heard disturbing convo about weight today

SunofaBeach14

This thread comes awfully close to body shaming girls with EDs. It seems to me that listening in on other's conversations is somewhat rude, and internalizing what they say and taking offense quite unproductive.

Fujiberry

All the 'that's too skinny' and 'I want my woman to have meat on her' sort of talk is just so ridiculous. We get it, everyone has preferences, but what if your 'woman' wanted to be 105 and got down there -- you going to stop loving her and wanting her?

Bodies are bodies. They can be beautiful in all shapes, sizes, forms, and the like. By putting too rigid of preferences out there, you make it that much harder for someone to gain acceptance for where they are going to fall on the weight spectrum. Being concerned for health reasons for someone too thin or too heavy is way different than "no fat chicks in this bed" and "omg need some meat on my ladies, amirite" -- the latter examples are just ways to play on insecurities (male or female, you can switch up the genders and have the same discussion) for those who aren't in some sort of mythical middle ground of Goldilockism, aka 'just right'.

Oh, and if you're ever on the receiving end of those comments, just ignore them and do what's right for you. You dropped to 110 and you're healthy and fit and happy but your gf or bf doesn't like the bonier pelvis or something? You have the power to not let that bother you and do what's right for you....so do that

OP -- others have pointed out, the conversation wasn't about you. People have body image issues at all sizes and I totally get how those conversations make you feel even more aware that you're way bigger than them. At 5'1" and used to be 300 pounds, I most certainly understand!! They make look at you and judge you or they may not, but you have no control over any of that. What you do have control over is not giving a flying eff. You have your path and your journey. They have theirs. Unless they willfully intersect those paths by addressing you specifically, I suggest ignoring it and reminding yourself that they may have issues too and just move on.

ETA: And yes, I get that OP is probably a troll but hey, others may read and benefit (or not, who knows) <g>

This.

Plus, 5 lbs. WILL show on more petite women. I'm 5'2' and I have a smaller build.



This is me. The only difference is 2-3 lbs.

If they're not talking about you, then it doesn't concern you. People will feel fat, and the people will feel skinny .689 a second later. Doesn't concern anyone but themselves.