What do women really want from a relationship?

kaaaaylee · May 2014

Someone honest and kind who makes me laugh. Period.

I don't forsee that changing in 20 years, either.

cstringfellow2013 · May 2014

1. Loyalty
This is very important to me. I want a man to be there in the relationship WITH me, wanting and needing just me. If he feels the need to find someone else because I am not providing him with what he needs and wants, by all means, find someone else. I don't want to stay in a relationship full of lies and deceiving ourselves that we're good enough for each other. I've seen so many relationships in my family and friends that are built on lies, staying together just because even if the husband is seeing someone else. Sure, he goes home to the wife every night but that's not my kind of loyalty. Usually, people stray away from their current relationships because of 80%, 20%. Which means that they are only getting 80% of what they want and need from their current partners and when someone comes along presenting the 20% it looks soooo much better than it actually is because that's what you're lacking but in reality 80 > 20 but you get blinded by what you're not getting.

2. Respect
Often times as the relationship ages, the couple gets comfortable with each other, sometimes too comfortable and they develop some attitudes or show their true colors that was never seen early on in the relationship. I truly believe that you should treat someone with respect as you want to be treated. Sure there will be shouting and fighting but hitting a woman is a huge NO NO in my books. Also, respect to each others' privacy as well as values and differences.

3. Trust
I guess this goes well with the above. Trust is essential in a relationship. A relationship full of lies and deception isn't really that appealing. Sure makes a good TV show but in real life, no one wants that drama. I want someone who I can fully trust my heart with. I don't want to be always on my toes wondering if he's cheating on me or doing something else other than he says. Trusting someone fully is hard. To have someone you don't have to doubt for one second, that would be amazing.

4. Effort
Sure I can trust you, you respect me and you're loyal but you don't make much effort with the relationship then ehhh. It doesn't mean that since you're officially together, that you've finally caught the fish then you can relax, let everything go and just let everything take its course. I believe that effort is required to making a relationship work. Effort every day to make each others day better! Effort of being there and making time. Effort of being each others' person. Effort to care about what is important to each other.

5. Passion
Wanting and needing each other! Especially during intimate moments. Lol having that feeling of just being with that person and being more than enough. Just that sense of security and assurance you get when you're with each other and wanting to protect each other and just I don't know LOVEEEEE! Like when you think about that person throughout the day you just smile and be thankful that you are in each others lives. Sometimes the passion fades overtime. I believe it could be ignited though! Also, I think sex is a huge part in a relationship. I want to be sexually compatible with my partner! Like... really really compatible. :laugh: Our sexual levels should be more or less the same.

6. Sillyness
I want to be able to laugh with my partner. Having a sense of humor is important to me! Having fun and just being our silly selves. Having inside couple jokes and being able to share something without being judged. Being weird together! Just enjoying each others company.

I think that a person should be fully complete, whole and content with themselves before you get into a relationship. One shouldn't let someone else complete them. And then when these two wholes come together, they will complement each other and form a new whole, a new relationship. But... that's just me. I could be approaching this wrong, but so far that's what I want in a relationship.

Oh, and he should love pizza. That is all.

This list is complete. If you have all this, then you have the ancillary items (frequent intimacy, honesty, communication, etc...). I was 38 years old before I really realized what I wanted and needed in a relationship. Once I figured this out, the right man fell in my lap. And now I am grateful everyday for our life together.

Sinisterly · May 2014

As I am the only one in this relationship; this sums up my feels

Bahahahaha <333

cheesevixen_staci · May 2014

I looked for: A good provider for me and the kids, someone who makes me feel appreciated, adored, confident, Someone who supports my life and how I want to live it without animosity.

Quick 4:
1. Passion in and out of bed.
2. Wit and humor.
3. Zen. Easy going.
4. MUST LOVE GOOD FOOD

I do not care about loyalty or honesty from any human being as I believe it rarely exists forever....then we forgive because we love them most of the time anyways. Plus you may **** it up and want to be forgiven as well. So much drama I don't worry about it. Our life is happy. His private life away from us is his business.