Goal reached. Family horrified.

katherineduweck

This is ridiculous. You are happy, healthy, in a medically recommended weight range, and after looking at your "after" photo, you look perfectly healthy to me. I respect the education and experience your family members have, period. I think they may be letting emotions influence tier reaction to your altered appearance. If you've been overweight for a long time, they are used to seeing you like that and THEY may need tome to adjust. The wording of your sisters response "ew" is also indicative of an emotional response.

Stand up for yourself and the hard work you've done to improve your health, your life, and your future. You worked very hard for this. Your are healthy and probably feel better than you have in years. Enjoy it and don't let others spoil your success. Congratulations on reaching your goal!!!

dawnawoodward

I think you look great. After first reading what you had to say I was thinking OMG she must look like a skelton. But you don't. It is hard when family say's stuff like that but ignore it. If you are happy that is all that matters. I moved from the state of Indiana to the state of Pa 5 years ago. Now I dont have to deal with those issues Good Luck !

nedtoloseme

First of all - you look fantastic! I heard the same thing from my family. When I sent a selfie to them they asked was I sick because I looked so bad. Went to a conference and everyone was looking at me the same way - as if something was wrong with me. After a while I was asking myself the same thing. What I finally figured out is that people are used to seeing you a certain way and some people are going to complain whether you are too big or what they consider too small. They may never be satisfied (and as someone told me some folks are just plain jealous). How do you feel? You look great. Unless the doctor has told you something is wrong with you don't listen to negative people - do you!

esaucier17

That is horrible....I think you look great!

Renneke

You look fantastic. I'm so sorry your family said those things. Any doctor would tell you that you are at an ideal weight, being as you are in the middle of the normal weight range, so if they ever say anything again, just say "My doctor says this a good weight for me."

vonvera

Girl, you look great! Don't sweat it. You walk your own path and dance to your own beat.

angf0679

I think you look fantastic!

blueimp

I think you look amazing -- great job. If you're skypeing, then they may not have seen the gradual changes and just need to get used to the new you.

svsl0928

First of all - you look good. Your face is not sagging and there are no wrinkles. The bottom-line is it is about good health. Your family is not use to seeing you thin so it doesn't look right to them.

I am sure all families talk about each other but for them to say those things to your face that is a bit much. No body likes it when they know that they are being talked about no matter who the messenger is. Do what is best for you!

jenni112877

mean. jerks. not supportive. YOU LOOK GREAT!!

Dancing_Laeti

You look great!!!! Don't let them talk you into thinking you don't!
You look healthy and not at all too thin. Let them get used to it, they will come around.

Timelordlady85

You are perfect. Tell them to stuff their fears up their jumper.

couldn't have said it better. you look fabulous! don't listen to them.

212019156

Your family is high.

kellijauch

You look great. You're healthy and fit, and you're not too thin by any means. I think you're just right. Don't listen to them. It's YOUR body. Your opinion and happiness with it is the only one that matters.

Cburton1123

Oh my gosh. They're crazy. You look fantastic. Don't listen to them. How sad is it that families often are the biggest roadblock in a journey to being healthy and fit. Ignore them the best you can. It's hard when the ones who are supposed to love and support you hurt your feelings. Keep it up because you look awesome!

mich0821

Before I even read your post, I looked at your photos. My very first thought was, "WOW! She looks GREAT!!" I didn't think you were too thin, I thought you have a perfect body!! They will get use to the knew you!! Give them time! BTW...the face photos you have posted....you were beautiful then, and even more beautiful now!

AnxiousPenman

Feel free to take this with a grain of salt, because I'm a strange man on the internet ...

But, wtf is wrong with your family? You look amazing! Seriously. And not in a "We're all beautiful, yeah!" way. You legit look fantastic.

That said, please, for the love of all that is holy to you, never take the opinion of someone that says "Your face, ew!!" seriously. Because family or not, that person is an *kitten*.

tcbs99

You look great to me. I had the same thing happen to me when I lost about 70 lbs before. But as I was gaining the weight back, not because of what was said, no one said a word. As long as you look and feel good, your good. I can't wait to hear those beautiful words, your to thin.

tamyronline1

I think you look great. Your body is so much more toned and your face is not "EW" as your family says. I think they have their own issues and usually the people closest to us can be the meanest. I get rude comments from my mother all the time. I used to let it affect me, but not anymore because I know that I just want to be healthy. It's your life, you live it the way you want. If you were heading a bad road, then sure family could chime in, but you're not. So to answer your question.. you're not the one with issues. You look great and you're healthy. As long as you're happy that's all that matters. Great job btw! :happy:

WaterBunnie

They're deranged. Have faith in yourself, you haven't worked this hard just to ruin it all to suit others' expectations.

MsTru2U

Tell your family to go kick rocks!! You look great!:flowerforyou:

AvesArdens

I'm sure this has been suggested, but if possible I'd say you should pop into your doctor's office (if that is feasible for you) and get them to second you on this one. Your family needs a reality check, and it sounds like they are too full of themselves to take it from anyone without a phD.

iPlatano

There is some hating going on. You look fantastic!

2011Eileen

You worked hard at your weight loss, and you look totally amazing.
You feel good, that is what matters. Hoping your family will accept
it in time.

I feel so sad that your family has responded this way to you.

smokinbarista

You look incredible!

AddieOverhaul

I think that either they are delusional, or that you need ab etter camera for your Skyping because you look fantastic and that's just crazy talk. Ignore them, you look very healthy. I hope to look like that soon!

pawoodhull

You look great, not too thin at all! I get that too, that my face is so "skinny" (not the rest of me, just my face) and I have 66 pounds to get to goal and my goal is still in the overweight range (goal given to me by my surgeon who says 160 is my ideal weight for 5'7" and 58 years old). I will stop losing when I am happy with my weight, not when someone else says I'm done. You are at a healthy weight and it sounds to me like your family is either jealous of your success or they are just the kind of people that must have something to criticize. Either way you go, you have done the right thing and you look great!

sophiegrace543

You look great!

Sometimes, family and friends (especially those who have known you for a long time) don't take too well to new lifestyle changes and weight loss. Sometimes it's out of envy and sometimes it's because they don't like things changing. Either way, just ignore them, as hard as it may be!

sean_d33

Families gonna Fam

xWendyJonesx

I think you look great, happy and healthy, don't listen to what you're family are saying.