Tomboy or Girly-Girl

Holly_Roman_Empire

Your daughter will probably be a little of both, maybe one more than the other.

I kind of straddle the line between tomboy and girly-girl. At work, I always have a fresh make-up face, and I usually wear a skirt or dress with a cardigan. I like to dress cute whenever I'm in public, and that includes whenever I go out for a neighborhood walk. I like to play dress up with my daughter like she's a little doll.

At the same time, I'm also the girl that does landscaping work in my spare time. I'm not afraid to get dirty or sweaty and I welcome hard manual labor. On the weekends, it's no makeup at all. I guess it's more of a bohemian look than tomboyish.

My goal is to be the woman I would want my daughter to admire. Don't be afraid to be who you want to be, and most of all, don't let anyone but yourself decide who that is.

Collier78

Just tell her to always be herself. That's all. People will love her for that.

This! My husband always tell our daughter, someone who really likes you doesn't feel the need to ask you to be someone else. Don't be a sheeple. March to the beat of your own drum and be proud of that music!

Personally I'm a little both, girly and tom boyish...I can rock a good manicure while playing softball!

BamaBreezeNSaltAire

Thank you....I totally let her be herself.
No judgements here.

I do my best to keep the lines of communication open as well.

She stated to me yesterday it is "weird" for her to talk to "her dad" about a lot of things. (boys)
I'm here for her though....she is my everything!
Thanks!!!

Damn, do I like this post

+1 And the mere fact that you are interested enough in her life and worry about her to post this and ask speaks volumes about you! She's a lucky girl! :flowerforyou:

Cali_Chica

Encourage your daughter to be herself with her own interests and way of expressing and presenting herself to the world.

Feminity comes from the inside out. It isn't something you put on.

_Calypso_

Thank you....I totally let her be herself.
No judgements here.

I do my best to keep the lines of communication open as well.

She stated to me yesterday it is "weird" for her to talk to "her dad" about a lot of things. (boys)
I'm here for her though....she is my everything!
Thanks!!!

Its so awesome that you allow her to talk to you. Honestly - I never talked to my mother about boys... EVER!! Thankfully I had an awesome aunt that I could go to about boys, parties, life..... I hope my daughter talks to me (and her dad) about things. I know somethings feel weird to talk about, especially with your daughter... but its great that you have that bond and you make her feel comfortable to talk about anything!

Cliffslosinit

You guys and gals rock!!
Thank you for all the positive feedback!!:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
This is for you all.



BTW....I'll be coloring her hair this weekend.
She's 15 and it gets hard at times at that age.
So dad does what dad must do.

CallMeCupcakeDammit

Just tell her to always be herself. That's all. People will love her for that.

This. And I always encourage my kids to talk to me about everything. She may feel weird now, but she'll get over it soon enough. My daughter is a little of both, tomboy and girly-girl. She's 16 now, and loves to wear dresses and skirts, but she also has her sweats and basketball shorts days. I just make sure she understands she has to have self respect, and not wear clothes that aren't age appropriate. Shopping for shoes when she got out of kids' sizes was a nightmare. She always wanted 3" pumps, like her friends who were allowed to dress like little strippers in the 5th grade. Just because they fit doesn't make them age appropriate. Just keep being awesome, Cliffy.

neandermagnon

I like multifaceted women. I do not want one that is so rough around the edges that she cannot put on a dress when the occasion calls for it. Nor do i want one that cannot put on old jeans and paint or ride a quad.

this is how it should be........ people shouldn't feel the need to put labels on themselves and act in a certain way to fit them. They should just be themselves.

I'm considered a tomboy and I could list a huge number of reasons why, not least of which the fact that I used to play ice hockey (in defence, with a very physical playing style and I got more than a few penalties for fisticuffs, roughing, etc). I consider myself 100% feminine though, because why shouldn't these kinds of things be considered feminine? I tend to take a more middle palaeolithic view of femininity anyway... where being feminine would likely have included the ability to defend yourself and your kids from bears (among many other skills).

I have two daughters. I let them (within reason) choose their own clothes and toys and play how they want. One day they'll be Spiderman, and then next day they'll be fairy princesses. They're currently crazy about Spiderman, minions and Hello Kitty. They have "boys" clothes and "girls" clothes, and "boys" toys and "girls" toys. I just let them be whoever they want to be, so long as they're treating other people with respect and not hurting anyone. They liked the recent Tinkerbell movie because it combined fairies and pirates (two more things that they're obsessed about). I hope they grow into well rounded human beings that aren't going to let social pressure to fit a certain mold put them off from doing what they really want to do in life.

And all the above applies to boys too.

seltzermint555

You guys and gals rock!!
Thank you for all the positive feedback!!:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
This is for you all.



BTW....I'll be coloring her hair this weekend.
She's 15 and it gets hard at times at that age.
So dad does what dad must do.

That is so cute. I love it.