Person called me fat at the gym!
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11:25 on a Saturday night, low post history...I'm calling BS.
I agree. I call Troll. Looks like a shell fake account.
Well who died and made you God???? Really, how can you possibly make that assumption??? So what if he has few posts, that's not the issue here. Oh, I get it you just want to ASSUME....
Wow such anger and hostility. lol. I can make any assumption I want, it wasn't malicious, simply a statement. I hope you feel better now that you got your ferocity out. lol. :yawn:
Never understood why people always post negative things on here. If you have nothing nice to say, don't say it at all. You're not stating facts, just assumptions.0 -
I'm not angry at all I just call a spade a spade. Don't judge him. Would you like people making assumptions about you that we're not true.? No I didn't think so. Getting back to the original post why not give him some support like others are doing. Just sayin..:flowerforyou:11:25 on a Saturday night, low post history...I'm calling BS.
I agree. I call Troll. Looks like a shell fake account.
Well who died and made you God???? Really, how can you possibly make that assumption??? So what if he has few posts, that's not the issue here. Oh, I get it you just want to ASSUME....
Wow such anger and hostility. lol. I can make any assumption I want, it wasn't malicious, simply a statement. I hope you feel better now that you got your ferocity out. lol. :yawn:0 -
What an a-hole. I just cannot believe someone could be such a jerk. It's so disappointing to know there are people like that scattered around us.
And btw, karma will take care of that guy so don't waste any more energy thinking about him.0 -
Most gyms have a policy on that type of thing and will boot the guy if you report it.0
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there is evil everywhere you go. Don't let someone with absolutely no vested interest in your health discourage you. I agree with the many who said the person should be reported. That type of comment is unacceptable... If I'm not mistaken, you paid a membership fee just like he did. What makes his money more important than yours? You are there for you... no one else. Keep your head up and keep smiling... You will reach your goal... because it's what YOU want.0
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You should report this incident to your gym's management.0
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OP is overweight.
OP goes to the gym to better himself and is horribly and cruelly insulted.
OP comes to myfitnessPAL and makes thread
and OP is called (repeatedly) a LIAR, and is further insulted.
Nice job, *kitten* of MFP. Nice job. *highfives to the face all around*
*note: mad props to all the people who took the OP at face value and replied with kindness and sensitivity.0 -
OP is overweight.
OP goes to the gym to better himself and is horribly and cruelly insulted.
OP comes to myfitnessPAL and makes thread
and OP is called (repeatedly) a LIAR, and is further insulted.
Nice job, *kitten* of MFP. Nice job. *highfives to the face all around*
*note: mad props to all the people who took the OP at face value and replied with kindness and sensitivity.
Could not have said it any better.... Kudos to you:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:0 -
Yeah, why are so many people being buttlords in this thread?My guess is that this post is total BS! Nobody is going to say something like that, come on people don't be so gullible.
So what? It's not like I'm sending the OP presents to make him feel better. It cost me nothing but a few seconds to respond, same as you. If he's making it up, that doesn't affect me in the slightest.
If OP is telling the truth, it's just plain nice to give him advice and empathise with his experience.
If he's lying, the whole process (making a comment, saying something nice) takes less than a minute and effects you negatively in no way at all. There is literally no reason to make an 'I think this is a lie' comment. In the best case scenario you're calling out a really pointless fib ('Oh no, someone is making a false claim about something that /actually happens/ (people getting harassed at the gym), better let everyone know how smrt I am and how wrong OP is!!!'), worst case scenario you're just being horrible to someone for no reason at all.
TBH if you read a thread about someone being harassed and you think they're lying about it... just jog on?
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Yeah, why are so many people being buttlords in this thread?My guess is that this post is total BS! Nobody is going to say something like that, come on people don't be so gullible.
So what? It's not like I'm sending the OP presents to make him feel better. It cost me nothing but a few seconds to respond, same as you. If he's making it up, that doesn't affect me in the slightest.
If OP is telling the truth, it's just plain nice to give him advice and empathise with his experience.
If he's lying, the whole process (making a comment, saying something nice) takes less than a minute and effects you negatively in no way at all. There is literally no reason to make an 'I think this is a lie' comment. In the best case scenario you're calling out a really pointless fib ('Oh no, someone is making a false claim about something that /actually happens/ (people getting harassed at the gym), better let everyone know how smrt I am and how wrong OP is!!!'), worst case scenario you're just being horrible to someone for no reason at all.
TBH if you read a thread about someone being harassed and you think they're lying about it... just jog on?
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This thread drew SO MANY first time/barely posted before folk out of the woodwork. I guarentee at least one of them has experienced this scenario somewhere in their lives or they wouldn't have felt the need to use their first post to encourage this OP.
I don't care if this is a real post or not. I know someone reading it has received encouragement from the positive responses, and some of the "new to the forum" people are never coming back. I wonder how many people here on MFP have never had some ignorant person say something mean and discouraging to them? It feels like A LOT.
I'm not saying we should all be rainbows and warm fuzzies, but, holy hell. :grumble:0 -
OP is overweight.
OP goes to the gym to better himself and is horribly and cruelly insulted.
OP comes to myfitnessPAL and makes thread
and OP is called (repeatedly) a LIAR, and is further insulted.
Nice job, *kitten* of MFP. Nice job. *highfives to the face all around*
*note: mad props to all the people who took the OP at face value and replied with kindness and sensitivity.
This is why I love having you on my FL
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It has not happened to be, but the person would be reported and I would have some words. If someone is working out and making improving their lives, I will support them at the gym (or anywhere). Some people are just mean and don't think.0
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It has not happened to be, but the person would be reported and I would have some words. If someone is working out and making improving their lives, I will support them at the gym (or anywhere). Some people are just mean and don't think.
Honestly... If I was working out next to him, and heard someone speak that way... I do believe I'd be pausing my workout to tell the guy to stfu, and to encourage the OP to keep going.
The amount of courage it takes to step out of your comfort zone, to go to a gym full of strangers, to get all sweaty and push out your best effort, when (at the beginning) you feel your best effort is perceived at sub par... WOW! THOSE are the people I respect most!
Hell, I'm in good shape and I get nervous going to a new gym. I worry about what people will think and all that crap. If someone were to accost me, I'd be mortified and devastated, and humiliated... and it'd be a stretch to drag my *kitten* back in there.
OP... I will assume this was your experience and will say to you... I HAVE THE UTMOST ESTEEM FOR YOU! Go back, and keep going. Keep pushing. Keep fighting. And prove to yourself (and to that asshat) that you have every right to be there. Because you do.
Your gym membership pays for that *kitten* to workout and use the machines too.0 -
So what are you going to do, OP? Are you going to be derailed by a random rude *kitten*?0
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Let no one's criticism deter you from your efforts. People like that are to be ignored: I always believe in cheering on your fellow gymmate. After all, we're all in there together to achieve our own fitness goals, right?0
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You should report this incident to your gym's management.0
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Nobody is above a swift kick in the balls. Just sayin.
You mam, are correct. Some assholic comment from some dude? Knee/foot to the nuts.0 -
People make me mad.0
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I went to the gym today and was on the elliptical and a man came up to me and told me I look like I was about to break the machine. I asked him what he meant and he told me a person my size should not be using expensive equipment and that his gym membership fees were contributing to fat people like me breaking gym equipment. I don't feel like ever going back to the gym. Has anyone ever had a similar problem?
I started @ 366 lbs at a Gym and all people ever said were encouraging words as they noticed me shrinking. People (even the muscle heads) would walk up and say..."Great Job!" "Look at you!" "Keep it up!"
I am soooo sorry this happened to you....if you were of color or a minority religion, such harassment wold NOT BE TOLERATED....but for some reason fat shaming is somehow acceptable?? (seriously cussing in my head right now....)
He is a complete f***nut....IGNORE HIS IGNORANT *kitten*. You are doing great and doing just what you need to do for your health. PLEASE don't let one ignorant idiot deter your efforts. I PROMISE if you stick it out, it will be worth it. Hold you head HIGH my friend.....0 -
trolling.0
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You should ask him how he made it to the gym because if he is so stupid it is surprising he could find his way..That is bullying and it is not acceptable. No one should comment on anyone trying to make improvements in their health, no matter what their size is. No, that has not happened to me but I am very sorry that this has happened to you. Don't let this bully win, go back and use the same machine again. I would have gone straight away and reported it, but if he does it again go and tell management and hopefully he will be kicked out.
^^^^^^^^^^^^ THIS! Please, for yourself and every other lovely person that wants to be healthy, report this person next time. He needs to know that behavior is not acceptable.0 -
When someone says things like this to another person it's because they feel the need to bring others down to make themselves feel better. You are doing a lot more than a lot of people, keep going, and I would also report it to the gym manager. Don't give up
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I went to the gym today and was on the elliptical and a man came up to me and told me I look like I was about to break the machine. I asked him what he meant and he told me a person my size should not be using expensive equipment and that his gym membership fees were contributing to fat people like me breaking gym equipment. I don't feel like ever going back to the gym. Has anyone ever had a similar problem?
I don't go to gyms. But the traditional response to this is: "at least I'm not stupid. After I've hit my goal weight, you'll still be stupid."0 -
This kind of thing does happen. It happens in gyms, on the beach, in bars, in schools, in the mall, to the fat and to the skinny. I overheard a woman criticizing another woman in the gym not very long ago, saying she had no butt and shouldn't be wearing shorts. It pissed me off and I made my disapproval known. It's not cool, it shouldn't be tolerated.
I had a young man kick my barbell in the gym the other day as a way to make it known that he didn't like me lifting there. Another gym member had my back and made it clear that if it happened again he would intervene.
People need to stand up for themselves and if you see something like this in the gym, stand up for your fellow gym goers.0 -
I will say that while I'm sorry these kinds of incidents happen at all, I do find reading the responses very useful, in that they give me a chance to prepare mentally for the off chance I might find myself in a similar boat. I have not had anything too horrible happen (at least, in several years) but I admit I live in a bit of fear that something is bound to happen one day and it's threads like these give me a chance to put myself into the situation and formulate some responses that ) hopefully ) I never have to use.0
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Count me in as one of the believers that this didn't happen. But if it did, you definitely need to handle it and many people have given you suggestions on how to do that.
On the flip side...I was one of the people who called this person a liar and the fact that they still stand at two posts tells me that many of us are right. The real issue that I had with this when it was originally posted was the fact that many overweight people fear the gym, and after reading this will say, "See that's exactly why I don't go."
Lot of good advice in here, but it's fake and I guarantee it did more harm than good, even though there may have been good intentions.0 -
Yeah, why are so many people being buttlords in this thread?My guess is that this post is total BS! Nobody is going to say something like that, come on people don't be so gullible.
So what? It's not like I'm sending the OP presents to make him feel better. It cost me nothing but a few seconds to respond, same as you. If he's making it up, that doesn't affect me in the slightest.
If OP is telling the truth, it's just plain nice to give him advice and empathise with his experience.
If he's lying, the whole process (making a comment, saying something nice) takes less than a minute and effects you negatively in no way at all. There is literally no reason to make an 'I think this is a lie' comment. In the best case scenario you're calling out a really pointless fib ('Oh no, someone is making a false claim about something that /actually happens/ (people getting harassed at the gym), better let everyone know how smrt I am and how wrong OP is!!!'), worst case scenario you're just being horrible to someone for no reason at all.
TBH if you read a thread about someone being harassed and you think they're lying about it... just jog on?
I noticed most people on these forums are major buttlords. (i'm stealing that by the way, love it hahaha)
But yeah, in a similar situation, I was on a stationary bike beside 2 other men. Man #1 was talking to Man #2 and was talking about this woman he knew that was in sales, and how "nobody would buy from a 200lbs woman" Me, having almost been 200 pounds at that point, and having been in sales simply just thought to myself "well this 200lbs of fabulousness hasn't let me down so far..."
Point being, people are stupid. Also, on a sidenote, whenever I overhear their conversations they always seem so judgemental of people and sound so miserable. Gave me further reasons to not mind them as I know i'm a happier person than it seems they will ever be.0 -
Oh, and for non-believers, even if it isn't true, i'm sure others has had similar situations and this thread could potentially help someone.
And also the hardly any posts argument, I don't post very much. I mainly like to lurk >:D0 -
OP is overweight.
OP goes to the gym to better himself and is horribly and cruelly insulted.
OP comes to myfitnessPAL and makes thread
and OP is called (repeatedly) a LIAR, and is further insulted.
Nice job, *kitten* of MFP. Nice job. *highfives to the face all around*
*note: mad props to all the people who took the OP at face value and replied with kindness and sensitivity.
applause!! lol0
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