They treated me like I wasn't human anymore.

chickwithpencil

Our former landlady, when my mother and I went to rent a place from her, was like "you must take all the food away from your mother." When we mentioned to her that I had epilepsy, she told me "would it help if you lost weight?" After that, I ended up having to excuse myself and go outside, where I called her a few nasty names out of earshot. Had we not needed the place so badly... *sigh*

I've had people say things about my weight before and I can usually brush it off. It's annoying, but I can deal. The moment someone brings my epilepsy into the conversation, I am no longer amused.

Squatch3099

"You're a pretty lady but you're kinda big in the butt". I married this guy. He has since shut up about the butt.