rudest thing anyone has ever said about your weight?

bermudamel

Pipcd: it hurt more than I can say. The last person who said it to me I finally snapped and replied "yeah and I almost died 4 years ago and needed open heart surgery because I had a heart defect nobody ever detected would you like to discuss that next?"

joyangbax

That I was so BIG it looked like I ate a person.

WW_Jude_V2

Nothing he actually said but my lame-*kitten* father brought me a pair of his jeans and told me to try them on. I told him I didn't want to but he insisted. I was about 16 years old at the time and not that heavy - probably about 125 or so. I put the danged pants on and they were way too big.

He was disappointed and it took me years to realize it wasn't that he thought I was big but that he somehow thought he was as small as I was. In the meantime I suffered some really strong self esteem issues due to his continued behavior of this sort.

When I did suffer from a weight problem years later, his disdain was palpable.

Haven't had any interaction with him since 2001 and my sense of self is so much healthier!

ButterButtLou

I have always been voluptuous, curvy, thick, fat, whatever, so I have always gotten negative and snide comments. One night, I was out with my friends and one particular man was hound dogging me ALL night. When we all shut the club down and it was obvious that I was not leaving with him (never gave him any reason to think I would) he said, "What's wrong with your stomach, are you pregnant? Oh no, you're fat." I had been fat all night and it did not bother him. It is 30 years later and still remember that.

mirandarutherford

Life-long tubbo so far too many to count but my top three are:

-"When are you due?" (never been pregnant)
-"you'd be the perfect woman of you could just drop a few dress sizes"
-"You aren't that fat for an American."

(American living in the UK, i think he meant it as a compliment?)

jhellwig828

I was in a wedding two years ago and a girl I had known since high school made a comment about my dress size. At the time I was a size 14. I saw her last weekend for the first time since that day and she made a comment about how much weight I had lost. She just couldn't believe that I had 50 pounds to lose the last time she saw me! Right. Why else would you comment? I'm sure she didn't even remember saying anything but I certainly did.

And it wasn't me but I was out with a bunch of girlfriends at a club a few years ago. This guy was trying to make a serious pass on a girl with us who is married. When another friend made a comment that he should get lost, the guy said "You're just mad because you're the fattest out of all your friends." I can't even fathom saying something like that to someone!

zilannoj

The only one I can think of is this woman repeatedly screaming "FAT!" while I was taking a walk.

Jennloella

I get terribly sick when pregnant - like feeding tube sick. My 4th baby is 11 weeks old and when I was about 8 months pregnant a stranger told me that I looked sick, didn't look pregnant, was probably on drugs and killing my baby. I was so pissed my husband had to step in. I was starving but vomiting up everything I ate including water, had a picc line in my arm, a standing order for IVs, got my nutrition through a tube, was in beginning stages of kidney failure, and was in line at the pharmacy to pick up my hundreds of dollars worth of anti nausea medicine normally prescribed to chemo patients. I wanted to slap that lady for her "opinion" without knowing anything about me! I think anyone that without knowing you or where you came from is rude for giving their opinion on others weight.

taraleen

This past winter, I bought a car. The salesman made a comment about having a baby, but I thought I heard him wrong. Later on, he called me to follow up, and closed the conversation with, "And good luck on the birth of your baby!" I was NOT pregnant. I was mortified and embarrassed and sat in shock for a couple of minutes before I cried.

freedomwriter88

Always being "big", "fat", "husky", and simply overweight, I have a ton.

I was mocked in elementary school, and someone started a rumor that I was pregnant. I was 11 at the time.

My coach yelling, "Get down the court, fat a**," loud enough for everyone to hear.

Lastly, I was walking on campus to an exam, and tripped and sprained my ankle. A car driving by yelled out, "Pig!"

That was rather therapeutic.

jnv7594

Too many to count. One that stands out though happened when I was only 10 years old. I had an older sister that was really thin and popular. She brought one of her boyfriends and his buddy over one day, and I was outside on the porch sitting on the step. One of them looked me up and down and said "work out" while he gave me a nasty look. This is the same guy that said to me a few weeks later "your sister is so hot...what happened to you." I have never forgotten those two comments unfortunately. Still remember them clearly 28 years later.

1shauna1

I've had someone try to insist I take their seat on the bus...sorry, not pregnant just fat! And one time recently walking in the parking lot a man drove by and yelled "Lose some weight!". Thanks, you just ruined my weekend.

kbeyer23

Lots of pregnancy assumption stories on this thread! I have told my husband sooooo many times you NEVER, EVER, NEVER ask a woman about being pregnant unless she has specifically told you she is! One of my worst comments is actually the opposite- I was working out at Curves, 7 months pregnant and chatting about baby things with some of the other ladies who were working out too when one commented, "Are you SURE you are pregnant? Like REALLY sure it's not just fat?" And she was totally serious, too. I laugh about it now, and maybe it was the preggo hormones but I was so hurt!!

usernameMAMA

During the latter months of both of my pregnancies nobody said a word to me about it even though it was painfully obvious I was expecting. I think people were afraid to be wrong, lol!

I had a guy tell me I was fat at a bar once and I punched him in the face. Not my proudest moment but I was drunk so...

Dennis4766

Keep running fatboy.... and I did.

kroady

When I was in high school ( & not overweight at all), this one boy always called me Mrs. Piggy. I have never forgotten. I have also been asked if I was pregnant or just told blatantly that "you've gained weight."" As if I didn't know.

cyl544

At my kindergarten sons field day and a little girl comes up to me and says "you're a big fat guy" and then laughed and walked away. A 6 year old.

MrGonzo05

I had an intern tell me "you are very fat! You should run until you are not so fat anymore." LOL

fallenangel316

While on the bus a few months ago I had a gentleman offer me his seat. After letting him know it wasn’t necessary he turned to me and said “please.. you shouldn’t be standing in your condition”.. (he thought I was pregnant) part of me wanted to rip his head off.. but I just smiled and said “ok thank you”.. I didn’t want to scold him for something he didn’t know was wrong because he may never have offered another seat to anyone again. Needless to say it was a very awkward and uncomfortable bus ride home

CrappyMornings

Before I lost the weight my SO's father met me at his mother's birthday party. She was turning 80 or something.. I came to meet the family, which I was so excited about! His father saw me, pretended to be happy..and then told his son when I went to sit down that he should "reconsider because of her weight..." This was a week after the same SO rescued me first flight out to Indiana from Massachusetts at 6am because of a violent situation and then drove my car which was a junker 2000 Plymouth Neon all the way back to MA with me! Haha. His father is an *kitten* but my SO has a good heart.

_Terrapin_

Hurry up *kitten*! Oh, you said weight, thought you said wait.

seltzermint555

Boss explaing how someone looked, and I quote, "she was big, I mean probally like your size".

Took the knife out of my back where she put it last week and stuck it in my heart.

That's freaking AWFUL :-(

While I guess it wasn't *quite* as harsh...in my old company one of the bosses was telling a bunch of us at lunch how enormous her sister in law had become, and a kind coworker made a comment like "Ah I'm sure she's not that big" which I believe was said because of me sitting there, she was clearly trying to downplay the topic. The boss said, "Oh no, she is, she is like 250 lb I don't just mean plus size". I weighed like 290-300 at the time. Granted, even the nurses at my doctor's office expressed surprise that I was at a higher weight than they would have thought...but I think pretty much anyone would have known I was at least 250. Ugh.

Archon2

Well, I have a couple of incidents that someone could consider very rude if they weren't innocently stated from the absolute closest of family members. And on the end, helped motivate...

It was last Christmas time, my two youngest children (7 and 9 yrs) patted my round stomach and compared me favorably to Santa Claus after watching one of those classic specials on TV. We all laughed, and I threw in some "Ho Ho Ho!" and such, but it did give me some "food for thought" regarding my waistline! They really thought they were complementing me, heh.

Then a bit later, my 100 year old Italian grandmother kept trying to get me to eat more at a family meal, but also kept patting me on the belly every so often and saying, "Hey you have to get rid of this..." Keep in mind, she is very forgetful and did this a few times without noticing the contradictions. Again, it made me and my other family members chuckle.

But I think these incidents kind of stayed in my mind and lead me to redouble my efforts once springtime hit this year. I had been exercising for a few years, but realized that I had to get a real idea as to how much I was eating for once instead of winging it. And thus, discovered MFP, which has proved invaluable to my making progress! It really makes things easy to control if you log accurately and honestly.

elektrolization

I am 5'4" 204 lbs. Just 3 weeks ago my fiancés uncle said to him "you look like you've put on a few pounds! Trying to catch up to her?" (While pointing at me, of course). My fiance is 5'11 & 180 lbs...he is a skinny guy! Yeah, he used to be like 170, so even skinnier. It hurt, but I fake laughed. Because he's old and apparently old people lose their thought-to-speech filter over time.

fifty6ford

Just 2 days ago I had a guy I work with say to me, "I think you're a pretty woman, but your weight takes away from it" I know he didn't mean to hurt my feelings, but couldn't get it out of my head. The next day I told him I needed to talk to him. I let him know that his words were hurtful, though I did believe he hadn't meant to hurt my feelings. He apologized and said he didn't mean to hurt my feelings, he was glad that I'm taking steps to get healthier. I didn't mention it to my husband until after I confronted him, my husband would have gone off on him! I'm 10 years older than my husband and the heaviest I've been in my life, but have never felt so loved! (Almost the heaviest, I've lost 6 lbs since starting MFP)

ninyagwa

My childhood physician "You would be such a pretty girl if you lost weight"

My dad after I stopped working out for a while in my mid 20's, literally poked me in my stomach, which I flipping hate (he's the reason I have oversensitive touch & space boundary issues) and said "I guess you stopped going to the gym huh."

NH_1970

When I was a kid - 'wide load' every time I got on the bus.
When I was a teen - you have such a pretty face, if only you'd lose weight
When I was an adult - "you're huge" when I was pregnant.
Also 'you're a fat b*tch' when I wasn't

Most encouraging thing is - my personal trainer now just is so sweet, she's encouraging plus I've forgiven the people listed above for the harm they did to me.

PurrlyGirl

I was heavily pregnant (on top of being just plain ol' fat), and I went to a support group. While I was inside, someone slashed my tires. I come outside, and these scary lookin' dudes start getting real pushy about "helping" me. I drive to close by and slightly safer (read: public) location. While I'm waiting on AAA to show up, I was starving, and the only thing I had was a honey bun that my husband got me 'cause I'd been craving them. I was munching and this homeless dude comes up to me starts hassling me about buying him something to eat at Burger King (it was adjacent to where I was parked), and when I declined, he goes on a tirade, yelling at me, "Your fat a-- doesn't even need that honey bun and you know it, but I'm starving, you b----!!".

Just rolled up the window and kept chewing. Jerk.

I guess it's not that terrible, but it was a pretty nasty cherry on a pretty awful day.

arewethereyet

Ok, this thread needs a serious BOOYAH! moment.

My daughter was heavy all through middle school. She also had a serious crush on a cute boy. The boy was really nice to her, but dated only the thinner girls. My daughter is beautiful, with long thick blonde hair, big blue eyes, and even at her heaviest had a nice curvy body.

Thank God this boy was never mean to her or I would have been required to kick is azz.

He goes off to the private high school, DD goes to the public.

Four years later we are standing by her car. She was very healthy size 3, white dress, tan little beach bunny, long blonde hair hanging down her back.

She was leaning into the trunk for cap and gown when I saw this little Toyota, music blaring, drive by very slowly. Same car circles and comes back around. DD continues rummaging through the trunk.

When he came around for the 3rd time, she stood up straight, swung her hair and beamed an awesome smile.

I said "Oh babe, that guy is SO watching you!" she smiled and said "Yup, that is Alex" :happy:

He tried so hard to talk to her before and after commencement and she completely ignored him. (sigh, those moments are wonderful):smokin:

mgpearce4

"you look like you've gained weight in your face....but you wear it well!"