Childish deletions

jellybeanhed313

Yep, and I've done the same. No big deal. If I'm not interacting with someone I delete them. I like to keep my friends list very small so that I can actually support the people on it. If someone is inactive or unsupportive, why bother having them there?

Dugleik157

I don't have any friends here, so no.

FraggleRockerFitnessLover

OMG, yes, I have been deleted by tons of people, who felt inclined to PM me a rationale, stating my posts are not all fitness related, lol. And my BFF on here calls me the 'deleter' of MFP. Because, I delete people all the time for one of two reasons. Lack of interaction or I find something distasteful in your personality I can not relate to. With all that being said, it's the internet! Who cares. Just roll with the punches and be yourself...I am who I am said Sam I am...:drinker:

tmaryam

Whose to say "childish"??? I'm sure the deletions that I received were based on some incompatibility and were only done after some consideration and thought. The same process I use when resorting to deleting people on my FL. Besides, I don't "own" my friends. They can do whatever they like.

This is what I was thinking. I wouldn't go as far as to say they were childish unless they emailed you with "neener neener neener" when they did it. :laugh: If I delete someone, it's usually because they haven't proven to be a real person and appear to be a lurker. I'm very leery of strangers, that's just me.

zoeysasha37

I have no idea, they probably have but I just haven't noticed

sarainiowa

Don't know so obviously I don't miss them. Must have been mutual :-)

KariOrtiz2014

Yup, their loss!

This

Topsking2010

Try not to let it get to you. Often it's more about them than you. Best not to get too wrapped up in the motivations of people you've never met. Just let it go and worry about yourself is all.

Well said!!!

120by30

I've been deleted, but I wouldn't call it childish. I've also deleted people. I deleted a guy for being pervy. I've deleted people who went inactive for a while since I have no interest in being a friend collector. I like to keep my list pretty small with active people. To me, it's definitely nothing to get offended over.

FraggleRockerFitnessLover

Try not to let it get to you. Often it's more about them than you. Best not to get too wrapped up in the motivations of people you've never met. Just let it go and worry about yourself is all.

You're cute in this Avatar Mr Smile's...:bigsmile:



Well said!!!

devil_in_a_blue_dress

Has anyone had friends on here that have deleted you for no reason?

Hmm, sounds like a post about posterior pain to me.

Be nice, lover. Somebody sits on the same spectrum as you.

ND_Figgzie

been deleted and have deleted. It's not just about support but personalities. It doesn't make sense to have a friend that doesn't interact or have any intention of getting personal. When I have been deleted, I have taken the high road and written that person an email saying I'm sorry if I was not supportive to their goals or mesh with them personally. Your friend list is going to need some tweaking and keeping it smaller is a better idea to keep it personal.

uconnwinsnc

I have 5 very close friends in my life and then my family. I don't care if anyone else decides to remove me from anything. I don't really delete people on this site because there is no reason to.

AlyssaSupernova

Haha yeah, someone sent me a private message once telling me how she needed to delete me as a friend because I was not inspiring enough

delicious_cocktail

Oh I know they had their reasons.

Their petty, insignificant reasons.

I'm sure they spent quite some time working out plausible-sounding excuses, polite little contrivances like "I have too many friends" and it's surely nothing personal.

Once they got their petty little ducks in a row and were ready, they executed me like yesterday's inmates. I'm just some felon to these people, another convicted rapist who can be 'disappeared' with the simple flip of a switch or injection from a syringe.

But I'm NOT. I am NOT! I have never raped ANYONE.

cparter

I've deleted and been deleted. Either way, it never bothers me. Some deletions are purely people who want to have a certain group of freinds with similar ideas (I take them all - no real preference in my circle) and others I could care less (usually unknown). I usually delete people who either have not been on in a while or never respond.

The thing is, only a few in my MFP circle know me in real life and even those are not the ones I go out to dinner with or have a sincere BFF relationship with. Either we are in the circle of support or we are not. Why should it matter? Why do we cling to others like a security blanket when we either will never meet face-to-face or have our own lives/drama to deal with?

Too often people create unnecessary drama by have unnecessary expectations of others.

cparter

Whose to say "childish"??? I'm sure the deletions that I received were based on some incompatibility and were only done after some consideration and thought. The same process I use when resorting to deleting people on my FL. Besides, I don't "own" my friends. They can do whatever they like.

And this ^^

sjohnny

Pretty sure there's always a reason. And if I eventually notice I usually think (or sometimes say outloud) BWAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! That fcker didn't last long!

ItsCasey

You know what I think is childish? Whining about being unfriended by a random Internet person. Few things about this site annoy me as much as all the hand-wringing over being deleted from someone's friends list. Even posting the names of people who delete you so that the rest of your friends can tell you how much better off you are without them reeks of middle school. Seriously, some of you need to get a life.

Besides, if the person was that good of a friend, then you ought to know how to contact them outside of this site, and you ought to have enough respect for them to try to resolve the matter privately and spare the rest of us your emotional breakdown.

Noogynoogs

Ithis isn't about me. Just a question I put out here for curiosity

MrsG31

I wouldn't call them childish. The site is meant for supporting one another. If a complete stranger decides to add you to their FL for more support and then discovers you are not compatible with their personality and/or goals and they decide to remove you, it's not childish unless they ran a smear campaign against you first.

I just got dumped last week. But honestly I probably would have dumped them soon; kinda glad they did it first, lol!

TheRoadDog

I have a core group of about 10 that Iinteract with regularly. Everyone else comes and goes. I like the keep my FL to about 12.

Trishsimon

Has anyone had friends on here that have deleted you for no reason?

Yes one girl who didn't agree with the amount of time I was putting in for one type of exercise lol...so she deleted me :laugh:

Zekela

Possibly... But it probably was totally warrented since Im sick and twisted. Im beginning to wonder about the rest of my fl who havent pressed the delete button as yet. Those weirdos...

Collier78

You know what I think is childish? Whining about being unfriended by a random Internet person. Few things about this site annoy me as much as all the hand-wringing over being deleted from someone's friends list. Even posting the names of people who delete you so that the rest of your friends can tell you how much better off you are without them reeks of middle school. Seriously, some of you need to get a life.

Besides, if the person was that good of a friend, then you ought to know how to contact them outside of this site, and you ought to have enough respect for them to try to resolve the matter privately and spare the rest of us your emotional breakdown.

Uhm...you did read the part about the poster being autistic and not so great with social cues right...so I don't think it was whining...just general curiousity about social norms for the site...and the OP didn't post any names, or call anyone out...I can totally see what your saying about middle school and how some people roll, but such was not the case here...maybe you didn't read before you assumed? Just sayin...:ohwell: :flowerforyou:

Noogynoogs

Thanks Mate - Autistic people have the habit of nci quite getting the wording right and can come across as offensive

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Collier78

You know what I think is childish? Whining about being unfriended by a random Internet person. Few things about this site annoy me as much as all the hand-wringing over being deleted from someone's friends list. Even posting the names of people who delete you so that the rest of your friends can tell you how much better off you are without them reeks of middle school. Seriously, some of you need to get a life.

Besides, if the person was that good of a friend, then you ought to know how to contact them outside of this site, and you ought to have enough respect for them to try to resolve the matter privately and spare the rest of us your emotional breakdown.

Uhm...you did read the part about the poster being autistic and not so great with social cues right...so I don't think it was whining...just general curiousity about social norms for the site...and the OP didn't post any names, or call anyone out...I can totally see what your saying about middle school and how some people roll, but such was not the case here...maybe you didn't read before you assumed? Just sayin...:ohwell: :flowerforyou:

Here's what I know, you don't have to be autistic to have trouble with social interactions. And that's proved on a daily basis around here. I think the OP will be just fine.

Truth! I don't disagree...and it could be it's Monday and I've only had one cup of coffee...but the other post came off as condescending and judgemental with no info..Que sera sera!

iPlatano

Yup even though I support them and comment on all their post. I just dont know they reason why they do it.

MrsATrotta

who knows, who cares. I really only delete ppl who are inactive.