I JUST WANT SOME CHOCOLAAAAAATE

haleeloses

It's true. That's all I really want right now.....

Instead of heading to the kitchen though, I'm going to talk to you fine people instead.

What's up on this lovely Monday evening?

Emporor_Augustus

Good job on resisting the chocolate! Keep up the good work, you're making a great decision for yourself in the long run

Besides if you don't eat chocolate now, you'll want it a little less next time. And even less the time after that. Pretty soon it'll barely be a thought in your mind and after a while you'll nibble on some and realize it's way too sweet and you won't even want it anymore. You're on your way there!

PJPrimrose

I'm so not the right person to talk about that to! I eat chocolate. A lot of chocolate.

ZombieEarhart

Dudes, just have a small piece of chocolate. A Dove Promise is 44 calories, what's the big deal?

AllOutof_Bubblegum

Okay. So have some chocolate.

Did you have a question we can help you with...or something?

Gidzmo

It's true. That's all I really want right now.....Instead of heading to the kitchen though, I'm going to talk to you fine people instead.

What's up on this lovely Monday evening?

Sounds like me. I tell myself I'm not eating chocolate. Then it's all over the place. Including the 2-pound box that a family member gave me for Christmas (and I shared with family).

Emporor_Augustus

Dudes, just have a small piece of chocolate. A Dove Promise is 44 calories, what's the big deal?

You're right, there's nothing inherently wrong with eating a small piece of chocolate, if you just eat the one piece and that's it. However, hear out my logic for why you shouldn't eat it right now.

Of course cheats are okay. We'd probably go insane without them. But a cheat shouldn't be used as a flimsy justification to give up on the thing you're trying to accomplish (presumably weight loss). The cheat should be a reward, a treat for yourself, something you EARN. If you just give up and have a "cheat" every time your willpower is low, you'll never get to where you want to be. If you can get through tonight with no chocolate, that's a win for you. If tomorrow you eat nice and clean and maybe do a workout, then REWARD yourself with the chocolate.

Does that make sense?

Emporor_Augustus

Also, to all the people in here saying, "Just eat chocolate" -- isn't that kind of a defeatist attitude in a forum called General Diet and Weight LOSS Help?

leantool

Have it(singular)
Log it
Work it off!

Good luck

HaraldurB

Nothing wrong with having it if you can fit it into your daily calorie goal

oxers

Also, to all the people in here saying, "Just eat chocolate" -- isn't that kind of a defeatist attitude in a forum called General Diet and Weight LOSS Help?

Not really. Not at all, I'd say. There's nothing defeatist about realizing you want something and then eating it. I hate the idea of "cheat" days or meals or treats, because that really sets you up to believe certain foods are evil and dangerous and you have to RESIST!! or you'll get fat again, which is an unhealthy relationship to have with food.

You want chocolate? Cool. Plan for it, eat it, log it, move on with your life. I eat chocolate all the time. I eat a lot of junk, actually. But I know my TDEE, my calorie goals and my macros, and I haven't had a single no loss week since I started losing. Balance is more important than ANYTHING else in weight loss. It'll never stay off otherwise.

haleeloses

Okay. So have some chocolate.

Did you have a question we can help you with...or something?

Why does there always have to be a smartass? If you don't like my thread just leave dude. Just new here, trying to make some friends.

haleeloses

Also, to all the people in here saying, "Just eat chocolate" -- isn't that kind of a defeatist attitude in a forum called General Diet and Weight LOSS Help?

Not really. Not at all, I'd say. There's nothing defeatist about realizing you want something and then eating it. I hate the idea of "cheat" days or meals or treats, because that really sets you up to believe certain foods are evil and dangerous and you have to RESIST!! or you'll get fat again, which is an unhealthy relationship to have with food.

You want chocolate? Cool. Plan for it, eat it, log it, move on with your life. I eat chocolate all the time. I eat a lot of junk, actually. But I know my TDEE, my calorie goals and my macros, and I haven't had a single no loss week since I started losing. Balance is more important than ANYTHING else in weight loss. It'll never stay off otherwise.

I have to plan my sweets. I just can't go and eat a piece of anything sweet right now because then maybe I won't stop LOL...so yes, I do so much better when I plan.

haleeloses

Sounds like me. I tell myself I'm not eating chocolate. Then it's all over the place. Including the 2-pound box that a family member gave me for Christmas (and I shared with family).

LOL LOL that is so me...that is why I'm avoiding the kitchen altogether! I can't stop with just a handful of chocolate chips...because it turns in to 52 handfuls...

Railr0aderTony

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haleeloses

Good job on resisting the chocolate! Keep up the good work, you're making a great decision for yourself in the long run

Besides if you don't eat chocolate now, you'll want it a little less next time. And even less the time after that. Pretty soon it'll barely be a thought in your mind and after a while you'll nibble on some and realize it's way too sweet and you won't even want it anymore. You're on your way there!

You are so sweet. And you're right...the longer you can resist, the more disciplined you become ))

haleeloses

LOL OMG where do I send the money????

oxers

I have to plan my sweets. I just can't go and eat a piece of anything sweet right now because then maybe I won't stop LOL...so yes, I do so much better when I plan.

And that's totally cool! I get where you're coming from - end of the day, everything's already been planned, today was supposed to be a good strong deficit and you're just like "oh one bowl of gelato wouldn't hurt." Totally been there. I was just weighing in on the omnipresent argument on to cheat or not to cheat :]

Personally, I just had my last meal of the day and I have some wiggle room to play with, but I'm trying to decide if I want popcorn or a popsicle more. Hmmm. Maybe I'll just cross stitch or something instead.

jlowrance0912

I know how hard that is....I have such low control that if I don't resist it, I'll binge on it. So that's why you have company this fine Monday evening. :laugh:

AllOutof_Bubblegum

Dudes, just have a small piece of chocolate. A Dove Promise is 44 calories, what's the big deal?

You're right, there's nothing inherently wrong with eating a small piece of chocolate, if you just eat the one piece and that's it. However, hear out my logic for why you shouldn't eat it right now.

Of course cheats are okay. We'd probably go insane without them. But a cheat shouldn't be used as a flimsy justification to give up on the thing you're trying to accomplish (presumably weight loss). The cheat should be a reward, a treat for yourself, something you EARN. If you just give up and have a "cheat" every time your willpower is low, you'll never get to where you want to be. If you can get through tonight with no chocolate, that's a win for you. If tomorrow you eat nice and clean and maybe do a workout, then REWARD yourself with the chocolate.

Does that make sense?

Something that fits into your calorie and macro goals is by definition, NOT a "cheat".

ZombieEarhart

Dudes, just have a small piece of chocolate. A Dove Promise is 44 calories, what's the big deal?

You're right, there's nothing inherently wrong with eating a small piece of chocolate, if you just eat the one piece and that's it. However, hear out my logic for why you shouldn't eat it right now.

Of course cheats are okay. We'd probably go insane without them. But a cheat shouldn't be used as a flimsy justification to give up on the thing you're trying to accomplish (presumably weight loss). The cheat should be a reward, a treat for yourself, something you EARN. If you just give up and have a "cheat" every time your willpower is low, you'll never get to where you want to be. If you can get through tonight with no chocolate, that's a win for you. If tomorrow you eat nice and clean and maybe do a workout, then REWARD yourself with the chocolate.

Does that make sense?

No, it doesn't make sense. It's not "cheating" when I eat chocolate. It fits in my calorie goals, it's delicious. It is actually helping me reach my goal to lose weight, just like the salad I ate before the chocolate. See- I eat things I like, stay at my calorie goal, and lose weight! I work out to be strong, I eat to fuel my workout. I am not a dog, I don't need to reward myself with food. That is so weird to me.

ETA: I agree with others that planning is key! So...plan for some chocolate tomorrow

SLLRunner

It's true. That's all I really want right now.....

Instead of heading to the kitchen though, I'm going to talk to you fine people instead.

What's up on this lovely Monday evening?

I just had a so delicious coconut milk ice cream bar......CHOCOLATE!

AllOutof_Bubblegum

Also, to all the people in here saying, "Just eat chocolate" -- isn't that kind of a defeatist attitude in a forum called General Diet and Weight LOSS Help?

No. Because people who have been here long enough know that reasonable treats worked into your daily diet do not hinder weight loss or fitness goals in the slightest.

Emporor_Augustus

Also, to all the people in here saying, "Just eat chocolate" -- isn't that kind of a defeatist attitude in a forum called General Diet and Weight LOSS Help?

Not really. Not at all, I'd say. There's nothing defeatist about realizing you want something and then eating it. I hate the idea of "cheat" days or meals or treats, because that really sets you up to believe certain foods are evil and dangerous and you have to RESIST!! or you'll get fat again, which is an unhealthy relationship to have with food.

You want chocolate? Cool. Plan for it, eat it, log it, move on with your life. I eat chocolate all the time. I eat a lot of junk, actually. But I know my TDEE, my calorie goals and my macros, and I haven't had a single no loss week since I started losing. Balance is more important than ANYTHING else in weight loss. It'll never stay off otherwise.

I'm going to repost this since apparently some people missed when I wrote it the first time:

"Of course cheats are okay. We'd probably go insane without them. But a cheat shouldn't be used as a flimsy justification to give up on the thing you're trying to accomplish (presumably weight loss). The cheat should be a reward, a treat for yourself, something you EARN. If you just give up and have a "cheat" every time your willpower is low, you'll never get to where you want to be. If you can get through tonight with no chocolate, that's a win for you. If tomorrow you eat nice and clean and maybe do a workout, then REWARD yourself with the chocolate.

Does that make sense?"

haleeloses

I have to plan my sweets. I just can't go and eat a piece of anything sweet right now because then maybe I won't stop LOL...so yes, I do so much better when I plan.

And that's totally cool! I get where you're coming from - end of the day, everything's already been planned, today was supposed to be a good strong deficit and you're just like "oh one bowl of gelato wouldn't hurt." Totally been there. I was just weighing in on the omnipresent argument on to cheat or not to cheat :]

Personally, I just had my last meal of the day and I have some wiggle room to play with, but I'm trying to decide if I want popcorn or a popsicle more. Hmmm. Maybe I'll just cross stitch or something instead.

I can't wait until I get to the point where I have better control over myself so i can splurge here and there within my calorie deficit! i get scared of ruining my whole day at this point. dang sugar...

JesterMFP

Dudes, just have a small piece of chocolate. A Dove Promise is 44 calories, what's the big deal?

You're right, there's nothing inherently wrong with eating a small piece of chocolate, if you just eat the one piece and that's it. However, hear out my logic for why you shouldn't eat it right now.

Of course cheats are okay. We'd probably go insane without them. But a cheat shouldn't be used as a flimsy justification to give up on the thing you're trying to accomplish (presumably weight loss). The cheat should be a reward, a treat for yourself, something you EARN. If you just give up and have a "cheat" every time your willpower is low, you'll never get to where you want to be. If you can get through tonight with no chocolate, that's a win for you. If tomorrow you eat nice and clean and maybe do a workout, then REWARD yourself with the chocolate.

Does that make sense?

Ok, so here's my logic, and what worked for me: eat the chocolate. Fit it into an overall balanced diet. Stop calling eating "cheating". Lose weight (and then maintain that loss). Win. That worked for me. It's not a cheat, it's not a reward, it's just food and one of life's simplest pleasures. Each to their own though. :flowerforyou:

Also, to all the people in here saying, "Just eat chocolate" -- isn't that kind of a defeatist attitude in a forum called General Diet and Weight LOSS Help?

Nope, exactly the opposite. One of the best things I did to help me be successful at losing (and maintaining) weight was to learn to eat (all) the foods I like in moderation.

Emporor_Augustus

Well it looks like I can't delete my posts, which I was going to but I can't find the delete button.

So, disregard my advice. I am in the minority here and am apparently an idiot. So eat the chocolate, I guess.

haleeloses

Also, to all the people in here saying, "Just eat chocolate" -- isn't that kind of a defeatist attitude in a forum called General Diet and Weight LOSS Help?

Not really. Not at all, I'd say. There's nothing defeatist about realizing you want something and then eating it. I hate the idea of "cheat" days or meals or treats, because that really sets you up to believe certain foods are evil and dangerous and you have to RESIST!! or you'll get fat again, which is an unhealthy relationship to have with food.

You want chocolate? Cool. Plan for it, eat it, log it, move on with your life. I eat chocolate all the time. I eat a lot of junk, actually. But I know my TDEE, my calorie goals and my macros, and I haven't had a single no loss week since I started losing. Balance is more important than ANYTHING else in weight loss. It'll never stay off otherwise.

I'm going to repost this since apparently some people missed when I wrote it the first time:

"Of course cheats are okay. We'd probably go insane without them. But a cheat shouldn't be used as a flimsy justification to give up on the thing you're trying to accomplish (presumably weight loss). The cheat should be a reward, a treat for yourself, something you EARN. If you just give up and have a "cheat" every time your willpower is low, you'll never get to where you want to be. If you can get through tonight with no chocolate, that's a win for you. If tomorrow you eat nice and clean and maybe do a workout, then REWARD yourself with the chocolate.

Does that make sense?"

That makes total sense!!!!! And i think it's a great idea. I could probably use a bite of chocolate after almost killing myself on the treadmill tomorrow haha! I am definitely going to get through tonight without the chocolate, thanks for all of your kind replies. except for that one person who was being an *kitten*.

JesterMFP

Well it looks like I can't delete my posts, which I was going to but I can't find the delete button.

So, disregard my advice. I am in the minority here and am apparently an idiot. So eat the chocolate, I guess.

It's ok to have different opinions. Doesn't make you an idiot.

oxers

I'm going to repost this since apparently some people missed when I wrote it the first time:

"Of course cheats are okay. We'd probably go insane without them. But a cheat shouldn't be used as a flimsy justification to give up on the thing you're trying to accomplish (presumably weight loss). The cheat should be a reward, a treat for yourself, something you EARN. If you just give up and have a "cheat" every time your willpower is low, you'll never get to where you want to be. If you can get through tonight with no chocolate, that's a win for you. If tomorrow you eat nice and clean and maybe do a workout, then REWARD yourself with the chocolate.

Does that make sense?"

I didn't miss it, hon, I just disagree with it. I disagree that food that fits into your macros and calorie goals is a "cheat." I disagree that you can "cheat" on what you put into your body. I disagree STRENUOUSLY that food should ever be a reward for good behavior, ever, and I disagree with anything that builds an unhealthy, unsustainable, restrictive relationship with food. p sure I made that clear.

AllOutof_Bubblegum

Also, to all the people in here saying, "Just eat chocolate" -- isn't that kind of a defeatist attitude in a forum called General Diet and Weight LOSS Help?

Not really. Not at all, I'd say. There's nothing defeatist about realizing you want something and then eating it. I hate the idea of "cheat" days or meals or treats, because that really sets you up to believe certain foods are evil and dangerous and you have to RESIST!! or you'll get fat again, which is an unhealthy relationship to have with food.

You want chocolate? Cool. Plan for it, eat it, log it, move on with your life. I eat chocolate all the time. I eat a lot of junk, actually. But I know my TDEE, my calorie goals and my macros, and I haven't had a single no loss week since I started losing. Balance is more important than ANYTHING else in weight loss. It'll never stay off otherwise.

I'm going to repost this since apparently some people missed when I wrote it the first time:

"Of course cheats are okay. We'd probably go insane without them. But a cheat shouldn't be used as a flimsy justification to give up on the thing you're trying to accomplish (presumably weight loss). The cheat should be a reward, a treat for yourself, something you EARN. If you just give up and have a "cheat" every time your willpower is low, you'll never get to where you want to be. If you can get through tonight with no chocolate, that's a win for you. If tomorrow you eat nice and clean and maybe do a workout, then REWARD yourself with the chocolate.

Does that make sense?"

People didn't miss it. They just disagree, because it really doesn't make sense. Stop thinking of foods as "cheats" and it stops being "forbidden". Have a healthy relationship with food, it doesn't need to be "earned" as a prize or "withheld" as a punishment. That type of thinking is how disordered eating is developed.