What do women really want from a relationship?

JT_Texas
JT_Texas Posts: 9
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I am curious what women really want from a man when they are in a relationship. Communication?, Security? Empathy? Respect? I am also curious if it changes with age or circumstance, i.e. during your 20s you want one thing in your 40s you decide you want something else. Also does it change when you go from being single to married, divorced, never married. Your thoughts?
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  • arainiday1
    arainiday1 Posts: 1,763 Member
    honesty
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Sex, food, and booze?
  • snazzyjazzy21
    snazzyjazzy21 Posts: 1,298 Member
    For the first month: attention
    All time after that: to be left alone

    Also known as why I'm still single :bigsmile:
  • arainiday1
    arainiday1 Posts: 1,763 Member
    Sex, food, and booze?

    nah i can handle (most) of that on my own :drinker:
  • arainiday1
    arainiday1 Posts: 1,763 Member
    communication is really important. if they love you, they will respect you. i don't need empathy but let me vent every so often without thinking i want you to "fix" it
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Sex, food, and booze?

    Yes, yes, and yes.
  • NirmTheG
    NirmTheG Posts: 1
    You just don't know how having a man pick up after themselves and doing chores side by side is a real turn on. If you can do that - like wow~
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    honesty

    opposite, i want lies. i want him to tell me i AM the most beautiful person he's ever laid eyes on. with a straight face.
  • saranne1015
    saranne1015 Posts: 180 Member
    manners, good with kids, and a beard.
  • saranne1015
    saranne1015 Posts: 180 Member
    You just don't know how having a man pick up after themselves and doing chores side by side is a real turn on. If you can do that - like wow~

    actually, this too. excellent point.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    communication is really important. if they love you, they will respect you. i don't need empathy but let me vent every so often without thinking i want you to "fix" it

    when I want to communicate I can call my mom or phone a friend. I don't need to vent to him. I already know he is a great fixer of things so I save those things for him. I lay the venting on people who I know are good at the other stuff.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    You just don't know how having a man pick up after themselves and doing chores side by side is a real turn on. If you can do that - like wow~

    actually, this too. excellent point.

    I'm not sure this is the thread for me. See you later guys have fun in here.
  • chellebelle418
    chellebelle418 Posts: 96
    im on marriage #3....third time i got this *kitten* rite!! he is my best friend. he makes me want 2 b a better person. cheesy but true. we talk about everything....like pp said i try not 2 b*tch 2 him much, i save most rants 4 my girlfriends.....but when i need 2 he listens. he shoots it 2 me straight, tells me chelle ur overreacting, whatever. he stands up 2 me, and 4 me if need b. and when he talks i listen back. we do everything together. not because we r afraid of what the other may do without us rite beside them, but because we truly enjoy one anothers company....we laugh, we cut up, we act like kids and take each other down on the kitchen floor just 4 the hell of it.....we hunt and fish together, play golf, cards, u name it....work around the house, the yard.....we r partners. never had that n my previous relationships. its important.

    and no he very seldom picks up after himself....or cooks....but when he does, its something and i let him kno just how much i like it. u get out of the relationship what u put into it. if ur a total b*tch and walk around with a chip on ur shoulder he is gonna want guys nites....alot....who cud blame him! flipside if ur a d*ck and tell her she cant do things or go places, or constantly criticize her, she is gonna bail as much as possible. this leads 2 lack of communication which leads 2 disaster.....normally..

    so, someone who is strong....willing 2 talk....listen.....b with u. be together. if he/she is ur person then thats the best place 2 b. :)
  • JT_Texas
    JT_Texas Posts: 9
    im on marriage #3....third time i got this *kitten* rite!! he is my best friend. he makes me want 2 b a better person. cheesy but true. we talk about everything....like pp said i try not 2 b*tch 2 him much, i save most rants 4 my girlfriends.....but when i need 2 he listens. he shoots it 2 me straight, tells me chelle ur overreacting, whatever. he stands up 2 me, and 4 me if need b. and when he talks i listen back. we do everything together. not because we r afraid of what the other may do without us rite beside them, but because we truly enjoy one anothers company....we laugh, we cut up, we act like kids and take each other down on the kitchen floor just 4 the hell of it.....we hunt and fish together, play golf, cards, u name it....work around the house, the yard.....we r partners. never had that n my previous relationships. its important.

    and no he very seldom picks up after himself....or cooks....but when he does, its something and i let him kno just how much i like it. u get out of the relationship what u put into it. if ur a total b*tch and walk around with a chip on ur shoulder he is gonna want guys nites....alot....who cud blame him! flipside if ur a d*ck and tell her she cant do things or go places, or constantly criticize her, she is gonna bail as much as possible. this leads 2 lack of communication which leads 2 disaster.....normally..

    so, someone who is strong....willing 2 talk....listen.....b with u. be together. if he/she is ur person then thats the best place 2 b. :)

    Great answer...it does appear that as you matured your perspective may have changed and you grew as a person.
  • Way_Too_Sweet
    Way_Too_Sweet Posts: 2
    Wow all of the above and then some. I'm in a pickle of a situation now. That i wont get into, When I was in my 20's he had to be respectful, honest, caring,affectionate, loyal,monogamous, a bread winner etc... now that im in my 30's I need all that plus more except for a bread winner, just as long as he has a job and is trying to make something of himself, I will never trust man to take care of me and any children we may have, now that im older my needs have changed dramatically... I just want someone whose my best friend who I can spend every day with, thats going to be loyal and a good father and that is gonna be there for our kids, i need more of a companion, than a bread winner. In my 20's i'd never even think about paying for a date, id think the guy was a scumbag for even asking now I'm more libral I can pay sometimes lol
  • MuscleHeadNerd74
    MuscleHeadNerd74 Posts: 1,930 Member
    I say depends on the woman, but in gerneral, commucation, respect, listen to them, help out when you can, be yourself, do your own things,let her be herself and do her own things, be a man not a ***** whip or insecurity women hate that ****, and make sure to own it in bed, beat it up everytime...str8 up
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    You just don't know how having a man pick up after themselves and doing chores side by side is a real turn on. If you can do that - like wow~

    if he picks up after me, THEN i'm sold...
  • MuscleHeadNerd74
    MuscleHeadNerd74 Posts: 1,930 Member
    lol.....
  • morag_p2014
    morag_p2014 Posts: 39
    "Do I Look Fat in This?" (She Does)

    Right answer: "It just doesn't do you justice. Wear that black dress you look so sexy in."

    Wrong answer: "I wouldn't say fat ...."

    Someone who masters that.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    love, friendship and sex :drinker:

    love includes really truly caring for each other. Caring for someone includes not doing irresponsible crap that causes them difficulty. It's a mutual thing, i.e. you both care for each other and love each other.

    friendship involves respect which includes not doing things that friends don't do to friends, and friendship includes stuff like being honest, having fun together (very, very important!), sharing problems etc - it's also a mutual thing, and it is a partnership, i.e. working together not one dominating the other (unless you're both into that kind of thing and it's by mutual consent)

    you know what sex is (if you don't then ask your mother to explain it to you :bigsmile: )
  • arainiday1
    arainiday1 Posts: 1,763 Member
    love, friendship and sex :drinker:

    love includes really truly caring for each other. Caring for someone includes not doing irresponsible crap that causes them difficulty. It's a mutual thing, i.e. you both care for each other and love each other.

    friendship involves respect which includes not doing things that friends don't do to friends, and friendship includes stuff like being honest, having fun together (very, very important!), sharing problems etc - it's also a mutual thing, and it is a partnership, i.e. working together not one dominating the other (unless you're both into that kind of thing and it's by mutual consent)

    you know what sex is (if you don't then ask your mother to explain it to you :bigsmile: )

    yes. this.
  • melb_alex
    melb_alex Posts: 1,154 Member
    sex everyday

    and then again after the gym

    :tongue:
  • Hannah_Hopes
    Hannah_Hopes Posts: 273 Member
    For the first month: attention
    All time after that: to be left alone

    Also known as why I'm still single :bigsmile:

    :laugh: I'm with you there
  • melb_alex
    melb_alex Posts: 1,154 Member
    I think communication is evident and imperative, equality when it comes to monogamy and up front honesty.

    Or do like me and just have a casual partner so the abovementioned aren't needed :happy:
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    Bacon, sex, bacon, twinkies, sex, twinkies, bacon, sex, sex, sex, sex, bacon, sleep, shower sex, sleep, sex, hiking, sex. Oh ok.
  • Hannah_Hopes
    Hannah_Hopes Posts: 273 Member
    Bacon, sex, bacon, twinkies, sex, twinkies, bacon, sex, sex, sex, sex, bacon, sleep, shower sex, sleep, sex, hiking, sex. Oh ok.

    :drinker:
  • MuscleHeadNerd74
    MuscleHeadNerd74 Posts: 1,930 Member
    wow sex everyday haven't met a woman yet like that, that's awesome
  • GreenIceFloes
    GreenIceFloes Posts: 1,491 Member
    Depends on the woman? Because individual people, individual needs and all that.
  • arainiday1
    arainiday1 Posts: 1,763 Member
    wow sex everyday haven't met a woman yet like that, that's awesome


    pffttt i would but it takes two....
  • MuscleHeadNerd74
    MuscleHeadNerd74 Posts: 1,930 Member
    true, wish I would have met one of those women...lol oh well back to only 4 times a month

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