Goal reached. Family horrified.

erelyl

Piping in to say that i think you look lovely both before and after. None of us look like we did in high school! It's called life and experience, and i'll take that over the blank slate i was in '93 any day!

Your family has issues... you have success, determination, health, and a fabulous bikini body to rock, they need to take their "eww" and stuff it.

steph_h30

Oh no! If your family truly are commenting on how you look and not how healthy you are, then I personally think it's a wee bit mean as you look very strong and fit. However, if what they are saying is based on a concern for your health and well being, including mental health, then perhaps you could talk with them frankly and make sure everyone is on the same page as to how you are feeling. It's easy to get a little bit obsessed with weight loss and exercise.

pearlmorning

First off, Skype does no one any favors! Lol 2nd it doesn't matter what degrees and experience your family and in laws have, they seem to have control issues. Have you shown them your before and after photos that you just showed us? You are fit and perfect and so pretty! Honestly! The only thing that could enhance what you are now is a smile!

LucyMc135

Your family do NOT sound supportive at all. You look fabulous!! I would kill to have a stomach as flat as yours! You don't look unhealthy in the slightest, you are glowing and are clearly a lot healthier.
Please don't let them lead you astray - you honestly look great.

ChelseyDAdams

You look great! If they saw you in person it may be different. Also, they were used to what you looked like before and had grown accustomed to it. Once they get used to your look now, I think they will stop feeling like it is a drastic change.

You look good and healthy and you are doing it the right way - by exercising and eating good foods. Keep it up and don't listen to the nay-sayers!!!

HardcoreP0rk

You look healthy and normal and these things would hurt anyone's feelings. Maybe they just got so used to seeing you overweight that the change is jarring.

Also, you have a longer face with a prominent chin. Mine is very similar. Your face is thinner now, which makes the length more obvious. That could be what people are noticing. Though its incredibly rude of them to make comments like that, and they can all go pound sand for all I care...


...you *could* try a little bit of blush to minimize the *longness* of your face. Just for your own pleasure, of course. I do this, and I'm happy with the results. I should say, though, that you are beautiful without.

http://www.typef.com/article/make-face-look-wider-blush/

elothen

Yeah, ya can't listen to them. You're beautiful girl and look healthy, not starved! On top of that we're not about starvation skinny here, we're about healthy so I'm sure the quality of food you're putting in your body is a lot better too which, again, makes you healthier. I've gotten that too from a few people, including my psychiatrist (wtf does she know? lol)

Keep doing what you know is best for you!

TraceyLee1102

I didn't read through this whole thread, but I just want to say you are cute as a button and look freakin' fantastic! Your face looks beautiful and I no idea why your family would say those hurtful things to you. In my opinion, I think you need to do what makes YOU happy and try to ignore their negativity!

ValeriePlz

I did not have time to read through this entire thread, but I am so happy that so many people have taken the time to tell you that your family is being ridiculous.

I do not know if this has been asked yet, but is your family overweight? The comments I have gotten about losing too much weight have been from people who are overweight themselves. One friend told my husband he looked like he had "just walked out of Auschwitz," even though he was in normal range for his height. People are idiots.

crepes_

You look great. Healthy, an appropriate weight, not "ew" at all. Your family got used to you looking a certain way. Your body and face shapes changed more than they were prepared for and they think it's wrong. That's a common enough reaction, really, which is pretty sad. Try your best not to let it get to you because you've done nothing wrong.

Munn0025

OMG! I think you look incredibly beautiful! You look perfect, your face is perfect and your body is completely toned. IDEAL. I'm so sorry your family members are acting like haters!! I'm also sorry that they have these academic credentials that make you really question yourself in the face of their so called expertise! Hate is hate! As long as you are healthy!!! Let those naysayers keep their nasty opinions to themselves!!!

AmykinsCatfood

You look amazing! Don't let them get to you. My family have always been the "You're too fat, you need to lose weight" type too, and now that I'm doing it, I suspect they will start up with the "you're too thin" remarks once I've hit goal as well. Listen to your instincts... as you said you're in the normal bmi, you feel good and are active and healthy. THAT is what you need to keep reminding yourself of

Carolynn43

you look good, People tell me the same thing, I dropped 30 too i am 5.11 so i look thiner most of the people that tell are over weight and don't work out, if you are happy then it is fine.

MissDeeDee78

Girl, you look great! You're at a healthy BMI and your health is all that matters. I know family can be pain to deal with, no matter how many pounds I lose, I always get the "Look how fat you are" and "If you just lose 10 lbs, you'll look fabulous". I can never win. Keep up the good work and count your blessings that you're family doesn't live in the same town as you

LiftAllThePizzas

Tell your family they should stop drinking their bong water.

SpicyBaconCake

and people wonder where insecurities come from...
You look great and have done a wonderful job taking care of yourself, don't let other people take up space in your head!

lorigrocks

I think you look great!! I am having the exact same problem...before I got pregnant with my first child I weighed 130lbs and looked a bit on the heavier side (when I got married I was 120lbs)....I have never gone back to my pre-pregnancy weight of 130lbs after having 3 children. Now I am 2 pounds away from being 130lbs again and am feeling awesome. I get comments at work like you have lost so much weight (I have only lost 16lbs with 2 more to go)...and they make comments saying don't lose anymore, you are too skinny etc. even my family has said don't go under 135lbs. I think this is all because since having my children my body has changed so much when I was younger I had the hour glass figure and now my body is straight. So with the type of body I now have people think I weigh less than I actually do. But I am going to do what makes me happy and lose those 2lbs then maintain.

MCLA4mom

My clients experience this all the time! They are terrified. If you "change" that means that your relationship with them might "change" too. The bottom line is they care about you and don't want to lose you. They just need time to learn that they can have a relationship with the new you and you wont judge them for their eating habits.

tlou5

You look great. It is unfortunate that the people we count on most to build us up often times don't. Sorry you are having to deal with this.

jkwolly

You look amazing, well done and KEEP it up!

Jealousy is an ugly beast. Ignore it.

oChristyo

Wow! Sounds like a bunch of jealously to me. For what it's worth I think you look great.

aNewYear123

You look great. If you talk to your family over skype maybe you don't see them very often? If not then they are just used to seeing you heavier and they need to get used to seeing you as you are now. For those who, supposedly, know something about nutrition give them facts by stating that you are finally in the healthy range for BMI and you intend to stay there to stay healthy. (I also noticed the sports you listed for your father tend to be ones where heavier - although muscle not fat - is better, so that may skew his body perception as well)

rsoice

Think you look fantastic. If you're happy, that's what matters.

cardbucfan

I'm not going to read through the other 12 pages but I will say you look amazing. Definitely not too thin or "Ew". Who says that?!?!
I think you look healthy and happy and I wouldn't change a thing.

The only thing I can think about your family (besides that they need lessons in tact) is they are used to seeing you a certain way. When folks lose a bunch of weight it doesn't fit with how we are used to seeing them. I know two women (older than you) who both lost a bunch of weight. Unfortunately they did it with pure cardio and little to no lifting and their faces looked old and gaunt. It took me a few months with one of them to see her thinner as her normal look and now I think she looks fine. The other one though still looks bad and keeps losing and looking worse.

If your family says anything again I'd thank them for their love and concern, tell them according to your doctor you are very healthy and that you personally are quite happy with how you look. I'd let them know you would appreciate them not making any more negative comments because it's just hurtful. Hopefully that will shut them up!

Congratulations!

hope199sunshine

You look absolutely stunning. Kudos to your hard work for attaining this. Am glad you did it, worry not they shall accept you the way you are because they are your family. I really feel inspired looking at you.

LassoOfTruth

Your family is inconsistent, and annoying. Are you happy? Stop worrying what they say.

DapperKay

OMG - Its like you just told my story.

My family are ALWAYS saying this to me.

UNTIL .. wait for it... I saw them in person.

And then I realized it is because skype and photos are just so unbelievably deceiving and they make the face look much narrower than it actually is. I wouldnt worry about it - give them time - besides you are doing this for yourself not for them. Enjoy your success.

NextPage

First of all - who in the heck doesn't look "EW" while being viewed on Skpe?. I look like I'm on the set of the Blair Witch project (direct view up the nostrils and super pale like the actors in this film). Unless your family all have state of art "hollywood" style equipment I suggest they pledge to never judge each other's looks while skyping. Of course, passing on the "judgement" altogether would be ideal.

In terms of your pictures your face looks beautiful before and after and you look super cute in the after picture. More importantly your face radiates happiness. Isn't that what all our families shiould want for us?

KatMarieLivinG

People don't like change. You no longer look how you did so that must be bad right? Wrong! As long as you are eating healthy, exercising, and happy, they should be happy for you.

winyin

Your family is wrong. You look great.