What do women really want from a relationship?

amwbox

Money.




....has nobody said that yet?

Well, on the previous page I said I really don't ask for it, I'm low-maintenance. And I do have a pay check of my own, possibly better than yours. Since you're frank enough to bring money up for discussion.

What's wrong with being frank?

There probably wouldn't be a relationship in the first places if the income were below some particular level. Everything that comes after is secondary. Seems like it should be a factor rather than something we're all politely not mentioning.

Nothing's wrong with frank. I love that and in fact can't stand when there's something on people's minds but they refuse to cough it up. They keep a situation in limbo rather than do their best to solve it and move on. And money is a real issue in many partnerships; I think it definitely should be discussed. At this point I wouldn't commit to someone, no matter how much I loved him, if we didn't see eye to eye on how to manage household finances.

(What I meant with the being frank was how my paycheck might be better; some men seem incapable of handling such a situation, which usually includes their woman having a "better" career compared to theirs, like it somehow "demasculinisises" them.)

Well, if a man feels emasculated by a potential mate's paycheck then he's probably got some insecurity issues to begin with.

But what percentage of women are we really talking about here, who have such a lofty disregard for what their date does for a living? Seems like I read something a while back based on all these millions of online dating interactions that characterized income as the number one consideration women (on the average. Always exceptions) tend to have. They were even able to quantify the amount of income it took to make up for a given lack of height lol. So many thousands of dollars per inch or something. Pretty hilarious if you think about it.

Not that men aren't just as shallow about other, mostly physical, characteristics. I just thought it was funny that money was being completely disregarded in this thread.

shrimpydoo

I think it depends on where you are in life. For me, laughter, companionship, sharing common goals, loyalty, honesty & respect. If there is laughter that means everything else is probably right where it needs to be

Bonita_Lynne_58

Everything. And even that may not be enough.

You've been talking to my ex :grumble:

Noogynoogs

A good pot washer lol

AglaeaC

Money.




....has nobody said that yet?

Well, on the previous page I said I really don't ask for it, I'm low-maintenance. And I do have a pay check of my own, possibly better than yours. Since you're frank enough to bring money up for discussion.

What's wrong with being frank?

There probably wouldn't be a relationship in the first places if the income were below some particular level. Everything that comes after is secondary. Seems like it should be a factor rather than something we're all politely not mentioning.

Nothing's wrong with frank. I love that and in fact can't stand when there's something on people's minds but they refuse to cough it up. They keep a situation in limbo rather than do their best to solve it and move on. And money is a real issue in many partnerships; I think it definitely should be discussed. At this point I wouldn't commit to someone, no matter how much I loved him, if we didn't see eye to eye on how to manage household finances.

(What I meant with the being frank was how my paycheck might be better; some men seem incapable of handling such a situation, which usually includes their woman having a "better" career compared to theirs, like it somehow "demasculinisises" them.)

Well, if a man feels emasculated by a potential mate's paycheck then he's probably got some insecurity issues to begin with.

But what percentage of women are we really talking about here, who have such a lofty disregard for what their date does for a living? Seems like I read something a while back based on all these millions of online dating interactions that characterized income as the number one consideration women (on the average. Always exceptions) tend to have. They were even able to quantify the amount of income it took to make up for a given lack of height lol. So many thousands of dollars per inch or something. Pretty hilarious if you think about it.

Not that men aren't just as shallow about other, mostly physical, characteristics. I just thought it was funny that money was being completely disregarded in this thread.

I don't have specific percentages to present and in the end they don't matter, since a particular partnership most of the time consists of just two people. So they have to find a common ground and make things work for them. For myself, I don't care what he does nor how much he makes, as long as he's happy and balanced. If he's content with his situation in life, he can be what I need him to be; my team mate for life. I want to grow old and have fun in the process. Sure, money can take me five times around the world, but I can have just as fun at a picnic date down at the beach with a bottle of good wine and something delicious to eat. Or even walking hand in hand, baring our souls would work; doesn't cost a thing. As long as he's really present when he's physically next to me, I'm fine.

LassoOfTruth

Respect.

rml_16

I am curious what women really want from a man when they are in a relationship. Communication?, Security? Empathy? Respect? I am also curious if it changes with age or circumstance, i.e. during your 20s you want one thing in your 40s you decide you want something else. Also does it change when you go from being single to married, divorced, never married. Your thoughts?

Pure worship. Duh.

Build me a shrine, do everything I ask and never question me.

And remember at all times that I am always right and you are always wrong.

Simple and easy.

1HappyRedhead

I say depends on the woman, but in gerneral, commucation, respect, listen to them, help out when you can, be yourself, do your own things,let her be herself and do her own things, be a man not a ***** whip or insecurity women hate that ****, and make sure to own it in bed, beat it up everytime...str8 up

Start with honesty and loyalty, add this ^ repeat daily...... perfect! :flowerforyou:

nyboer

Ha! My husband knows when it's a 2-large fry day from McDonald's and he knows when to pick up Long Island Iced Tea. What more could I really want in a relationship??

miss_jessiejane

Money. Awesome sex. Powerful government connections. Cars. Diamonds. A fleet of personal servants. Jet planes. You know, the basics.

ew_david

Nothing.

Get off my lawn.

sweetcurlz67

Don't have time to read all the responses but what I've read there are good ones.

Yes it changes when you mature.

When I was younger it was just about what I thought was love. Didn't care about anything else. Now divorced in my later 40's it's about what others have said: best friends, honesty, loyalty, respect, trust, security (feeling safe), effort, passion (including LOTS of AWESOME SEX), goofy-ness/silliness, accepting each other as individuals. I might just be single the rest of my life!!! LOL! I hope not!

ETA: financial equals or he needs to make more $ than me & be a better money manager!!! :P

MuscleHeadNerd74

Anal

TheRoadDog

I know what my woman wants.

Communication -- She talks; I listen.

Financial Security -- When she wants something, she gets it. It's not up to me to decide how many pairs of shoes a woman needs. I don't need to know the difference between Midnight, Charcoal, Dark Gray and Black. If there is not room for another pair of heels for her newest LBD, then I'll build a separate shoe closet.

Support -- I don't need to recognize the intonation in her bff's voice. If Jan says she has been slighted, that's all I need to know. When you are not Jan's focus anymore, neither are you mine. If you are a guy and you insulted my wife, well then, I'd rather spend 30 days in Jail for assault than face one night of recriminations for non-action.

Sex -- Better not go into that here.

msf74

In a heterosexual relationship a man with a d*ck

who doesn't turn out to be a d*ck

EddieHaskell97

Platform_Heels

What I already have with my husband:

Communication, respect, love, trust, the ability to read each others minds (that one is freaky).

I have been married to my husband for 8 years, we have been together for probably 19 and we have never had an argument. EVER. We disagree sure but we don't argue.

We are probably the only couple who can answer/go through each others phones and not worry about what we're going to find.

BusyRaeNOTBusty

Sex and a best friend.

Sweetpea6896

To feel safe and secure, to be needed.

_Lovely77_

An important one, don't focus on what they don't do all the time. Be appreciative and also realize what they do. You should always remember that if you can find the negatives in them they can find negatives in you. It's just a matter of whether you focus only on the bad instead of the good. This doesn't mean you shouldn't bring certain negatives to their attention but if that's all they hear from you that's all they will see. And never go to bed mad and don't wake up mad. You're allowed to have an off day but don't make it their problem by projecting your attitude onto them. Nothing is more of a turn off than a person who constantly has something to whine about.

EmmieBaby

honesty, trust, support (emotional and financial), aspiration, confidence

why I love my fiance, he has all of the qualities above and more

vjohn04

Depends in the woman. ...and sex.

rml_16

BRO DO YOU EVEN COSMO?

No, I am not interested in what COSMO says, I want to hear from real people with varying degrees of education, age, income, and marital status.


P.S. Openly admitting that you read COSMO could be grounds to revoke your man card. :laugh:

Oh snap! I think I just got told! I'm gonna go cry myself to sleep on my ****-shaped pillow!

Cosmo says you're fat.

I ain't down with that.

InevitableButterfly

DBoone85

I jsut want someone to talk dirty to me, and make me a sammich now and then....

DBoone85

Money. Awesome sex. Powerful government connections. Cars. Diamonds. A fleet of personal servants. Jet planes. You know, the basics.

Hamhocks and cornmeal, gunpowder and guitar strings. Just the staples....

gert1985

The top 3 things I like about my husband are:

1. He makes me feel safe.
2. He gets up and goes to work every day and never complains.
3. He tries to be a better dad than his dad was.

If I could change a few things:
I would want him to never be an idiot, to not drink so much, to control his anger, to not play on the computer so much, to
quit spending more money than he has.

Yes, I am perfect Ha ha.

SoDamnHungry

Bananas.

morag_p2014

As I am the only one in this relationship; this sums up my feels

Saucy_lil_Minx

I am curious what women really want from a man when they are in a relationship. Communication?, Security? Empathy? Respect? I am also curious if it changes with age or circumstance, i.e. during your 20s you want one thing in your 40s you decide you want something else. Also does it change when you go from being single to married, divorced, never married. Your thoughts?

Umm.... being very much a woman!!! Don't try to figure out what we want...:laugh:

WE DON"T EVEN KNOW!!

Our minds change every other day, and we want you to become a telepath, and keep up with our ever changing ways! :drinker:

Some days we can barely stand ourselves!!

So as a woman I can not answer your question...

IF YOU FIGURE US OUT................. let me know what I'm suppose to want in a mate, life partner, man, male ...or otherwise!!!

Thank you!