WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2014
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:flowerforyou: Just look at you Renny! What a difference - I am proud of you, missy! I bet you feel like a million bucks!!!!0
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lollyhill - welcome. One of the best tips I can pass along to you is to come here often. You'll get lots of support and some very good ideas. Lots of motivation, too. Tell us more about yourself.
Linda - so good to see you back!
Cynthia - yup, Recovery rings a bell with me. Look in your grocery store for the baby food meats. There are just plain meats, they come in small jars. They might be in something like "Stage 1", but they do make it
Renny - wonderful NSV
Beth - when we were getting the pool, I had every intention of working out in the pool, I even got a floation belt and "bells" (weights). You know what? I've never once used them in the pool. To me, I go to the Y for the deep water class since my pool only goes to 6' and theirs goes to 10'. I honestly find just listening to the waterfall while floating in the pool to be so very very relaxing. I didn't think this would happen, but that's the way it turned out. Wonder if the Y will buy back those weights? I know that *Prevention* magazine had a weight training routine in the pool, they might have had an aerobic one, too. Google them. Hey, in winter you can use your pool and play hockey on it....lol
hmmm...last time we check the pool water was 72. Wonder if that's too cold to go in? Probably. But, heat up the spa, yup we can do that. Oh, I just can't wait to go in Update: heated up the spa, but to me it actually got too warm. The remote said that it got to about 92 degrees. I would have been happy with it in the high 80's. Oh well, it was still nice to sit in it.
Alison - you are such and thoughtful and giving person! You never cease to amaze me
I'm sorry if I miss anyone. My eyes are REALLY burning, probably the pollen
Kim - I believe what you're referring to as a "regular" water pool is a pool with chlorine. With a salt water pool, you don't have all the chemicals (chlorine, etc). You still have to add muriatic acid, but that's about the worst of the chemicals. The salt water is gentler on your skin. Some people have a reaction to high levels of chlorine. In essence, a salt water pool is easier to maintain. I think we got a "chlorine" smell one time in the last year and that was because we had the spa jets on, so the chlorine was in the air. But it wasn't a real strong smell, as a matter of fact, I didn't detect it, Vince did.
lollyhill - I agaree with Kim, log each and every bite regardless of how much over you are. Pretty soon you'll see what it is that's causing you to go over and you'll be changing your habits.
Renny - thanks for sharing. Boy, what a change, and for the better!
Just made some more of the chocolate bran muffins to have in the freezer.
Was going to work on some craft, but I think I'll take a shower first and hopefully, that'll help this "watering eyes". I put the Wet & Forget down today, hope it wasn't too hot. That stuff is amazing!!! I don't remember who recommended it to me, but I thank you each and every day. Then put down more weed killer in places I totally forgot to get last time (like behind the one retaining wall in front of the fence)
Off to shower-land!!!!
Michele in NC0 -
We went to a meeting this morning. I am usually good at staying away from the treats but today the meeting was especially boring and I treated myself to a modest serving of trail mix and three slices of homemade egg bread that MFP told me had a zillion calories…then we had hot dogs and sauerkraut for supper so it was an unusually high calorie and high sodium day not nearly offset by dog walking, garden puttering, and exercise bike riding. The good part was that I enjoyed the treats and didn’t waste any energy kicking myself for detouring off the healthy path. Tomorrow we’ll do an Isagenix cleanse day that will put me right back on track.
:bigsmile: Renny, your before and after pictures are inspiring.
:bigsmile: Lin, I am very happy to see you posting again…..I have missed you.
:flowerforyou: Katla, I found “Magnum P.I.” by using the search feature on my cable company DVR……It’s on a channel called Encore.
:flowerforyou: DeeDee, I got my shirt from a company called Zazzle….I found them online…..they have lots of shirt choices with lots of great sayings including "eat, sleep, shop".
:flowerforyou: Cynthia, a few years ago I had to give insulin shots to my old cat, Haifa. I didn’t think I’d be able to do it and I surprised myself and was successful. It was very scary for me at first.
Barbie from beautiful NW Washington 0 -
Hi all - Still in and out with family and such the last week or so, but always coming back to my Vitamin F friends!!
About meeting husbands - I first met DH because he lived next door to someone I was dating and I knew one of his roommates (we were at college, though not living in dorms). We were pretty good friends, but no romantic interest. My then-boyfriend graduated and went off to explore America, and I stayed at the university to take summer classes. That August a bunch of us went to a music festival together - yep, it was Woodstock. That weekend, we realized we were meant for each other
and have been inseparable since. We were married a little less than five months later. Nearly 45 years and still going strong!! Like all couples, we have had ups and downs, more ups than downs, though. I often credit our successful relationship to two things - we were friends before romance could make us put on those rosy glasses, and we have always had our own interests (for instance, Stan likes to bicycle and I much prefer lifting weights), as well as ones we share.
Jill in western MA0 -
Just got home from the pottery show. It was really slow, business-wise. We were about half of the previous year. Not sure why. Sometimes though, nice weather kills us, because people really want to be outside doing other things, and today was beautiful! Darn. Still, I had a blast sitting around with my friends visiting. We did a lot of laughing and a little crying too. One more day and I can get back to real life.
Renny - I LOVE YOUR PICTURES!
Here is the joke of the day:
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A nursery school driver was delivering a van full of kids home one day when a fire truck zoomed past. Sitting in the front seat of the truck was a Dalmatian dog. The children started discussing the dog’s duties.
‘They use him to keep crowds back,’ said Tommy.
‘No,’ said Billy, ‘he’s just for good luck.’
Peter brought the argument to a close. ‘They use the dogs, he said firmly, to find the fire hydrants….'
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Sylvia0 -
Hello to all: I got a lot of walking and 30 minutes of strength training done today. Watched the Kentucky Derby. It was interesting as the trainer of the winning horse was an exercise boy for Swaps, the 1955 Kentucky Derby winner and I went to high school with a boy whose father had Swaps at stud on his thoroughbred farm just outside of the town where we lived. I used to love driving by there in the spring to see the mares and foals in the pastures.
I went out to see my horse and she is limping. She has a scrape on her right front leg probably from another horse kicking her or stepping on her. There is no swelling and the skin is not broken, probably just a bruise. Hope it clears up quickly.
Cynthia - Good thoughts for your kitty. It is hard when our pets get old.
Lin - Glad to see you back.
Barbie - Like the shirt.
Forgot who it was that had to provide food for youth group but I would just provide food that your son could eat. Maybe others would get the message.
Healing angels to all who need them and congratulations to those with victories. Sue in SD0 -
Renny, Love the pictures! I don't even know if I have any before pictures...probably burned them all as they were taken.
My dad traveled home to Milwaukee from Tucson on Monday, had his 90th birthday on Thursday, and went into the hospital with pneumonia on Friday. My sister said he had a bad day today with spiking fevers. Needing prayers for him.
I spent the day at our grade school track meet. It's a lot of fun...I was a timer and was on my feet all day. I'm not feeling it now, but I might tomorrow. It's also a 2 hour drive from here so I was glad to be standing most of the day really.
My son, dil and new baby are in town for the weekend. We get to see them tomorrow and cuddle with the little guy and the 6 year old too. Can't wait!
Have a wonderful rest of the weekend!
Eileen near San Diego0 -
Hi gals. It was beautiful here today and we went for a 3 mile walk around a lake near our home at a state recreational area. Then we had pizza for dinner! I had three pieces and still feel STARVED after an hour after eating! Not fair! I got the thin crust because of the carbs and that’s the difference.
Wednesday I had a bad hypoglycemic reaction at clinical and after I ate the headache turned into a full blown migraine. I barely could get home. I shouldn’t have been driving at all, but no other way to get there! So Thursday I felt like a wet dishrag but got through the last day of clinical til October.
Tigress: good for you making those good food choices.
Joyce sounds like you made some good choices eating out too
Michele: have you heard from Brian at all lately?
Renny: glad dd is feeling better! Whata busy gal!
Cynthia: Rex and Riley (and even Benny Beagle) send good wishes to Charlie. I’ve done the cat fluid thing for more cats than I care to remember. We even have a house sitter who does it! Try deli meat..turkey or chicken. I’ve never had a sick cat refuse it. It’s all Benny would eat when he had pancreatitis
Heather: good for you to keep to your exercise plan
Liz: wow that’s a lot of inches!!!
DeeDee: sounds like you are doing a lot of remodeling!
Cindy: a wedding! How did I miss that? How fun
Margaret: glad your eye is ok!
Katla: finding a new person to do your hair is hard! I’ve had the same person since 1976!
Jane; hope you are feeling better soon!
Namacheri and Lollyhill: welcome to our group
Linda: so nice to see you back again! You have been missed and I’m so glad you are feeling better! Any word on the
angioplasty?
Beth: I agree about the muffin tops. People today don’t seem to care how their clothes fit. The hospitals around here have actually had to start adding a line about pants being properly hemmed to the dress code!
Alison: what a great idea!
Kim: your coffee story made me smile because I remember once going to eat for dinner and asking for caffeine free pop. Well apparently they did NOT give me decaf because I was up all night cleaning and I NEVER clean!!!
Renny: how lovely you look under your tree and look at how much thinner you are! Thank you for sharing
Barbie: you are just sassy in that new picture! Love it!
Jill: what a sweet story! Woodstock!
Sylvia: cute joke!
Sue: sending good wishes to the four legged baby! I don’t know if I told you guys but when we went to our friends’ for Easter, one of their horses came up to me and put her head on my shoulder and laid her cheek against mine and just made that little snorting/puffing noise that horses do. So sweet!
Eileen: enjoy the visit! Those little ones grow so fast!
Well I’m about to keel over! One thing for sure, no way could I have walked 3 miles last year! Take care, Meg from beautiful Omaha0 -
Today was a rest day for me. Tomorrow, DH and I will take our long walk to the coffee shop.
Cynthia, I had a dog with kidney failure that I gave fluids to -- twice-a-day. I remember I had to hold the needle while I sat with him and watched the drip, drip, drip. We had some good conversations just sitting there together. Well, it was only me talking, but he was a good listener, and we covered some important topics. I would put the bag in a basin of warm water for about 15 minutes before I administered it. He was a skinny whippet, and would get cold and shivery if the fluids were cold.
I got a lot of helpful advice from a k9 kidney yahoo group regarding diet, supplements and tips on giving fluids for my dog. There is probably one for cats too if you are interested. I met a fellow at the vet's office that gave his cat daily fluids for ten years, and the cat was still alive and doing just fine.
Kayzoola (PNW USA)0 -
Everybody is so busy today!!!! Proud of you. I must be going to get taller because lately I have been starving! hard to ward it off.
We had a dog named Buddy for a long time. He was the family dog when the girls were growing up so he will always be well remembered. One time he managed to get out of the house when my husband opened the door to go to work. He ran down the street and got hit pretty bad by a car. My husband got him, wrapped him up and immediately took him to the vet. Was a little surprised he remembered where the vet was. He had a pretty complicated fracture of his back leg and this vet didn't have the knowledge to fix it and referred hubbie to a collegue of his in the next town, way out in the boonies. So he took him there and surgery was done. Our youngest, Michelle, was the only one who could do anything with Buddy. We could try but she did it effortlessly because he allowed it. So when we got him home and Buddie immediately pulled the stitches out she was the one who had to wash and redress the wound twice a day until it healed. She could get that dog to do anything gross for her. He had a real bad gouge in his foreleg from trying to jump over a big stump and not making it. Well the vet told her how to take care of it, warned her that it may not turn out well but she wasn't going to accept that. I wish she wound have gone to vet school but when she was in high school she really let her grades slide and she just didn't have the knowledge base at all to go to med school. I now she could go to vet assistant school but she makes good money at the boring job she is at now and would have to quit that to go to school. She refuses to take financial support from us to do it. She knows she could move back home but she would come with 3 very large dogs in two and she knows how I feel about that. She had an 8 foot boa one time that had an upper respiratory infection and the doctor taught her how to give him his shots. I don't think she will ever meet up to the potential that she could have been but she is happy in caring for the dogs she has, babysitting other dogs and being an advocate for animal care.
Joyce, Indiana0 -
Renny - fantastic! You look great!
Well, beautiful women, I am off to London soon for DGS'S 3rd birthday party. I've wrapped the presents. We will do our exercises and then I've got to shower and make myself BEAUTIFUL for my ex!:laugh: :laugh:
Love to you all, Heather in sunny Hampshire UK0 -
Good morning everyone!
Lovely pictures, Renny. :flowerforyou:
I have tunnel vision at the moment; only dwelling on Charlie the cat. He is just not eating, no matter what I put in front of him (from mackerel to sardines to chicken broth to Spam to hairball treats, which he used to love). He seems interested, licks at it, then turns away. The force feeding is stressful, and in any case it's not enough food to keep him going for any length of time.
I'll keep up with the fluids and talk to the vet Tuesday, as planned. It's not looking good unless she has something up her sleeve medication-wise to increase his appetite.
Very gloomy Cynthia0 -
Big hugs Cynthia.
I made a decision as an adult not to have pets as I had so much grief as a child seeing my beloved pets suffer in different ways and die. Some of that was due to my parents' neglect, but other times just horrible things happened. I prefer not yo put myself through that now that I have the choice. So sorry your beloved Charlie is struggling. I loved my Oscar so much and it was so painful watching him suffering with kidney disease. I don't even have house plants as I find it too difficult getting attached to them. I had to chop up a monstera I had that had grown too big and that I used every year as my Christmas tree. I felt like a murderer.
Well, I'm ready for the off. Agonised over what to wear! I will try to post a photo. I'm not wearing my lymphodema arm so I hope my arm doesn't swell up. I feel very nervous!:ohwell: (my ex will be at the party with his 20 years younger wife and two children aged 11 and 9 )
DON'T LET THE PERFECT BE THE ENEMY OF THE GOOD. :happy:
Breathe.
Love to all.
Heather, soon to be in London, UK0 -
Good morning beautiful ladies:flowerforyou:
Eileen
Beautiful pic of your newest grandson enjoy your time with family today! Prayers for your dad being sent:flowerforyou: !
Cynthia Hope the vet has a miracle for Charlie! It's so hard when they get old:sad: !!!! Sending you a hug!!!
Meg So good to see your post!!! Remember to take care of yourself:flowerforyou: !!!!
Renny You look awesome:bigsmile: !!!! Eating right and exercising has paid off!!!
Heather I'm sure you will dazzle the ex and the young wife !!! Have fun!
Barbie I'll have to check out that website, thanks!!!
Welcome to everyone new:flowerforyou: , pleases come in often and chat away!!!
I'm going to go boss the boys this morning:bigsmile: , and not think about how horrible my house is looking at the moment:frown: . I have everything for the kitchen picked out, now I wait for things to get done.....
Have a wonderful Sunday ladies! Drink your water :drinker: :drinker: :drinker: and log your food!!!!
Hugs,
DeeDee in beautiful sunny NC:glasses:0 -
Not so good starting out. Ate so much I GAINED 2 pounds. Trying to stuff down my grief I guess. All so new to me. Hard loosing my son. Love you forever my most precious baby boy.
Milagros
Raleigh, NC0 -
Good morning ladies,
I'm busy trying to catch up. I've been a little off track the last couple of weeks, and except for my big bike ride haven't really been working out. It messes with me when I get off track and often takes me a while to get myself back on track. So I declared yesterday my get back on track day. Was very careful about my food and got a good hike in with the pups.
We headed out hiking on my favorite trail. Since the puppy is still young (3 months on Monday) and is still getting accustomed to being on lead I decided to do the riverside of the trail and not the ridge line. Ends up being and out and back that way, we still got in about 3 miles of ups and downs, just not the huge climbs that include the ridge line. Stella, my dachshund, did well with helping with the hiking training. Lectra, boxer mix puppy, fought the lead a little, but once she got into the excitement of hiking she did well. She was leery of the foot bridges and the creeks that we had to ford, but otherwise really got into it. As she gets older and stronger I think I'm going to have a real hiker in her.
Wildflowers are blooming, several patches of my favorite, the Crested Dwarf Iris. I also, had a big find the Showy Orchid … not one you see generally. I'll try and post some pictures here.
Lectra and Stella:
Wildflowers:
The big find of the day the Showy Orchid:
Sorry they seem to be cut in half, but you can get the idea of how beautiful they are. Generally when I reduce the size in photo bucket, which I did, they show up smaller … not the case this time.0 -
Good Morning to all on this beautiful Sunday. The sun is shinning all looks good and promising.
Meg.
I have no word yet on angio plasti but cardiologist said could be 3 months even a year. They are so far behind.
But hey I'm thankful that they got me feeling this good. Hardly anymore coughing. And yea I can breath.
Cycling Bonnie
Beautiful touch of spring.
Well off to shower then maybe a little walk don't want to push to hard even if I'm feeling I can do more.
Forgot to ask the doctor if I could do more. Or should I save my ticker for after there done with me.
But one thing for sure. I don't have to eat until the seams are splitting. I know I need to lose weight so why wait.
see you all lighter.0 -
Good morning ladies!
Have once again been too busy to post, but have stopped by daily to keep up with all of you.
Meg- Lots of hugs to you! You are always so busy and do such important work.
Michelle- You are also so busy all of the time! I hope you get to enjoy your pool a lot this summer. I love reading about all of the different forms of exercise you do. Gives me great ideas.
Lin C- So glad to hear from you. I have always found your posts very inspiring. Happy to hear you are feeling better.
Dr. Katie- It must have felt great to see your students succeed! I have high hopes for mine as they face the state exams in June. Most are working so hard.
DeeDee- So glad you get to boss the boys! Sounds like fun.
Need to go do housework, laundry, lesson plans and grading. A full day! I "played" all day yesterday- mother/daughter tea with mom and sister followed by a long walk with my sister. Was gone all day.
Have a great day all!
Deb in rainy CNY
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Jane: Sorry you had to miss Violet’s birthday party. You’ll just have to plan a special “Violet party” of your own when you’re able.:flowerforyou:
Namacheri: 8-10 pounds in one month is quite a lot. I averaged about half that while losing. I’m finding that maintaining is a serious challenge.:flowerforyou:
Michele: You've really helped me put things into a better perspective. Facetime is better than nothing. I need to appreciate the contact and quit grousing that it isn’t more. :flowerforyou:
Lollyhill: Move more, log every bite and swallow, and stop by here for moral support as often as you need it. Welcome!:flowerforyou:
Linda in wet Northern Ontario: WELCOME BACK!!!!! I’m so happy to hear the beta blockers are helping you to feel better.:flowerforyou:
Renny: Congrats on wearing a summer dress! Your pictures are inspiring. You are transformed!:flowerforyou:
Alison: Congratulations on a productive day.:flowerforyou:
Kim in N Cal: Good luck with landscaping your front yard. I’ve been reading about the drought situation in CA and hope you’re able to handle things okay. I saw a TV show about landscaping in AZ that had a lot of useful ideas for water conservation and plant choices. It may have been a “This Old House” episode. I'm not sure.:flowerforyou:
Barbie: Thanks for the Encore tip. I’m pretty sure we have that on our list. I’ll enjoy seeing “Young Tom.” :bigsmile: I loved the humor in that series.:flowerforyou:
Cynthia: DD has a dog that is diabetic. She is now giving him insulin shots daily. They’ve also taken up the "on demand" feeding bowls and give the dogs measured portions once a day so her fat old dog has slimmed down amazingly well. His being alive at all is a miracle. He’d gone blind by the time they realized what was wrong with him and that won’t be curable, but he isn’t suffering. He seems to think he is invisible and tries to sneak food in plain sight of everyone in the house, which provides laughs. Your cat may do fine once you get things adjusted. I hope so.:flowerforyou:
Jill in W MA: Your story about meeting and marrying your DH is great. Woodstock must have been an amazing experience. We were too far away and too poor to consider going.:flowerforyou:
Sylvia: I’m sorry business was slow at the pottery show, but thrilled you had a good time with your friends. Love the fire truck dog story.:flowerforyou:
Sue in SD: I hope your horse heals quickly and you are able to ride.:flowerforyou:
Eileen: Your dad is in my prayers. Congratulations on having time with your grand kids.:flowerforyou:
Meg: I’m sorry you had a migraine. You are so lucky to have the same hairdresser for so many years.:drinker: Loved the story of your friend’s horse giving you a cheek hug. Sweet indeed.:flowerforyou:
Heather: You are so beautiful that your ex is likely to have more than a twinge or two of remorse. :devil: They say the best revenge is a life well lived, and you are doing very well.:flowerforyou:
Milagros: Sending sincere sympathy your way. When my cousin was killed in a car wreck many years ago we were all devastated. One of the aunties found a book that helped me get through the worst of it. It was written by a Rabbi who lost his young son to progeria, a condition that causes rapid aging. I believe the title is When Bad things Happen to Good People.:brokenheart: :flowerforyou:
Cycling Bonnie: Lovely pictures.:flowerforyou:
The haircut correction helped but I still miss the barber. I need to let my hair grow for a month or two and then decide whether to go back to this lady or find someone else. :ohwell: Yesterday we bought a second fuchsia basket that is now hanging by our kitchen window. I have a long north exposure, and the fuchsias do well there, plus the hummingbirds love them. I had several tropical fuchsias that wintered over a couple of years but were killed in last December’s extreme cold so I had to start over this spring. I may still need to replace a hardy fuchsia or two that are planted in the ground and stay outside year round. Two are fine and sprouting, and two aren’t showing signs of growth yet. I’m not sure whether they made it or not. :noway:
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
May Goals:
1. Log every bite and swallow.
2. Cardio exercise at least 3 days a week.
3. Have fun every day.
4. Drink at least two glasses of water daily.0 -
Brief post today gals. Cynthia sending you a big hug and one for Charlie. Linda glad the breathing is better.
I'm turning in my "mom card". The 17 year old came home totally wasted last night and is still puking. We're still making her do her weekend chores (picking up dog poo can't help the stomach much!) but I am so disappointed I am almost sick. Some random guy gave her a ride home (she was supposed to spend the night) so it's just thank God she got home safely. Even sadder still, the friend is the girl who practically lives her and has thrown DD under the bus blaming her for everything. In the end it doesn't matter who did what, it's a series of bad choices all around on everyone's part. But with one kid knocked up and becoming nearly demented every day thinking of "giving the child away" and the other one, well I guess I shouldn't be a mother. I am just distraught over this. Worse, DD thinks the friends of her friend will physically harm her in school. So I guess we'll be going to the school tomorrow to talk to administration.
Take care all, Meg from Omaha where the wind is ridiculously high today.0 -
Meg, so sorry you feel that way. You've done your best and I know you'll continue to do so. It must be really hard to see the bad choices in spite of all you have done. Try not to be too hard on yourself. :flowerforyou:
Cynthia0 -
Meg- I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through with your daughters. It breaks my heart. I remember all the agony my son caused when he was a teenager (and well beyond). I didn't think I would live through it. Almost didn't. I remember my hubby coming home early and finding me in the garage with the engine running. Please don't internalize it like I did. Hugs!
Here is the joke of the day:
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Once upon a time there was a famous sea captain. This captain was very successful at what he did; for years he guided merchant ships all over the world. Never did stormy seas or pirates get the best of him. He was admired by his crew and fellow captains. However, there was one thing different about this captain. Every morning he went through a strange ritual. He would lock himself in his quarters and open a small safe. In the safe was an envelope with a piece of paper inside. He would stare at the paper for a minute, and then lock it back up. Afterwards, he would go about his daily duties. For years this went on, and his crew became very curious. Was it a treasure map? Was it a letter from a long lost love? Everyone speculated about the contents of the strange envelope.
One day the captain died at sea. After laying the captain's body to rest, the first mate led the entire crew into the captain’s quarters. He opened the safe, got the envelope, and opened it and... The first mate turned pale and showed the paper to the others. Four words were on the paper; two lines with two words each:
Port Left
Starboard Right
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Sylvia0 -
Oh Meg, what a horrible feeling. Every mother logically knows that we can't control what our children do and that we can only do our best to teach and guide and yet, we all still manage to measure our success as a parent based on our children's choices. I guess that's because so many in "society" are so quick to blame the parents when a child does something wrong.
Either way, I don't buy it. Everyone makes bad choices, mistakes, etc. and some have worse consequences than others. My mother spent a good part of the last 25 years visiting one of her children in prison. She didn't ask him to pick up the crack pipe. I can only imagine what a "failure" she felt like every time she got patted down for a visit. I'm also glad she got to see him free and getting a good start at life before she died.
As "good" of a child as I was, I also came home completely wasted once or twice back in the day. I'm not sure there's anything my mom could have done differently that would have made me do things differently in retrospect. I can only hope she understands how lucky she got and what could have happened under the circumstances.
Give yourself a break, go on strike for a while if it helps but know the truth, you wouldn't be feeling bad if you didn't care and didn't try. THAT'S what makes a good mother! xo
Gloria0 -
:flowerforyou: Meg, come from a place of love with your daughters. I was a terrible disappointment to my parents from my late teens until shortly after my 30th birthday. They stuck with me because they believed that good parents don't desert their children and they said "home is where when you have to go there, they have to take you in". They thought there was no hope for me, yet they didn't give up hope. I urge you to do the same for your daughters. I am so sorry for your pain. Barbie 0
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Meg - (((hugs))) to you. If it is any help, many if not all of us on this board can identify. With 4 kids, I went on strike a number of times. mom-on-strike was a huge wake-up call for hubby and kids. It's a wonder they all still love me :bigsmile: :bigsmile: At least they SAY they do. Maybe it's fear, hahaha. They are now between 29 - 42, so they will be "enjoying" their own drama's, and some already have (not really any consolation, I realize). Ultimately, DH and I have learned that home is a safe place for them and us. And that is our mantra.
I am just taking some time for a coffee break before I host a wedding shower. Well, I should correct that; DD is hosting, but the shower is at our house, because her place is so small. It is a tea party theme, and I have put out all my tea cups. She will bring the teapots, and guests will bring goodies. The group consist of knitting friends. It is a whole new generation of knitters out there, and they are so much fun and easy going.
Renny
from rainy Vancouver Island, BC0 -
Renny – great pictures! I understand that you don’t care for the “heavy” picture, but you grandchild leaning in to Grandma is precious!
Michele – yeah “regular” is one with chlorine – the only kind I have ever swam in or heard of… so is it as salty as the ocean water? That is really cool that it doesn’t need all the chemicals… My mom has a pool and for years as a kid my Saturday job was to clean the pool; and every afternoon after school I had to test and adjust chemicals in the pool – Now she has a “pool boy”….:laugh:
Barbie – good for you to just hop back on track…
Jill – a Woodstock romance! How neat!!
Sylvia – sorry the show was slow; but glad you enjoyed everyone.
Sue – what a small world!
Eileen – enjoy your family – good thoughts for your dad.
Meg – great walking! Take care of yourself with the hypoglycemic and migraines!
Heather –New hubby got the prize and the ex lost out! You look great!:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
Cynthia - my heart breaks:brokenheart: for you, it is so hard to have our furry friends do badly.
Milagros – You have a lot of stress – sending you good thoughts… Just look at the logging as the first change maybe don’t get on the scale for a few weeks. Have you considered a grief group? There are ladies here that have recommended them and a couple of books.
Bonnie – beautiful flowers and so different from our CA ones….
Lin - love your tag line “see you all lighter”
Katla – fushias are my favorite plant! But in my area they are not supposed to live, too dry and hot – BUT I have a small spot I have packed 4 into and they do well there – wish I could see them from a window.
Meg – what a tough go – don’t hang up your mom card, just breath and re-group. You and hubby can get though this too. Do the kids have other family who could help too? I’m the god mom and when the going has gotten tough I have been called in to see if I could help – sometimes another adult re-enforcing what the folks say helps, one of the god kids won’t call home if things go bad at a friends but will call me. And Gloria is right they are of the age to make decisions sometimes bad and it is not your fault! :flowerforyou:
Sylvia – I am so glad hubby came home when he did!!!!!
It is cooler here today, so I am going to work for a bit and then out in the back yard - I have the front ready for next weekend, but have a bit I really want to get finished in the back - I worked on my yard plan last night and in re-reading the application for the rebate it says ALL plants have to come off their drought tolerant list; and the area has 2 mature trees - that are not on the list - so I have to call on monday and see if that will disqualify me - if it does I will still do it just not on their time schedule. Either way it is a good motivator. The list has some really neat plants on it, a California Gooseberry that you can make gooseberry jam from - there are pictures and it has a pretty fushia-y looking flower - I am hoping I can find it at my local nursery.
well back to the embroidery!
Kim in N. Cal0 -
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Beautiful Sunday to you wonderful women :flowerforyou: It's a very sunny 77* out there. Perfect day for a walk outside.
Cynthia, not long after we adopted our present cat, she developed pancreatitis. We had no idea what it was, all we know is that she wasn't eating and losing weight. So the vet told us to put her on this prescription moist food diet. It was specifically for GI issues but I think they also had one for renal issues. We thought that once she smelled that moist food she would go after it. I soon found out that I had to start out with teaspoon fulls. I would give her one teaspoon every 3 - 4 hours. Soon she would eagerly eat it and I knew I had to increase it to 2 teaspoons. Only problem I had with that I had to eventually wean her off so she could go back to dry food. When you are married to a guy like mine, you go with dry food. Luckily he didn't mind us feeding her Iams dry food when a lot of other brands are much less expensive. Now she is overweight! Charlie loves to give her people food and I won't let her eat it. He has a Weight watcher's fudgecicle every evening and he used to leave a generous amount of chocolate on the stick for her to finish off. Now every 3 days he brings in the Temptations for me to dole out the other days I have to use the empty can of air, you know the kind you use to clean a computer. She is petrified of it. So all I have to do is put in on the love seat arm and she scoots with her tail down. I hate to do that but she won't just sit and watch him eat it. She will if I have a rare one but she knows he is a softie even though he knows it is hurting her in the long run.
Some time I will have to figure out how to put pictures in my post and I will post a recent picture of Melody in my post and put a pic of me 2 years ago and then me now.
Meg, your situation just makes me want to go hug my daughters. My youngest was quite a pistol during her teen years but got better as the years went by. We just waited for her to come around and continues to give her all the love she needs.
Joyce, Indiana0 -
Meg - Much love and many((( hugs))), my friend! I wasn't the perfect daughter either, but it was never my parents' fault. It was my own stupid decisions and mistakes. I think sometimes we do things in spite of our upbringing, and I'd bet the farm that is the case with both of your daughters. Slow, deep breaths
Katla - since we were relatively close, going to Woodstock wasn't that expensive for us, though we did buy three-day tickets in advance (a whopping $12). I still have my Saturday and Sunday ticket somewhere packed away. One car, six or seven of us to share the gas, a wall tent, and a bunch of canned goods to make into meals over a campfire also helped. The camping was free, and we had the sense to buy a very large plastic garbage barrel and filled it with fresh water. College students can put up with most anything!
Jill in western MA.0 -
Hello Lovely Ladies,
I had a good time at the reunion last night. I didn't eat much and was down another half pound today. I was not very attractive in high school, but learned a thing or two about hair and makeup since then, but I think the big difference is more confidence. One guy I went to school with for 12 years was shocked! He told me I was beautiful and told Hubby he was a lucky man. Ladies thank you for your support in getting the 11 pounds off. So funny this was an impromptu get together! Sorry I don't have pics to load, I don't like my picture taken. We took group pics last night. When I get my copies I will try to upload.
Renny, wonderful! Congratulations on your transformation!:flowerforyou:
Cynthia, big hugs. I feel for you having gone through the same thing with my cat and pups. It is so hard when they age and have problems.:sad:
Heather, I grieve so for my losses too! I had similar experiences growing up and had parents who neglected some of the pets and animals. I know they did their best raising 4 children. But it has made me more mindful of animals and my plants today. I take that as a gift.
Yanniejannie, I missed a post. When did you see Joshua Bell? I really like him too!:blushing:
Barbiecat, beautiful transformation!
Meg, hugs for you.
Welcome new ladies!
New quote that touched me: "Don't be sad it is over. Be glad it happened." Dr. Seuss
Hugs for everyone struggling. Congratulations on all successes,
Cindy in very warm OK :drinker: :flowerforyou: 0
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