Looks do matter

rocklion

I don't know. Just felt like rambling a bit. But I'm just going to post a question for single people. Heck, even married if you want to comment.

Do looks matter?

I think they do. I've heard countless times again and again "Looks don't matter if they have a good personality." Sure.... Let's be real. Let's be honest. If as a man or a woman and they're fit do you take a second look? Yeah you do. I'm sure they get approached more often. At least the women. And if some guy talks to a girl with a ripped body, I'm sure women pay more attention to him than if there was a chubby looking guy with a keg instead of a six pack.

What's your guys thoughts?

sissiluv

Looks can matter to a degree of course. Physical attraction is a huge part of it.

However, getting to know you as a person I think is equally as important. An incompatible personality is just asking for trouble if a serious relationship is pursued.

So in the end I think it comes down to both.

jenifr818

This won't end well... locked by the end of the night is my prediction. Also in for the .gifs that are sure to follow.

My two cents: looks will get people to do a double-take, yeah. I'm not gonna lie and say I won't look twice at a guy (or girl, for that matter) that I think looks smoking hot. However, what I think is smoking hot, others might find geeky or ugly. Looks are subjective. So they do matter, but again, subjective to each person. I don't believe there's one "look" that matters for everyone. Not all girls like their guys to have 6-pack abs, and not all guys want their girls to be "fit" ... for example, my best friend prefers his girls bigger.

NerdyAdventurer

I like my guys a little on to chubby side

I fully enjoy looking at the super ripped guys, but they're not who I want to be with. I'd rather be with someone fun than I guy who lives at the gym and can only talk about how much protein he needs.

And as I tall girl, I like my guys tall and bigger than me. Going through like I so rarely get to feel small, so it's nice to be with a guy that makes me feel like that.

NerdyAdventurer

But they can't have bigger boobs than me.

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fr053n

If we're talking first impressions and attraction, looks do matter slightly more than personality. Also, if someone "looks" like they lead an unhealthy/healthy lifestyle, this may also be a factor in determining if people are attracted to him or her.

But, overall, I think that personality is more important than looks, in the long run.

salembambi

of course looks matter

someones appearance is what initially attracts me to them

if im not physically attracted to them I am not going to be sexually attracted to them & they could only ever be someone I would be friends with

also what I find attractive is not necessarily what the majority considers attractive . Attraction is pretty subjective

Bucky83

Sadly, yes, it does impact a lot.

I've been single my entire life. A date here and there, but never had a relationship.

I KNOW it's how I look, because I know I'm a good person (I often have friends say I'm a nice and genuine person).

Capt_Inzane

But they can't have bigger boobs than me.

Checks my man boobs ... what size are yours?

lol


Looks matter hell, I go back and look at when I weighed 350 lbs and it's not just about how bad I looked but how bad I felt and how little I actually did. I wasn't the same person then as I am now. I'm stronger mentally and physically.

Phoenix__Rising

I think as time has evolved to be more look conscious (internet/plastic surgery and even porn)
Men & women hold ideals. Sometimes it's not healthy but it really does go as far back as
the cave ppl. Psychologically we are designed to look for mating material (thinking of kids
like when a man chooses a lady he might not realize that's his intention) and ladies look
for strong handsome guys, typically.This isn't ALWAYS the case. A lot of us might like what
society would call 'meh'.

trojan_bb

I fully enjoy looking at the super ripped guys, but they're not who I want to be with. I'd rather be with someone fun than I guy who lives at the gym and can only talk about how much protein he needs.

uh huh.

rocklion

Locked? Seriously? I'm just looking for a good conversation. I think there's been some pretty good responses so far.

There's something I saw a couple of months ago that I thought was interesting. I'll just go ahead and say I did online dating for awhile. Now the thing is if you ever do online dating then you'll see something that's pretty common. And this is for the guys at least. But as a guy, you see all kinds of profiles where a woman states "don't message me if you have a pic of yourself in the mirror with your shirt off."

But one online dating service did a study of their members and found that if a guy had hist shirt off and had a good body then he was substantially more likely to get a message back then anyone else. Double entendre I think.

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

Sadly, yes, it does impact a lot.

I've been single my entire life. A date here and there, but never had a relationship.

I KNOW it's how I look, because I know I'm a good person (I often have friends say I'm a nice and genuine person).

You have a very pretty face. Get thee to a GOOD hair stylist, get some blonde highlights and a sexy hair style, get a hotter pair of glasses and ... well ... no pics of your body, so I don't know how to dress you. You have a great base. Work it better.

Now forgive me if I'm wrong but the "I'm a nice person why does everyone dump me" thing is usually a euphemism for "I'm really clingy." Just make sure you're not.

I'm saying this because you sound sad, and I would love for your dreams to come true for you.

sunglasses_and_ocean_waves

And looks matter enough that I sent a FR to a hottie in this thread. :drinker:

trojan_bb

Locked? Seriously? I'm just looking for a good conversation. I think there's been some pretty good responses so far.

There's something I saw a couple of months ago that I thought was interesting. I'll just go ahead and say I did online dating for awhile. Now the thing is if you ever do online dating then you'll see something that's pretty common. And this is for the guys at least. But as a guy, you see all kinds of profiles where a woman states "don't message me if you have a pic of yourself in the mirror with your shirt off."

But one online dating service did a study of their members and found that if a guy had hist shirt off and had a good body then he was substantially more likely to get a message back then anyone else. Double entendre I think.

lmao. yes, online dating is ridiculous. Take their profile preferences with a grain of salt. Reality says otherwise, like you pointed out.

With online dating, you have to realize that it's basically online window shopping for an attractive woman. They get flooded with messages. It comes down to looks, height, wealth, and a funny profile and good one liners. It does not at all resemble the outside world. Inflated egos abound. Don't take it to heart.

fr053n

Locked? Seriously? I'm just looking for a good conversation. I think there's been some pretty good responses so far.

There's something I saw a couple of months ago that I thought was interesting. I'll just go ahead and say I did online dating for awhile. Now the thing is if you ever do online dating then you'll see something that's pretty common. And this is for the guys at least. But as a guy, you see all kinds of profiles where a woman states "don't message me if you have a pic of yourself in the mirror with your shirt off."

But one online dating service did a study of their members and found that if a guy had hist shirt off and had a good body then he was substantially more likely to get a message back then anyone else. Double entendre I think.

lmao. yes, online dating is ridiculous. Take their profile preferences with a grain of salt. Reality says otherwise, like you pointed out.

With online dating, you have to realize that it's basically online window shopping for an attractive woman. They get flooded with messages. It comes down to looks, height, wealth, and a funny profile and good one liners. It does not at all resemble the outside world. Inflated egos abound. Don't take it to heart.

^This

shrinkingmichelle

When I first met my husband I was not attracted to him but I liked spending time with him. He's 15 years older then me. As I continued to date him I saw him differently. Because of his great personality and thoughtfulness I started to be attracted to him. When I fell in love with him I found him sexy.

rocklion

Locked? Seriously? I'm just looking for a good conversation. I think there's been some pretty good responses so far.

There's something I saw a couple of months ago that I thought was interesting. I'll just go ahead and say I did online dating for awhile. Now the thing is if you ever do online dating then you'll see something that's pretty common. And this is for the guys at least. But as a guy, you see all kinds of profiles where a woman states "don't message me if you have a pic of yourself in the mirror with your shirt off."

But one online dating service did a study of their members and found that if a guy had hist shirt off and had a good body then he was substantially more likely to get a message back then anyone else. Double entendre I think.

lmao. yes, online dating is ridiculous. Take their profile preferences with a grain of salt. Reality says otherwise, like you pointed out.

With online dating, you have to realize that it's basically online window shopping for an attractive woman. They get flooded with messages. It comes down to looks, height, wealth, and a funny profile and good one liners. It does not at all resemble the outside world. Inflated egos abound. Don't take it to heart.

Oh, I know you're right. After my divorce, I did it for a year and a half. I know exactly. I've sworn off online dating now.

jenifr818

Locked? Seriously? I'm just looking for a good conversation. I think there's been some pretty good responses so far.

There's something I saw a couple of months ago that I thought was interesting. I'll just go ahead and say I did online dating for awhile. Now the thing is if you ever do online dating then you'll see something that's pretty common. And this is for the guys at least. But as a guy, you see all kinds of profiles where a woman states "don't message me if you have a pic of yourself in the mirror with your shirt off."

But one online dating service did a study of their members and found that if a guy had hist shirt off and had a good body then he was substantially more likely to get a message back then anyone else. Double entendre I think.

That's an interesting finding. Not really surprising, but interesting

Achrya

Yes.

MonaLisaLianne

The reason "looks matter" to me is that they're a reflection of the degree you respect and care about yourself. If you don't care enough about yourself to be clean, neat, well-groomed, and smell good then why would I want to know you? It's not so much natural physical attractiveness as what you do with it, IMO.

rocklion

And looks matter enough that I sent a FR to a hottie in this thread. :drinker:

Did they accept?

George_Baileys_Ghost

Yup.

bajoyba

Looks do matter, but you also have to consider that different people are attracted to different things.

Lots of women do like "ripped" men, but some don't. Personally, I tend to prefer a guy with a little bit of fluff. But personality really is much more important to me than looks, and I think I could be physically attracted to almost anyone with an awesome personality, provided they exercise good hygiene.

Maybe I'm in the minority on this. I totally have a crush on Seth Rogen.

emdeesea

Good looks will get you noticed at first. But a crap personality or just being plain boring will almost positively ensure they won't stick around for too long.

You know the type of people I like? They're the ones that look average, you may not even notice them at first. But then you talk to them, and everything that comes out of their mouth is interesting, and it changes their whole face and appearance, and you realize you've just met the most fascinating person in the whole room.

Sure, looks matter to a certain extent. But it's not the most important thing.

ew_david

They matter, but they're not the only thing that matters.

devil_in_a_blue_dress

I only bang 10/10 hotties.

HerkMeOff

I only bang 10/10 hotties.

I've seen your husband.

I agree

George_Baileys_Ghost

I only bang 10/10 hotties.

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