Do you ever decline friend requests?

amy8400
amy8400 Posts: 478 Member
in Motivation and Support
If someone sends you a friend request but their profile is closed (except to friends) do you automatically accept or do you pass? I've noticed that my best MFP friends have open-to-friends diaries and profiles, like me. I don't necessarily need to be friends with someone my age or same sex...my friends are all over the place with age, for sure LOL But if someone friends me on MFP, it's nice to know where they're coming from with their weight loss story, their challenges, etc.

On that same note, when you see a profile with virtually nothing filled in, does that influence your friend approvals?

Just wondering how everyone sees friend requests here. I'm not into a popularity contest...just want to have good friends that can support each other every day.
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  • cholepapi
    cholepapi Posts: 79
    My view: We all need support and many will close diaries because their not ready just yet to share. I think this MFP is a steeping stone for a better healthy life.
  • Branstin
    Branstin Posts: 2,320 Member
    My view: We all need support and many will close diaries because their not ready just yet to share. I think this MFP is a steeping stone for a better healthy life.

    I agree. New people sign up every day and others are still getting use to the board. I wouldn't reject any friends. I won't judge them one way or the other for not sharing their information. I just want all of them to meet their goals and be happy.
  • knitapeace
    knitapeace Posts: 1,013 Member
    I've only declined one friend request and that was because I couldn't find any thread we had posted in together, and when I looked at his list of current friends they were 99% face shots or body shots of pretty females. I won't say I wasn't flattered to be included, but it made me feel weird to be part of a "collection" so I just clicked decline.
  • wolfsbayne
    wolfsbayne Posts: 3,116 Member
    I don't send FR, so I accept all of the ones I get.
  • EmmieBaby
    EmmieBaby Posts: 1,235 Member
    I only accept the ones that have a picture and a have their profiles filled out.

    so like I never accept invites from like "Iwannalose224801y418" with no profile details and no profile pic
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    All of the time...

    When I first started I accepted them all and ended up with more people than I could ever conceivably interact with. My FL is still too big but I try not to delete anyone unless it's been awhile since they've logged in...but really, I only interact with a handful of people on my FL and it's usually either just goofing around or to chat about lifting or cycling.

    I don't accept any FR without a message (my profile says so...if they didn't send a message then they didn't read my profil and thus have no idea what I'm all about or if we even have any common goals, etc)...
  • JTick
    JTick Posts: 2,131 Member
    I accept most, but have declined a few. My friends list has grown here lately, and I now request that people write a little note...just tell me how you found me, why you want to be friends, something like that. If someone doesn't write a note, I'll see if we have mutual friends or try to look back through their posts and see if we were chatting a thread. If none of the above, I'll usually decline. If someone looks like a creeper, I'll decline.
  • iRun_Butterfly
    iRun_Butterfly Posts: 483 Member
    I usually accept everyone, but for those who have a closed profile, once I've accepted them I'll do a quick scan. If they don't seem like someone I'd interact with or they have a lot of whiny drama in their posts then they usually get deleted just as quickly as they were accepted.
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    None yet.
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    If someone sends you a friend request but their profile is closed (except to friends) do you automatically accept or do you pass?

    Depends...if I've seen that person around the forums or that person is friends with some of my friends, I'll most likely accept. No message/private profile/fake pic almost always results in a denial. There are just too many weirds out there that I don't want having access to my information/pics.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    I have never declined a friend request, but I have 100+ requests that I have simply not answered at all. I don't really have any criteria for friends, I just accept of something about them moves me to do so.

    But, a friend request without a message or a very vague message and profile not available probably won't get accepted. I like a small friends list anyway. I don't know how I could keep up with 100 friends.
  • chelstakencharge
    chelstakencharge Posts: 1,021 Member
    My friends on here are all over the place, literally and in their weight loss journeys. I tend to decline if they can't send a simple message with a request. I just think that is common courtesy.
  • Phrick
    Phrick Posts: 2,765 Member
    I'm comfortable with my friends list as-is so I decline pretty much everything that comes my way anymore (even though my friends list is "small" compared to some others!). The only times I bend the rule is if there is a message included that is really relevant to me or a shared situation. But if you just FR me because you like my dog, I'm going to decline :laugh:
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    If somebody sends me a friend request, I don't go to see if their diaries are open or closed. If there is no note as to why they ask, what they think we might have in common, but just the bare request, I always decline. If they say they're super chatty or express the need to constantly give and recieve support and motivation, I decline, as I don't have time for that.
  • CassandraBurgos83
    CassandraBurgos83 Posts: 544 Member
    No...but I should have been denying them.
  • funforsports
    funforsports Posts: 2,656 Member
    I decline from time to time.
  • thebigcb
    thebigcb Posts: 2,210 Member
    I always accept. Open to all

    And most people deaactiavte, stop logging etc
  • Najay
    Najay Posts: 273 Member
    I decline all the time. If a person has too many friends, I just see why they need more support. If a person is under 21, I will not accept them. Or if I just don't have a good feeling about them I will decline the request. Guess I'm picky.
  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
    I like to keep my friends list managable to the point I can remember everyone, and follow them.
    I have a note in my profile requesting a message with a friend request. I like to know how you found me, why you are interested and what we might have in common. I have no problem having friends with other interests and views but I want some sort of connection.
    Locked diaries do not matter to me.
    I don't always decline the ones without messages, but if there is a locked profile, no message and I have no idea where they came from, I probably will.
    I don't accept from friend collectors.
    This is also my place to unwind and get away. I have a stressful job IRL and I just can't do the support thing for people with major issues. I'd like to, there are plenty here who are willing, but I just can't. Everyone has a bad day, that's find, but constant crisis is not something I can do here. Call me what you want, but that's how I feel. Its nothing against the person, it is just not something I can deal with here.
    Oh, and if you are selling something, decline.

    So yeah, I decline friend requests.
  • Gamer_2k4
    Gamer_2k4 Posts: 36 Member
    Always. I'm using this to track my calories, not to make friends, and if I can't motivate myself, having a ton of "friends" isn't going to help. My only MFP friend is my fiancee, and I don't see that changing anytime soon.
  • Timelordlady85
    Timelordlady85 Posts: 797 Member
    I have never declined anyone as of yet but I do prefer accepting people with open diaries and filled out profiles.
  • Pirate_chick
    Pirate_chick Posts: 1,216 Member
    I accept anyone that wants to be my friend. I do prefer a quick message when people send a request, but don't decline if they don't.

    ETA: but if they turn out to be whiny, woe is me types, fad diet pushers, or become inactive for over a month I delete them.
  • Bernadette60614
    Bernadette60614 Posts: 707 Member
    My profile says: Please do not be offended, but I'm only accepting friend requests from vegans, vegetarians or those following a whole foods approach.

    If someone's request doesn't confirm that they follow those approaches, the reason that I didn't accept is explained in my profile.

    I like having a small number of friends who are supportive and who I get to "know". Our little group not only talks about what we are eating/exercising, but also family matters, emotions and motivation.
  • sarahg148
    sarahg148 Posts: 701 Member
    All of the time...

    When I first started I accepted them all and ended up with more people than I could ever conceivably interact with. My FL is still too big but I try not to delete anyone unless it's been awhile since they've logged in...but really, I only interact with a handful of people on my FL and it's usually either just goofing around or to chat about lifting or cycling.

    I don't accept any FR without a message (my profile says so...if they didn't send a message then they didn't read my profil and thus have no idea what I'm all about or if we even have any common goals, etc)...

    ^^^^This exactly!
  • tomwatso
    tomwatso Posts: 1,304 Member
    Yes I do.
  • SmartAlec03211988
    SmartAlec03211988 Posts: 1,896 Member
    I've only declined one person ever, and that was because after reading their profile I knew we wouldn't get along, and they would end up deleting me anyway.
  • sunnyside1213
    sunnyside1213 Posts: 1,205 Member
    I never decline, but if they go two weeks without logging, they are deleted. I don't want friends who aren't serious about this lifestyle.
  • Losing_Sarah
    Losing_Sarah Posts: 279 Member
    I have a closed profile for those who aren't my friends just because that is how I prefer it. While I use MFP and other social media sites I like to have a little bit of privacy.

    That being said, I don't ever decline friend requests that have closed profiles. Once I accept a request I just check out their profile. I have, however, removed a friend after looking at their profile, and a couple times removed friends at later dates for various reasons.

    I think it's great that some folk are very open, but some people just want a little privacy for their own reasons. A closed diary doesn't mean someone can't give support in other ways.
  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    I deny them for all those reasons. I have one guy who keeps sending them in after I deny it, he is relentless. I just dislike friend collectors, they send out random requests to people just to have 9000 friends but don't actually communicate with anyone.
  • daw0518
    daw0518 Posts: 459 Member
    I accept pretty much all requests, and delete people if they get creepy or try to sell me stuff. I rejected one request because it had 'herbalife' in the username, and we had never been in contact before. No thank you!

    I also go through after awhile & delete people who haven't been on in several weeks or months. Sometimes I feel bad because I know I was on MFP for years before ACTUALLY utilizing it, but honestly it just drives me crazy to have 200 friends when only 30 of them actually use the site.

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