Help! He's withering away!

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  • jjplato
    jjplato Posts: 155 Member
    You can offer him a nutritious balanced diet but you can't force him to eat. You can be an example, but you can't force him to eat. He must take the responsibility for his own health.

    Exactly!

    A grown man who can somehow operate a motor vehicle and get himself to work, but can't figure out how to eat breakfast and lunch -- really? Doesn't know how to order a sandwich at a sub shop? Lots of people are busy. This is a lifestyle choice on his part, and one you can't fix.
  • hosegirl
    hosegirl Posts: 157
    Has he had a physical lately? if not he needs a complete physical and blood work. If he is prediabetic that needs to be looked at again.
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    I agree, first of all, get some input from his doctor or even a specialist like a endocrinologist regarding improvements to his diet so that he doesn't become diabetic. Taking a bunch of advice from strangers online could mean you're getting bad info - I'm pretty sure not everyone noticed the pre-diabetes thing. The other day, someone asked for advice on breakfast ideas that don't include eggs (due to allergy) and half the responses said "eat eggs". See what I mean?

    You could also check out the American Diabetes Association website for info on foods, recipes, etc.

    http://www.diabetes.org/

    Second, once your armed with info, sit down and plan some meals and snacks that he can eat quickly. He gets breaks, he needs to start taking them.

    Good luck!
  • tracydr
    tracydr Posts: 528 Member
    Get off the damn internet and go to the doctor.

    This.


    I feel bad for your husband, OP
    I agree! Unexplained weight loss can be a number of things, all of which need treatment.
  • bciloveme2014
    bciloveme2014 Posts: 213 Member
    OP, if there is one thing you need to do is convince him to go to the dr. Do not try to feed him high calorie foods or fix the problem in any other way, he needs to see his dr, check if he now has diabetes and getting an eating plan. There is more to health than weight.

    This^. My mother is diabetic and she had to see a nutrition dr., she has to eat low-carb. food and she has to eat small meals but 5 to times a day. not less than 2200 calories per day.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    People here are wonderful, but because your husband is diabetic and has lost so much weight he really needs to get immediate help from a doctor or nutritionist. I don't know about "yuck". It seems more like a "yikes" situation to me.

    This ^^ Unintentional weight loss can be the first sign of several serious medical conditions.
  • rebeccatackett
    rebeccatackett Posts: 37 Member
    People here are wonderful, but because your husband is diabetic and has lost so much weight he really needs to get immediate help from a doctor or nutritionist. I don't know about "yuck". It seems more like a "yikes" situation to me.

    Ditto!! Get him to go to a doctor. My brother in law started losing a bunch of weight and when he went to the doctor, they found out he WAS diabetic!!
  • UFITYETXX
    UFITYETXX Posts: 38
    Ge had bloodwork done a month ago and the test showed that he was in the pre diabetic stage but it was for insurance purposes so I dont think his doctor knows about it. He is going to take results with him. No its a lifestyle choice for him. He is ADHD and blames his forgetting to eat on it...
  • amy8400
    amy8400 Posts: 478 Member
    Ge had bloodwork done a month ago and the test showed that he was in the pre diabetic stage but it was for insurance purposes so I dont think his doctor knows about it. He is going to take results with him. No its a lifestyle choice for him. He is ADHD and blames his forgetting to eat on it...

    The insurance blood work is hopefully a wake-up call to your husband. He needs to take that info to his doctor and follow up. The doctor won't receive that information directly from the insurance company. Don't let him blow it off because he's too busy with work.
  • CJisinShape
    CJisinShape Posts: 1,404 Member
    Cook.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Ge had bloodwork done a month ago and the test showed that he was in the pre diabetic stage but it was for insurance purposes so I dont think his doctor knows about it. He is going to take results with him. No its a lifestyle choice for him. He is ADHD and blames his forgetting to eat on it...

    I don't think I can stress this enough, but he needs to see a doctor immediately. Like today.

    I can understanding forgetting to eat once and a while, but we have this thing called hunger and if he's not experiencing it and losing weight he doesn't have to lose that could be a whole host of issues that are very serious.
  • pinktoesjb
    pinktoesjb Posts: 302 Member
    I'd suggest that he seek a divorce. Going on the Internet and describing one's spouse with the word "yuck" isn't cool

    x2
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    What's his energy level? Is he happy?
  • thatjosiegirl
    thatjosiegirl Posts: 362 Member
    People here are wonderful, but because your husband is diabetic and has lost so much weight he really needs to get immediate help from a doctor or nutritionist. I don't know about "yuck". It seems more like a "yikes" situation to me.

    THIS!!! Get him to the Dr ASAP!!!!, this could be a sign that his diabetes is worsening or not being controlled. Very dangerous!
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    People here are wonderful, but because your husband is diabetic and has lost so much weight he really needs to get immediate help from a doctor or nutritionist. I don't know about "yuck". It seems more like a "yikes" situation to me.

    Yep. Diabetics dropping weight is not normally a good sign. Doctor first, and then discuss his diet with the doctor.
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  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    And please don't use "yuck" to describe your husband who seems to be having medical problems. Poor guy.
  • Holly_Roman_Empire
    Holly_Roman_Empire Posts: 4,440 Member
    People here are wonderful, but because your husband is diabetic and has lost so much weight he really needs to get immediate help from a doctor or nutritionist. I don't know about "yuck". It seems more like a "yikes" situation to me.

    I agree with this. Unexplained weight loss, when he is already pre-diabetic, is something a doctor should be consulted for.
  • JJ48Fan
    JJ48Fan Posts: 50
    For all of those saying go to a doctor I completely agree. My husband is diabetic and he is 6 feet and was at 220, his weight started to drop and he was the "garbage disposal" of eating. He wound up with gastro parisis (sp?), end stage kidney failure and congestive heart failure within a year! He was going to the doctor regularly but his symptoms just piled on quickly.


    Better to be safe than sorry.
  • WaynesGurl
    WaynesGurl Posts: 44 Member
    Tie him up and force-feed him?

    On a serious note, share your concerns with him. Cook high-calorie meals for him. That's all I can think of.

    Oh I do not agree. Go to the American diabetes website and cook good, healthy, diabetes friendly meals! Make it all that is available to him!!! You can encourage working out but sadly its up to him. Good luck!
  • IIIIISerenityNowIIIII
    IIIIISerenityNowIIIII Posts: 425 Member
    I would be devastated if my husband said "yuck" about my body :(

    Focus on the health aspect and see a nutritionist since he needs specialized help.
  • Phoenix__Rising
    Phoenix__Rising Posts: 9,981 Member
    Actually there truly is a condition known as
    'Failure to thrive'. If you're a caring wife,,
    you'll get him in to his doctor. I agree with
    the others here, yuck shouldn't apply if you
    love him. Get him help.
  • Flab2Fab27
    Flab2Fab27 Posts: 461 Member
    My husband is wasting away...his eating habits are atrocious yet he has lost 20 pounds in 2 years...not trying to. How can I get more calories in him. He's pre diabetic on top of everything else...and he refuses to lift weights. His stats are 5'11 139...yuck. no offense.Help!

    Wow, your poor husband... On top of being skinny, he has to deal with a partner who publicly writes "yuck" about his physical appearance.
  • CJisinShape
    CJisinShape Posts: 1,404 Member
    Set a recurring alarm on his phone for mealtimes.

    Cook. Send him with food, have food you cooked ready for him when he gets home.
  • ew_david
    ew_david Posts: 3,473 Member
    no offense? poor guy...maybe he should go see a doctor.

    Yes. Unintentional weight loss is a sign of cancer, so instead of bashing his appearance, I'd get him to the doctor.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    no offense? poor guy...maybe he should go see a doctor.

    Yes. Unintentional weight loss is a sign of cancer, so instead of bashing his appearance, I'd get him to the doctor.

    It is a sign of a lot of chronic illnesses.

    OP, stop telling him yuck and start e couraging him to see a doc.
  • FitMe758
    FitMe758 Posts: 177 Member
    I don't know if this is a troll post...

    The "Yuck" comment makes me sad.
    "No offense" doesn't make it better.
    If you were the one that wasn't at ideal weight and had health problems, How would you feel if the person closest to you referred to you as "Yuck"?

    He has health issues and needs to see a doctor that can recommend appropriate course of action and possibly see a nutritionist.

    There are many health issues that can cause weight loss and they can be serious. It is not an issue of vanity or yucky. Maybe once he gets his underlying health issues under control he will feel well enough to work out.
  • jlowoa
    jlowoa Posts: 1
    I agree -- getting him to a doctor is super important. Then ask The Doctor what he thinks about this.
    My friend's preteen was underweight and the doctor told his Mom to take him to McDonalds a couple times a week. Within weeks he put on all the weight he needed. But, I would definitely ask a doctor about this first.
  • RoseyDgirl
    RoseyDgirl Posts: 306 Member
    Oatmeal - made with a can of coconut milk - throw in some fruit like blueberries... add some chocolate chips ... it's rich, decadent - and enough calories to probably feed a family in one bowl.
  • tmj4477
    tmj4477 Posts: 145 Member
    See a nutritionist and get him tested he might have other problems

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