Help! He's withering away!

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  • PDisbennet1
    PDisbennet1 Posts: 3 Member
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    When I worked at a care home we had a lot of luck with milkshakes made with a high fat ice cream like haagendaas (Spelling?). We would add different things to them, like protein or ensure. They were always well received and I see that your husband likes ice cream but I agree that you have to watch the sugar. Check with the doctor, maybe they will have other suggestions, too. That's what we pay them for, right?!
  • Phoenix__Rising
    Phoenix__Rising Posts: 9,981 Member
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    Tie him up and force-feed him?

    On a serious note, share your concerns with him. Cook high-calorie meals for him. That's all I can think of.


    lol I just thought of 9½Weeks. Seriously you could tie him down and seduce him with food.
  • milyba
    milyba Posts: 49
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    My husbands losing weight too...cause he works so much. We talked about it but he just burns it off because of hard work, like way to many hours, but I love him for him not his weight so to me i noticed it realized I can't change it and moved on
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
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    People here are wonderful, but because your husband is diabetic and has lost so much weight he really needs to get immediate help from a doctor or nutritionist. I don't know about "yuck". It seems more like a "yikes" situation to me.

    ^^^^ this

    especially if he's not trying to lose weight!
  • LKArgh
    LKArgh Posts: 5,179 Member
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    OP, if there is one thing you need to do is convince him to go to the dr. Do not try to feed him high calorie foods or fix the problem in any other way, he needs to see his dr, check if he now has diabetes and getting an eating plan. There is more to health than weight.
  • _KitKat_
    _KitKat_ Posts: 1,066 Member
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    Pre diabetic, and he is going without food then eating a pb&j. He is going to turn diabetic if he keeps spiking his glucose. Was he hypo before? Hypo is low blood sugar and when you turn pre, all of a sudden you start spiking high. He needs to see a doctor, and should already be is he was diagnosed pre diabetic. Does he monitor? Weight loss is not normally a symptom, not trying to scare you but he NEEDS to be seen!

    Also not saying it is a woman's place but it is normal for a spouse to look after the other, ever considered cooking dinner? Breakfast? Packing him a lunch?




    Background....husband was hypo at 20 and Pre diabetic at 30, he has always been active, muscular and on the slim side. According to most doctors, he is the opposite of someone at risk of these conditions. Turning pre was the worst because he ate when his sugar was bad, and instead of low he was high and would spike. Now years later he is pretty much clear of it, it seems his body balanced out. He never had weight loss, and was never warned to look for it.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
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    I'd suggest that he seek a divorce. Going on the Internet and describing one's spouse with the word "yuck" isn't cool
  • UFITYETXX
    UFITYETXX Posts: 38
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    He has a Dr appt this week so hopefully we will get some solid answers. Thank you sooo much for the helpful answers. I try to help him every way I can but I cant keep him away from sugar...hes a grown man...lol. I cook for him, encourage him, give him tips, advice etc, but Its up to him I guess.
  • fooninie
    fooninie Posts: 291 Member
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    He's definitely on board with gaining weight. We just need some ideas to get higher calorie Healthier foods in him to gain the weight back. Believe it or not hes a produce manager at a grocery store. But he is so busy he wont eat breakfast or lunch then comes home and eats to pb n j sandwiches...and a pint of ice cream.

    Maybe see a doctor? Could be more to it than just eating habits.

    Not sure if I can be super helpful, but how about lots of healthy fats...nuts, coconut oil...what about protein shakes or Boost-type supplements?

    I hope it comes together and you can both be healthy and happy weight-and-otherwise.
  • commanderval
    commanderval Posts: 187 Member
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    My ex was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes when he was 28 years old. In a very short period he dropped from 160 pounds to around 140 for 6 feet tall. He was always hungry and thirsty. We went to the doctor and his blood sugar was at 27 when your supposed to be in the range of 4 to 7. Don't mess with diabetes and go see the doctor.
  • jjplato
    jjplato Posts: 155 Member
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    You can offer him a nutritious balanced diet but you can't force him to eat. You can be an example, but you can't force him to eat. He must take the responsibility for his own health.

    Exactly!

    A grown man who can somehow operate a motor vehicle and get himself to work, but can't figure out how to eat breakfast and lunch -- really? Doesn't know how to order a sandwich at a sub shop? Lots of people are busy. This is a lifestyle choice on his part, and one you can't fix.
  • hosegirl
    hosegirl Posts: 157
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    Has he had a physical lately? if not he needs a complete physical and blood work. If he is prediabetic that needs to be looked at again.
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
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    I agree, first of all, get some input from his doctor or even a specialist like a endocrinologist regarding improvements to his diet so that he doesn't become diabetic. Taking a bunch of advice from strangers online could mean you're getting bad info - I'm pretty sure not everyone noticed the pre-diabetes thing. The other day, someone asked for advice on breakfast ideas that don't include eggs (due to allergy) and half the responses said "eat eggs". See what I mean?

    You could also check out the American Diabetes Association website for info on foods, recipes, etc.

    http://www.diabetes.org/

    Second, once your armed with info, sit down and plan some meals and snacks that he can eat quickly. He gets breaks, he needs to start taking them.

    Good luck!
  • tracydr
    tracydr Posts: 528 Member
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    Get off the damn internet and go to the doctor.

    This.


    I feel bad for your husband, OP
    I agree! Unexplained weight loss can be a number of things, all of which need treatment.
  • bciloveme2014
    bciloveme2014 Posts: 213 Member
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    OP, if there is one thing you need to do is convince him to go to the dr. Do not try to feed him high calorie foods or fix the problem in any other way, he needs to see his dr, check if he now has diabetes and getting an eating plan. There is more to health than weight.

    This^. My mother is diabetic and she had to see a nutrition dr., she has to eat low-carb. food and she has to eat small meals but 5 to times a day. not less than 2200 calories per day.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
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    People here are wonderful, but because your husband is diabetic and has lost so much weight he really needs to get immediate help from a doctor or nutritionist. I don't know about "yuck". It seems more like a "yikes" situation to me.

    This ^^ Unintentional weight loss can be the first sign of several serious medical conditions.
  • rebeccatackett
    rebeccatackett Posts: 37 Member
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    People here are wonderful, but because your husband is diabetic and has lost so much weight he really needs to get immediate help from a doctor or nutritionist. I don't know about "yuck". It seems more like a "yikes" situation to me.

    Ditto!! Get him to go to a doctor. My brother in law started losing a bunch of weight and when he went to the doctor, they found out he WAS diabetic!!
  • UFITYETXX
    UFITYETXX Posts: 38
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    Ge had bloodwork done a month ago and the test showed that he was in the pre diabetic stage but it was for insurance purposes so I dont think his doctor knows about it. He is going to take results with him. No its a lifestyle choice for him. He is ADHD and blames his forgetting to eat on it...
  • amy8400
    amy8400 Posts: 478 Member
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    Ge had bloodwork done a month ago and the test showed that he was in the pre diabetic stage but it was for insurance purposes so I dont think his doctor knows about it. He is going to take results with him. No its a lifestyle choice for him. He is ADHD and blames his forgetting to eat on it...

    The insurance blood work is hopefully a wake-up call to your husband. He needs to take that info to his doctor and follow up. The doctor won't receive that information directly from the insurance company. Don't let him blow it off because he's too busy with work.
  • CJisinShape
    CJisinShape Posts: 1,404 Member
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