What do women really want from a relationship?

JT_Texas

I am curious what women really want from a man when they are in a relationship. Communication?, Security? Empathy? Respect? I am also curious if it changes with age or circumstance, i.e. during your 20s you want one thing in your 40s you decide you want something else. Also does it change when you go from being single to married, divorced, never married. Your thoughts?

amwbox

Money.




....has nobody said that yet?

Well, on the previous page I said I really don't ask for it, I'm low-maintenance. And I do have a pay check of my own, possibly better than yours. Since you're frank enough to bring money up for discussion.

What's wrong with being frank?

There probably wouldn't be a relationship in the first places if the income were below some particular level. Everything that comes after is secondary. Seems like it should be a factor rather than something we're all politely not mentioning.

Nothing's wrong with frank. I love that and in fact can't stand when there's something on people's minds but they refuse to cough it up. They keep a situation in limbo rather than do their best to solve it and move on. And money is a real issue in many partnerships; I think it definitely should be discussed. At this point I wouldn't commit to someone, no matter how much I loved him, if we didn't see eye to eye on how to manage household finances.

(What I meant with the being frank was how my paycheck might be better; some men seem incapable of handling such a situation, which usually includes their woman having a "better" career compared to theirs, like it somehow "demasculinisises" them.)

Well, if a man feels emasculated by a potential mate's paycheck then he's probably got some insecurity issues to begin with.

But what percentage of women are we really talking about here, who have such a lofty disregard for what their date does for a living? Seems like I read something a while back based on all these millions of online dating interactions that characterized income as the number one consideration women (on the average. Always exceptions) tend to have. They were even able to quantify the amount of income it took to make up for a given lack of height lol. So many thousands of dollars per inch or something. Pretty hilarious if you think about it.

Not that men aren't just as shallow about other, mostly physical, characteristics. I just thought it was funny that money was being completely disregarded in this thread.