I was married and had kids before him. Random.

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  • nz_deevaa
    nz_deevaa Posts: 12,209 Member
    Some Guyanese are of Indian decent, like his family. They were raised Hindu and then converted to Christianity. He calls them Indian, so I tend to do the same.

    And you feel like you are being judged via email from Guyana?
  • smanning1982
    smanning1982 Posts: 210 Member
    I have been married for 14 yrs and have 4 kids with my husband. Just by knowing that people may think how great that is. Then I tell you I met my husband when I was 14 and got knocked up at 16 and got married at 16. Some might judge. Yes, I was one of the crazy out of control having sex and getting drunk and high everyday 15 yr old girls. If I told everyone that, some might automatically judge how I am now. Some may think I am a bad mom or a party girl based on how I was way back then. That's not the case. As soon as I got pregnant at 16 I straightened my life up.

    People should not judge you because of your past is what I am saying. Who cares who you've been with? How many times you've been married, how many kids you have. What is important is how you are living your life NOW! You are happily married with a man that loves ALL your kids. You being a good mom. That is the only thing that matters. If someone wants to judge you, do not let it bother you. You cut them out of your life and worry about you, your kids and your husband and that's it.

    In my eyes, you are doing great momma! Keep it up!
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Some Guyanese are of Indian decent, like his family. They were raised Hindu and then converted to Christianity. He calls them Indian, so I tend to do the same.

    And you feel like you are being judged via email from Guyana?

    I just snorted... loudly.
  • So_Much_Fab
    So_Much_Fab Posts: 1,146 Member
    I'm not going to judge, but it seems like having baby #4 before marrying the dad is going to make your life pretty hard if you end up with the guy long term since his family obviously doesn't approve. You said you knew your current guy since middle school, so I'm going to guess you've had some kind of idea how his family is. First you had to hide your other kids from them, and you've admitted that they're still not aware of the 2 different fathers. They have very different beliefs than you do and this should have been taken into serious consideration before the babymaking happened.

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