Scared to lose my breasts when i lose all the weight

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  • ValGogo
    ValGogo Posts: 2,168 Member
    Are boobs really that big of a deal?
    I'd rather be a titless fit chick with an *kitten* over a fatty with some boobs. Eh that's just me though.

    Ditto!
  • ValGogo
    ValGogo Posts: 2,168 Member
    Let me give you a slightly different perspective, and I apologize in advance if this comes across as b*tchy.

    I'm a breast cancer survivor. Four years ago I had roughly 1/3 of my left breast removed, followed by seven weeks of radiation. After the trauma of surgery and rads I opted not to have reconstruction, consequently "the girls" don't match. My surgeon gave me the option of reducing the unaffected breast so they would be proportionate.

    My husband told me that I meant more to him that a pair of boobs, matching or otherwise. In the end what should matter most is your health.

    And, this is the #1 answer. Thank you for your honesty and for bringing us back from outer space. Glad you are still here with us and you have an awesome mate.

    :flowerforyou:
  • DeadliftAddict
    DeadliftAddict Posts: 746 Member
    You will more than likely look better overall to your husband with a great body. Plus, you will feel better and be more healthy. Elliot Hulse said one time. And this was more about skinny guys who just cut for abs than your situation but it may put things into perspective. I'm also not calling you fat cause I have never seen you. But, abs on a skinny guy are like big boobs on a fat chick. It just doesn't count. Hope this helps. Good luck.
  • levitateme
    levitateme Posts: 999 Member
    Personally, I find "fat boobs" to be very unattractive. I'm referring to people who are not naturally large chested but become so when they gain weight. I have a friend who is a C when at a normal weight but a DD when she is obese. Her breasts are "wide" when she is heavy, for lack of a better term.

    Be happy with what is yours naturally. Put cocoa butter on your breasts, belly, thighs after every shower to help with skin elasticity as you lose weight. Work out your chest muscles (bench press, pushups, planks) to give a little natural lift to your breasts.
  • indignantgnome
    indignantgnome Posts: 60 Member
    It's all genetics. If you like them so much, then get implants after you lose weight.

    This is my intention. Surgery scares the crap out of me, but having boobs I don't like scares me more.
  • susannamarie
    susannamarie Posts: 2,148 Member
    I wish mine had shrunk.

    I went from 38DD/DDD (E/F) to 34F/32G.
  • ericalyn73
    ericalyn73 Posts: 79
    You're going to lose your boobs. When you get to goal, reward yourself w/ implants.
  • Bounce4
    Bounce4 Posts: 288 Member
    Have not read previous replies but my thoughts are -a) you can't really compare to when you were a teenager because maybe your tata's weren't done growing ;) b) when I was younger (I'm in my 40's now) weight loss did not really impact my cup size. c) my cup size has shrunk this time around. I mourned them for a few weeks and now I'm over it. I figure smaller boobs on a lean frame look just as hot as big boobs on a fluffly frame. :) I think the things age, nursing, and time have done are harder to accept than the cup size but what can I do about that? Not a damn thing! lol
  • asciiqwerty
    asciiqwerty Posts: 565 Member
    if your boobs got bigger as you did then they may well shrink with you too
    but the rest of you will be shrinking as well

    I'm a 30 JJ - i'm really looking forward to coming down one or two cup sizes so that I can find better fitting swim suits and sports bras which will enable me to be more active and healthy - I also have serious back problems and had previously considered breast reduction - so a littleless weight on top may help me avoid that

    everyone's different - I used to hate my big boobs, and my husband had helped me accept that they're part of me, with the attitude that he has helped me develop I now also see that if I want to be healtiers, I should expect changes to happed in how i look (some better some worse) and understand that is will probably take me a little time to get used to those changes - but I intend to be proud that while my growth (to fat) was uncontious and unaware, my loss back to healthy and active has been a result of hard work and persistence

    it's all about goals, and how you prioritise health and looks
  • cparter
    cparter Posts: 754 Member
    I have about 60 pounds to lose before i get to my goal weight. The last time i was at my goal weight was when i was a teenager, and my boobs were either a B or C cup, i can't really remember for sure what size, but they weren't very big. Now, i'm either a D or DD depending on the bra, but needless to say they are much bigger and i LOVE the size they are now. I feel like they are the perfect size for me, or my preference at least, and i would be devastated to lose them. I know i'm gonna get this comment so i'll just go ahead and say this now before someone else does. Yes, i know there are much more important things in life than just looks, and yes i know that boobs aren't the only thing that make you attractive, but me personally, i just have a thing with boobs. I guess it's because i know that the main sexual turn on for a guy is boobs, and the bigger the better for most guy. My husband being one of those guys. My husband is always commenting on how much he likes big boobs, mine especially, he loves that i have big boobs, and i feel like i would be less attractive to him is they shrunk. Thoughts?

    I for one am not that big on the visual aspect of the boobies as much as the enduring love I receive from my wife. Yes, she had some nice ones when she was pregnant but they always went away when the breastfeeding was done. She is a marathon runner and health nut so I do not expect her to have enormous mellons; nor do I expect her to get enhancements.

    Now, you have to build a decision tree of your own based on priorities; for instance.
    Important - Better health, longevity, attractiveness to spouse, satisfaction with the you in the mirror, boobs, weight loss, etc.

    Unimporant - Poor health, heart disease, medications, not satisfied with you in the mirror, tiny boobs, etc.

    Choices: lose weight and boobs, lose weight and enhance boods medically, stay healthy and keep boobs, etc.

    I believe your health is more important.
  • cookiekrunch
    cookiekrunch Posts: 65 Member
    I have lost 75 pounds and went from a 44DDD to a 36DDD. I have not lost the cup size at all.
  • cparter
    cparter Posts: 754 Member
    I hoping to loss mine! :-)

    I work with this guy ^

    Those are moobs Dave!
  • ChasingMyBliss
    ChasingMyBliss Posts: 803 Member
    I started out with not much of a chest, and as I get thinner, my upper body loses first. I wish I could shrink my caboose without losing the little I have on top. It makes me sad to feel like I am losing my femininity while I get fit. I have thought about implants, but I worry about sending the wrong message to my 4 sons. That I would do something that is potentially unhealthy for the sake of vanity. Yet I just want to feel balanced. I have a nice curvy backside, and would like to keep a little curve on top too.

    I am so luck to have a man who loves me exactly as I am. When I am a little heavier, he likes it! When I am thinner, he likes that too! As for the boobs. He doesn't mind my "little girls" since they are perky, and like to come out and play!
  • jcraig10
    jcraig10 Posts: 477 Member
    I'll give you mine :-P LOL
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,356 Member
    Sorry to tell you that you're gonna lose your boobs. Boobs have alot of fatty tissue. I lost 22 pounds and went from D/DD or a C. They won't get any smaller than that even if I did lose more weight. It's all genetics. If you like them so much, then get implants after you lose weight. I personally a glad my D/DDs are gone my clothes fit better now.

    YUP, they'll be gonners... in high school, guys had more boob than I did. as time grew they got bigger but not by much. then I got fat, after my husband passed (stopped working out, depression) and they got big. now I am back into the swing of life and they got smaller., kinda glad because i'm a runner and a biker and it's hard to run with big boobs.
  • amandabunni42
    amandabunni42 Posts: 1 Member
    I totally get where you are coming from. With my third child, I had huge breasts. Full DD's. Which is big in my opinion.

    After I had her and weaned her from breastfeeding at 2+ years old, they deflated. Now I'm at a saggy-as-hell C cup.

    After I meet my weight loss goals, I plan on having a mommy makeover (full abdominoplasty + breast augmentation).
  • sweetpea03b
    sweetpea03b Posts: 1,123 Member
    If you lose those 60 lbs... you're not going to want DD cups... you have to think about body proportion and if you're a much smaller size... its going to give you major back issues to have a chest that big. Don't you think maybe a tiny bit of you wanting to keep your larger chest size is because you've got this extra weight and you think its your "best feature"? Maybe your mindset will change about that when you lose the weight and you love the way your whole body looks... including your *ehem* "smaller" boobs. (which, personally... I am a small C and find them plenty big enough... but that's a whole 'nother conversation.)

    Either way... you're gonna lose them. The only thing you can do is get implants if it really bothers you... but I hope you'll do your research before thinking about that because there are so many unhealthy risks to your body overall having foreign objects implanted. But again... that's another conversation altogether.

    Good luck!
  • gerla_k
    gerla_k Posts: 495 Member

    I guess it's because i know that the main sexual turn on for a guy is boobs, and the bigger the better for most guy.

    Nope.
    not every guy!!
  • missjmariam
    missjmariam Posts: 47 Member
    I lost 10 lbs so far and have lost 2.5 inches around my bust area!! and my tits were a B to begin with...depressing but its part of it!
  • bethanytapp
    bethanytapp Posts: 79 Member
    I lost 62 pounds and went from a 38DD to I think a 34D (my 36DD have to be pinned to be tight enough and there is space in the cup...but I can't buy new ones until the end of May).

    I'm actually so excited to have lost some of them because clothes fit so much better now!
  • Serah87
    Serah87 Posts: 5,481 Member
    Yep, they will shrink. I went from a size DD to a C. Yes hubby was sad about it, but he happier that I'm at a healthier weight then what I was before. :happy:
  • tiger4nikki
    tiger4nikki Posts: 112 Member
    My daughter has MANY pounds she needs to lose and has made this same remark. It's better to be healthier. And if you DO lose them and aren't happy, you could always get a boob job. FYI, not all men like big boobs. :-)
  • KeepGoingKylene
    KeepGoingKylene Posts: 432 Member
    I went from a D/DD to a B and still have weight to lose, just a fact of losing weight!
  • willrun4bagels
    willrun4bagels Posts: 838 Member
    I guess it's because i know that the main sexual turn on for a guy is boobs, and the bigger the better for most guy.

    :huh:
  • thatjosiegirl
    thatjosiegirl Posts: 362 Member
    I've lost almost 30 lbs and my boobs have dropped from a DD to a D, I actually have to go bra shopping this weekend since all my bras no longer fit correctly.

    But for me, this is a happy change! The DD size was just too big for my tastes, glad to see that I am dropping into a smaller size. :smile:
  • Jade0529
    Jade0529 Posts: 213 Member
    I find this interesting because our breasts change throughout our life, and that never really bothered me. I have a child so breastfeeding make mine go south lol. I have only lost 14lbs and they were the first place I lost. I am cool with that. I will be happy to be able to buy button front shirts again.

    If your husband truly loves you he will love all of you, no matter what. It really just boils down to genetics and how your body drops weight and in what areas

    and someone can correct me if I am wrong but I believe exercising those muscles beneath can tone you up and make your chest look perkier or fuller?
  • laughingdani
    laughingdani Posts: 2,275 Member
    This is sad.
  • Sailatsorf
    Sailatsorf Posts: 161 Member
    I've lost 66 pounds, and I've gone from a 38/40 DD to a 36 DD. My boobs are a little smaller, but they're still pretty big compared to the rest of me like they always have been. Anyway, once you've lost weight, you'll be happy enough with your new, fit body that you really won't care that much about your boobs anymore. Guys really aren't going to care that much.

    In fact, my fiance loves that I'm losing weight because he likes the confidence and happiness it is bringing me, not that I'm just skinnier than I was. He doesn't mind that my boobs are smaller because now the back issues I had are next to nothing. He loved me when I was 214, and he loves me at 148 just the same; he's just happy to see me happy. And if you don't have/find a guy like that, then wait until you do.
  • FlaxMilk
    FlaxMilk Posts: 3,452 Member
    You can have mine.
  • AnikaP81
    AnikaP81 Posts: 59 Member
    I went from a 38DD (while still nursing) to a 34DDD/G (depending on brand), so I really didn't lose mine... Maybe you'll get lucky. But I agree with everyone who says that it is a matter of proportion. I have an hourglass shape and my chest is the same measurement as my hips no matter what I weigh, and I had boobs and a butt even at my lowest weigth. So it really depends on your body type...you might get lucky :)

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