Weight loss FEARS?

CrystalQ222

Do you have any weight loss fears? Like example some women fear that they will lost their breast size during weight loss. (this used to be one of mine)

I started out with smaller breasts. Now after 31 lbs they shrank even more. -_- sigh. So for me that is a reality.

My weight loss fears is gaining weight back after losing it.

likitisplit

Do you have any weight loss fears? Like example some women fear that they will lost their breast size during weight loss. (this used to be one of mine)

I've always had a fear of getting an eating disorder. All those lifetime movies & lectures in high school (not to mention the people I knew who DID have them) really freaked me out.

Also just a general fear of losing that "protection" b/c that's really what it was for me for a long time. And in some ways it made me feel like by being overweight I was being a "rebel" and "non-conformist". Yeah, not so much truth in that.

Pretty sure an over 'eating disorder' is what got most of us here in the first place :frown:

True. But they don't generally make Lifetime movies about overeating or give lectures about not gaining too much weight in high school. Though I WISH they did!

Disordered eating is different than an eating disorder.

albayin

I am very afraid of gaining..

VanillaBeanSeed

My biggest fear is gaining it all back and being seen as a failure..

KnitOrMiss

I didn't get a chance to read all of the responses, but I will... My fear is difficult for me to put into words - I'm scared I'll succeed. I don't know how not to be THIS me... Over the past few years, I've empowered myself, and to become a "witch" to the point where many folks don't like this assertive, no-BS me, but I really don't give a rat's hootenanny... I have never succeed at anything I've set my mind to... If I set goals, I subconsciously or unconsciously self-sabotage. I'm constantly having to depend on others to remind me what I'm fighting for and that angers me. Why can't I do this myself? I've always been that way... A quote I read said, "Without deviation from the norm, progress is not possible!" Which is a variation of, "If you repeat the same actions and expect different results, that is the definition of insanity..." So I am trying to figure out what it will mean if I actually succeed....

As for loose skin, buying new clothes, and all that - I can't even worry about those things yet, because they don't seem possible! And even then, I won't let a fear stop me...or so I hope! And all of you who are fighting for yourselves - you are beautiful to me - and inspiring just the same!!! (hugs), (inspiration), and (tough love) to all!!!

tabbyblack13

I feared being under 200lbs but was not admitting it to myself. I sabotaged my weight loss for about a year and maintained at 201/204 blaming it on everything else but the real reason.
My therapist helped me get over the hurdle and the 190's came and I was over my fear, but my god did it take a LOT of weekly sessions (about 1 year).

For those who fear loose skin: I did too and HATED MY FLAPPY, DEFLATED BODY even though I was 70lbs lighter. I couldn't wear button down shirts b/c my arms wouldn't fit. I had to wear stretch fabric for everything. My belly flab hung over my waistband and I don't even want to talk about the foreign mass between my thighs. Oye!

Plastic surgery was the cure. I got a body lift and brachioplasty in the same procedure. The surgeon removed 15lbs of skin and flab. I had my eyelids lifted in January and my neck/lower face lift done about 12 days ago. In January 2015 I will have my thighplasty and breast lift along with the "bra bulge" in my armpit removed.

Total price $34,000 for everything. I live in suburbs of Los Angeles and from my research interviewing different surgeon around LA and Orange County, this is VERY reasonable. If anyone would like my surgeon's name: Martin O'Toole in Pasadena. He's a wonderful, wonderful surgeon and I'm so pleased with the outcomes. But it's VERY hard emotionally to do these surgeries. If you think it's expensive to stay with flabby skin, just think about this for a minute. A brand new car costs about $34k and you'll have this lovely tight skin for as long as you keep it up.

Start saving your money now as you being your weight loss journey. You'll need some contouring SOMEWHERE on your body even if you're young and do weight training. The skin just doesn't come back the way you want it to no matter how hard you try.

Do I think it's worth the pain and money? Hell YES. When I ride my bike, my belly flap doesn't rest on my thighs anymore. I can fit into clothes SOOO easily now. It's amazing how 15 little pounds of skin removed looked like I lost 40lbs. Now that my face and neck are done people say I look 10 years younger and I'm only 43. I love the compliments and I love not having my skin "pool" when I lie flat in my bed.

15 lbs of skin is a lot of skin. I would be completely terrified to go under the knife for any reason even for necessary surgery. From my point of view you are very brave to do the surgery.

lmmathis86

I'm scared that I'll reach my goal weight and still hate the way I look.

Yes this is mine!!!!! It's very scary to know you may never be happy with you!

mandy5135

I'm scared that I'll reach my goal weight and still hate the way I look.

^^this

WisheeNY

Looking like a deflated balloon is my biggest fear. I'm afraid of losing all this weight and still not liking the way I look but I have decided that I will have surgery to fix at least some of the things I still don't like. I've heard lots of bad things on here about surgery to get rid of loose skin and it scares me to death especially since I've never had a surgery before. So it's like either hate looking at it every time I get naked and walk past a mirror, or have this horrible surgery. It just feels like a lose/lose.

xDawnsgrace

that i'll finish losing the last 10 pounds, and i'll buy a whole new wardrobe, then gaining weight and not being able to fit any of it.

also, that people will continue to treat me differently as a result of losing weight and being hot (just kidding. but i am treated differently now)

lmmathis86

Oh and buying clothes!!! I hate shopping I normally end up crying in a dressing room! I dont want to have to buy more clothes i'm scared i'm not going to like the way anything fits.

Loralrose

I worry that if people find out I'm losing weight on purpose, they'll think I'm shallow or superficial.

elothen

You've all got a lot of valid fears here, let me give you a perspective on one though.

Many of you have suggested that you might lose the weight but still not be happy with your body, not feel attractive. After losing my weight I still don't feel attractive. That's not me fishing for compliments, it's just how I feel regardless of what people (including my wife) say. So, I know how you feel and honestly still feel that way.

However there are other aspects to this. The greatest to me is how I physically feel (vs. look). I have energy, I feel strong. 6 months after I lost 50lbs I ran the Tough Mudder. At times I thought I wouldn't be able to finish it but I did and that success, that experience, has fueled me ever since and I'll always remember what I overcame and what I achieved that day.

Because of my weight loss and new dedication to fitness I can play soccer again, and I LOVE IT! I'll never be as fast or skilled as these 20-somethings who've played their whole life but there's just something about being out on that pitch and playing for all your worth. I day dream about it just about every day.

Set your fears aside friends. I'm SO glad I did this and you will be too.

Shelley6591

Everyone's fears are valid, I just want to tell everyone NOT to give up! About a year and a half ago my doctor thought I had Cancer, I was so sick I could barely function. I had every test done under the sun and nothing too big really came back aside from the fact that my issue could likely be my weight, no doctor or specialist told me it just hit me. I tried for months to lose it and nothing, this time last year I was beyond depressed about it thinking I was going to be obese and unhappy and sick forever, then my doctor mentioned MFP and that was it... down 70 since then ( I lost 15 before joining). My point is I tried EVERYTHING and if I can lose that much without really trying too, so can you! I work full time, have 2 kids, my husband works 80 hrs a week so I get very little help and I have a sedentary desk job, it can be done!

I no longer fear I will fail at this point, I want it so bad. I get the fact some of you feel like you still won't like the way you look but I bet you will and at least will feel better and be healthier. I have NEVER been pretty, not looking for compliments, not that you can see pictures, but I know I'm different looking lol! It's amazing what losing 70 pounds and some new clothes and makeup will do for one's confidence though! I LOVE buying new clothes! Just imagine what it's like to not have to buy plus size clothes! it's cheaper and there is more variety! I need work out clothes, casual clothes and formal work clothes so I get the $$ part but I usually buy second hand for work and a lot of stores like Target and Old Navy are cheap!

I can't stress enough that you can all do this! Do it for you and no one else! Picture yourself at your ideal weight and imagine how amazing it will be and how much better you will feel. Don't worry you won't be happy, tell yourself you will be! :flowerforyou:

Lives2Travel

Of course. Here they are:

1. My goal is unattainable. It's been a LONG time since I weighed 145. What if my 55 year old body refuses to cooperate and getting there is impossible?

2. I'll backslide and regain all the weight. Done it before, don't want to do it again.

3. The "good enough" trap. I define this as thinking "I feel good. I look better than I did. I'm not at my goal, but where I am is good enough".

4. Maintenance. Scared silly of this. I still have 47 lbs. to go and I plan to spend a considerable amount of time devising a maintenance plan. All this work is for nothing if I can't maintain.

KnM0107

I didn't have any fears, but I also HAD to lose weight. I was bed ridden and extremely ill when I started losing weight so nothing else matered except for getting the excess weight off. I went from bed ridden for 6 months to now training for my first cycling event (45 mile charity event).

nancy10272004

I already know that I'll need a breast lift and probably a tummy tuck after I finish losing the 100 lbs I have to lose. I have no idea how I'm going to pay for it.

lisaanne1369

my boobs are gone but I dont care..I run like the wind and I look and feel great at 44.