Do you ever decline friend requests?

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  • jenschroll
    jenschroll Posts: 162 Member
    I've declined only one, but that was because the person was spamming me right off the bat in their FR message.
  • askeates
    askeates Posts: 1,490 Member
    If I get a request from someone I don't recognize as having seen somewhere on the message boards, or on a friends wall posts.... and if they don't send a message with the request, I will absolutely turn them down. I'm not a collector, and want to be able to get to know my FL peeps, so I don't want the FL getting out of hand.
  • peleroja
    peleroja Posts: 3,979 Member
    I accept lots of requests from women (pretty much anyone with similar goals); however, I decline all requests from men. It's not personal (and I have lots of guy friends in real life) but I just feel funny about it online for some reason. I don't think my boyfriend would even care necessarily, but I figure if I feel weird about it there's no need to do it. And I've gotten enough messages that cross the line to feel validated in my choice, honestly.

    Plus, most women on my friends list have similar goals/weights/diets to my own, compared to most of the guys who request.

    So, yeah. There are lots of great, supportive men here, but I get all the help I need from the ladies on my FL and none of the flirty messages, so my blanket policy stands.
  • TwirleySlims
    TwirleySlims Posts: 112
    I accept friend requests & try to support the best I can, if you want to add me, feel free :D
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    I decline them all the time, because they are blank.
  • amandarunning
    amandarunning Posts: 306 Member
    What's a friend request :sad:

    :laugh:
  • Pangea250
    Pangea250 Posts: 965 Member
    I accept every friend request. But I do feel free to delete liberally, especially when all I see are posts about sex.
  • edisonsbulb
    edisonsbulb Posts: 93 Member
    I don't mind a closed profile. But

    If there is no note: decline
    If a note has words but says nothing: decline
    If there is some indication you just collect friends: decline
    If you wear Crocs: decline
    If I've heard you're bad in bed: decline :wink:
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,984 Member
    Nope. I look at every one as someone who wants to learn or share.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • Naywifey07
    Naywifey07 Posts: 74 Member
    I accept all friend request. I may delete some old friends if they are not active or least showing support like Im supporting them. And as far as closed diaries sometimes I have mine open and sometimes I have ot closed... Its no big deal to me !!!
  • HermioneDanger118
    HermioneDanger118 Posts: 345 Member
    Sometimes. I recently got a friend request without a message and when I accepted, the profile was still private, so I ended up deleting the friend since I couldn't tell anything about the person.
  • RUNNING_AMOK_1958
    RUNNING_AMOK_1958 Posts: 268 Member
    Sometimes I'll send them a message before I decline, but I don't hesitate to decline if it doesn't feel right.
  • Muddy_Yogi
    Muddy_Yogi Posts: 1,459 Member
    I only auto decline the ones that don't feel the need to send a message. My profile is open, if they are sending me one I believe they should read my profile....if they read it, they would know it is what I expect.
  • sheepysaccount
    sheepysaccount Posts: 608 Member
    I do accept any and all requests, but I clean my FL about once a month. I delete people that constantly undereat, people that haven't been online in two weeks, or people that never ever like/comment on anything. The first I delete because I don't want that kind of negativity; that may be hard, but I think it's best for me. I am selfish that way. The other two I delete because they don't seem to want support, so that's fine.
  • RomulanWarbird
    RomulanWarbird Posts: 230
    I rarely do. I only deny if they don't give a reason for adding me, because that's on my profile, or if they're names are like ghfdjksj77777739847 because those are usually random scam accounts.
  • MapleFlavouredMaiden
    MapleFlavouredMaiden Posts: 595 Member
    I decline all FR that don't come with full noodz
  • germanveg
    germanveg Posts: 15

    If you wear Crocs: decline

    lol! :)
  • Llamapants86
    Llamapants86 Posts: 1,221 Member
    I don't decline but it is pretty easy to tell if they mesh with me or not. If not I just remove them later. Sometimes they remove me first since I find the feeling is mutual.
  • amy8400
    amy8400 Posts: 478 Member
    Thanks everyone. I appreciate all the replies. Sounds like you just have to do what's right for you and not feel bad for clicking "decline". It just sounds so serious and final :cry: Gonna put on my big girl pants and move on!
  • Escloflowne
    Escloflowne Posts: 2,038 Member
    I decline all FR that don't come with full noodz

    FR sent!
  • Ilikelamps
    Ilikelamps Posts: 482 Member
    I don't mind a closed profile. But

    If there is no note: decline
    If a note has words but says nothing: decline
    If there is some indication you just collect friends: decline
    If you wear Crocs: decline
    If I've heard you're bad in bed: decline :wink:

    luckily for me, she accepted...take notes everyone
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    Yes. It is hard to keep up a really large FL, so I limit the number of people on my list.
  • tomomatic
    tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
    Yes. If I look at someone's previous posts and see that they've been mean/rude on the forums, I'll decline.

    Onetime, I shared a story on the forums about how I would never use the showers in the gym because I'd witnessed some inapporpriate activity there (I don't want to get into specifics because I got a warning from the mods). Anyways, I ended up getting a friend request with a message that said "Don't you hate how [two syllable F-word]'s are everywhere!?" I declined the little hate monger. I was just sharing a funny story. Whatever. That's what the decline button is for.
  • PRMinx
    PRMinx Posts: 4,585 Member
    I decline friend requests that don't come with a message.
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    My FL is large... too large for me to interact with everyone regularly. I often feel like a "bad friend" because of that. I can't spend my whole life on here, I have so much to do as it is! But I feel the pressure to be a good friend anyways. I care about my people, even if I can't be there all the time for them.

    So I yes.. I decline friend requests.... I instantly decline requests with no messages. And I decline ones where the person seems to be collecting fit women... I decline ones where the person requesting already has like 500 friends... really, what value can I add anyways.

    I hang on to the ones that I want to accept, but feel bad doing so because I neglect the ones I have as it is. I sometimes accept the ones who catch me with their message, or if I've gone in and cleaned out a few deactivated ones, then I will add some more in.

    I hate doing it though. I hate saying, "no, we can't be friends"... and it's not because I don't want to be their friend, but more because I cannot be a very good one. :(
  • FortWildernessLoopy
    FortWildernessLoopy Posts: 62 Member
    I accept all friend requests. There are some people who just need to lurk and view my diary and I'm OK with that. I am morbidly obese and usually we don't like having our picture taken so if they don't have a picture or haven't filled out their profile, I'm cool with that too. My picture is my goal weight rather than how i am now because, for me, looking at me in my current weight actually saps my motivation because it reminds me how far I've fallen whereas my goal pic is just that, my goalline. Not everyone is into sharing their personal struggles. I have only deleted a few people because they encouraged too many 'cheat days' for everyone and popping pills to compensate. Not really my thing.
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    I only automatically decline if there is no message and no profile pic.
  • Wanting3
    Wanting3 Posts: 48
    The only ones I will decline, are from the men that have a "collection" of only female friends...
  • miss_jessiejane
    miss_jessiejane Posts: 2,819 Member
    I don't get that many. If they have a message that's amusing, I'll accept usually. I decline blank ones, unless I've seen them around a lot.
  • RiverRun61
    RiverRun61 Posts: 20
    I keep my diary closed. You don't have to be on MFP for long before you see how people jump all over anyone who doesn't follow the mindset of the majority. I eat a ketogenic diet (very low carb, high fat) and prefer to stay away from criticism. I am motivated by monitoring the success of my MFP friends in the feed on the home page every day - especially the highly active ones (because I have been pretty sedentary lately).

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