Do you ever decline friend requests?

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  • fleetzz
    fleetzz Posts: 962 Member
    I declined a friend request of a user I de-friended due to disordered eating, she had 600+ friends and was posting seriously low intake as well as discussing her goal which was quite underweight and in my opinion very unhealthy.

    I also accidentally declined a friend request on my iphone.

    I generally accept all friend requests because I can always remove them later.
  • terridyment
    terridyment Posts: 52 Member
    My view: We all need support and many will close diaries because their not ready just yet to share. I think this MFP is a steeping stone for a better healthy life.

    I agree. New people sign up every day and others are still getting use to the board. I wouldn't reject any friends. I won't judge them one way or the other for not sharing their information. I just want all of them to meet their goals and be happy.
  • rduhlir
    rduhlir Posts: 3,550 Member
    If it is a blank friend request I usually end up denying it. If they dont' take the time to introduce themselves they why should I allow them access to my profile?
  • farewell_friend
    farewell_friend Posts: 41 Member
    I decline usually if there's no note. I'm also more likely to decline if the one who sent it was male.
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    I do. Because I specify that I want to know WHY they want to be my MFP pal. If there is no message, I know they haven't even read my profile.

    Why would YOU decline a friend request?
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    Almost daily. This is my monarchy.
  • Galatea_Stone
    Galatea_Stone Posts: 2,037 Member
    It depends. I like to interact with my friends on my list, and I keep up with most of them pretty regularly. I've added a few new ones and need to get more active with getting to know them, but if I add too many people, it's overwhelming and I feel like I'm nothing more than a name collector. There are a lot of people that I interact with in the forums or on friends' posts, and I often forget they aren't on my list. There are many I keep thinking I would like to add, but I keep failing to do it.

    I'd like to think that people on here are more than just names on a list that I rarely look at.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Often. I'm fond of a somewhat small list.
    and I require a message
  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    what's a friend request??? :huh:

    am i missing out on something?
  • blackcloud13
    blackcloud13 Posts: 654 Member
    I almost certainly always accept. Not like I get a huge number, anyway - so very manageable. I have some very active friends - full time entertainment and support. At the other end of the scale are the quiet ones - but that's ok too; I'm happy to talk/support whenever the feel the need.
  • prattiger65
    prattiger65 Posts: 1,657 Member
    I accept all and delete if they turn up crazy. However, I have been deleted far more than I have deleted. I seldom comment on my feed and rarely comment on a friend's post.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    I've been here three years, my list is large, and I like to actually keep up with the people on it. I also rarely delete people. So I'm really careful about who I add in the first place.
  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    My profile specifically asked that FR add a message of some sort, (as I find it incredibly creepy to be approached by a stranger out of nowhere with no introduction whatsoever) so if a request is blank, they automatically get declined, no questions asked.

    If a profile is private, but they seem friendly enough from the FR message, I might add them to see what they're all about. If they turn out to be not a good fit for me (a 1,200 calorie-er or a 5'6" 105 lb 18 year old looking to drop 6 lbs by July) then I'll just delete them.
  • The_Enginerd
    The_Enginerd Posts: 3,982 Member
    Yep. I decline any that don't include a message. Or if they are a collector. I try to keep my FL a managable size so I can interact and keep up. I don't need a huge FL to be my cheering section.
  • VBnotbitter
    VBnotbitter Posts: 820 Member
    I don't get a heap but I've never had a blank request or anyone dodgy sending me one. So I've never declined which is a good job as I never send out requests. I fear rejection >sobs<
  • Makoce
    Makoce Posts: 938 Member
    I use to accept and add tons of people - mostly because I didnt really interact or use MFP for social stuff.
    I just kinda logged my food and didn't pay attention to anyone.
    Now I try to keep up and support people, and enjoy having like-minded friends.
    I also deal with binging and a lot of food-related anxiety so when I go through peoples diaries and they eat cake and ice cream all day, I simply cant have them because it makes me crave it just seeing it and brings up anxiety.
    So I cleaned out my list drastically, and only accept FR's with a note of why they want to be added ( no note = auto deny ).
    - so that I can keep a small tight knit group, and I can keep up with paying attention to my friends without getting overwhelmed!
    I also tend not to keep people who go inactive often, or have closed diaries. Im nosey.
  • Deipneus
    Deipneus Posts: 1,861 Member
    Just wondering how everyone sees friend requests here. I'm not into a popularity contest...just want to have good friends that can support each other every day.
    I accept all friend requests, with or without a message. What's the worst that could happen? I delete them and that only happens when I find out they're just friend collectors.

    I don't take this as seriously as a lot of people apparently do. It's just MFP.
  • Goal179
    Goal179 Posts: 314 Member
    I used to never decline because I felt guilty. But my list grew sooo large that I stopped being able to really interact with folks. I decided to start being a little more careful with the friends I accepted. I have declined a few times. Especially if nothing is filled out and I know nothing about you. That kind of leaves me in the dark and I don't know how I can help you.
  • Trechechus
    Trechechus Posts: 2,819 Member
    If it doesn't have a note, it is declined. It says that on my profile and if the FR sender can't even read that, I'm not sure why they want to be "friends."
  • KariOrtiz2014
    KariOrtiz2014 Posts: 343 Member
    I decline for many different reasons. Too many to list. But quite honestly, I don't want more friends. I like having a small list.
  • Inner_Goddess
    Inner_Goddess Posts: 1,146 Member
    I decline if there is no message - especially if it's not a name I haven't heard or if I check out their profile and they have eating disorders. I battled with my own disorders and feel that it's necessary for me to avoid it.

    I keep my list small so that I can interact with everyone. I seldom request others but if I do, I make sure to add a message. I also delete if they go inactive for more than 2 weeks or if they do not interact with me. I'm not here to be collected or a collector.
  • mxmkenney
    mxmkenney Posts: 486 Member
    I am up for adding anyone as a friend, but will delete you if you are A. Creepy, B. Annoying, or C. haven't logged on to MFP in over 2 weeks! I want friends who are supportive, encouraging and motivating!
    I'm not looking for anything other than that, so if you send a request with a "hey, you're super fine" then don't be surprised when your request is declined. Creeps be warned. Am I right ladies?
  • MickeyCastello
    MickeyCastello Posts: 269
    When I was losing weight, I found that most of my friends and I supported each other pretty well. After I transitioned to maintenance, I was still being supportive, but little by little, I noticed that most of them stopped posting, logging or even logging in. Then it seemed like "friend collectors" were coming out of the woodwork. For those reasons, I decided I would be better off solo.
  • ROBOTFOOD
    ROBOTFOOD Posts: 5,527 Member
    Nope. Feel free to add me!
  • ottermotorcycle
    ottermotorcycle Posts: 654 Member
    If people add me after discussing something I accept and if they send pretty much any message with it I'll accept. (Unless it's creepy, but I've never gotten creepy, only flirty haha.)

    Unless they send a note I will usually decline if the person is new because they have a tendency to join, add a bunch of people, log for two days and disappear and I just can't be bothered to go and delete them two days later. Most of the people on my friends list have month+ long streaks.
  • Booksandbeaches
    Booksandbeaches Posts: 1,791 Member
    I'm like a medieval monarch. Some days I'm in a good mood and I accept even if they have a blank profile and blank FR. Other days it's like the soup nazi.."No friendship for you!"

    Friend collectors who want a harem full of women are instantly rejected.

    Usually if I have friends in common with the person and/or they are doing something similar to my diet and fitness activities, I will accept.

    I delete people too.
  • pennyks88
    pennyks88 Posts: 167 Member
    I will accept friend requests from anyone. So far I haven't encountered any creeps or friend collectors, but I would delete those types of people. I really like the friends I have on MFP. :flowerforyou:
  • Ruth4111gut
    Ruth4111gut Posts: 289 Member
    I have never declined anyone as of yet but I do prefer accepting people with open diaries and filled out profiles.We are all in the same journey.:happy:
  • SaintGiff
    SaintGiff Posts: 3,679 Member
    A better question is, have you ever sent an FR and then instantly regretted it?
  • susannamarie
    susannamarie Posts: 2,148 Member
    I pretty much accept anyone unless they're an obvious spammer.

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