Goal reached. Family horrified.

chriamaria

You look awesome! I don't know what their problem is, but your family is very mistaken. Furthermore, you need to call your sister out on her carelessly chosen words. There is a right way and a wrong way to approach something and saying, "Ew, gross" is not the way.

Slulik

Families are the absolute worst! Do not even pay attention to them.

You looking absolutely stunning!!!

Bravo on your fitness and eating healthy regime...maybe some of your expertise will wear off of me!

Be proud of your amazing accomplishments, and let no one diminish or knock that down.

darlilama

You look awesome! You look healthy, fit, and happy! So, yeah, maybe your face doesn't look the same as it did the last time you weighed what you weigh now ... time has a way of doing that to us! So what? You look GREAT!

Maybe they are really so accustomed to seeing you one way (I don't know how long you were overweight) and it's just "different" to them? ALSO, have you looked at yourself through a web cam? It may not be flattering ... the camera and the lighting may not be doing you justice. I know when I check out myself in my Mac's cam, I look like *kitten*. LOL Just a thought. Take a nice pic of yourself and send it to them.

Anyway, I don't know what your family relationships are like. Some families are hyper-critical and won't be happy whatever you do. So, make yourself happy and in no uncertain terms tell them you are healthy and happy and that's all there is to say about it. :flowerforyou:

dangerousdumpling

I just wanted to chime in also to say that I think you look great. There's nothing ew about you.
I think some people prefer the look of someone having more meat on their bones and sometimes our families are just used to us being bigger and having fuller faces. When we get thinner we appear deflated to them. So many people are overweight these days that it has become the norm and people have forgotten what a thin, fit person looks like. Whatever their motives are I would just thank them for their concern and do what you feel is best. Recently someone told me I should stop losing now. I'm 5'4" 167 lbs and size 12/14. I have at least 17-27 lbs to go! What will she say then? I don't care.

EvelynR1967

you look AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So proud of you! I think you look fit & healthy!

jrose1982

It sounds like they just have contradictory personalities. You know, they have to disagree with everything you do ,no matter what. They probably do this to each other too. My dad is just like that; that's why I don't tell him anything anymore.

Just dismiss what they say. It's not worth fighting over, but they obviously aren't helpful either. If they continue to make "suggestions", tell them "I'll consider that" and then change the subject.

MassiveDelta

Uggh Family...Jealous of your progress and success. Its scary to them too because Americans have become accustomed to seeing Obese people in our lives so much that we see them as NORMAL. So we don't even know what real normal looks like.

stukawife

You look great!! I would hardly say you need to gain anything, and you are certainly not skinny.

Don't take what they say too seriously no matter their education or experience.

smalfry7

I think you look great and as long as you are in a healthy range, I don't think you need to change your behavior.

I think that since the family members that have commented are probably very close to your heart, which means their opinion (although not presented in the best way probably) will matter to you, means you should find a way to talk with them regarding why you made the changes you've made in your life, that ultimately have gotten you to where you are now. I think if you don't speak with them regarding their comments, it will continue to bother you and could potentially shift you into a dangerous or negative direction.

With that said, I would try and remember that you have to do what you need to in order for you to be happy and healthy (notice the use of the word YOU). It's ok for others to have their opinion and share them, however it's ultimately about you. By accomplishing what you have would leave me to believe you are a strong, determined woman. Know in your heart and mind that you have done, and continue to do what will keep you healthy. And not just for yourself, but anyone else in your life (even those family members that have voiced their opinion).

Golddigga1969

I think you look Terrific! Sometimes when someone hasn't seen you in a while, it is a shock. But stick to your guns, keep up your healthy lifestyle, and they will get used to it. I have seen it before when someone loses a bunch of weight, and their face starts to sag, or get really wrinkled. Yours looks beautiful!!! Keep smiling and enjoy your success!

Earthgirl51

You look fantastic. Well done Being polite about your family, they are just not used to the new you. If they had seen you every day while you were shaping up, nothing would have been said. You look so Happy and Healthy. Stay as you are going. :flowerforyou:
Oh and my Mam's favourite saying (F**k the begrudgers)

Yes!! Spot on Mam!!

kwantlen2051

Do what is right for you - to make you feel healthier and happier.

raindawg

I'm convinced this reaction is psychological driven because I still get it from time to time. You look great, you look at a normal weight. In no way too skinny. I would bet my paycheck that if you came to your dad's with a friend who was the exact body type and weight as you it would not even enter his mind that she would need to put on 15 lbs.

Psychologically they can't let go of the old version of you in their mind so still compare your current you to that version of you.

TheFitHooker

I've learned through my weight loss that family can be some of the crudest people. I've heard "You're too thin, you're going to blow away in the wind" and "Go eat a hamburger, you look like you're starving yourself" oh the "OMG you can see your collar bone, that can't be healthy!" All from family. I've put on 10 lbs since I got to my smallest and working on getting it back off, but I've learned that I didn't do this for them, I did it for me and I know I'm healthy and feel good and will keep doing what I'm doing and keep it off to make ME feel good.

With all that being said, it doesn't matter how I feel or anyone else, but in my opinion, you look amazing!

morgo20

HELL NO!! Dont let them make you feel like that. You look fantastic and you feel fantastic and thats what it is all about.

FrenchMob

Tell them to stuff it. You look amazing, and I would guess around 18-20% BF which is perfect.

HikeCyclist

Uhhh . . . that's insane- their reaction. But who gives a *&%*$*#????

ALL that matters is that YOU feel comfortable in your own skin. We were not put on this earth to please others. Life was made to be enjoyed. So enjoy it.

And btw, you look great!!

retropactum

OP, you look fine. But since you posted this last week:

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1274911-1200-cals-is-just-fine-1100-is-just-fine-too-if

Could it be that your family is just concerned for you?

No, they would not be concerned by my calorie intake at all, as that information was accurate; if you read the post, it continues to say that these numbers are okay if... you are short, and any calorie calculator will tell you the same. My sister is a nurse as well as also being a shortie, so she is well aware of the comparatively lower calorie requirement for short people when they try to lose weight, and we have even discussed that in the past when SHE was trying to lose weight. That post was based on calorie calculations from http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/ which most people here on MFP swear by, and they are the same calorie guidelines as prescribed several of my fitness books, all written by nurses and doctors, and in a private consultation with Jorge Cruise, he told me that short women should be eating no more than 1200 calories. Finally my doctor also approves of my calorie intake and said, and I quote, "keep doing what you are doing." Also my chiropractor is thrilled, because the weight loss has made all my lower back problems go away. I understand that certain people on FB do some scaremongering about these numbers, however the best books, online sources, and live consultations with doctor and personal trainers I have had have 100% approved the 1100 - 1200 calorie range for my height, weight, and age while I was losing weight - but that is another story in another thread!

That being said, I am currently maintaining at my TDEE - since I am not trying to lose weight, I am no longer eating at a 20% reduction. And furthermore, not a single person in my family knows my daily calorie intake, or has an idea of what I eat. They live in Alabama and I live in Denmark and they have not seen nor been able to assess my eating habits since I was last there 18 months ago - at which point they would have seen me eating barbeque and chocolate pie anyway - which is certainly something to worry about! LOL

My family's comments are made solely by the pictures I have posted on here on MFP.

I agree with a lot of people, those close to you always have a picture of you and may be shocked over loss. It’s a part of the journey to say this is the new me and I am proud of that. Personally, I feel like you LOOK great, but like a few people here, I also followed your other posts including ‘short girl intake/1200 cal’ last week as well as ‘losing weight but not inches,’ and those posts concern me. You were advised that your deficiency (while trying to loss) was too much for someone needing to lose only about 30 lbs. Taking into consideration that you family seem educated in related fields, I am pretty sure that they are more concerned about your intake, even if it’s a made-up or assumed figure.

Everybody loves weight loss but you are bound to hear some negative comments along the way no matter what your size for various reason. Personally, I lost 50 lbs about two years ago. While I was (and remain) obese, I can tell you that at the time, everybody’s comments about how ‘you’ve lost so much weight’ were all taken in extremes. With every compliment, my ego inflated and with every [slightly] negative comment, I would say these people don’t know and are jealous. While I am not trying to imply that you are sick like I was by any means, I think that you should remember that your family (unless they are out right disgusting people) is only going to tell you some things because they love you. These are things that your coworkers, neighbors and even friends won’t tell you.

While you took your time with the weight loss, which is great, I have yet to see you put out your complete stats out there for help and you completely disregard the advice of long time members/losers. That being said, I’m suggesting you do a little more research into sustainable weight loss. Example: your weight at 114 as per your ticker, estimated a moderate active lifestyle considering your activities in the OP, and you mention that you are 5 ft 1 in. Based on these estimates, I plugged them into the Scooby’s calc you like, your estimated BMR is around 1257 and your estimated TDEE is around 1948. In other posts, I notice you are eating between 1100-1200 calories which is just simply not enough to fuel your body’s needs. Then of course it turns to burning your excess fat as energy, which means weight loss. I’m all for using these calculators to estimate and then finding the sweet spot in that range since I personally eat at my calculated average BMR to lose 1 lb/month. However, you above said that your sister seemingly approves your “short girl” diet, but in the OP here, you says she is one of the ones who expressed their concern harshly. That being said, just because you are losing/lost weight and are within a healthy weight range, does not make your practices healthy. Without knowing you, I believe THAT is your family’s concern.

Would you consider posting your all stats (weight, height, activity level, etc) and/or opening your diary for review?

I beg you not to feel criticized by my comment as it is not my intent to accuse you of unhealthy habit. If you are comfortable and feel like this is sustainable, please continue. On the other side of things, if you want constructive advise and comments (not unqualified compliments), you need to supply people with the information needed to make an accurate opinion.

As for everyone else, I urge you to take into consideration that you don’t know each other. I know we all want to support each other and rightfully so, which is why I love being a part of this community, but if any of you took the time to read any of her other posts, you may have reservation about how she is going about this too. From the perspective of a past ED, compliments can be just as, if not more, harmful than so-called negative comments.

GeordieGirl80s

You look FANTASTIC!! I think your family is trying to disguise jealousy as concern & frankly, well screw them!

angelguess7

I think you look great. Some people will be critical of you no matter what.....thick or thin so to speak.

hospitablegirl

You look amazing. Ignore them! I'm dying for your body.

ShrinkingShona

I've nothing substantial to add, but am just another voice telling you that you look AH-MAZING. You look happy, tones, muscular and in great shape. You've done incredibly well.

Form someone who has a family full of people who tear people down for improving themselves, I would say, Stick to what you know is true. You know it is better to be fit, healthy and happy. You know you feel better now.

People can be mean *kitten* to the people they love. I'm, sorry you have to be around people like this. Keep up the good work.

allisonjforsyth

Ummm, yeah, those comments would totally hurt my feelings as well. And they are totally uncalled for in every way. You look amazing! Both your face and your body look awesome, and it is totally incomprehensible to me why your family would say such things. I'm so sorry, I just don't get it. You might not have your families' support, but you have MFP's! You look so healthy, what could possibly be wrong with that??!! You go girl! Don't let them get you down!! HUGS

kmg3614

I'm sorry they said that! You look great!

Ninabee150

:flowerforyou: U look awesome. Sounds like some jealous people. Way ignore!

sjs227

Ignore them! I hate when my family talks about my weight loss. I don't post it on FB anymore.

btw, I love your hair (now)! I wish mine looked like that.

Mario_Az

great job looking good

bugtaylor

u look great

bugtaylor

u look great

njitaliana

I think you look great. I can't imagine what their problem is. Sheesh.